My husband has always had a habit of comparing me to other women ever since we've been together. It makes me curious because he only compares me only PURELY physically to these other women he's been with never on a mental level. He never has anything else to say about these women except for their breasts and everything on their body. He's compared our breasts, buttocks, private areas and body weight. I've told him EIGHT times that I don't like it when he compares me to these other women who I've never seen a day in my life and he keeps doing it! Everytime he brings up my body they come up it's inevitable. He seems to compare me favorably to them but I feel terrible and humiliated at the same time. He tells me my boobs are little and petite and that I am the smallest woman he's ever seen. It confuses me because I'm 5ft4 146 pounds and wear a 36D cup. I ask him why he says these things and he says, "Your breasts are little to me because my exes had breasts like watermelons while yours are shaped like a pear and the size of cantaloupes but I like yours better even though their small there's were too much." When we first started dating nine months ago he told me he wanted to get me pregnant so I'd pick up some weight. Everytime it seems like I'm gaining more weight his whole demeanor changes and he gives me these sweet compliments. Like for example, seven months ago he told me, "It looks like you've picked up some weight you look mo re beautiful and sexier than before." Fastforward to two days ago he says, "It looks like your getting thicker I love it I must be doing something right." I took offense to it and couldn't take it as a compliment because I remember him shaming my weight. But even though he's continuously given me indications that he's not satisfied with the way I look he tells me he thinks I'm beautiful and that everything is perfect on me. He says his exes were bigger and had itty bitty waists with gigantic butts and breasts. He ACTS and TALKS like he's not that into me. It seems like I'm not his ideal type he seems confused. But he claims that he loves me and that he doesn't have a type and that he thinks I'm fine the way I am. This seems to be a big pattern of behavior from him and he doesn't seem to care. He doesn't make much effort to make me feel better. When I bring up how all this stuff makes me feel he dismisses my feelings and says I'm overreacting and being dramatic. Another thing he does is he will shift blame onto other people for my unhappiness like my mom or dad who I only see once in a blue moon. I feel TERRIBLE and we've only been married almost seven months. I don't think my husband loves me or nowhere in love with me, I don't think he's that attracted to me or finds me beautiful and when he says everything I'm saying is not true I don't believe him. I think he just married me to be intimate with me I don't know why he married me. He won't stop and doesn't seem to recognise the damage he's causing.
