My boyfriend expects me to cook even when we fight

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Rainbow87 on Thursday, July 11, 2019 and has 68 replies.

Is It Normal to Not Feel Like Cooking After a Fight

It is normal to feel emotionally upset after a fight and not want to cook. Healthy relationships recognize emotional boundaries, and it is fair to prioritize your feelings. Your partner should respect your mood and not expect immediate cooking regardless of conflicts.

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@Rainbow87
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Hi. I just want an opinion because I don't know if my boyfriend is being a jerk. We live together and I cook breakfast and dinner everyday (except for the weekends). I also work full time.

When my boyfriend and I fight I'm not in the mood to cook. I can't pretend that I'm not mad at him.

Today my boyfriend started a fight when we got home from work over something insignificant so instead of going straight to the kitchen I went to my room to do something else. I was going to cook but I wanted to calm my anger a bit. Well he got more mad and told me that I'm expected to cook as soon as we get home from work because he's hungry as hell.

So it doesn't matter if he starts a fight, I still have to feed him.

I mean, if he's hungry he can also get something to eat or cook himself but he doesn't think that way.

I just want to know if it's normal for me not to be in the mood for cooking after we fight? And most of the time he starts the fights so I don't think it's fair to pretend there's nothing going on. I have emotions.

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@Moonbutter
11 Years5,000+ Posts

He sounds controlling and emotionally manipulative/abusive tbh ๐Ÿ˜” I cook dinner for my man on my terms and if I donโ€™t feel like it we order in. No big deal. What does your bf do to help around the house, or does he?

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Posted by Timon

I would cook.... One portion to myself and eat it infront of him. ๐Ÿ˜†

Maybe add a little. "Mmm sooo good. Too bad there's nothing left for you".๐Ÿ˜‚

Seriously you're not his mother.

This. Listen to this. This is golden

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Yea, this would not sit well with me. There would be no cooking.

I'd order pizza. Eat it in front of you. Wait for you to chase and spank me.

๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ I give up on you. That royal ass Leo moon is too difficult to land.

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Not the Leo moon you have to worry about. It's good as long as it's in focus.

It's the Aqua Mars that likes to be aunry and pull a switcheroo.. going from sub, to dom, to primal, to gimp.. ya never know.

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Posted by Rainbow87

Hi. I just want an opinion because I don't know if my boyfriend is being a jerk. We live together and I cook breakfast and dinner everyday (except for the weekends). I also work full time.

When my boyfriend and I fight I'm not in the mood to cook. I can't pretend that I'm not mad at him.

Today my boyfriend started a fight when we got home from work over something insignificant so instead of going straight to the kitchen I went to my room to do something else. I was going to cook but I wanted to calm my anger a bit. Well he got more mad and told me that I'm expected to cook as soon as we get home from work because he's hungry as hell.

So it doesn't matter if he starts a fight, I still have to feed him.

I mean, if he's hungry he can also get something to eat or cook himself but he doesn't think that way.

I just want to know if it's normal for me not to be in the mood for cooking after we fight? And most of the time he starts the fights so I don't think it's fair to pretend there's nothing going on. I have emotions.

you have to feed him

its your responsibility

why dont you cook at the weekends?

๐Ÿ™‚

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@Pandora101
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Posted by LethalFantasia

What's your relationship dynamic like? Is there any kind of like verbal agreement? lolz

I lowkey feel like you're a little mean tbqh

even if you guys do fight, all couples do, you should still want to feed your bae, especially after work x

just myyyyyyy personal take tho

exactly ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

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Posted by Rainbow87

Hi. I just want an opinion because I don't know if my boyfriend is being a jerk. We live together and I cook breakfast and dinner everyday (except for the weekends). I also work full time.

When my boyfriend and I fight I'm not in the mood to cook. I can't pretend that I'm not mad at him.

Today my boyfriend started a fight when we got home from work over something insignificant so instead of going straight to the kitchen I went to my room to do something else. I was going to cook but I wanted to calm my anger a bit. Well he got more mad and told me that I'm expected to cook as soon as we get home from work because he's hungry as hell.

So it doesn't matter if he starts a fight, I still have to feed him.

I mean, if he's hungry he can also get something to eat or cook himself but he doesn't think that way.

I just want to know if it's normal for me not to be in the mood for cooking after we fight? And most of the time he starts the fights so I don't think it's fair to pretend there's nothing going on. I have emotions.

What an ungrateful, spoiled brat he is ๐Ÿ™„

You are not his mom, heโ€˜s an adult so he can get himself something to eat when you feel down/mad or are sick! Iโ€˜d suggest a serious talk about your interactions and how you handle fights. Discussions should be held but before it turns into a fight each of you has the right to leave the room and cool down before continuing the discussion.

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Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Rainbow87

Hi. I just want an opinion because I don't know if my boyfriend is being a jerk. We live together and I cook breakfast and dinner everyday (except for the weekends). I also work full time.

When my boyfriend and I fight I'm not in the mood to cook. I can't pretend that I'm not mad at him.

Today my boyfriend started a fight when we got home from work over something insignificant so instead of going straight to the kitchen I went to my room to do something else. I was going to cook but I wanted to calm my anger a bit. Well he got more mad and told me that I'm expected to cook as soon as we get home from work because he's hungry as hell.

So it doesn't matter if he starts a fight, I still have to feed him.

I mean, if he's hungry he can also get something to eat or cook himself but he doesn't think that way.

I just want to know if it's normal for me not to be in the mood for cooking after we fight? And most of the time he starts the fights so I don't think it's fair to pretend there's nothing going on. I have emotions.

you have to feed him

its your responsibility

why dont you cook at the weekends?

๐Ÿ™‚

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No it isn't

The only responsibility is for a parent to feed a child who isn't able to feed themselves

All adults are responsible for themselves unless they're disabled in some way

Mothers need to raise there sons to be independent men and not to remain in the state of needy child....such a turn off ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿป

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Rainbow87

Hi. I just want an opinion because I don't know if my boyfriend is being a jerk. We live together and I cook breakfast and dinner everyday (except for the weekends). I also work full time.

When my boyfriend and I fight I'm not in the mood to cook. I can't pretend that I'm not mad at him.

Today my boyfriend started a fight when we got home from work over something insignificant so instead of going straight to the kitchen I went to my room to do something else. I was going to cook but I wanted to calm my anger a bit. Well he got more mad and told me that I'm expected to cook as soon as we get home from work because he's hungry as hell.

So it doesn't matter if he starts a fight, I still have to feed him.

I mean, if he's hungry he can also get something to eat or cook himself but he doesn't think that way.

I just want to know if it's normal for me not to be in the mood for cooking after we fight? And most of the time he starts the fights so I don't think it's fair to pretend there's nothing going on. I have emotions.

you have to feed him

its your responsibility

why dont you cook at the weekends?

๐Ÿ™‚

No it isn't

The only responsibility is for a parent to feed a child who isn't able to feed themselves

All adults are responsible for themselves unless they're disabled in some way

Mothers need to raise there sons to be independent men and not to remain in the state of needy child....such a turn off ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿป

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I thought its an obvious troll post, thats why I reacted with an obvious answer and a smile ๐Ÿ™‚

shame on me, if this post is real and the OP is genuine ๐Ÿ˜ข

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Posted by shakedown

I agree with MyStars and Blvckphvse.

you dont think its a troll post?

if this is real, not cooking is the equal to not having sex? I mean.... not enough information in the opening post

I dont know the OP, maybe she actually slaves at home (not on the weekends tho)

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Posted by Pandora101

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Rainbow87

Hi. I just want an opinion because I don't know if my boyfriend is being a jerk. We live together and I cook breakfast and dinner everyday (except for the weekends). I also work full time.

When my boyfriend and I fight I'm not in the mood to cook. I can't pretend that I'm not mad at him.

Today my boyfriend started a fight when we got home from work over something insignificant so instead of going straight to the kitchen I went to my room to do something else. I was going to cook but I wanted to calm my anger a bit. Well he got more mad and told me that I'm expected to cook as soon as we get home from work because he's hungry as hell.

So it doesn't matter if he starts a fight, I still have to feed him.

I mean, if he's hungry he can also get something to eat or cook himself but he doesn't think that way.

I just want to know if it's normal for me not to be in the mood for cooking after we fight? And most of the time he starts the fights so I don't think it's fair to pretend there's nothing going on. I have emotions.

you have to feed him

its your responsibility

why dont you cook at the weekends?

๐Ÿ™‚

No it isn't

The only responsibility is for a parent to feed a child who isn't able to feed themselves

All adults are responsible for themselves unless they're disabled in some way

Mothers need to raise there sons to be independent men and not to remain in the state of needy child....such a turn off ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿป

I thought its an obvious troll post, thats why I reacted with an obvious answer and a smile ๐Ÿ™‚

shame on me, if this post is real and the OP is genuine ๐Ÿ˜ข

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I've a feeling it's genuine lol

There's no sarcastic emoji but i guess this one is the closest ๐Ÿ™„

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@fishcrabscale2
8 Years500+ Posts

Some women are really good.. like you

I dont even cook for myself everyday ๐Ÿ˜ณ how can you do that twice a day too and he complains this one time

Humans. Dont let them get used to prime treatmrnt coz theyd feel entitled to it. How about he cook some time too or he can have something delivered

What is his sign

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This is a trigger for me. Big time. My mom was a stay at home mom for the most part. My dad is a Dr. So she really didnt have to work if she didnt want to. She did part time. Anyway...she always cooked dinner and had it ready by the time he got home. I remember one night he got home and he was pissed because he didnt like what she made. Told her he didnt want that shit and went into his room for the rest of the night. I was pissed because I was old enough to know that was fucked up and I had been home while she cooked and knew she was happy with what she made.

Anyway, I don't cook unless I want to cook, and I'll be damned if a man ever got pissed at me because I didnt cook for him. Fuck that shit! I'm not your mommy.

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@Boots1313
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I cook for my s.o becasue i want to and it makes me feel closer to him, but its never expected and always appreciated.

If we did fight prior to. We would take space. Come togther and prob just get tacobell, because its too late to cook and we wouls both be extremly hangry.

He sounds controlling, especially with the demands.

I guess he's like this is other areas of the relationship as well...this might be a red flag.

Im a lil scared for OP tbh.

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Posted by Boots1313

I cook for my s.o becasue i want to and it makes me feel closer to him, but its never expected and always appreciated.

If we did fight prior to. We would take space. Come togther and prob just get tacobell, because its too late to cook and we wouls both be extremly hangry.

He sounds controlling, especially with the demands.

I guess he's like this is other areas of the relationship as well...this might be a red flag.

Im a lil scared for OP tbh.

Yeah, I would have just laughed in his face if he pulled that shit on me. Then I would have ordered myself something from Uber Eats.

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Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

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Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by LadyNeptune

What was the argument about?

Ohhh, asking the right questions...

Maybe the fight was about the household duties and how sheโ€™s not carrying her side of things (ie the cooking).

Just playing devils advocate over here...

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Op stated that it was insignificant, but if it was really insignificant... Would it have escalated into her not cooking dinner? And him getting irate and emanding? If it was insignificant, I would have just laughed it off and cooked dinner anyway. Or said some kind of snide remark when I was serving it like "watch out for the Arsenic I put in it LOL"๐Ÿ˜‰

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

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I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

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This is my preference as well.

I actually enjoy cooking and laundry, for my s.o.

He does the dishes, mechanics and vacuums. Because thats what he likes.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

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Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Posted by Impulsv

I read a study that said most successful relationships are were roles are interchangeable n not set. Those who excel in one role should not be limited based on social expectations.

Mmm like mom can change a bulb not waiting around for the man to fulfill his role .

I think you can go by traditional rules, the thing is not to expect it or not to get angry when a role can't be fulfilled because of emotional issues or a bad day etc... I think that's what makes a relationship successful is understanding .

And that the other can pick up the slack when there is a situation like that.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Blame it on my Cancer Moon! ๐Ÿ˜†

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Posted by Impulsv

I read a study that said most successful relationships are were roles are interchangeable n not set. Those who excel in one role should not be limited based on social expectations.

Mmm like mom can change a bulb not waiting around for the man to fulfill his role .

I'm still independent and will do everything. I don't wait around if something needs to be done.

But if it's normal household everyday things, then routine will set in for me. It's just easier to maneuver for me with both parties working too. It's like we know what needs to get done. It's more efficient for my schedule.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

Blame it on my Cancer Moon! ๐Ÿ˜†

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I will ๐Ÿ˜Š

My mother used to do everything for my dad. When she passed he was quite unprepared and admitted it was silly of my mum to do so much for him. He couldnโ€™t even cook! He met another lady and they were great friends but she wouldnโ€™t cook for him ๐Ÿ˜†

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two different mindsets, you don't have to and shouldn't be expected to cook for him if you're upset/ don't feel like it. there;s more tot he relationship than being a chef for him, your feelings matter too

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

Blame it on my Cancer Moon! ๐Ÿ˜†

I will ๐Ÿ˜Š

My mother used to do everything for my dad. When she passed he was quite unprepared and admitted it was silly of my mum to do so much for him. He couldnโ€™t even cook! He met another lady and they were great friends but she wouldnโ€™t cook for him ๐Ÿ˜†

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lol I am the same way. I love a man to be a little dependant on me ๐Ÿ˜†

My ex used to call me at work or text me when he couldn't find a certain sock or shirt he was looking for. He actually still does this and we aren't together. Wondering where random stuff is or asking where to buy certain things.

I think it's cute.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

Blame it on my Cancer Moon! ๐Ÿ˜†

I will ๐Ÿ˜Š

My mother used to do everything for my dad. When she passed he was quite unprepared and admitted it was silly of my mum to do so much for him. He couldnโ€™t even cook! He met another lady and they were great friends but she wouldnโ€™t cook for him ๐Ÿ˜†

lol I am the same way. I love a man to be a little dependant on me ๐Ÿ˜†

My ex used to call me at work or text me when he couldn't find a certain sock or shirt he was looking for. He actually still does this and we aren't together. Wondering where random stuff is or asking where to buy certain things.

I think it's cute.

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Oh hell....man children ๐Ÿ‘ถ turns me right off. Iโ€™ve raised a strong independent son and so proud he can do everything for himself.

Do you have kids? If not sounds like you need one, youโ€™d be very caring ๐Ÿ’š

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

Blame it on my Cancer Moon! ๐Ÿ˜†

I will ๐Ÿ˜Š

My mother used to do everything for my dad. When she passed he was quite unprepared and admitted it was silly of my mum to do so much for him. He couldnโ€™t even cook! He met another lady and they were great friends but she wouldnโ€™t cook for him ๐Ÿ˜†

lol I am the same way. I love a man to be a little dependant on me ๐Ÿ˜†

My ex used to call me at work or text me when he couldn't find a certain sock or shirt he was looking for. He actually still does this and we aren't together. Wondering where random stuff is or asking where to buy certain things.

I think it's cute.

Oh hell....man children ๐Ÿ‘ถ turns me right off. Iโ€™ve raised a strong independent son and so proud he can do everything for himself.

Do you have kids? If not sounds like you need one, youโ€™d be very caring ๐Ÿ’š

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I love it ๐Ÿ˜† It makes me feel needed and appreciated to be of service to a man. Who else would he depend on, if I wasn't thereโ€”!! ๐Ÿ˜†

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9 Years25,000+ Posts

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Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

Blame it on my Cancer Moon! ๐Ÿ˜†

I will ๐Ÿ˜Š

My mother used to do everything for my dad. When she passed he was quite unprepared and admitted it was silly of my mum to do so much for him. He couldnโ€™t even cook! He met another lady and they were great friends but she wouldnโ€™t cook for him ๐Ÿ˜†

lol I am the same way. I love a man to be a little dependant on me ๐Ÿ˜†

My ex used to call me at work or text me when he couldn't find a certain sock or shirt he was looking for. He actually still does this and we aren't together. Wondering where random stuff is or asking where to buy certain things.

I think it's cute.

Oh hell....man children ๐Ÿ‘ถ turns me right off. Iโ€™ve raised a strong independent son and so proud he can do everything for himself.

Do you have kids? If not sounds like you need one, youโ€™d be very caring ๐Ÿ’š

I love it ๐Ÿ˜† It makes me feel needed and appreciated to be of service to a man. Who else would he depend on, if I wasn't thereโ€”!! ๐Ÿ˜†

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I love Sponge Bob but the image of an adult man being fed makes me want to ๐Ÿคข. You

do know there is money to be made from that? Men dress up in nappies and suck soothers and pay women a fortune to ๐Ÿผ them ๐Ÿ˜†

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@saggurl88
13 Years25,000+ Posts

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Posted by saggurl88

Well it seems like your being petty, like you're not cooking on purpose. Otherwise you would if it's your routine. But for him to start an argument over it, is another issue. Tell him you're not gonna cook or don't feel like cooking when you get upset. You're not getting paid to cook.

But if it's in your culture to serve him, then it would be a different scenario.

I'm pretty traditional with cooking and cook and actually serve a man his plate before I eat.

So if I was upset, I would still cook but tell him to make his own plate. My ex just used to laugh and know I was mad. But he still had food to eat. ๐Ÿ˜›

Women still serve men in this day and age? ๐Ÿ˜ณ

I was raised like that, so yes I do. It's automatic and I don't have any issues doing it, I like it.

But I'm super traditional with woman duties in my house. I don't even like a man in the kitchen when I'm cooking. It stresses me out. I also do all the washing clothes and stuff (no ironing) and the man needs to take out the trash and do yard work. The other chores we split.

Interesting

We live in different worlds ๐Ÿ˜Š

Blame it on my Cancer Moon! ๐Ÿ˜†

I will ๐Ÿ˜Š

My mother used to do everything for my dad. When she passed he was quite unprepared and admitted it was silly of my mum to do so much for him. He couldnโ€™t even cook! He met another lady and they were great friends but she wouldnโ€™t cook for him ๐Ÿ˜†

lol I am the same way. I love a man to be a little dependant on me ๐Ÿ˜†

My ex used to call me at work or text me when he couldn't find a certain sock or shirt he was looking for. He actually still does this and we aren't together. Wondering where random stuff is or asking where to buy certain things.

I think it's cute.

Oh hell....man children ๐Ÿ‘ถ turns me right off. Iโ€™ve raised a strong independent son and so proud he can do everything for himself.

Do you have kids? If not sounds like you need one, youโ€™d be very caring ๐Ÿ’š

I love it ๐Ÿ˜† It makes me feel needed and appreciated to be of service to a man. Who else would he depend on, if I wasn't thereโ€”!! ๐Ÿ˜†

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I love Sponge Bob but the image of an adult man being fed makes me want to ๐Ÿคข. You

do know there is money to be made from that? Men dress up in nappies and suck soothers and pay women a fortune to ๐Ÿผ them ๐Ÿ˜†

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lol I love babying men. But actually seeing them in a diaper is no good lol

I don't mind men who nag or are overly expressive when the need me to do something for them. I like it.

They can't be emotional for no reason though, but if they are bitching about something they needed me to do and I forgot or didn't have time to do it, it's satisfying to me. They see my worth and can't live without me ๐Ÿ˜†

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Posted by LethalFantasia

I'm not saying you are obligated to /serve him just because he is the sole provider or regardless of any /financial situation

but I don't knowwww

like if you have more time on your hands, he works more, he comes home starving I mean the human decency thing would be to cooook I mean it's not going to kill you bb

just my opinion/thoughts, I don't know your life/schedule

lolz x

In the op she said she works full time

This reaffirms my beliefs

Women consistently lose in these situations. Consistently.

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I'd cook alright. I'd boil something very hot and make him wear it. or else give him extra ingredients like laxative since he wants to be a jerk.

1. no it's not your job to cook for him. cooking is a survival skill, not a job for women. if he's hungry, tell him survive on his own.

2. no you don't have to cook as soon as you get in or if you don't feel like it. having someone cook for you is a PRIVILEGE. you are not his personal chef.

3. you don't have to do anything for anyone who doesn't know how to give proper respect. he doesn't talk to you right nor care about your feelings. you don't have to do a damn thing. kick him out and make him fend for himself.

young girls and women need to focus on their self love and self respect. having a boyfriend does not take priority over you first. don't be doormats. stand up for yourself. don't be afraid to get angry and assert your ground.

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