krysrenee7
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When he's actually NOT trying to get in your pants
I would have to say that not even hinting is a sure sign that this relationship isn't going to go beyond the "Friend" stage. Most males are indeed pretty sexual beasts. If the pocket lizard discussion hasn't reared it's ugly head, there is a pretty fundamental problem with where you think a normal romance relationship is going.
Friend zone and/or inexperience guy with low self esteem. Other than that maybe a complete gentleman but the latter is hard to find!
^^^^^ lovin the avatar 🙂
He's either gay or not into me. I'd be SHOCKED if it wasn't discussed within the first 6 times I saw him. 'course that's probably half my fault too lol.
Posted by wineauxPosted by THEKingofLibra
If I'm into you and we not having sex in 6 days, you won't be around me in 6 months 😄
we've been eflirting for way over 6 days. wtf?click to expand
KOL has a whole LIST. lol. Typical Libran quality.
It may not be one issue and it may not be a "OMG ITS THEIR FAULT / MY FAULT" dealio.
By 6 months here are my three's:
Good conversation
Good company
Good sex
If you REALLY think about it, if you're missing any of those within a 6 month period, what's the frigging point if this is someone that is of substance to you?
By 6 months here are my three's:
Good conversation
Good company
Good sex
If you REALLY think about it, if you're missing any of those within a 6 month period, what's the frigging point if this is someone that is of substance to you?
So I guess the aspect of some guys actually being able to "wait" too just like females is a theory that went out the door! (Sorry ladies, I tried) =P
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by Skykomish
He's either gay or not into me.
Why do women try and fall back on this one ?click to expand
B/c we live in a society where we're taught that something is wrong with you if a man hasn't tried to sleep with you yet. B/c we see the 500,000 "relationship books" written by "experts" who claim that most (if not all) men are originally hunters who just want to sleep with you & that maybe if you're lucky, he might remember later to actually get to know you. B/c guys giving their version/side of the story on these issues in those books say the same thing (he's either gay, isn't into you, is screwing someone else, etc.)
It's b/c women are finally coming around & figuring out that 2% of the guys who actually don't care that much about sex in the beginning is NOT the number we want to pay attention to, especially considering most of us actually meet the 98% of guys who are the complete opposite & DO want/ask for/prioritize sex in the 1st 6 months. Women know that there's always going to be the guy who represents the "exception," but until she actually meets the guy whose the exception (instead of just reading about him or hearing about him from overseas) she'll go with the "majority vote."
That's why.
Whether he wants me or not...wouldn't it be refreshing to know one way or the other? Good grief, the shrouds of mystery. And I'm not talking about when it's patently obvious someone wants you..but beginning phases. This working for you man? Yehhhhh, thought so, but FFS speak up and let a woman know she's making your Spiderman scivvies dance. Feels good to be desired.
LOL Never know, see what pops up. 😛
LOL!!!! ZING! Well done. 🙂 One should never chase after a bone, it should be thrown to you. Heyyyyy, hoooooo.
Thrown in fact, because I can spell. 🙂 Mmmmm Freudian slip perhaps. Royal bone apparently. Minty.
LOL Whoooooo I need more coffee *peering into cup* thought I typed 'throne' instead of 'thrown' there. It wasn't me it was you...CLEVER MAN! And definitely. A most royal place to park oneself and ponder on what is most deep and enjoyable in life. 😛
I'll wait up to a point. Then it's on like Donkey Kong. If the feeling flowing is mighty mighty and so on. But everything in me says "Oh enough of this B.S...playtime is done, time for ACTION."
*knowing nod to da Blingenator* It's that Aries man, I'm telling you.
🙂 And most definitely never boring.
Yes, and if there's a question about anything...one leg round the corner of the wall and say "What make you of this good sir?" Positive response? Go from there; this? How about...this? If you don't have a male sparking with fire in his eyes and steam snorting out his nose by then, well. I think we can conclude that he's *just not that into you*. Nor will he be. Literally and figuratively.
LOL I like that 'Cray cray Moon'.
😄 Thanks Lena, I'm a thpeshul snowflake. LOL 4.37?? Aw crap, Bling wins. Pffffft. 😛
LOL Well rub that one IN why don't you Bling? However my good man, I've cusp, and Merc to sidle up next to that moon and put a rocket in my pocket, so nyah and neener neener. 😛 *checks small scars on brow and cheek*
My Moon degree Lena, and I've Venus in Pisces..a very healthy 29.27. 🙂
My Moon degree Lena, and I've Venus in Pisces..a very healthy 29.27. 🙂
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by venusianbull
LOL Well rub that one IN why don't you Bling? However my good man, I've cusp, and Merc to sidle up next to that moon and put a rocket in my pocket, so nyah and neener neener. 😛 *checks small scars on brow and cheek*
My Moon degree Lena, and I've Venus in Pisces..a very healthy 29.27. 🙂
Can't here you as I'm running sooooo fast 🙂click to expand
Ha! *cuffing shoulder and zipping off like the wind* Hear this. *tripping you* Oooooo I'm sorry, you okay? Bwahahhahaa. Annnnnnd *dashing off again eyes sparkling* 🙂
Posted by Lena282Posted by venusianbull
My Moon degree Lena, and I've Venus in Pisces..a very healthy 29.27. 🙂
Plus I have an earth Moon, we're perfectly compatible😉click to expand
Well, well. 😉
LOL!!! All is fair deep voiced man...all is fair. Cheating...harumph. I don't cheat, I just like a rollicking good bit of play. 😛
Yes. Who am I to argue with that? I'm a woman trying to gain perspective on the male psyche and the males seem to universally agree with this concept. So, yeah, I would therefore have to agree being as it's coming from the source. However, I chalk this up to common sense really. Even though I am female, the same would apply to me when the tables are turned. If I'm not trying to get in your pants after 6 months, then you can safely assume that I'm not trying to get into them ever.
Posted by ninjamu
Yes. Who am I to argue with that? I'm a woman trying to gain perspective on the male psyche and the males seem to universally agree with this concept. So, yeah, I would therefore have to agree being as it's coming from the source. However, I chalk this up to common sense really. Even though I am female, the same would apply to me when the tables are turned. If I'm not trying to get in your pants after 6 months, then you can safely assume that I'm not trying to get into them ever.
BINGO! That's the point I was trying to make earlier. Women aren't the only ones telling other women why men do the things they do. Now men are writing the same relationship books & just re-confirming what our common sense already figured. And if the majority of the men say "If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck & acts like a duck, IT'S A FREAKIN' DUCK!" who would I be to ignore 98% of the male population, especially considering no one can tell it better than males themselves can?! =P
It was easier for women to keep making excuses when women were telling other women what certain "things" meant, but now that men are stepping up to say, "YEP! It's exactly what it sounds like," I'm in no position to argue that.
Posted by aPiscesPrincessPosted by krysrenee7
1 of my Sociology professors told our class a long time ago that if a man hasn't yet tried to sleep with a woman within the 1st 6 months of him dating her (OR of him being in an official relationship with her), that it's b/c he's NOT that interested in her.
I thought that was just common sense? lol I mean if it's for religious or strong personal reasons (like wanting to wait for marriage, etc.), then I could understand. But if a guy hasn't at least tried to have sex with a woman when they've been together for 6 months then yeah, something's not right.click to expand
Well that's just it. A woman has to notice 1st that a man hasn't asked to sleep with her before she start analyzing every possibility. She must 1st notice his lack of sexual desire for her 1st before she starts asking questions & finding out that he for instance, "can't do it" b/c of religious beliefs or any other reason. It's very possible for some people to not discuss their sexual preferences/beliefs until it's actually time to have sex.
Again, to some women this seems like "common sense." What my professor actually said wasn't surprising at all. What surprised me was the mere fact that so many women didn't consider this common sense.
I am not sure there are men that don't want to get into your pants unless they are gay. But even than sometimes...
Posted by PeriThePiscesKingPosted by Pisco26
If the guy I'm interested in hasn't tried ONE thing in the first 2 weeks, let alone 6 whole months, I would be worried.
All it makes me think is A) He is clearly not interested in you B) He's a virgin or C) He's gay.
What if he's a gay virgin who's not interested? 😉click to expand
Well I won't totally rule it out. Anything is possible I guess
What about the folks who swear that it's NOT the sex that can change/ruin things but moreso that it's the people's WILLINGNESS to allow it to change/ruin things?
I'm all for 2 people "waiting" but not b/c I think you should use sex (or lack thereof) as a tool for manipulation or control. But moreso b/c I'd be offended if someone felt they were "entitled" to the goods BEFORE really proving themselves to be someone worthy of them 1st.
That's what's wrong with people nowadays. These guys feel like they're entitled to getting sex even if they haven't earned it or put in the work to really get to know a girl. And then when they don't get any, they storm off & throw a tantrum, blaiming the girl for playing "mind games" when in reality, the reason his ass didn't get any was b/c he probably only calls her once a week & lets the door slam in her face (i.e. chivalry is dead)!!!
I actually have to disagree with the gay thing. If a man is on the DL, there's a good chance that he'll probably purposely sleep around with women just to sub-consciously prove to himself & others that he's NOT gay. And if a man is openly ok with being gay, there'd be no reason for why he'd be wasting his time courting a woman anyways.
It doesn't logically make sense as to why a gay man would purposely torture himself & invest romantic time in a gender he's NOT even attracted to OR go through all the motions of "waiting" all when he could've really been getting it from another woman (OR man) who was more easily willing to give it up
I'm all for 2 people "waiting" but not b/c I think you should use sex (or lack thereof) as a tool for manipulation or control. But moreso b/c I'd be offended if someone felt they were "entitled" to the goods BEFORE really proving themselves to be someone worthy of them 1st.
That's what's wrong with people nowadays. These guys feel like they're entitled to getting sex even if they haven't earned it or put in the work to really get to know a girl. And then when they don't get any, they storm off & throw a tantrum, blaiming the girl for playing "mind games" when in reality, the reason his ass didn't get any was b/c he probably only calls her once a week & lets the door slam in her face (i.e. chivalry is dead)!!!
I actually have to disagree with the gay thing. If a man is on the DL, there's a good chance that he'll probably purposely sleep around with women just to sub-consciously prove to himself & others that he's NOT gay. And if a man is openly ok with being gay, there'd be no reason for why he'd be wasting his time courting a woman anyways.
It doesn't logically make sense as to why a gay man would purposely torture himself & invest romantic time in a gender he's NOT even attracted to OR go through all the motions of "waiting" all when he could've really been getting it from another woman (OR man) who was more easily willing to give it up
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1 of my Sociology professors told our class a long time ago that if a man hasn't yet tried to sleep with a woman within the 1st 6 months of him dating her (OR of him being in an official relationship with her), that it's b/c he's NOT that interested in her.
Of course all the women in the room gasped, sighed & wanted to knock him upside the head! Most of the women responded by saying, "Nuh uh! Maybe he's halting on having sex b/c he's different from other guys & actually doesn't want to mess up things! The men that actually DON'T try to sleep with me within 6 months are probably the 1's that like me the MOST!"
And then I noticed something weird...99% of the guys shook their heads & disagreed with almost every "theory" women had. The guys were saying that although yes, they may control their sexual desire to get into your panties IF they really like you, make no mistake about it, there WILL be some kind of hint/talk or SOMETHING b/c when a man is into you, it'll be almost impossible for him to suppress his sexual hunger for you.
In other words, the guys claimed that if a man hasn't tried to atleast "hint" that he wants the goods within the 1st 6 months, that it's probably a BAD thing!
Do you agree?