Just a simple (non) relationship question

So after about 2 months of dating, he starts commenting about the male friends he "thinks" I have. Wants to know my whereabouts if I tell him I'm "out." Tells me he isn't dating/sleeping with anyone else and wants to know if I am. To me, it feels like exclusivity, yet a week earlier he specifically said that he isn't ready for a relationship right now.

Maybe this is a dumb question, but I'll ask anyway 🙂 Does this mean that his feelings have changed? Or is that impossible at this point?

Till he extends a real commitment he's just talking don't worry about it let him talk, he's on the VERGE of making it official. He's looking for reassurance you're all in, that's a relationship TRAP, don't reassure constantly, let him think what he wants to think, he's on the VERGE of giving you what you want but if you turn into his mama trying to reassure his feelings he won't have the fear of losing you and you NEED that in order for him to take it to the next step.

Title: Just a simple (non) relationship question



Then the OP talks about, and asks a relationship question.




wtf is the matter with people?

If you cannot even comprehend yourself, in what you say .... then how do you expect to be able to grasp another person?

Posted by P-Angel
Title: Just a simple (non) relationship question



Then the OP talks about, and asks a relationship question.




wtf is the matter with people?

I KNOW Right? What is the world coming to when a person uses a sarcastic title to post a question in a RELATIONSHIP forum? Smh, its mind boggling... LOL

HE WANTS TO KNOW IF YOUR FUCKING A MAN LIKE THE RAT. IF YOUR ARE HE IS OUT OF THERE.

Doubt his questions are coming from the outside in, but rather from the inside out.

He's insecure and may even be borderline controlling

Him knowing where you are at all times should not flatter you or indicate that he cares. It's moreso indicative of his need for control or a guilty concious.

Even if I'm wrong, I still think it's a bad move for you to confuse warning signs of a controlling/insecure/jealous/clingy partner with good ole communication or interest.

And especially not with him since he's made it clear that a relationship is not what he wants from you at this time.

Sure, alot of people start acting like that when they get in relationships & justify being that way b/c they are in a relationship, but if someone is doing that before the committment, and especially if they're being very clear that committment isn't even something they want with you, then 9 times out of ten, him wanting to know so much is indicative that he's got some insecurities or controlling traits

After all, if he was just a naturally 'curious' person he'd take just as much interest in ALL of your friends, not coincidentally your male friends