What would you have done differently?

Even if the breakup wasn't bad or on horrible terms...

INCLUDE problem & what you would've done/will do differently this time

Now looking back, what would you have done differently if you could do it all over again OR if you ever run into the same kind of situation in the future with someone else?

(When I was with my 1st love)😛ROBLEM: Everybody was in the middle of our relationship (grandmas, sisters, aunts, etc.) Anytime there was an issue, HIS family knew about it & decided they had the "right" to always give their 2 cents

What I'm doing differently since I'm married: Keeping everyone out of my business! My husband & I made an agreement from the BEGINNING that if there were ever any issues that we'd come to eachother & use our OWN problem-solving skills instead of the skills (or lack thereof) of others!

I would've dumped him until he learned how to keep our relationship business b/w us and/OR I would've told his family to go to hell & to mind their own business instead of being passive & "allowing" his family to take over

Humm.....I have had the same issues w/relationships. Outsiders butting in or trying to butt in on something that is between he and I. When I remain silent/neurtal, others read into it and make what they want out of it (which is usually NOTHING).

I would just keep others out of my personal life. It's called a PERSONAL for a reason. If it's information or something I wish to share with you, I will. If not, it's because you've already SHOWN me better than you can tell me, that your not the type of person I want to share things with.

I should have gotten out when my head and heart told me too, not snowed myself into believing things would get better in time.

Not put work first... I didn't/couldn't even see what was happening to the relationship. All I saw was that I had a job to do and a deadline to meet and that was all that mattered. I'd come home, cook dinner, then go back to the office. Then I decided it was just easier to stay at work late. When he would ask when I'd be home, my response was always "I don't know!" He says I was rather snippy about it too. We've talked about it since, he actually thought I was seeing someone else at the time.

I would have not been so freakin passive, when their actions did not match up with their words I should have left!! I give my all to much to one person TO EARLY!!And most important..I need to understand my WORTH more!! That is what I am doing now! I am getting hit on more now that I am working on me! But I just am not feeling it right now. Plus he has to be my FRIEND first, Date, then mabye next level..

I'd put aside my hopes and see things for what they are.

People are always showing and telling us exactly who they are..... it's just whether or not we listen.

Oh yeah I could write a Torah in this thread but I will resist.

Cause who really cares, ya' know.