@virgowithasoul
12 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo
venturing beyond your type
you are breakin up the harem? 😭
for real thou, not sure. I'm attracted to all different types, they just tend to be Virgos or have a heavy Virgo influence, so I won't be any help for you. y'all are my kryptonite.
Law of attraction you are what you attract. Inner work changing yourself will attract what you are
Posted by justagirl
you are breakin up the harem? 😭for real thou, not sure. I'm attracted to all different types, they just tend to be Virgos or have a heavy Virgo influence, so I won't be any help for you. y'all are my kryptonite.
*shakes fist* the harem shall never dissolve. That's my alternate life. Y'all will always be mine 😄
I'm attracted to strong libran/gemini influences in summary. That I'm very happy with but it rarely gets reciprocated.
On the alternate hand, cancer influenced people and caps are drawn to me. I've sworn off caps due to horrific experiences in the past. Cancers tend to be a bit boring for me where I am. But hey the cancers here are really great. CC and all. I love the cancers here. Thus my question since something doesn't seem to be working as what I'm attracted to doesn't reciprocate and I won't reciprocate those attracted to me. I'm slightly wary of people with piscean vibes (dreamy and intuitive) but I really will like to be with one since I imagine it to be great. I'm trying to work through this.
I seem to draw the motherly kind of women but I don't want them. It gets suffocating for me. I prefer the freedom loving women but they're too busy with life or other men. :/
Posted by virgowithasoul
I seem to draw the motherly kind of women but I don't want them. It gets suffocating for me. I prefer the freedom loving women but they're too busy with life or other men. :/
The fire and air signs. 😭
Ha I thought virgo men love motherly women yall do like to date milfs. Hmm maybe try a water sign with a lot of fire and air in they chart like libra moon or Gemini moon and Mars. Just the right amount of dosages.
I stopped long ago to date those that attracted me physically...I began to see and work more on what substance they were about. In some ways it has worked but still there are some who pretend and pretend well. Red flags won't show until months down the line. So I have just concluded that you trust no one until that trust is earned and to keep my own emotions under control until consistency within another is routine and not just a hiccup.
Dating today is horrible. We have more bottom feeders than people of substance.
Posted by SpinCycle
I stopped long ago to date those that attracted me physically...I began to see and work more on what substance they were about. In some ways it has worked but still there are some who pretend and pretend well. Red flags won't show until months down the line. So I have just concluded that you trust no one until that trust is earned and to keep my own emotions under control until consistency within another is routine and not just a hiccup.Dating today is horrible. We have more bottom feeders than people of substance.
When you say pretend are you meaning in terms of character, status, finance or some other way? I'm curious.
Posted by virgowithasoul
I seem to draw the motherly kind of women but I don't want them. It gets suffocating for me. I prefer the freedom loving women but they're too busy with life or other men. :/The fire and air signs. 😭
IDK, I am that way and I am a water sun/moon??_. (freedom loving)
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True. There are exceptions. Scorpio in particular. 😄
I liked your story KK, it seems sweet 🙂
Posted by virgowithasoul
I seem to draw the motherly kind of women but I don't want them. It gets suffocating for me. I prefer the freedom loving women but they're too busy with life or other men. :/The fire and air signs. 😭
IDK, I am that way and I am a water sun/moon??_. (freedom loving)
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Me too
Posted by SpinCycle
I stopped long ago to date those that attracted me physically...I began to see and work more on what substance they were about. In some ways it has worked but still there are some who pretend and pretend well. Red flags won't show until months down the line. So I have just concluded that you trust no one until that trust is earned and to keep my own emotions under control until consistency within another is routine and not just a hiccup.Dating today is horrible. We have more bottom feeders than people of substance.
When you say pretend are you meaning in terms of character, status, finance or some other way? I'm curious.
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All the above actually.
Posted by justagirl
you are breakin up the harem? 😭for real thou, not sure. I'm attracted to all different types, they just tend to be Virgos or have a heavy Virgo influence, so I won't be any help for you. y'all are my kryptonite.
*shakes fist* the harem shall never dissolve. That's my alternate life. Y'all will always be mine 😄
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Posted by justagirl
you are breakin up the harem? 😭for real thou, not sure. I'm attracted to all different types, they just tend to be Virgos or have a heavy Virgo influence, so I won't be any help for you. y'all are my kryptonite.
*shakes fist* the harem shall never dissolve. That's my alternate life. Y'all will always be mine 😄
click to expandGonna be better if my awesome harem did that with their actual face 😄 I might reward the one who does it
Nothing ventured ... nothing gained
But, that ^^^^ doesn't seem to bother a Virgo. They are quit happy surviving an existence, counting and hovering.
The purpose of a spiritual being wearing a meat suit is to experience life, good and bad, as it happens and progresses.
How can a person possibly believe they are living a full life, if they are stuck hovering over the same life situations/experiences?
Or make a step and try adapting a new formula for filtering your options.
I'm exploring the option of conditioning myself to be attracted to character traits that will be mutually good.
you talk of your lovelife like it's an arrangement to be made
I wonder: Do Virgos EVER wonder why people call them robots? Do you not see how your thoughts are absent of passion?
It's weird but a lot of times the men I'm really physically attracted to at first I end up no liking them that much once I get to know them. My most memorable relationships were always with ones that weren't my type initially but they eventually grew on me by the chemistry between us and also how they treated me.
I've never had a type tbh.
I either click with someone or I don't. I go with what moves me in people, no matter what that is.
That's all there is to me at least. You might be overthinking this.
Are we talking about "your type" as in the whole package, what kind of woman you go for?
It seems like people are taking "your type" to simply mean physically attractive.
Posted by Damnata
I've never had a type tbh.Oh.
I'd have voted for Gary Oldman (it's the hair) over Bela Lugosi.
(Don't worry, Klaus Kinski was never in the running.)
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My type likes Beethoven 😄
I'm 0- seraph. My choices are limited 😢
Oh, lol. Just checked Gary Oldman's chart. Moon in aries
Or make a step and try adapting a new formula for filtering your options.
I'm exploring the option of conditioning myself to be attracted to character traits that will be mutually good.
you talk of your lovelife like it's an arrangement to be made
I wonder: Do Virgos EVER wonder why people call them robots? Do you not see how your thoughts are absent of passion?
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probably. But I will prefer to plot my life carefully and be prudent in my decisions.
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Anyone keen to share their experience? I've come to realize that the people I'm attracted to does not work well with me. Has anyone managed to work through themselves and develop a way to change the type of person you're attracted to? Or make a step and try adapting a new formula for filtering your options.
I'm exploring the option of conditioning myself to be attracted to character traits that will be mutually good. It sounds like a different way of doing things and I'm keen to hear if other people have done this.