Lesbian partner slept with a man... (Page 2)

Hello all, thank you for the responses. I got a lot of feed back and a lot of advice. I promise to get back with all the questions that have been asked.

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by Damnata
There is also such a thing as discovering a different facet to your sexuality because it's pretty fluid as much as people deny it so I'm not going to run with the second assumption of "isn't the first time she slept with a man" either.

Again, all of what you just said has nothing to do with it. She could've changed her sexuality. Fine. I also don't have a problem with her sleeping with someone ig they're not committed...and that isn't the OPs issue either. That's apparent in her very first post. Nowhere does she mention cheating or having a problem with her having sex. The only issue she has is the fact that she was not told that her lover's sexual preferences changed before she started reconsidering the relationship. In other words, shexwas not given the truth before reinvesting her feelings. Now, you can argue that she's not "owed" that because they're not committed but I've seen you take the opposite stance plenty of times in other threads.

As the OP has implied, she doesn't have an issue with her changing her sexuality, her issue is not being told this knowing that it's her personal preference to be with a woman who only sleeps with women.

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beautifulsoul you took the words right out of my mouth. I know a lot of people feel that I shouldnt be mad, but the problem is she didnt tell me and she hid it. Thats it. I for one do not date bisexual women because its very hard, and can be messy. To answer some of the questuons, my partner admitted that it was a mistake and she regretted... But she also stated this in a text message------" when I'm around them by myself I don't feel anything towards them. But when I'm drunk and vulnerable and they initiate something I don't always stop them. Sometimes I do but not always. It's just in some instances. I don't know how to explain it to you.Some instances like I'm really drunk and lonely or horny and someone desires me. I just need that in that moment. It's just about that specific moment and if a guy catches me in that moment then so be it. I don't feel like a bad or dirty person for that . Weak maybe but I'm only human." so like i said before ive read a lot of people advice and ideas on the issue, i appreciate it all.

Posted by keepitrealz

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by Damnata
There is also such a thing as discovering a different facet to your sexuality because it's pretty fluid as much as people deny it so I'm not going to run with the second assumption of "isn't the first time she slept with a man" either.

Again, all of what you just said has nothing to do with it. She could've changed her sexuality. Fine. I also don't have a problem with her sleeping with someone ig they're not committed...and that isn't the OPs issue either. That's apparent in her very first post. Nowhere does she mention cheating or having a problem with her having sex. The only issue she has is the fact that she was not told that her lover's sexual preferences changed before she started reconsidering the relationship. In other words, shexwas not given the truth before reinvesting her feelings. Now, you can argue that she's not "owed" that because they're not committed but I've seen you take the opposite stance plenty of times in other threads.

As the OP has implied, she doesn't have an issue with her changing her sexuality, her issue is not being told this knowing that it's her personal preference to be with a woman who only sleeps with women.

beautifulsoul you took the words right out of my mouth. I know a lot of people feel that I shouldnt be mad, but the problem is she didnt tell me and she hid it. Thats it. I for one do not date bisexual women because its very hard, and can be messy. To answer some of the questuons, my partner admitted that it was a mistake and she regretted... But she also stated this in a text message------" when I'm around them by myself I don't feel anything towards them. But when I'm drunk and vulnerable and they initiate something I don't always stop them. Sometimes I do but not always. It's just in some instances. I don't know how to explain it to you.Some instances like I'm really drunk and lonely or horny and someone desires me. I just need that in that moment. It's just about that specific moment and if a guy catches me in that moment then so be it. I don't feel like a bad or dirty person for that . Weak maybe but I'm only human." so like i said before ive read a lot of people advice and ideas on the issue, i appreciate it all.

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Yes you are responding only to the ones who validate you.

Good for you, if you got all info out of this topic.

But the way you go in slandering your ex partner and slanting people's perception in your favor tells me another story.

Posted by Rambunctious76

Posted by Damnata
Good for you, if you got all info out of this topic.

But the way you go in slandering your ex partner and slanting people's perception in your favor tells me another story.

I see it as well.

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Someone should insert the bicycle pic right about now...

Also, anyone else lol at the username of the OP?

This bitch ain't keeping shit real at all.

Posted by Damnata
Point it, you weren't in a relationship anymore so she could have fucked a man/ a woman/ an army.

Truth.

Posted by Rambunctious76
And I'm suddenly reminded of why I'm so jaded by the LGBT community.

-holds and hugs-

Posted by exxtasyx

Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
Queer shit is against the natural order.

She evidently stopped fighting against Mother Nature, and actually did was is normal.

You should try it yourself.

How dare you say that after all the long, hot nights we spent together? After all the times you told me you loved me? When you dedicated Hero by Enrique Iglesias to me? When we shared our first kiss by the sunset listening to Katy Perry's Teenage Dream?

I thought it meant something to you but I guess I was wrong

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He was just using your young hawt Gemini body for sweaty man sex.
Sorry bro.

Posted by exxtasyx

Posted by SirHorns

Posted by exxtasyx

Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
Queer shit is against the natural order.

She evidently stopped fighting against Mother Nature, and actually did was is normal.

You should try it yourself.

How dare you say that after all the long, hot nights we spent together? After all the times you told me you loved me? When you dedicated Hero by Enrique Iglesias to me? When we shared our first kiss by the sunset listening to Katy Perry's Teenage Dream?

I thought it meant something to you but I guess I was wrong

He was just using your young hawt Gemini body for sweaty man sex.
Sorry bro.

Another disappointment
http://i.imgur.com/XNVeRui.gif

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He cried after each time, didn't he?

Posted by Rambunctious76

Posted by faceroll
your ex banging a man isn't somehow worse than her banging a woman. she banged someone else regardless. you wouldn't feel "betrayed" if it had been another woman. it's biphobia it matters so much because it was a man.

not dating bisexuals makes your dating pool minuscule btw. there aren't that many lesbians to begin with.

Well, it's her perogative to date who she wants.

This whole thread reminds me of some pretty interesting videos

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That chick with dreads...I thought she was so cute. And then she opened her mouth 😐