@WildatHeart
9 Years
FML this is so weird. What would you do?
How to handle dating when your potential partner knows your married friend
It's important to be honest about your connections to maintain trust. Consider informing the new date about your friendship with the married friend to avoid conflicts. Protecting your integrity and respecting everyone's feelings is key. If the situation feels complicated, reassessing whether to pursue the date may be wise.
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Go on a date ffs. Check the mood out then wing it in regards to telling, if it's even necessary.
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?
Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent.
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?
And also if I decide to go out with dating app guy, who do I tell what to? Am I obligated to tell my friend I'm going on a date with his friend? Am I obligated to tell dating app guy that I used to date his friend?
Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Go on a date ffs. Check the mood out then wing it in regards to telling, if it's even necessary.
sigh. I really wanna go on this date. This guy's weird is so equal to my weird. I was having so much fun until this happened.
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon
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Ah yeah I agree - not sure why this seems that awkward - how did you know they were friends? Just have a good time and be honest and tell what you know so it's all on the table. If he's squidgy with that, move on.
I see you have a Cap Moon and Taurus Mars - so now I believe that you are overthinking - seriously !
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon
Ah yeah I agree - not sure why this seems that awkward - how did you know they were friends? Just have a good time and be honest and tell what you know so it's all on the table. If he's squidgy with that, move on. click to expand
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Dating app guy sent me a picture last night of him with a group of people, it included married guy.
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon click to expand
So it's okay to date guy friend's friend? Seriously!
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Thank you. That is exactly what I am thinking...
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon
Ah yeah I agree - not sure why this seems that awkward - how did you know they were friends? Just have a good time and be honest and tell what you know so it's all on the table. If he's squidgy with that, move on. click to expand
Dating app guy sent me a picture last night of him with a group of people, it included married guy.
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great - good opportunity to make a quick comeback and tell him that you know the other guy, dated a bit a long time ago but he's now married and do tell him that you remain friends - there is no need to tell him that Mr. Married tells you he's in love with you every so often in some desperate attempt to somehow figure his way out of the fog he is in
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon
Ah yeah I agree - not sure why this seems that awkward - how did you know they were friends? Just have a good time and be honest and tell what you know so it's all on the table. If he's squidgy with that, move on. click to expand
Dating app guy sent me a picture last night of him with a group of people, it included married guy.
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You didn't tell him you know his friend?
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No, I did tell him immediately that we were friends. But I didn't go into detail about the history.
How do you broach that subject. Oh, that's one of my closest friends, he thinks he's in love with me. Still want to go out for Sushi on Saturday?
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon
Ah yeah I agree - not sure why this seems that awkward - how did you know they were friends? Just have a good time and be honest and tell what you know so it's all on the table. If he's squidgy with that, move on. click to expand
Dating app guy sent me a picture last night of him with a group of people, it included married guy.
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You didn't tell him you know his friend?
I would have in your place. click to expandNo, I did tell him immediately that we were friends. But I didn't go into detail about the history.
How do you broach that subject. Oh, that's one of my closest friends, he thinks he's in love with me. Still want to go out for Sushi on Saturday?
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You don't. why would you even put that on the table.
Ok, I'd like to reiterate. I've been super open with dating app guy. As soon as married guy popped up in the picture I told him that we were friends.
Do I need to mention to my friend that I plan to go on a date with his friend?
I get that he should be acting like a married man and getting his life together. I remind him of that every time he does it.
You are making a mountain out of something that IMO should be disclosed later down the road and only about your past with him. You haven't even gone on a date yet.. go and see what happens.
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon
Ah yeah I agree - not sure why this seems that awkward - how did you know they were friends? Just have a good time and be honest and tell what you know so it's all on the table. If he's squidgy with that, move on. click to expand
Dating app guy sent me a picture last night of him with a group of people, it included married guy.
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You didn't tell him you know his friend?
I would have in your place. click to expandNo, I did tell him immediately that we were friends. But I didn't go into detail about the history.
How do you broach that subject. Oh, that's one of my closest friends, he thinks he's in love with me. Still want to go out for Sushi on Saturday?
click to expandYou are in an iffy situation because your married friend happened to profess his love to you even tho he's married. I'm not blaming you but these kind of situations can get awkward.
And idk, it's your friends secret that he's married and is in love with you.
You don't have to tell the guy more unless you guys were to get serious. Then it's on your friend or you, or behave as if your friend never hit on you even tho he is married.
Looks messy tho.
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It feels messy, that's why I'm thinking I should just break the date and try another dating app.
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.
Maybe I'm a bitch, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a bitch, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
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Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
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You're living it. 😄
Girl! It’s a small world. Don’t tell him. Just let them meet up at the wedding!
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
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Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ?
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
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You’re dating yourself Aqua! How old was that show!!!! 😛
I used to want to live in an apartment with a pool in the courtyard!! 😆
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
You’re dating yourself Aqua! How old was that show!!!!
I used to want to live in an apartment with a pool in the courtyard!! click to expand
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Mhmmm.....watching male neighbours at the pool over the window blinds. I see you.
I’m not sure I understand the question tbh...
Why do you need to report on your dating life to your married friend?
Why do you need to report your friendship to your potential date?
Just live your life. Stop worrying so much.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
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who knows, sex,drugs, rock and roll-my parents didn't want me to be influenced and live my life...eh...like that. lol
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
You’re dating yourself Aqua! How old was that show!!!!
I used to want to live in an apartment with a pool in the courtyard!! click to expand
Mhmmm.....watching male neighbours at the pool over the window blinds. I see you. click to expand
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😄
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
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I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
who knows, sex,drugs, rock and roll-my parents didn't want me to be influenced and live my life...eh...like that. lol click to expand
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I can relate to sex, drugs and electronic music. When i hit that phase i didn't watch much TV either.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
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Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
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it was def on like 8 or 9 (US East Coast-EST)
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
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It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
it was def on like 8 or 9 (US East Coast-EST) click to expand
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I'm not from MAGA.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
click to expand
I'm not from MAGA.
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
it was def on like 8 or 9 (US East Coast-EST) click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
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LMAO, yeah i'm not either...im from plain old USA (gtfo with MAGA)
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
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Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
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"Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me"
He's married, nuff said
"I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off-limits"
What? why would you freaking do that, HE'S MARRIED, HE'S OUT OF THE MARKET, NO MORE TO SAY.
"My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent"
Good, tell that virgo venus to SHUT THE FUCK UP
Do not try and ask this question. That's useless. Instead, only realize the truth... THERE IS NO QUESTION
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
click to expand
Ya 😛
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed?
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
click to expand
Moving Against Great America 😛
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO click to expand
click to expand
I actually didn't even know what thread I was in! 😆
I forgot! lol
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO click to expand
I actually didn't even know what thread I was in!
I forgot! lol click to expand
click to expand
Reported. Need a scapegoat for derailing offtopic so that @Endless is satisfied. Cap moon demands victims. 😆
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO click to expand
I actually didn't even know what thread I was in!
I forgot! lol click to expand
Reported. Need a scapegoat for derailing offtopic so that @Endless is satisfied. Cap moon demands victims. click to expand
click to expand
Damn Wishy- washy, evil Pisces moon!!!! 😆
I'll take the blame and go stomp back into my own moon thread! 😛
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO click to expand
I actually didn't even know what thread I was in!
I forgot! lol click to expand
Reported. Need a scapegoat for derailing offtopic so that @Endless is satisfied. Cap moon demands victims. click to expand
click to expand
right, offer your sacrifice to the great cap moon-god, and do not listen to that false prophet of @HeavyEntertainmentShow.
"So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose"
You think a cap moon need help to complain?
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO click to expand
I actually didn't even know what thread I was in!
I forgot! lol click to expand
Reported. Need a scapegoat for derailing offtopic so that @Endless is satisfied. Cap moon demands victims. click to expand
right, offer your sacrifice to the great cap moon-god, and do not listen to that false prophet of @HeavyEntertainmentShow.
"So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose"
You think a cap moon need help to complain?
click to expandclick to expand
hahahaha 😄
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO click to expand
I actually didn't even know what thread I was in!
I forgot! lol click to expand
Reported. Need a scapegoat for derailing offtopic so that @Endless is satisfied. Cap moon demands victims. click to expand
right, offer your sacrifice to the great cap moon-god, and do not listen to that false prophet of @HeavyEntertainmentShow.
"So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose"
You think a cap moon need help to complain?
click to expand
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
So, you're asking if you should turn down the opportunity for romantic love to make someone you know you don't romantically love, not be upset?
Yeah, it might be awkward for a little while, but who cares.. or skip the date and buy a cat... everyone seems to know someone in a small town... there is no escaping the 12 degrees of Kevin Bacon
Ah yeah I agree - not sure why this seems that awkward - how did you know they were friends? Just have a good time and be honest and tell what you know so it's all on the table. If he's squidgy with that, move on. click to expand
Dating app guy sent me a picture last night of him with a group of people, it included married guy.
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You didn't tell him you know his friend?
I would have in your place. click to expandNo, I did tell him immediately that we were friends. But I didn't go into detail about the history.
How do you broach that subject. Oh, that's one of my closest friends, he thinks he's in love with me. Still want to go out for Sushi on Saturday?
click to expandYou are in an iffy situation because your married friend happened to profess his love to you even tho he's married. I'm not blaming you but these kind of situations can get awkward.
And idk, it's your friends secret that he's married and is in love with you.
You don't have to tell the guy more unless you guys were to get serious. Then it's on your friend or you, or behave as if your friend never hit on you even tho he is married.
Looks messy tho.
click to expandIt feels messy, that's why I'm thinking I should just break the date and try another dating app. click to expand
I don't see why it should get messy. I don't date my friend's friends because my friends don't want me to. I don't even do anything or had anything with my friends but I have agreed to it since we became friends.
Few months ago, I met a guy while I was out with my friend and my friend didn't introduce us. The guy came and spoke to me on his own and I dated him. My point is had my friend introduced me, all their silly clauses would have been followed by me.My point is, you guys made a connection even before knowing about your friend. Married friend. So don't worry about it.
Meet him. Again your friend is married. It's like the "sour grapes" story -- I can't have you, others can't have you either. Annoying af.
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Very good point
Posted by Boots1313
Sounds like you aren't really into dating app guy, if it's too "messy" of a situation for you.Maybe I'm a cookiemonster, and my current bf is a cookiemonster, but I was dating his friend 5 months before I ended things and started to date him. Sure some awkwardness, but now when I see my ex we can all be civil and everyone realized we're all happier with how it is now.
Melrose place, yo. They want their tennants back. click to expand
Lol, I wasn't allowed to watch that growing up...or 90210 click to expand
You're living it. click to expand
Sweet...does it help that my boyfriend rents out ex's parents basement ? click to expand
One happy family.
Why weren't you allowed to watch those shows lol? I watched 90210 when i was like 10, 11 or something....crush on Kelly jajajajajaja click to expand
I was young too. Lol I hated having to go to bed at 9 and not get to watch! Lol click to expand
Hmmm....i didn't have that problem but that's probably because we got the show later than home audience (US) so it wasn't on in the evening but at 5-ish iirc. idk tho exactly when, feels like a lifetime ago LOL. click to expand
It does! Did you live on the east or west coast when you were young? I was on the west coast and thought I remembered it coming on that late. Maybe I’m mistaken. click to expand
I'm not from MAGA. click to expand
Lol. Is that Make America Great Again!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
Ya click to expand
why every thread you're in @Mr_Pinchy get suddenly derailed? click to expand
So that your cap moon finally has a valid reason to complain thus fulfilling it's purpose.
Also, thread is over, date is happening. YOLO click to expand
click to expand
You are right 😉
I did tell dating app guy an abridged version of the story. (I went out with your friend a few times and we are still friends, is that ok?)
We ended up going out last night.
He asked me out again today, so I guess it went ok.
Thanks for all of the advice folks. I had a serious moment there. I was married so long, it's been a long time since I have dated.
Posted by MadHatter
What is the question?Does the fact that I dated this guy at one point, and that he still has a crush on me automatically mean I can't date his friend? I mean if the circumstances were different and I had met dating app guy out with married guy I would just automatically put him as off limits. But because I've been talking to him for a couple of weeks I don't know what to do.
My Virgo Venus just wants to go silent. click to expand
why would you ditch him?
like, I totally understand you here, I’d feel guilty of potentially hurting the friend too.... but at the end, it’s your life, your happiness, just do your thing, you can’t be responsible for his feelings!!
after all, it’s not like you’re cheating/leaving him for his friend, that would be a completely different situation. he’s married and you don’t love him anyways, so you can’t give him anything besides friendship.
btw, I’m also libra asc, cancer sun/mercury and cap moon, and I’d have the same thoughts going on if this was me, if that makes you feel better lol click to expand
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So it's not the Virgo Venus after all huh? Maybe I'm actually starting to use those Cancer bits!
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So here is the predicament I have myself in right now. What would you do?
I have guy friend that I've known for years, we went out on a couple of dates when we very first met many years ago but because of some weird circumstances it didn't go anywhere. We both moved on but we did remain good friends. Typically we have a very normal friendship, we talk once or twice a week about normal friend shit. However, every six months or so he expresses his undying love for me out of nowhere. I gently remind him that he is now married and that he should go work on his relationship. He'll disappear for a couple of weeks and then show back up like nothing happened. I deal with it because he's been a really good friend to me much longer than he's been married. I don't think he'd ever act on his feelings in anyway, I think he's just always had a thing for me and he's having marital problems and feeling sad and confused.
So...
I started using a dating app about a month ago and met some real weirdos but a couple of weeks ago I met this guy who is awesome. We've been texting non-stop and I finally agreed to meet him for a date which we scheduled for this weekend. Except later in the conversation I stumbled upon the fact that he grew up with and is very good friends with my married friend.
It's a fairly small town so it's not unusual to know the same people. I don't want to tell dating app guy about married guy because it seems like a breach of my friends trust and he doesn't trust easily. Do I have to just drop dating app guy? WTF do I do in this situation?