needs a break apart

Why would my boyfriend say we need to take a break for him to find himself he says he's in love
With me and we never fight he says I'm to good to him
But he wants to do every thing for me and take care of me
And he does do for me our sex life is wonderful we have sex
Almost every day I love him he is what I want for the rest of
My life he knows this we have a wonderful life together
that's why I don't understand why he wants a break to find himself
he is upset that he don't have a lot of money to do more for us and me
I told him I don't care about having stuff I just want to be with him
So can somebody give me some insight he is 44 I'm 36
Please help

Posted by babygirl6977

I love him he is what I want for the rest of
My life he knows this we have a wonderful life together

First of all, you need to realize that that ^^^^^ is how YOU feel, and not him. Sounds to me like you are being urgent with presenting how you feel to us .. so I can imagine the bombardment of your sentiment he must be receiving.

So, firstly ... back off. I'm not even addressing his wishes of wanting space because there is no truth in here about him, for he is not here to speak on his own behalf, and you are obviously blinded by being love struck. I'm talking about YOU needing to step back with verbalizing your sentiments because you are trying to convince us that he thinks life with you is wonderful, while saying he pushed away alittle ... which means you aren't capable of comprehending that his actions don't match anything you're saying.

We can see this ... you have no clue .. so, YOU need to step away until you get the clue that the first thing you need to do is fully comprehend that you wanting him to want you doesn't mean he does ... what IS the TRUTH on how he acts is = he wants to step away, away from you for a while.


But, him wanting space isn't the issue right now, you can deal with that reality after you've woken up to get the clue, to see the light going off in your head ====== you aren't grasping that how you feel isn't how he feels ... and if you can't get that, then there's no way you'll understand anything he says or does, or anybody, for that matter.

Posted by babygirl6977

he is upset that he don't have a lot of money to do more for us and me
I told him I don't care about having stuff I just want to be with him

So can somebody give me some insight he is 44 I'm 36

And secondly, I'm quite astounded that a person your age still runs blindly ... the normal person, after years of relating with people, especially a SO, realizes that they are suppose to have a set of Terms and Conditions. A partner is only going to treat you according to how you permit him/her to treat you, so if you running blindly out of your own field in saying something like, "I don't care about having stuff" .... then you are virtually forfeiting your right of being allowed to voice your care and concerns when they arise ...

Just as we see a concern has risen ... the reason for this thread.


if you don't care to have stuff ... then you don't a right to be pissed off for anything you don't have right now.

So, again .... you need to do some self evaluating because you don't appear to have pride in anything of value.