Lil Wee or Let it Be

I held on to my virginity until the ripe old age of 24. I loved my first so that made sex with him great but how the hell was I to know what "great" was? Needless to say that situation didn't work out and I thought I would never, ever find a man who could make me feel that way ever again. Enter the Lion...

The Leo, who I wasn't in love with when we first played, turned me the fug out! I wasn't in love with him before we did it but I was damn sure in lust with him after. He taught me sooooo many things. Through this experience I learned that great sex for me is a must. I refuse to trade/settle for a mediocre sexual relationship...not even for love.

Money, Sex and Kids are typically the reasons that most marriages falter. I think of the "joke" about married women having "headaches" to avoid having sex with their husbands and I'm baffled. Why would anyone NOT want to have sex with someone they care about...even if you are mad/tired? It's the ultimate release right? I mean who would turn down cake if you knew you could eat it all day and not gain a pound?

So I wonder, would you be willing to settle on a mediocre sexual relationship if you loved someone?

Posted by TasteOfChaos
Nope! Couldnt do it... Been there, its awful to be intimate with someone you love but doesnt love you back 😢
Also, if its mediocre... who would stick around for that if its just sex... if its just sex.. then it has to be awesome to wanna keep doing it without feelings...

nonono...i meant, you love the person, but the sex is abysmal. would you stay? would you marry someone that you hated having sex with? how important is good sex in the love equation?

i kinda believe that women feel pressured to get married because they're afraid that after the age of 30 they won't be able to find someone. so basically they marry someone who's all about them but they only feel so-so about the guy and that equates into not wanting to eff

Posted by tubbyscubby
Through this experience I learned that great sex for me is a must. I refuse to trade/settle for a mediocre sexual relationship...not even for love...

I think of the "joke" about married women having "headaches" to avoid having sex with their husbands and I'm baffled...So I wonder, would you be willing to settle on a mediocre sexual relationship if you loved someone?

Short response..."No." There is some expression about, sex not being everything, but without (to me) sex, there is nothing. I believe that. Many people will attest to this...they've stayed in horrible/gawdaful relationships because of some bomb a $ $ sex, but I guess from what the original op wrote, people (specifically women)have stayed in horrible relationships with horrible sex, because they felt they had to/were old and couldn't get another man/desperate, etc.
I ain't gonna lie. I'd rather have some bomb a $ $ sex than some man "cuddle me." Seriously, get the hell on, I need to feel GREAT, I don't need to friggin' cuddle - that isn't my "thing." I'm not taking anything away from those who like to cuddle, I'm sure it's....um, great. I just want great sex. I like quickies, I like long, languid and sensual sex; I like mind numbing "Iloveyousomuchcauseyouaremine" sex, and everything in between. Sigh....

Nope.

Can't marry a financially irresponsible guy, either.

Posted by MsPisces.
Nope.

Can't marry a financially irresponsible guy, either.

Ok, I want to say "me either" but really, how good is he in bed— I kid, I kid...sigh, I hate being responsible too! Damn getting older.

hahaha

Well I said 'marry'...I never said we couldn't just uh...be together 😉 😛

Posted by MsPisces.
hahaha

Well I said 'marry'...I never said we couldn't just uh...be together 😉 😛

Now we are talking... a woman after my own heart 😉

yall are a trip 🙂

an old man and a old woman or setting in rockers rocking
the old woman hits the old man in the head and knocks him out of the chair
the old man gets back into the chair and ask what was that for
the old woman says 50 years of bad sex
they rock for awhile
the old man knocks the old woman out of the chair
she get back in her chair
and says what was that for
the old man says Knowing the differance.

ha ha ha good one

i tried dating a guy with a lil wee. it was the WORST sexual experience in my entire life. it's primarily the reason why i will no be telling any of my female children to wait until marriage. at the very least she's going to have to do a size check.

For the life of me can't understand why you would keep having sex if you've never experienced an orgasm....some people say the experience is still nice but I dont by it! nope, not one bit!

i felt sorry for him. and he was a nice guy. his wee was just really little. like an engorged thumb.

I'm speaking more so on the women who have never experienced it with ANY of their partners and claim the overall experience is nice. But I guess they don't know what their missing or they keep doing it in hopes of one day getting one.

yeah. i think if you've never experienced an orgasm and are in love, you're far more willing to stay in a situation even if you THINK it could be better.

but for those of us who have met our "piece"...it's difficult to go back. marriage or not, it really is settling...FOREVER.

bahahahaha i definitely agree with that. i haven't had sex with a guy who had a small one and honestly i'm not even sure what i'd do. you can usually tell what i'm thinking with my facial expressions so that wouldn't really help.

Posted by TasteOfChaos
Yea... I agree... I really liked a guy who had a really small one... It was seriously a case of "is it in yet?" haha... and to make things worse, he had absolutely NO stamina... Poor guy 😢 I could tell he was self conscious of it too as he didnt really like me paying too much attention down there... he'd get all squirmish...

LMAO!

I've never taken measurements but that dude from way back had the teeeniest tiiiiniest thing i ever sawed.

My ex was only about 7 inches, but he has been my best lover to date..better than my 8 and 9 inch ex lovers.

I love that word...lover. hehe

I would imagine it has to do with the depth of a woman's vagina.

Is 7+ not common or something?

Its pretty common for myself and most of my girlfriends. Guess the black man myth isn't really a myth at all lol

lmao

@L~M~B - yes, you can have awesome sex with someone you do not love and with someone you do. and the contrary is true in both situations. and there's a middle ground as well. you can have ok sex with a stranger and ok sex with someone that you love. overall, it depends.

in terms of my first, he was too long. he wasn't an ideal girth but the length was UGH! i found myself running from him a lot during sex. he was also uncircumcised (uncommon in the states)...won't go into why that was a problem but we eventually resolved it. one of the other issues was that although he could do encores, he came quick. but i didn't know that he was actually quick. i didn't know that guys could hold it. he never held it 😢 in short/long, he was selfish.

our sex life was fun tho. we tried new and different things. overall, could we have lasted without my feeling as if i missed out on something? yes. i loved him so much that in a way, that trumped the impending dissatisfaction. however, that's looking at it from a mature perspective. now if he had be teeeny tiiiiny, i dunno. i think if he were as small as one of my lovers, i would've been miserable and it wouldn't have lasted.

my leo, i'll be honest and say, we met, we did the do in 2 days and we dated for almost 5 years thereafter. that man had me at hello...literally. his wee was something to call home about...literally. what made it great was obviously not love initially, but that our sexual style s were spot on. our first time, we obviously fuqd but he made it feel like love. every time we did it, it was like he was making love to me. missionary or bent over a chair, it didn't matter...it was sensual and we were connected.

something simple as my first wasn't very vocal. i mean, he wouldn't say anything during sex. i of course did the standard "oooh, aaaah, yeaaa"...you know, what they do in pornos 😛 but when i met the leo, it was night and day. he wanted me to talk to him, tell him what i wanted, how i wanted it. he did the same and these sweet nothings just added to the pleasure.

point is, some of these things can be learned. but as a virgin, you're relying on your partner to lead. if your partner is well-versed, great. if not, you're two amateurs and the feeling is just that...amateurish and you're missing out on a lot. go to that site i recommended earlier in the thread. share it with your partner. style can be learned. equipment...it just is what it is.

oh, and one more thing. my standard question to my friends who THINK they've met their "piece"...

Have you cried during sex? Has it brought you to tears?

that is my threshold. i don't know why it happens or how it happens but all i know is, sometimes it would get so good that i felt overcome. it was like he was washing the stress and worry away with every stroke.

it reminds me now of an episode of oprah (yeah i know, oprah and sex don't go together). she was talking about how sometimes when you get a really good massage, a deep tissue one, when your body is fully relaxed, that it can bring you to tears. i've never been massaged that well, but the reaction she described is hat i felt when i was with my leo.

i felt so connected with him that it's hard to describe. and the reality is, that man could get me there each and every time. that's what i'm looking for in a partner and anything that falls short is a bummer in a way. but if i have a great guy, who knows what he's doing and knows how to please me, even if it's not as orgasmic as it was with the leo, it might be worth the compromise.

L~M~B - have you orgasmed? internally? externally?

@L~M~B - you have to take responsibility for your own pleasure. there's this great book that i don't think is any longer in print called "get on top." it was funny...can't remember the details of the book but the title is of the utmost importance. you gotta learn how to ride that thang 🙂 i recall talking to my gf about being uncomfortable up there. how it's cold and you feel exposed and what not.

well, enter the leo. he MADE me get on top virtually every time we did it. why? because he wanted my pleasure to come first and one of the easiest way for a woman to achieve orgasm is in that position...externally...close-hold position.

doggie style is the most natural position for internal orgasm. but i get you, some women don't like it. one of my friends REFUSES to have sex this way. she says, "i'm no ho." 🙂

the pisces is a virgin? oh my! that...would...be...fuqn...awesome!!!!!! 😄 how old is he?

and as far as size, you will naturally know when it's too small. as one of the other women said, you will have a "is it in yet?" sorta reaction.

too long - it feels like it's in your intestines...like there's a wall and the bastard keeps hitting it

too short - you know, not so much a problem as the female prostate is close to the vaginal opening. you might be able to work with a stubby if it's chubby

hmm...a virgin at his age? i know one guy who waited that long. he ended up marrying his first. i'm not sure why he waited so long though. on one hand, it may have been spiritual, on the other, he was fugly and had body odor.

aquas are really playful in bed and if yours was like mine, he just changed positions too much. it'd get good and now he wants my leg over there. and then that was good, and now he wants me on my stomach. it was too many changes for me to actually get comfortable.

with the leo, i will say that missionary man/woman on top was the primary position and we'd switch up here and there but at most, maybe 3 different positions...4 max? with the aqua, we'd start on the bed and end up on the dresser. it was so weird. fun, but weird. i think knowing what i know now, sex with him would be better because now i know what i need/want and can better direct.

so don't be worried. it's really a matter of figuring out what you like. sometimes, you need someone to teach you what you like. some women can figure it out on their own. i wasn't one of them 😛

"aquas are really playful in bed and if yours was like mine, he just changed positions too much. it'd get good and now he wants my leg over there. and then that was good, and now he wants me on my stomach."

lolol GOd my Aqua was the best.

LMAO @ToC - yeah, he took adventure to a whole new level. i mean it was like every 45 seconds he had an internal *ding* switch positions annoucement

Everytime he switched positions, it worked. Very well at that lol I know what you guys mean, I have an ex that did that at times, but my Aqua knew exactly what he was doing. He's the only guy who not only gave me an internal O for the first time, but did it while also giving me a clitoral...then teased me so much I ended up having multiples lol

I hadn't even had sex yet when "Waiting To Exhale," came out, and yet I knew that tear scene was complete bullshit.......

...until I met him.

*sigh* If only great sex was all it took to sustain a *healthy*relationship.

Wait. That wasn't waiting to exhale, that was that other movie with angela bassett who falls in love with that young jamaican man, played by Taye Diggs. Can't think of the name atm.

How Stella Got Her Groove Back

lmao @mspisces - took a minute but you got there 🙂 i don't remember either really well but no, it's not joke and i'm glad you can relate because far too many of my friends can't and i feel sorry for them.

and for those that haven't had it happen, it's not about the equipment per se. it's just being one with someone else. it's like you're literally connected in that moment.

*sigh* i am so missing the leo right now 😢 i can't cross that bridge though...it's like crack. i've never been a crackhead but i imagine that's what it'd be like.

The size of the penis is not all that important to me... as long as they're good with their hands 😉

And their mouth. 😉

men's fingers make me nervous. i mean, did he REALLY' clean under his nails?

and yes, he has to know the power of his tongue but i'm a meat and two potatoes kinda gal 😉

They spend the whole weekend talking about willys but they don't get a willy HA so what difference does it make.

I love mens hands. And I always peek and make sure they are clean and the nails are short; ( y'all know what I mean girls, OUCH..being with Wolverine near your sensitive area? )
LOL @ seavixen. I know what you mean girl. It'd be like "Excuse me, and WHERE is that going exactly?"
And some men deffo need to learn to put da motion in the ocean. This is not a Viking assault and that is NOT a battering ram seeking entrance to the castle. There is a time and place for hot and nasty, but sometimes we want swerve, some swordplay that makes you holla GAWD DAMN.

You'd be right Tate. LOL I refuse to lower my standards though. If there's no man worth the having I'll take matters into my own hands.

Posted by james tate
They spend the whole weekend talking about willys but they don't get a willy HA so what difference does it make.

women like big willys...free willys. if we could settle, we'd be like men and no one wants that. our standards are why the majority of people picking up male prostitutes are other men 😛 otherwise, you'd see more women on the ho stroll and they're be equally as many "janes" as there are "johns."

bull buy a VIB or find a man

don't do battery powered willys
i have a man silly
he's only copped a feelly
but the deal we soon seally
really? reeaaaaaally

BOB. I can't even go there, it's too funny. It's like Coca-Cola. 'Ain't nuthin' like the real thing baby.'

poor little tubby needs a man can't find any takers poor little tubby

nope, cuz a great relationship is based on great sex

That's the thing Tate, there are no real men about. I don't hunt for a quick shag just to slake the thirst, I want something real in my life. This rather humble town sports the same pikers it always has, which is a big 'no thanks' in my book. And I don't go for married men, womens boyfriends or some boy toy. No cougar, I. I already have a son, don't need another one to slap a nappy on.

And ^5 Pride, it's definitely a part of it.

might be time to move luv if the towns stock is small and there is nothing left do a walk about find a nerw place have an adventure.

Any suggestions Tate? I'd really enjoy an adventure actually. I'll be 39 in a couple of months, need to bust loose somewhere for heavens sakes.

*S* The walk about might take all of an hour luv, this place is tiny.