Wait him out or move on

Hi! Need help wit a Cap friend—

What do you need help with, darling?

I hv this guy Ive known since 5th grade but neva knew he liked me we've bumpd n2 ea. otha ova time. He's a Cap and finally bk in feb he requestd to be my frien on FB in March he msgd me an told me he's had a crush on me for years. Afta txtn a while he askd for my #. He calld we laughd n talkd 4 hrs. Since then he's all of a sudden shy and we txt alot. We've been hangn out since aug and frm his actions I felt he wasnt n2 me like he said he wz. Ive seen signs of jealousy an possessiveness but he can go days w/o txtn whn he use to txt almost every mornin and throughout tha day. I really dnt kno hw to take this bcuz he doesnt really xpress himself a lot. 1 day i askd him how he would feel if i went to tha movies with sum1 since we were jus friends an he shruggd his shoulders an wz like whateva so i really thwt he didnt like me an didnt care if i went. since then he's been "pissed" as he put it an not really txtn me bk. Afta tryna get him to respond a few times I said forget and I blockd him on fb. A day or so later he txt an ask me abwt tha movie guy an if i wz serious wit him an I told him not at all I only went bcuz of tha response i got. He felt i shouldve known he didnt wont me to go. Afta a few mo msgs I askd him if he was done wit me he waited a while b4 txtn bk an said he would see me that night or tha nx day. Well we neva saw each otha so i sent him one last txt a few days ago sayn fine b mad. I havent heard frm him but he's found me on instagram an liked my pics... Do I give him time or forget it—

Oh that instagram is a dead give away he's in love you. You should give him your twitter and facebook to so he can show you more affection. You might even progress to snapchat nudes.

Or you know. Try talking to him.

Lol Illalupus... I didnt want it to b very long so I abbreviated on sm words

Cheekyfaerie we R bth n our 30s

Aquasnoz... I startd a twitter acct yrs ago an neva loggd bk n so i really dnt do twitter. I jus startd tha Nstagram pg an really dnt lurk on thr Etha but he found me and it makes me wonda jus hw long he's bn page watchn— He wz my frien on FB but afta he startd actn funny I blockd him— I wanna txt him but I dnt wanna seem all desperate but I do like him... Capricorns are very very iffy creatures... Thankx 4 tha response

Oh I love that Sag spirit! I guess in that way Caps are very different. Like wow, one of you guys will have to talk about those icky feelings one day. And my experiences with both signs? The world will freeze over a million times before that ever happens.

Idk about the rest of the Saggie's but I could NEVER understand Cap men. They are too hard to understand. There's just something about them that I find off putting, not sure what it is. I've attempted to date them, but it always just fizzles out and dies. However, there is something very mysterious about them. But after the fog clears, the adventure ends.

Aquasnoz U R so right! I swear I have pickd my phone up startd with a txt an said Hell Naw! But I want too I miss my cuddles an kisses but not tha reserved stubborn ish!!!

JoanieSagi they are hard to pick apart but the more I read up on his type I wanna try things to see if I can get a reaction out of him... He's a mystery and I want to explore just a little... Maybe for tha challenge to see if it's lust or love... I have tried some responses a certain way after reading on his sign and it WORKED! He ended up responding but I havent tried since we were suppose to see each other monday or tuesday night

Posted by cheekyfaerie
How old are you guys?

Obviously a teenager, based on her language skills.

Posted by aquasnoz
Oh I love that Sag spirit! I guess in that way Caps are very different. Like wow, one of you guys will have to talk about those icky feelings one day. And my experiences with both signs? The world will freeze over a million times before that ever happens.

I dunno. Caps are cardinal and will eventually step up. It's just very awkward when feelings are involved and caps don't like to risk being vulnerable.

My thought is he actually bit the bullet and opened up. Probably didn't the vibe that you are into him, so he didn't like being vulnerable. When caps risk being vulnerable, they withdraw and sheild up.

My thought is you were too vague about whether you like him. You're mentioning going on dates with other guys. WTF?! I'm sure the intention was to make him step up and say something or to make him jealous, but caps don't play that way. We will withdraw, sheild up and be damned and determined that you will never know what our true feelings are.

Play the game with a cap and you will either get played back or you will lose. By lose, I mean it will backfire and the cap will walk away.

Posted by IllaLupus
What the fuck did you say? That's no language I've ever heard before..

I hate it when they message in text language. This is not a text message. It's a forum.

Posted by Saglife333
Cheekyfaerie we R bth n our 30s

No offense, but just for future reference, your communication skills make you appear untelligent and lacking in courtesy for people trying to read your messages. Writing like that makes you appear to be a teenager. You're in you're 30's. Portray yourself as an intelligent grown up.
Again, no offense, just trying to help you with your image. We don't know you, can't see you, can't hear you speak. The only way we have to determine what you're like is what you're showing via written communication.

Again, no offense intended.

Posted by Saglife333
Aquasnoz... I startd a twitter acct yrs ago an neva loggd bk n so i really dnt do twitter. I jus startd tha Nstagram pg an really dnt lurk on thr Etha but he found me and it makes me wonda jus hw long he's bn page watchn— He wz my frien on FB but afta he startd actn funny I blockd him— I wanna txt him but I dnt wanna seem all desperate but I do like him... Capricorns are very very iffy creatures... Thankx 4 tha response

Just funny that even after someone mentioned it, you still continued to write like this. That's why I said what I did.

Posted by JoanieSagi707
Idk about the rest of the Saggie's but I could NEVER understand Cap men. They are too hard to understand. There's just something about them that I find off putting, not sure what it is. I've attempted to date them, but it always just fizzles out and dies. However, there is something very mysterious about them. But after the fog clears, the adventure ends.

+1

Interesting people I tried putting up with but my patience refuses!

Posted by Saglife333
Aquasnoz... I startd a twitter acct yrs ago an neva loggd bk n so i really dnt do twitter. I jus startd tha Nstagram pg an really dnt lurk on thr Etha but he found me and it makes me wonda jus hw long he's bn page watchn— He wz my frien on FB but afta he startd actn funny I blockd him— I wanna txt him but I dnt wanna seem all desperate but I do like him... Capricorns are very very iffy creatures... Thankx 4 tha response

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Seriously the way you talk/type, this is a disgrace to our sign. :-/

Hello to all who responded to my experience with a Cap. Let me start by saying that this was my first time ever joining a forum on the www to get feedback on a situation I was dealing with so thanks for all the positive feedback. I really wasn't aware of just how many characters I could use so YES! I short texted some of my damn words, BIG fucking deal and some were still able to understand where I was coming from. Assuming that everyone has a cell phone and use it to text I know that I'm not the only one who does that. I figured I would make a long story short but now that I know I have to spell out every single word for some to understand I will. Thanks again for all the feedback and criticism... Smh

Truecap your on point and no I didn't get offended by what you said. I know now that I need to be thorough so I will. Thanks again for your feedback

Ok guys I broke down and texted him last friday and told him I missed him an got No response. Saturday I texted him again determined to get everything out and let him know I truly care about him and he responds! He told me about an accident that he was in. I thought he was joking about my text. He called me BAE! And said he was serious. I told him to let me know if he needed anything but then the texts stopped. I asked if I could see him and No response. Finally he text me on Sunday and said he missed me! I responded with "show me, because I can't tell"... He goes left field an bring up the fact that I blocked him on FB! Wow.... I texted an told him I was happy that he finally responded an he says SO. I texted a few more time letting him know he was strange and one big emotional roller coaster! I then told him that I ??_—Ed theme parks and asked him to let me know when I could ride and ended it with #frustrated... I was done at that point an didnt care if he responded or Not! Later that night I get a "come get me" text! We've been together since but his mood swings are crazy but he's really sweet.... TRUECAP So how do I read him to know that he likes me more than he puts off? What do I need to look for or pay attention to? He expects me to read his mind but I don't want to read him the wrong way. I don't won't to say or do something wrong and he shuts down again.

My rule of thumb is let them do 80% of the contact initiation and invites. I mean, how else can you tell if he's into you?

Actions are what a cap shows when they're interested. Caps are men of few words but their actions say a lot. Actions such as he contacts you, he invites you, he spends time with you, he introduces you to his friends, he spends money on you (big for us stingy caps, lol!), he doesn't leave you hanging, he doesn't disappear. yeah, we run hot and cold. After sharing, we back off waiting and vulnerable, but will feel comfortable again and come back around.

Hope that helps.

Posted by Saglife333

.... tha movie guy

Posted by Saglife333

I didnt want it to b very long so I abbreviated on sm words

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right, because "tha" is short for "the"