Should I be worried that she contacted me?

Hi. So a past friend of mine (we are females) contacted me after 2 years of not talking. I've known her forever, but she's a true drama queen and seems to have issues with all her friends and talks shit behind everyone, so eventually, I assumed that she talks shit behind my back too most likely. She also sleeps around with everyone even guys younger her age. She is now 40 years old and hasn't changed. Never had a steady boyfriend either because everything was fleeting with her. She does want to marry and have a man, but no one wants to be with her seriously. She is a moon in cancer and she can be manipulative, verbally abusive, needy and possessive. There's always some type of a drama going on with her. So there were times when we fell apart but then either me or her reconnected, to fall apart again, but two years ago is when the final fall out happened...or so I thought. I should mention that now she contacted me and asked me about marriage, so that was VERY weird.

Oh, some years ago during an argument she became verbally abusing by making fun of where I live, saying that I live in a shit city that she lives in a better city, then I was living with parents (mom & dad) at the age of 27, so she proceeded to make fun of me for that calling me a loser since she lives away from her mom. Mind you that I have graduated from a very good university and she hasn't and she is also into illegal shit for making living, so I am not sure who had told her that she is better than me. She also sleeps around with everyone, I am extremely picky when it comes to men.

OK so now back to the last argument 2 years ago that ended the relationship forever for me. She was planning to travel to Italy, and invited me to go. I agreed so we purchased tix. A few weeks before the trip, we went to see a movie, and while standing in the ticket line, her married fu*k buddy called her inviting her to check the meteors somewhere on a hill that night, so she got excited and told me let's go and knowing she likes the guy, I didn't want to say no, so she pulled me out of the movie ticket line right before we were going to go in and see the movie, so we then headed to that guy's home (wifey was away) and from there he drove us to the hill at night to see the meteor showers. I was sort of like the 3rd wheel that night. Then after the meteor shower, that guy took us to Dennys to treat us as that was the only thing open late at night to grab food. Before ordering food, there was a stuffed toy vending machine (not sure what they are called exactly), so he put in $ 20 to try to pull out a toy and after multiple failed attempts, I pointed out on a specific toy for him to grab, and he succeeded!! So he takes out the stuffed animal and gives it to my friend (his fu*k buddy), so I thought ok now we can finally eat! But no..then he takes out another $ 20 and puts in again lol, so just like before, after multiple failed attempts, I again pointed at a specific toy and AGAIN that worked, so now the 2nd stuffed animal he pulled out he handed it to me this time and my girlfriend who was 38 yrs old mind you, quickly grabbed it before the guy was able to put it in my hand so she grabbed that and held it with the other toy he gave her. I noticed the guy was surprised that she did that like 'what r u doing' type of glare at her. Regarding the move we didn't get to see, she said we will go the day after, but she then told me she can't because of plans, then she said we will go mid-week, but she didn't contact me for mid-week, so we didn't get a chance to see the movie.

So fast forward to a week later after that incident with the movie, meteor and toy day, I went to the mall with another friend and we grabbed dinner with that other friend and she wanted to see a movie, so we went to see what's out there, and there was nothing that I wanted to see except that one film I was planning to see with that toxic friend a week prior which she pulled me out of the last second so she can hang out with her guy. So I was like ok i'll just see that move since i was waiting to see it with the other one, so my friend on FB checked us in, so that toxic friend saw that I went to see that move based on FB status check-in and omg....she texted me the next day bitching at me how I could go and see it with another friend if i was planning to see it with her (which she pulled me out of herself and didn't follow up 2 more times to see it), then she called me a horrible friend. She started bitching at me accusing me etc it got So bad that she called me a bitch after seeing that she is accusing me of shit, I called her out on her toy grabbing behavior explaining that I could care less about a stuffed toy, but what she did was a real bitch move, then guess what she told me? She said "OMG I can't believe you are such a bitch, how can you expect my man to give you a gift, what is wrong with you for wanting the toy" I was like 'WOW...it is your man who was nive enough to grab a toy for u and then did the same thing for me, i never expected anything nor do I care about a stupid stuffed animal, btu I sure wouldn't be grabbing it from someone like that." She became so aggressive and abusive with me calling me all kind of names thelling me 'fu*k you, dont ever call me you bitch, snake etc...." So I ended up being a snake for some unknown reason and we blocked each other at that point. I promised myself to never let her into my life again.

Now she heard that I got married and texted me "Hey, did you get married? lol" I am not sure if it's a question through which she wants to reconcile or she's just a jealous bitch who heard I got married and she wants to know ALL about it, hence opening a dialog about my marriage to find out about my husband my life etc. She texted me from a new # LOL cause i have her blocked, so her question went unaswered. Do you guys think I overreact or now because now that I am married I just don't have the time for this type of friend drams? I want to have a child and concentrate on my husband and family life.

Posted by Impulsv

Seriously nothing you wrote refelcts a good freindship from her end you ain’t missing much but missing headache

Lose her forever

thanks hun...i swear i promised myself not to ever let her in...i haven't even missed her at all, so not sure why she is texting again asking if i got married as if she doesn't know that already for which she is texting ))) she wants to get info from me that's all ... screw her.

Don't even think about giving that toxic-bird another chance to be shitty in your life. No way! When I began reading your post, it was almost as if I wrote it. My ex-friend also reached out to me almost two years later to wiggle her toxic-ass back into my life. Claiming to "miss me and miss the hell out of me". My response was, "I lost respect for you." Period. The end. Leave trash right where it's at to stink up someone else's life. Not yours.

Posted by sweetpea2977

Don't even think about giving that toxic-bird another chance to be shitty in your life. No way! When I began reading your post, it was almost as if I wrote it. My ex-friend also reached out to me almost two years later to wiggle her toxic-ass back into my life. Claiming to "miss me and miss the hell out of me". My response was, "I lost respect for you." Period. The end. Leave trash right where it's at to stink up someone else's life. Not yours.

best thing i did was to leave her text without a response 🙂)) she pulls me into her issues with men and once even asked me to go and spy for her a guy she's in love with who told her that there can't be anything between them, she wanted me to do that around midnight 🙂))))) she lives a bit farther away from that restaurant he was in and i was close by. I constantly had to listen to her moaning about everything and everyone.

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Don't even think about giving that toxic-bird another chance to be shitty in your life. No way! When I began reading your post, it was almost as if I wrote it. My ex-friend also reached out to me almost two years later to wiggle her toxic-ass back into my life. Claiming to "miss me and miss the hell out of me". My response was, "I lost respect for you." Period. The end. Leave trash right where it's at to stink up someone else's life. Not yours.

best thing i did was to leave her text without a response 🙂)) she pulls me into her issues with men and once even asked me to go and spy for her a guy she's in love with who told her that there can't be anything between them, she wanted me to do that around midnight 🙂))))) she lives a bit farther away from that restaurant he was in and i was close by. I constantly had to listen to her moaning about everything and everyone.

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Ignoring her text? Smart move Missy!

I did the VERY SAME. After I told my ex-friend that I lost respect for her, weeks later, she sent me a picture of herself. I did NOT respond. Then, she sent me a manipulative poem. NO response either.

She FINALLY went away for good 😊

I'd love to hear her version of events before making a decision

Posted by Arielle83

You need to start ghosting all these broads.

However, it’s probably funny to witness their hot mess.

LOL yes u can see that's what im doing...im 36 now and kind of tired of that crap...both are 30 and 40 so they should know what bad behavior is we're no longer 25....i just have other things to concentrate on my life.

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by fem_fem_fem

Posted by Arielle83

You need to start ghosting all these broads.

However, it’s probably funny to witness their hot mess.

LOL yes u can see that's what im doing...im 36 now and kind of tired of that crap...both are 30 and 40 so they should know what bad behavior is we're no longer 25....i just have other things to concentrate on my life.

Ya I’m 36 too. I left everyone after I left my husband. They all had opinions and gossiped about me when my marriage stopped working.

Then this chick that was my bff, but all about her and all the men that want her, just got too much. I went to a festival with her, been separated for 6 months and I was just talking to randoms and having a good time. She got too drunk and decided to yell at me in a kebab shop cuz I refused to hold her heels and the guy she liked was talking more to me.

I left her there. No way no drama queen going to yell at me in public.

Once I’m done, I’m done.

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omg what a drama queen )) good thing u left her right there...we're past the age of bad behavior...seems like an immature childish bratty bejavior of me me me. Next time don't talk about your personal life with these biatches that they would comment about your life...the less u talk about it the less they know and they wont have much opportunity to give u their stupid advices or make comments or suggestions.