So Emotional right now!!!!

I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

Did you put out in all of these instances?

You are not alone smh sometimes I wish I had the ability to look past bullshit and tolerate the deceit. Unfortunately/fortunately I cant so, back to the drawing board. I love too hard and give way to much to deserve anything less than an equal. Dont settle for less than your worth just because you want love so badly, the right person will come along when its time,be patient stay true and vigilant. 🙂

It definitely is frustrating. The dating pool is full of a bunch of selfish, immature asshats who have no business dating to begin with.

Posted by highlyclassified

I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy ....

Sounds to me like you have already established that your main focus is to be loved ... and then you set out to fit a guy into a pattern you've already determined.

Let me guess .... if the guy doesn't perform accordingly, then you believe he ruined it for you?

"It" = dream

Talk about deception !!!!!!!!

Maybe it's the "type" of guy you go for. Try something different type next time. Go out with someone you normally wouldn't go out with. There are all kinds of diamonds in the rough.

Posted by highlyclassified
I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

i feel like screaming all the time 2. I dont know what it is. It seems so simple for my friends. they move from one relationship to the next. I feel like they settle alot or theyre just relationship oriented. im just not.

its sucks when they not only seem to want the same, but they also say it and go back on it.

find solace in that youre not the only one.

Posted by highlyclassified
I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

take a break from what you consider -- love

love grows when two people share themselves completely and that takes time in the making

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by highlyclassified

I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy ....

Sounds to me like you have already established that your main focus is to be loved ... and then you set out to fit a guy into a pattern you've already determined.

Let me guess .... if the guy doesn't perform accordingly, then you believe he ruined it for you?

"It" = dream

Talk about deception !!!!!!!!

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U may have a point the dude did state that he wanted me to understand the fact hes not perfect maybe i did give him an impression of a surreal fantasie

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by highlyclassified
I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

take a break from what you consider -- love

love grows when two people share themselves completely and that takes time in the making

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I think that's the problem they potray like they are looking for something serious but then when things get to intense they back out n start or provoke an issue or reason to back out almost like a pattern

Posted by truecap
Maybe it's the "type" of guy you go for. Try something different type next time. Go out with someone you normally wouldn't go out with. There are all kinds of diamonds in the rough.

I will try that

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Did you put out in all of these instances?

Only on two occasions

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Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by highlyclassified
I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

take a break from what you consider -- love

love grows when two people share themselves completely and that takes time in the making

I think that's the problem they potray like they are looking for something serious but then when things get to intense they back out n start or provoke an issue or reason to back out almost like a pattern

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They have to prove to you they are serious, so take your time, be friends, get to know each other before being intimate. If they are serious they will stick around. Trust me. 🙂

Posted by highlyclassified

.... the dude did state that he wanted me to understand the fact hes not perfect maybe i did give him an impression of a surreal fantasie

So then, why are these women in here coaching you in that the guy has to prove himself to you, and you are letting them tell you this .... when in reality, you realize that you are the one who was false with him?

So, it doesn't really matter what is right ... it only matters that women get to come in here and project onto you, and that you get enabled to continue in the delusion.

If you've already determined what love is and are expecting him to play the part .... then you failed before you ever met him.

And no matter how obvious that is ... women will still believe that it's ok to have you believe you are have no responsibility.

I guess they just need a place to project their own insecurities because they are too afraid to face themselves ...... and I guess you are too wrapped up in your fantasy to realize that the guy doesn't even matter, he's just a prop.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by highlyclassified

.... the dude did state that he wanted me to understand the fact hes not perfect maybe i did give him an impression of a surreal fantasie

So then, why are these women in here coaching you in that the guy has to prove himself to you, and you are letting them tell you this .... when in reality, you realize that you are the one who was false with him?

So, it doesn't really matter what is right ... it only matters that women get to come in here and project onto you, and that you get enabled to continue in the delusion.

If you've already determined what love is and are expecting him to play the part .... then you failed before you ever met him.

And no matter how obvious that is ... women will still believe that it's ok to have you believe you are have no responsibility.

I guess they just need a place to project their own insecurities because they are too afraid to face themselves ...... and I guess you are too wrapped up in your fantasy to realize that the guy doesn't even matter, he's just a prop.

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Listen im not sayin i dont care about him or dont want him i do im realizing this now is what im sayin to you everyone needs advice and help every now and then me and him talked and slowly hes coming around im not losing him hes not all bad now

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I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

take a break from what you consider -- love

love grows when two people share themselves completely and that takes time in the making

I think that's the problem they potray like they are looking for something serious but then when things get to intense they back out n start or provoke an issue or reason to back out almost like a pattern

They have to prove to you they are serious, so take your time, be friends, get to know each other before being intimate. If they are serious they will stick around. Trust me. 🙂

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This is where im lackin patience but ur right

Posted by Curiousram

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Posted by highlyclassified
I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

i feel like screaming all the time 2. I dont know what it is. It seems so simple for my friends. they move from one relationship to the next. I feel like they settle alot or theyre just relationship oriented. im just not.

its sucks when they not only seem to want the same, but they also say it and go back on it.

find solace in that youre not the only one.

The feels... i struggle with this aswell... cant even land an average joe that stimulates me emotionally and physically. Just work on yourself highlyclassified.. it will come when you least expect it. Also DMV don't you have venus conj saturn ?

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Si senor y venus in capricorn

im still learning how to respect someone elses mode of getting into relationships instead of it always being my way or the highway.

i learned recently that when i would go through my insecurities, i would want a guy to work with me and not just give up. so im starting to give others the benefit of the doubt. but not so much that they take advantage of me because its easy to do that.

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I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

take a break from what you consider -- love

love grows when two people share themselves completely and that takes time in the making

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+1

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Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by highlyclassified
I want love so bad why everytime i deal with a guy and it flows so good they do crap to ruin then blame u for why they fell back I'm a good person I'm so sick of the deception why can't men just be upfront and forward smh he made it seem like he wanted the same things i wanted.....

take a break from what you consider -- love

love grows when two people share themselves completely and that takes time in the making

I think that's the problem they potray like they are looking for something serious but then when things get to intense they back out n start or provoke an issue or reason to back out almost like a pattern

They have to prove to you they are serious, so take your time, be friends, get to know each other before being intimate. If they are serious they will stick around. Trust me. 🙂

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Yes they will stick around....

thats the thing. im not alone. im selective when it comes to commitment, but im not alone. i just dont jump into relationships.

Funny how I vented the same way and I got reamed a new butt hole by dxpnet members. Anyway OP I understand fully everyone is full of crap now adays and it is hard to decipher if they are being real or just playing around. Red flags come up but often after you are hooked. So just be patient and when they show themselves then leave and not pretend they can be something you want them to be. It is hard and it takes a lot on your part. Keep at it your hard work will pay off...a man will come into your life and show you he isn't like the rest.

women, they always have it coming