Lil Wee or Let it Be (Page 2)

Good sex and a good relationship are like peanut butter and jelly. The glue. It is a reaffirmation of feeling from one person to the other. Touching, being together, arousal. I am not telling you what you feel is wrong, not at all. I can see your point. I feel the same way. There must be a bond forged.
To my way of thinking a partner is best. Someone you can laugh with, talk with on any and every topic, bring your troubles too, your expectations.
A friend and a lover. Someone to walk through life with. Someone to share your toilet humor with. 🙂
There is a comfort level there, trust.
Even when you want to sneak in on cats paw with the cling film in your hands ( or that tempting pillow ) that you'll be waking up with that person every morning.
And there won't be rockets and fireworks each and every time. Sometimes you're completely shattered, sometimes the mood doesn't strike at the same time, life creeps in. But ohhh when the loving is good, it is ON.
And that's where honest and open communication is critical. Should be able to say "You know, that one isn't quite doing it for me, how's about we try *this*". There's an entire vista of possibility.

Posted by seavixen2
I think it depends on how much I'm willing to invest...
if the dude "is the total package" but is less than stellar in the bedroom...it probably wouldn't deter me.
Teaching someone my exact specifications is the fun part...
Honestly, size really doesn't matter to me. The best I have thus , wasn't with a gynormous man...but boy he worked with his short comings!
If I saw a potential mate with a 12 inch sword..I might run for the hills...
All my parts are nice and pretty and I'd like to keep them that way..
I know women's vajayjays are flexible but there is still a cervix there...and it's the door that says "no entrance after this point"...
I can handle some "knocks" on that door, but I'm not down for busting the damn door down to "break on through to the other side"...

Very well put. My ex-husband and I had our issues in the bedroom. He wasnt near as adventurous as I was and it did cause us problems, however I loved him and eventually I learned that not always is the sex the most important thing. So, yes I will say that I did sacrifice some of my own sexual desire in lieu of staying with someone that I dearly loved, but it was worth it and I have no regrets.

At the opposite end of the spectrum, my Sag bf was probably the best sex I'd ever had, but I just couldnt make myself feel love for him. So, it works both ways. I hope to find the perfect mixture the next time around. Great sex and great connection = great love. It would be absolutely amazing to find that in someone. I hope to be so lucky.

And yes, SV you are so right..... knocks on the door are tolerable, but there is a point. Where, I have not been with anyone that I would consider huge, I have been with a few that were definitely above average and certainly pushing maximum capacity and constantly came a knockin. Let me tell you, I couldnt imagine tolerating much more. Its just not enjoyable when the door is kicked in!

I don't mean around the town if your in america go to the big city what ever it might be. new york or san fran some where new get out get about

Good suggestion Tate, but this is the land of corn, steel and race cars. That would be one hell of a move. Ta though. 🙂 My big adventure might involve an airplane.

Don't feel badly satori, I was 21 before I had my first. My fellow at the time was quite a few years my senior. I was so relieved, I thought there was something wrong with me. The Little Engine That Could. 🙂

Me too. Have you explored every little bit of yourself? Seriously, get a mirror and gently touch everywhere. See exactly where it is and how it makes you feel. I think everyone should, how else can you tell or show a partner what really makes your motor hum if you don't know yourself?

Awwww, now I want to hug the stuffing out of you. 🙂

Bwahahaa, glad to be of service Dy.

Good thought too. I'd not thought of that. I was thinking perhaps just crap lover or not enough self-exploration.
Dy is right satori, if there's some sort of mental block nothing in heaven or on earth will engender la petite morte.

Ahhh, you get close but no arrival, how frustrating. Try varying the intensity level. Softly, softly. If that sets things humming, try a little rougher, a different side. Go everywhere. If you start to feel yourself backing away from the edge, go back to soft and gentle. It's about finding your own pace. 🙂

Have I mentioned a detachable shower head? Not even remotely joking.

Put a towel under that booty and find out! That's what it's about, LETTING GO. 🙂

Take the pebble from our hands Grasshoppah, soon you will be Mastah Comesalot. 🙂

Wooooot! Get it woman! No holds barred, light some candles, put on some sexy music and let your freak flag fly. 🙂

Is it a pop up book?

LMAO "Objects in mirror are closer than they appear."

please go to - http://www.the-clitoris.com/

it's amaaaaaaaaaaaaazing. it's a very generic site with a wealth of info. men and women alike. check it out.

lots of words but seriously, if you didn't orgasm before, it will be difficult not to have one after - http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/inter_indx.htm - that link discusses vaginal intercourse.

they even have a vagina pictoral that's disturbingly cool. disturbing because it reaffirmed that i am, and can never be, a lesbian. vulvas are creepy looking.

Oh ladies, you'll know. Trust me, you will know. It builds in layers, you can feel it approaching like a storm you can do nothing about. Let it take you.
There are varying degrees of orgasm, some will make you whimper like a pup. Others you'll be screaming down the rafters, tossing around with your eyes rolled back in your head. No chit, it's just that intense. There are firecrackers and then there are tactical nukes. And they're ALL good.
Then you feel boneless and so damned fine.
This is the part where if you're with a lover you get on those wobbly legs, teeter to the end of the bed and you applaud that man for making you see stars. Give him a standing O, he just gave you one. If you're by yourself, give up a cheer and lay there and bask in the after glow. 🙂

Posted by Leo~Moon~Beam
Okay, silly question here...

How does a woman really know when/if she's had an orgasm?

I mean I know for sure I've never had one with a guy, but I think I've had one by myself.....maybe.

Or maybe it was just kinda a semi one? If that's even possible? I mean it was good, but I dunno if it was earth shattering.

Will you know for certain if you have had one?

No matter how much I practice, I always feel embarrassed talking about this stuff.

you'll know. there will be no in-between. some are more intense than others but you won't be able to confuse it with mere arousal.

sounds like you just need to do more self-exploration. you can't expect any man to please you when you don't know how to please yourself. i mean, something as simple as nipple sensitivity is a big deal. are both of them sensitive? one more sensitive than the other? one have no feeling? both have no feeling? both have feeling but it's not a good feeling?

at the end of the day, your mind has to connect with the parts down there to tell them to "go." so yes, practice does make perfect but...

"There are women who find their clitoris is too sensitive or totally insensitive to touch. They are perfectly normal."
source: http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/vulva_massage.htm

to bad I missed another good one should I go on line and spend the night with the box in front of me and forsake the pub NAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

LOL, awwww c'mon Tate, just once?

http://cherrytv.com/

http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/female_orgasm_educational_videos.htm

funny...

^^i dunno why he hid it. he basically said that with one of his gf's he got her to O but with the current one, she's much more difficult and he wanted to know different ways to make her climax.

Well dat is a bummer. We're chock full of helpful hints and tips.

"So I wonder, would you be willing to settle on a mediocre sexual relationship if you loved someone?"

People are usually attracted to those with the same sexual prowess as themselves. That's where the attraction lies.

For instance, a Venus-Pluto person will always b attracted to another Venus-Pluto person.
The less sexual peeps, like those with no aspects between their "love" planets dont need so much romp in the sack.
Unless they're matchmade, they go by natural selection. Unless they're dumb, or they marry for money. That's a bit different.

I wish I knew if they did are not but how can you tell if thay all pass out before you finish?

I was hopeing someone else would bite on this one.

I would hope they made some type of noise before they passed out Tater, farted, lashes fluttered. Something FFS.
And biting? Mmmm, been known too. *big evil grin*

Posted by Prince_Pisces

LOL ew.
Was he uncut? that would be the worst lol

you know, maybe if it were, it would've been larger and he would've O'd quicker? getting that lil thang off took forever. it was torture. i've never wanted sex to be over so fast.

he was so small that even when was on swole, the condom was still baggy 😢 men like this should come with a warning.

That is BAD. Poor lil' ol' thang. 😢

^^i was trying to avoid saying it but yes. they are the unclean meat.

maybe TMI but...you have to be sure that he washes up directly after intercourse. i mean DIRECTLY after. no sitting and cuddling for 5 minutes. due to the extra folds, they're more susceptible to yeast infections that they will pass to you 😢

Posted by DyTryin

LeoLady: I hope to find the perfect mixture the next time around. Great sex and great connection = great love.

Next time, get yourself a Virgo -- it worked for my Mom.

Already tried that a few times Dy. No go for the long haul.

Posted by ianthefish
likin' the hair leolady..

Me too! Thanks~!

*rolls eyes*

a real man/woman recognizes that there's always new things to learn sexually. being open and honest makes you a better lover. lousy lovers are those who claim they have nothing to learn 😛

haha Saw it already! 😛


Seriously tho, no big deal. Might have gotten some good insight.

@MsP - baaaaaaasically. i did too but will leave it alone

Posted by TasteOfChaos

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Yep... Gonna vomit

don't date a foreigner then 😉 circumcision is fairly uncommon outside of the US and Israel I suppose.

"A major difference between the paediatric care provided in Europe and that provided in the US stems from the attitudes of care providers toward newborn circumcision as a preventive health measure. In the US, the great majority of newborn boys (about 1.4 million annually) are circumcised, whereas in Europe, neonatal circumcision is rarely done. European countries consider newborn circumcision an unnecessary surgical procedure which increases the costs of operating nationalised health systems, whereas in the US, circumcision is generally considered a simple, rapid operation with medical benefits which accrue throughout life." source: http://adc.bmj.com/content/77/3/258.extract

and for balance - http://www.noharmm.org/problem.htm

wait a minute! ToC, you're from australia. guys there have their dongs clipped at birth?

Awake, I would have to say that the girl needs a lot of foreplay. And I do mean A LOT. Stimulate her manually with your hands, mouth, or whatever tickles your toenails for that matter. No rushing. Make one night all about her, hell all of them for you both. But set aside one ( or several ) that are just for exploration. It does not have to end in penetration if you don't want it too. It's all about learning each others bodies. If you are too big for her she needs the slip before you give the slide, yeh? Since you are her lover, talk, talk, talk. Ask her what arouses her. She might surprise you.
Different positions, absolutely. But PLAY. And that includes every room in the damned house. And the entire out of doors for that matter.
And the same goes for her genitals. Don't think boobs, crotch, BAM. Think of it as a present you get to open often. Note the difference when you do certain things, a woman swells on arousal with blood rushing to the area. Even her odor changes. Think of it as a flower unfurling, it takes time.
Be a lover. Stroke her when she's around, kiss her for the hell of it. Engage her mind, the biggest erogenous zone on the planet. 🙂

i agree with venus and i'd like to add as NO ONE told me, KY! i don't care how wet it gets down there, condoms irritate the hell out of me and by using KY i can maintain arousal without feeling as if there's bad friction down there.

And I agree with tubby as well.

the uncircumsized ones aren't horrible. i really didn't notice all that much of a difference. maybe some guys have more foreskin than others?

on a side note? ladies/guys....shaved or unshaven? i can't stand when men have hair down there.

UGH with the shaving! I cannot for the life of me understand the appeal of looking like you are 8 years old. And screw the "it's cleaner'' horse manure rebuttal. Shaving leaves microscopic cuts all over the skins surface encouraging infection. Mmmmhmm, infected hair follicles are so sexy, so's digging at yourself like you've got some Alaskan Kings doing the hustle in your underoos.

LMAO! i'm imagining everyone crossing their legs 🙂

Sheesh I need to finish a thought before I post. I understand it's all about personal preference, and keeping it tidy is good. But I'll stick with something my father said that I thought was pretty funny. "What's wrong with a little salad before the main course?"

LMAO Tubby. 😉

lol @ venus.

i have an aries friend who said he was once with a girl and his hand went south only to find hair. he said he told her that she was disgusting, cursed her out and left her house.

and then i had a guy who told me the hairy the better...which made me have flashbacks of ron jeremy pornos 😛

70s Swedish, boom chicka-mow mow! Guh, the Hedgehog. That man is a frightening bit of fur burger.
See now, that's the stance I don't get. We grow up, we have hair. There is a reason the hair is there. If it were unnecessary, we'd not have pubes.
I keep the bikini area clean, and the hedge trimmed. But shaving? No ma'am, not me. I don't get up on a pulpit and shriek against the evils of shaving. But it seems like heaps want to look like a porn star and are actually disgusted by what's natural.

Wow TOC, an entire year? That's amazing. 🙂 *yodeling in bathroom* "Nothing dear, just deforesting! Be out in a mo'!"