ChocolateHazelnut
@ChocolateHazelnut
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What's wrong with romantic relationships?
Posted by UnicornSagI have all the time of the world xD..... I bet the 3 of the 1st ones.... Actually the 2nd for me :p
4. People lack time for them
Relationships are overrated
Love,
A very single, bitter and dick-thirsty Libra.
Love,
A very single, bitter and dick-thirsty Libra.
Posted by ArkansassyHahaha thank you I appreciate it. :p
I'm here for you.
Posted by DolluxxeBut come on now..... I didnt even get to experience a real one ://
Relationships are overrated
Love,
A very single, bitter and dick-thirsty Libra.
Posted by nanoI agree here!! Its true.
Mostly people lack the effort and there are way too many options.
Posted by SmidgeI would like to know...... In which way are you here for each other on Dxp like chat and advice for example? :pPosted by ArkansassyOne day you won't be here, what will we do then?
I'm here for you.click to expand
Posted by SeleukosSounds good.... But what are we supposed to do in this new way of connecting? Except if it is to be real actually xD
The idea of romance is finally growing up.
When the concept of romantic love was invented it was never meant to be taken seriously.
It was a fairytale and we thought it was a manual.
The process we currently are in has the potential to make at least some parts of that fairytale real, though.
Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnutFlirt supportPosted by SmidgeI would like to know...... In which way are you here for each other on Dxp like chat and advice for example? :pPosted by ArkansassyOne day you won't be here, what will we do then?
I'm here for you.click to expand
You mean you help us to learn to flirt.... Or you actually flirt with us? Lol
Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnutI'm here to make you think you have options.Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnutFlirt supportPosted by SmidgeI would like to know...... In which way are you here for each other on Dxp like chat and advice for example? :pPosted by ArkansassyOne day you won't be here, what will we do then?
I'm here for you.
You mean you help us to learn to flirt.... Or you actually flirt with us? Lol
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Oh thanks then! That's nice. I would like to learn about them if you have time to tell me 😄
Posted by ArkansassyObviously I have a lot of potential options and men out there..... The thing is how to access them and also for them to want a relationship and not just casual sex? The only idea I have for this.... Is i need to get to know some of them better (and fight my shyness 🙂 ) and then let things flow into something if they...... But thats so out of my control and I feel passive or that I don't actually try for this lol. Plus we talk for ages 20-25.....Does it sound like a science - fiction scenario? :pPosted by ChocolateHazelnutWhat would you like to know?Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnutI'm here to make you think you have options.Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnutFlirt supportPosted by SmidgeI would like to know...... In which way are you here for each other on Dxp like chat and advice for example? :pPosted by ArkansassyOne day you won't be here, what will we do then?
I'm here for you.
You mean you help us to learn to flirt.... Or you actually flirt with us? Lol
Oh thanks then! That's nice. I would like to learn about them if you have time to tell me 😄
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Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnut1. is English your first language?Posted by ArkansassyObviously I have a lot of potential options and men out there..... The thing is how to access them and also for them to want a relationship and not just casual sex? The only idea I have for this.... Is i need to get to know some of them better (and fight my shyness 🙂 ) and then let things flow into something if they...... But thats so out of my control and I feel passive or that I don't actually try for this lol. Plus we talk for ages 20-25.....Does it sound like a science - fiction scenario? :pPosted by ChocolateHazelnutWhat would you like to know?Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnutI'm here to make you think you have options.Posted by ArkansassyPosted by ChocolateHazelnutFlirt supportPosted by SmidgeI would like to know...... In which way are you here for each other on Dxp like chat and advice for example? :pPosted by ArkansassyOne day you won't be here, what will we do then?
I'm here for you.
You mean you help us to learn to flirt.... Or you actually flirt with us? Lol
Oh thanks then! That's nice. I would like to learn about them if you have time to tell me 😄
2. Working past your shyness is probably a good first step. Open up about the things your like and enjoy doing. The more things in common you have, the more likely they will want to spend more time with you.click to expand
1. No I am Greek
2. Yes that's probably a good beginning
Posted by SmidgePosted by ChocolateHazelnutYou'll have to speak to arkansassy about that. Gotta go byyyyyeePosted by SmidgeI would like to know...... In which way are you here for each other on Dxp like chat and advice for example? :pPosted by ArkansassyOne day you won't be here, what will we do then?
I'm here for you.
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OK byeee haha
Posted by SeleukosI like this approach. It's still just an idea now... And usually ideas takes a lot to turn into action but it still is a good start.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutI think we first need to learn how to handle all the freedom we have now.Posted by SeleukosSounds good.... But what are we supposed to do in this new way of connecting? Except if it is to be real actually xD
The idea of romance is finally growing up.
When the concept of romantic love was invented it was never meant to be taken seriously.
It was a fairytale and we thought it was a manual.
The process we currently are in has the potential to make at least some parts of that fairytale real, though.
People run away at the first sign of trouble these days.
The new, better way to connect would friendship.
I mean do people need to know where their friend is all the time etc. ?
I don't think, or well, hope so.
Romantic relationships consist of two spheres in my opinion:
Sexual passion and a more emotional form of friendship. Or Eros and Agape. The greek concepts and not anything from astrology.
Sexual passion will cool down at some point in a relationship. Not because any love was lost but because any relationship will have a point where progress is severly limited. Hence a limited Eros/sexual passion.
At this point it is up to the friendship element to become the underlying, driving force of the relationship.
This should provide enough stability and security to make people feel more safe.
Affairs should also be seen as something that can bring in new impulses for the relationship instead as the demon it currently is labeld as. Once people feel secure and safe enough they might able to see that it isn't the sex with someone else that hurt them but the loss of trust it resulted in.click to expand
I have been thinking lately too of open relationships... Cause in the last paragraph thats what you describe I think.
But I am not ready to get into one... Before I even try the exclusive. Now exclusive varies. To be exclusive it means that both parts are there cause they want to be with this person , not than the one person push the other and limit them and is extremely jealous and all that silly stuff or that they are together because of a lack of options when all that is needed is some more effort. That's my opinion at least.
"Romantic relationships consist of two spheres in my opinion:
Sexual passion and a more emotional form of friendship. Or Eros and Agape. The greek concepts and not anything from astrology."
Also yes I believe too that this is what a real romantic relationship is and friendship is a good base. I am Greek too so I now these stuff haha 🙂
So many options, not enough effort
Posted by SeleukosAbout the first paragraphs all I have to say.... Easier said than done.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutYeah, the practical part is tricky and one of the reasons my humanitarian side urges me to try a relationship despite all my shortcomings.Posted by SeleukosI like this approach. It's still just an idea now... And usually ideas takes a lot to turn into action but it still is a good start.Posted by ChocolateHazelnutI think we first need to learn how to handle all the freedom we have now.Posted by SeleukosSounds good.... But what are we supposed to do in this new way of connecting? Except if it is to be real actually xD
The idea of romance is finally growing up.
When the concept of romantic love was invented it was never meant to be taken seriously.
It was a fairytale and we thought it was a manual.
The process we currently are in has the potential to make at least some parts of that fairytale real, though.
People run away at the first sign of trouble these days.
The new, better way to connect would friendship.
I mean do people need to know where their friend is all the time etc. ?
I don't think, or well, hope so.
Romantic relationships consist of two spheres in my opinion:
Sexual passion and a more emotional form of friendship. Or Eros and Agape. The greek concepts and not anything from astrology.
Sexual passion will cool down at some point in a relationship. Not because any love was lost but because any relationship will have a point where progress is severly limited. Hence a limited Eros/sexual passion.
At this point it is up to the friendship element to become the underlying, driving force of the relationship.
This should provide enough stability and security to make people feel more safe.
Affairs should also be seen as something that can bring in new impulses for the relationship instead as the demon it currently is labeld as. Once people feel secure and safe enough they might able to see that it isn't the sex with someone else that hurt them but the loss of trust it resulted in.
I have been thinking lately too of open relationships... Cause in the last paragraph thats what you describe I think.
But I am not ready to get into one... Before I even try the exclusive. Now exclusive varies. To be exclusive it means that both parts are there cause they want to be with this person , not than the one person push the other and limit them and is extremely jealous and all that silly stuff or that they are together because of a lack of options when all that is needed is some more effort. That's my opinion at least.
"Romantic relationships consist of two spheres in my opinion:
Sexual passion and a more emotional form of friendship. Or Eros and Agape. The greek concepts and not anything from astrology."
Also yes I believe too that this is what a real romantic relationship is and friendship is a good base. I am Greek too so I now these stuff haha 🙂
What you describe about being in an exclusive relationship what should be the goal, yes, but having an affair that is done out of sexual curiosity shouldn't be the drama it currently is. It might even enrich the relationship.
Other than that the need for being exclusive often seems to come from a power struggle or personal insecurity and once that has been resolved might go away again.
The rest is work in progress unfortunately.
Kalhmera toxotis.
Allow me to apologize on behalf of my people (germans).
The way my nation treated yours around the debt crisis was/is despicable. It was the final straw that made me hate/despise most germans.click to expand
And as for the war between our nations... Thank you for the apology. I respect and appreciate it a lot. But it's always both sides that are responsible for something like that. So at least it belongs in the past. These people are not even alive anymore. We should probably try to move on. I have to tell you though that currently Greeks have problem with Angela Merkel.... So it seems our nation's are not going to be friends... :p
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