It's You

Are you wondering why your relationships keep failing? What do all of these guys/gals have in common? YOU!!!!!! STOP THE INSANITY. It's because you keep bringing the same baggage to different relationships, expecting a different result...insanity.

You don't keep meeting the same person over & over, everybody in this world is different & is not akin to the other, but when you keep doing the same bullshit you did in your last relationship, you are doomed & you will never, EVER have a successful relationship until you stop the madness.

Stop hopping in & out of relationships/rebounding, & take a looooooooooong, deeeeeeeeeeeeeep, look within yourself to see what you need to work on. Even if you do take time to re-evaluate, you happen to meet someone you like & then BOOM!!! It fucks up again! Why? Because you still didn't GET IT. You may have did some self evaluation, but you did not apply it to the current situation & you start to repeat the dumb shit you did previously & before you know it you're having the same problems again. That's why there are threads like, "does he/she love me", "will he contact me again", "disappearing again", etc. Get my drift?

STOP IT NOW. The universe will keep bringing the same situation to you over & over & over until you GET IT. Take your time, go slow, & DO NOT attempt to get into a relationship until you're ready to start fresh. FRESH!! A clean slate!!!

So people, it's not them...IT'S YOU. Get it together. 🙂

I get it now, trust me.

Amen

thank you so much. im working through this in therapy in my best effort to improve my relationship

Posted by littlegemini
thank you so much. im working through this in therapy in my best effort to improve my relationship

You're very welcome. I realized this was something that I was recently doing. I was dating someone I really liked, & I was starting to bring the same old heavy, funky, damaging baggage/trash, that I had from my previous relationship. I had a Eureka moment & I had to end it. 😢

It sucks because he could have potentially been someone I could've been with, but I'm not ready for a relationship. I still have alot of work to do within myself. I started dating him when I knew my wounds were still fresh from my ex, "the rebound guy", but I started to like him. It wouldn't have never worked out. I have learned so much & now I have to take this time to heal & get rid of the rest of this baggage that is still weighing me down.

Awesome advice!!! All I have to add is stop jumping in bed with them so fast!!!!! Give the guy a chance to be interested in you without the sex!!!

THEY ARE ALL FUCKING DRAMA QUEENS AND KINGS.
END OF STORY.

And I'm not being judgemental....I learned this lesson the hard way.

Posted by truecap
Awesome advice!!! All I have to add is stop jumping in bed with them so fast!!!!! Give the guy a chance to be interested in you without the sex!!!

Thank you! 🙂 Oh yes! Jumping into bed to fast is a definite no, no!

Posted by truecap
And I'm not being judgemental....I learned this lesson the hard way.

Me too. They aren't called "growing pains" for nothing.

PREACH!

DUCK TAPED TITS I LIKE THAT

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Posted by RealTalk
Are you wondering why your relationships keep failing? What do all of these guys/gals have in common? YOU!!!!!! STOP THE INSANITY. It's because you keep bringing the same baggage to different relationships, expecting a different result...insanity.

You don't keep meeting the same person over & over, everybody in this world is different & is not akin to the other, but when you keep doing the same bullshit you did in your last relationship, you are doomed & you will never, EVER have a successful relationship until you stop the madness.

Stop hopping in & out of relationships/rebounding, & take a looooooooooong, deeeeeeeeeeeeeep, look within yourself to see what you need to work on. Even if you do take time to re-evaluate, you happen to meet someone you like & then BOOM!!! It fucks up again! Why? Because you still didn't GET IT. You may have did some self evaluation, but you did not apply it to the current situation & you start to repeat the dumb shit you did previously & before you know it you're having the same problems again. That's why there are threads like, "does he/she love me", "will he contact me again", "disappearing again", etc. Get my drift?

STOP IT NOW. The universe will keep bringing the same situation to you over & over & over until you GET IT. Take your time, go slow, & DO NOT attempt to get into a relationship until you're ready to start fresh. FRESH!! A clean slate!!!

So people, it's not them...IT'S YOU. Get it together. 🙂

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And your point is?

Posted by RealTalk
Are you wondering why your relationships keep failing? What do all of these guys/gals have in common? YOU!!!!!! STOP THE INSANITY. It's because you keep bringing the same baggage to different relationships, expecting a different result...insanity.

You don't keep meeting the same person over & over, everybody in this world is different & is not akin to the other, but when you keep doing the same bullshit you did in your last relationship, you are doomed & you will never, EVER have a successful relationship until you stop the madness.

Stop hopping in & out of relationships/rebounding, & take a looooooooooong, deeeeeeeeeeeeeep, look within yourself to see what you need to work on. Even if you do take time to re-evaluate, you happen to meet someone you like & then BOOM!!! It fucks up again! Why? Because you still didn't GET IT. You may have did some self evaluation, but you did not apply it to the current situation & you start to repeat the dumb shit you did previously & before you know it you're having the same problems again. That's why there are threads like, "does he/she love me", "will he contact me again", "disappearing again", etc. Get my drift?

STOP IT NOW. The universe will keep bringing the same situation to you over & over & over until you GET IT. Take your time, go slow, & DO NOT attempt to get into a relationship until you're ready to start fresh. FRESH!! A clean slate!!!

So people, it's not them...IT'S YOU. Get it together. 🙂

Preach on!!!

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Posted by littlegemini
thank you so much. im working through this in therapy in my best effort to improve my relationship

You're very welcome. I realized this was something that I was recently doing. I was dating someone I really liked, & I was starting to bring the same old heavy, funky, damaging baggage/trash, that I had from my previous relationship. I had a Eureka moment & I had to end it. 😢

It sucks because he could have potentially been someone I could've been with, but I'm not ready for a relationship. I still have alot of work to do within myself. I started dating him when I knew my wounds were still fresh from my ex, "the rebound guy", but I started to like him. It wouldn't have never worked out. I have learned so much & now I have to take this time to heal & get rid of the rest of this baggage that is still weighing me down.

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Who knows, you might end up with that guy later. 🙂

But sometimes "the rebound guy" becomes way more than that and without having to end the relationship. One of my friends has been with her boyfriend for 6 or 7 years now and they're still very much in love. And you know how they started dating? They were both trying to forget about their exes, and they were both each other's "rebound"...

^^^IDK...maybe, but he had a few issues of his own so if we're available to be with each other in the future, fantastic, who knows...but you know what's funny? I kept telling him it was bad timing for me, but I went into it anyway. It WAS bad timing & it still is. I miss him though, but...I gotta K.I.M & have a relationship with myself first.

Well in the instance with your friend, it just worked out for them that way. Maybe they didn't have baggage, or were compatible, who knows, it was just meant to happen for them that way. That's great.

Posted by harry99
thanks Real

🙂