Thought Process of a Man...

So...I've had this male friend forever..he's been single forever and prided himself on it. His status has changed sin we last spoke. He went into detail with me and just makes me wonder? Is this the thought process of the majority of men? He was single for 10 yrs. Said he was hard to catch..went on lots of dates of which most were only first dates, a few made it to 2nd..he said he wouldn't let anyone catch him until this one girl...he knew on their first date she was special..she was shy, clumsy and nervous, he thought it was cute and he said after their first date he knew he was going to give her the chance to catch him and she did...he's spilling over in love..I think its adorable but...is this how it works with single men? The thought process? About being caught and ready to be caught..guys participate! =)

Posted by missscorp
is this how it works with single men? The thought process? About being caught and ready to be caught..guys participate! =)

Absolutely.

Some men purposely set the bar really high b/c they know that the majority of women won't meet their requirements, thus it gives them a way out/justification when others ask them why they're still single.

When men are still young, they're not as focused on commitment. There's 3 women to every 1 man, so it's alot easier for a man to juggle 100 women for 10 years vs. being good to just 1. Men have most of the males in their lives telling them NOT to commit & to "live b/c you're still young," & not to mention, there really are some crazy chicks out here who FURTHER give men like this an incentive to NOT settle down any time soon

There's always gonna be that 1 girl that could spot his mental trickery from a mile away & that's usually the girl he ends up unexpectedly falling in love with. Problem is, with that 1 girl who finally "got him to commit" there's also a line of 500 girls who tried the challenge & ended up hurt in the process.

Either way, there's no such thing as a woman getting a man to commit. The man has to WANT to commit. And when a commitment phobe finally settles down, YES it's b/c the woman he finally found was that awesome BUT the coincidence is really in the fact that around the SAME time he met her, he'd already made the decision to be a different kind of man.

So of course it's going to seem like some woman with mysterious magical powers was able to "get him" to commit or do something that he refused to do with other women. But that's NOT usually the case. There have been plenty of women he's swiped paths with in the last 10 years that were probably "worthy" but if he wasn't in the right mindset, it's no surprise that he wouldn't allow himself to think anybody was "good enough" at the time.

I'm willing to bet you $ 1Mill that had he met this girl 5 years ago, he probably would've passed her up. Now that he's met her 10 years later, I'm not surprised that he fell for her b/c hell, 10 years later he oughta be in a different mindset & have a different attitude about things

Something in him probably changed. He was probably tired of being single, tired of blaiming everybody ELSE for why he couldn't find a "good thing." He might've finally realized that HE was the main reason why he culdn't find true love or that HE had to let his hair down a little bit if he ever expected to find someone great.