Really need some help. Keep rude comments to yourself.

I feel utterly devastated. My mother passed away and I have no one. Now extended family has been visiting in order to help sort a few things out but they’re taking advantage of how emotionally vulnerable I am. They are being rude and quite abrupt with me. Anytime I express an emotion they start rolling their eyes or get extremely frustrated. They keep raising their voice and shouting at me when I’m in the state that I’m in. I need some financial assistance in the interim period and because one of them is helping with financially with something he feels he now has the right to be rude toward me. He never did this before when my mother was still alive. Now he will shout at me when it suits and disrespect me when it suits. I can not stand it and really don’t know what to do. It’s making me very depressed.

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I feel utterly devastated. My mother passed away and I have no one. Now extended family has been visiting in order to help sort a few things out but they’re taking advantage of how emotionally vulnerable I am. They are being rude and quite abrupt with me. Anytime I express an emotion they start rolling their eyes or get extremely frustrated. They keep raising their voice and shouting at me when I’m in the state that I’m in. I need some financial assistance in the interim period and because one of them is helping with financially with something he feels he now has the right to be rude toward me. He never did this before when my mother was still alive. Now he will shout at me when it suits and disrespect me when it suits. I can not stand it and really don’t know what to do. It’s making me very depressed.

Try to find some work. Even an odd job if you are able to. It will help you in two ways : 1) It will occupy your mind and help you pass through the tough time. Work devotedly and tire yourself. 2) It will move you a step closer to your financial freedom so that you can get rid of anyone trying to take advantage.

If you cannot find work because of underage then seek protection from Government authorities and clearly tell them who in the relatives is annoying you.

Or try to figure out which one of your relatives or neighbors is sincere to you and ask for his/her help to go through this. All relatives are not bad and you may be able to find one with some observation.

To "sort things out"? What does that mean EXACTLY? Funeral stuff? Insurance stuff...what?

When someone dies (and sorry for your loss) people come out who you've very seldom seen before, if at all. And yes yes yes, they will take advantage if possible. Seems to me that you weren't prepared for her passing. Meaning, she didn't prepare you for it. Hope you understand that. Honestly, as long as you have the "paperwork", you're in charge UNLESS she left a will. If you have everything you need to make decisions, everyone else can go. Im trying to figure out how and why everyone is being rude to you? 🤔

Btw, my mother passed too. I understand some of your frustrations.

Additionally, you may need to go to a single-woman's shelter if you technically have no place to lay your head. You also need to find work asap to get on your feet and detach your self from people who repeatedly mistreat you.