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Posted by tizianiI think I would be better with accepting he left because he left than to think he found better one!!!
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
That could kill me!
Posted by tizianithere is always someone else even when s/he does not tell
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Posted by bumboklattHave man ever leave in nowhere?
Well usually if a man leaves he has intentions of finding another woman, so sooner or later it's the same reasom
Just because he suffocated? For breathing?
Sounds to me like the husband and first wife should have stayed and worked on and fix it before a second woman is even in the picture.
'Why second wife should get what I worked on?'
Because those energies were shut with you. Somehow after the divorce there is a lot of liberation and things can turn upside down.
Because those energies were shut with you. Somehow after the divorce there is a lot of liberation and things can turn upside down.
it is not that she is better than you were. Your ego is hurt, though.
Posted by tizianiyes i agree to disagreePosted by iCloud9Obviously i disagree but not much can be said.Posted by tizianithere is always someone else even when s/he does not tell
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
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if it's not a serious commitment, there can be many reasons to leave. but when it's a 10, 20, 30 years marriage when you have tied your everything together for so long, the heart would need extra strength to change the status quo
ideally, if we cannot make each other happy, then the right thing to do is to let go and allow everyone a chance to find happiness
hard to do tho
hard to do tho
Posted by Gemitatii thought you want to be the scorp's 2nd wife? would you be able to put yourself in her shoes why she wouldn't let him go regardless whether it's coming from the right place?
There are always tons of women who are complaining about their exes who treats their next wifes better.
I am listening to it and figuring out...
Using my own as an example...
Men mature with age right? Yes they do! That youngster you married 20 years ago is 45-50 now!
He is not going to the bars so often and you raised kids but then something happened and you got divorce!
In a year he showing up with this woman whom he seems adore and it is driving you crazy!!!
Why did she get what I made without even trying— He is my best creation and she haven't went trough the shit with him! The hardest thing she does is taking 10 hours flight to Hawaii!!!
And I figured it happens because you ladies are not recognizing mans maturity factor!!!
You give up when they need warmth!
Sex. Intimacy. But you are so wrapped into hate for 'what he did on past' - so you watch another woman benefits from your work!
Maybe just think about it...
i don't think your hate is coming from the right place though. if your heart is not with your husband, your hate is purely ego driven. it's kinda ugly to care only about your own needs and happiness
Are you for real? Why would you care what your husband gets after you?
You'll be off living your fairytale with the scorpion.
Can't have your cake and eat it!
You'll be off living your fairytale with the scorpion.
Can't have your cake and eat it!
Posted by Gemitatii do agree with this part
You give up when they need warmth!
Sex. Intimacy. But you are so wrapped into hate for 'what he did on past' - so you watch another woman benefits from your work!
Maybe just think about it...
There should be consistent and conscious efforts to nurture and protect the love and marriage. It's unfortunate that it is human nature to take another for granted until too late
So far nothing I've got from you guys that makes sense.
Maybe because you have no idea what o am talking about...
Maybe because you have no idea what o am talking about...
Posted by LadyPootsAlotI don't get it...Posted by SeraphlightOh right. And now I'm back to having no sympathy for the husband again.
Gemitati ...you made a turd. Your husband is a fucking turd. It's time you flushed him away.
This is the one who went off with strippers right? Yeah no improvements were made ...he is a piece of shit.
Waiting for the nasty reply from Gemi in 3...2...1...click to expand
Stripper was my idea but HOW do you remember?
Posted by iCloud9Say impossible unless one of us already found...someone...
ideally, if we cannot make each other happy, then the right thing to do is to let go and allow everyone a chance to find happiness
hard to do tho
Posted by starwarsLike if you ever...
damn I'd like to correct you per usual but i'm not in a preachy give smart answers mood
Posted by LadyPootsAlotSorry I don't get itPosted by GemitatiBecause I keep deleting like a little bitch.Posted by LadyPootsAlotI don't get it...Posted by SeraphlightOh right. And now I'm back to having no sympathy for the husband again.
Gemitati ...you made a turd. Your husband is a fucking turd. It's time you flushed him away.
This is the one who went off with strippers right? Yeah no improvements were made ...he is a piece of shit.
Waiting for the nasty reply from Gemi in 3...2...1...
Stripper was my idea but HOW do you remember?
Anyway, it doesn't take a detective. I'm obvious, and I wrote it in my profile.click to expand
Posted by SeraphlightPosted by LadyPootsAlotIn fairness ...THAT story is not one you forget!Posted by GemitatiBecause I keep deleting like a little bitch.Posted by LadyPootsAlotI don't get it...Posted by SeraphlightOh right. And now I'm back to having no sympathy for the husband again.
Gemitati ...you made a turd. Your husband is a fucking turd. It's time you flushed him away.
This is the one who went off with strippers right? Yeah no improvements were made ...he is a piece of shit.
Waiting for the nasty reply from Gemi in 3...2...1...
Stripper was my idea but HOW do you remember?
Anyway, it doesn't take a detective. I'm obvious, and I wrote it in my profile.click to expand
Posted by SeraphlightUnless you have life...Posted by LadyPootsAlotIn fairness ...THAT story is not one you forget!Posted by GemitatiBecause I keep deleting like a little bitch.Posted by LadyPootsAlotI don't get it...Posted by SeraphlightOh right. And now I'm back to having no sympathy for the husband again.
Gemitati ...you made a turd. Your husband is a fucking turd. It's time you flushed him away.
This is the one who went off with strippers right? Yeah no improvements were made ...he is a piece of shit.
Waiting for the nasty reply from Gemi in 3...2...1...
Stripper was my idea but HOW do you remember?
Anyway, it doesn't take a detective. I'm obvious, and I wrote it in my profile.click to expand
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Posted by julietteeRead the op's op.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
oh so this is just about when a man leaves?
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Posted by tizianiI suppose.Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
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Also equally hard to see another so easily fulfill his needs and him to be seemingly genuinely happy when you've dedicated your life to the same and haven't gotten those results. Makes those 20 odd years seem pointless. And leaves you floundering to find your purpose.
Or so I've been told.
Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!click to expand
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
Posted by GemitatiMaybe just impotent when it comes to the thought of fucking you. He must subconsciously and intuitively know another man is spunking in his woman's vagina.Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
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Maybe he has his own 'scorpio' who rides that dick and makes him cum HARD and OFTEN. He pays for the hotel room with cash so you'll never know
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Posted by LadyNeptuneNot quiet right. She is working. Kids are all grown up. She did her part beautifully.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.click to expand
I know the kids! But they love him because he is fun and kind and she is kind of dry/bitchy type...not that I say she shouldn't be after ALL!!!
So they adore their no good (I'm her opinion) father whom she also wants to keep is spite or for status! Or for his money he now makes!
And I DO understand that!!!
Posted by LadyNeptuneTrust me idiot! I would be HAPPY idiot was the case! I want him to try another woman! I had offered him freedom to find one! He doesn't want to! He loves me!Posted by GemitatiMaybe just impotent when it comes to the thought of fucking you. He must subconsciously and intuitively know another man is spunking in his woman's vagina.Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
Maybe he has his own 'scorpio' who rides that dick and makes him cum HARD and OFTEN. He pays for the hotel room with cash so you'll never know
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He is just unable...though he tries...
Doctor gave him Cialis. But you can't drink and 'drive' but he likes his vodka and food and sport on TV!
So...slapping my butt and a quizzing my boobs is enough sex for him!
Wait...you'll be there! Unless no one will stand you for so long for your 'nice and sunny' disposition! Lol
Posted by tizianiMy frame of reference is very limited as well. I know three ladies in their early 40s to late 50s who put in 15+ years with their now ex husbands.Posted by LadyNeptuneFair enough. I suppose I haven't spoken with many people who put in that amount of time into a relationship/marriage and come out the other end like that, so I can see how that would be tough too.Posted by tizianiI suppose.Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
Also equally hard to see another so easily fulfill his needs and him to be seemingly genuinely happy when you've dedicated your life to the same and haven't gotten those results. Makes those 20 old years seem pointless. And leaves you floundering to find your purpose.
Or so I've been told.
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The one whoose coped the best is the one who had a job/career. The other two really struggled because they were stay at home moms and didn't have anything to throw themselves into when they split up (kids were grown and moved out at that point).
Sense of identity is vital to your sense of wellbeing.
Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.click to expand
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
Posted by tizianiI would love my husband to have replacement for me! He is just too frogging lazy! Why would he even try if everytjing is going his way!Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
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Honey...WE need to....
meaning I (honey) NEED
TO DO SOMETIING...
Posted by MonkeyInTheMoonAnd you will never know! Until you've tried!
I think everything in life is temporary. What you desire being twenty isn't the same you need being fourty. People change. Being married for a decade or more you may find you're being with a whole different person compared to the one you started with. Plus, every relationship is different. The next person may face different troubles or none.
Till death does us part is quite a long period of time I just can't commit to. So I'm honest about it and say I'm not made for marriage.
You might find the best and be until death do you part! Don't say that. Marriages are all different.
Some people I knew re-married and still happy as clams at 75!
Hey! They had tried and decided my old
One was better!!!
Posted by LadyNeptuneSo? What's your point?Posted by tizianiMy frame of reference is very limited as well. I know three ladies in their early 40s to late 50s who put in 15+ years with their now ex husbands.Posted by LadyNeptuneFair enough. I suppose I haven't spoken with many people who put in that amount of time into a relationship/marriage and come out the other end like that, so I can see how that would be tough too.Posted by tizianiI suppose.Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
Also equally hard to see another so easily fulfill his needs and him to be seemingly genuinely happy when you've dedicated your life to the same and haven't gotten those results. Makes those 20 old years seem pointless. And leaves you floundering to find your purpose.
Or so I've been told.
The one whoose coped the best is the one who had a job/career. The other two really struggled because they were stay at home moms and didn't have anything to throw themselves into when they split up (kids were grown and moved out at that point).
Sense of identity is vital to your sense of wellbeing.
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I don't meet to support myself if I end up with my Scorpio.
He wouldn't allow it. He does everything himself! From fking to cooking!
And loving it. Spin want to take load off his shoulders and have him come home to a dimmer that he doesn't have to cook!
Posted by LadyPootsAlotOk. My husband is a wonderful person at heart. His mother and aunt who worshiped him died when I was 3 mo pregnant.Posted by GemitatiWell, I don't know. I do know that he has neglected you and made you feel bad for many years before Mr. Scorpio came along, so maybe you resent him too much to let him be happy. Maybe on some deep level you need for him to pay for what he did. Maybe it goes further back than him. Were you allowed to love who you wanted to love? Were you allowed to pursue your dreams?Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
I found myself at the beginning of your situation, but I didn't go through with it. Still, I got to feel some of the shame and guilt. But THEN, I got angry. Forty years of being a good person, working hard, doing what people ask, putting my own needs aside, trying trying trying, crying crying crying, and then getting so tired and hard, I didn't even cry anymore. And after all that, one mistake that I thought would make me happy ruined who I was to everyone? Who I am is no longer who I was? Good? Reliable? Hardworking? Loving? Trustworthy?
I imagine if I stayed in limbo like that, where you are, I'd grow to resent the fuck out of everyone else for judging me. Because I'm human, and I just want to be happy like everyone else.click to expand
I took role of 3 women and spoiled him worse than they did.
He never hurt me. However after years of happy together he started to take me for granted. I didn't mind being young however about 10 years ago I started to wonder. I was 40 and something started to be not enough.
I was getting tired of carrying shopping bags home while he was slowly getting out of the car so he has one trip with bags instead of 2 because I had already done 3!
Nothing and I mean NO THING done by h around the house!
All phone calls and everything is on me.
I started to mind it probably because i was getting older! And tired!
And 8 years ago I've met a Scorpio.
I wasn't looking! Never! It happened!
Man who is me but male...
And I saw man who does it all! We are still joking that if we end up together we will fight about who does what because we do it all! So if it comes to cooking - you cut - I fry! Or out the door! Lol
So you said 40 years? Wow!
Posted by LadyPootsAlotWhAt friend?Posted by julietteeReally? Well, I guess that makes more sense. Maybe it's still relevant to the friend's situation. I don't know.Posted by LadyPootsAlotPosted by GemitatiWell, I don't know. I do know that he has neglected you and made you feel bad for many years before Mr. Scorpio came along, so maybe you resent him too much to let him be happy. Maybe on some deep level you need for him to pay for what he did. Maybe it goes further back than him. Were you allowed to love who you wanted to love? Were you allowed to pursue your dreams?Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
I found myself at the beginning of your situation, but I didn't go through with it. Still, I got to feel some of the shame and guilt. But THEN, I got angry. Forty years of being a good person, working hard, doing what people ask, putting my own needs aside, trying trying trying, crying crying crying, and then getting so tired and hard, I didn't even cry anymore. And after all that, one mistake that I thought would make me happy ruined who I was to everyone? Who I am is no longer who I was? Good? Reliable? Hardworking? Loving? Trustworthy?
I imagine if I stayed in limbo like that, where you are, I'd grow to resent the fuck out of everyone else for judging me. Because I'm human, and I just want to be happy like everyone else.
i think she is all over the place. she would like to be replaced and let him be, but the topic is about her friend, different situation.
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It's in general...
Posted by julietteeLmao! Yeah wait until you can't het it up and than marry!Posted by narayana
That's why you should not marry when you're young, cause yall stupid and selfish, and have no idea how to treat the other. Once you get older, you become a better person. Well, most people do. Some are trash for life tho
you can, and you can grow together. but if one party is not interested well that's fucked up.
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No cheating in site...calm and quiet life non nursing home...
Posted by LadyPootsAlotNot quite...lmao but thanks!Posted by GemitatiWill think on it. You need a hug. 🤗Posted by LadyPootsAlotOk. My husband is a wonderful person at heart. His mother and aunt who worshiped him died when I was 3 mo pregnant.Posted by GemitatiWell, I don't know. I do know that he has neglected you and made you feel bad for many years before Mr. Scorpio came along, so maybe you resent him too much to let him be happy. Maybe on some deep level you need for him to pay for what he did. Maybe it goes further back than him. Were you allowed to love who you wanted to love? Were you allowed to pursue your dreams?Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
I found myself at the beginning of your situation, but I didn't go through with it. Still, I got to feel some of the shame and guilt. But THEN, I got angry. Forty years of being a good person, working hard, doing what people ask, putting my own needs aside, trying trying trying, crying crying crying, and then getting so tired and hard, I didn't even cry anymore. And after all that, one mistake that I thought would make me happy ruined who I was to everyone? Who I am is no longer who I was? Good? Reliable? Hardworking? Loving? Trustworthy?
I imagine if I stayed in limbo like that, where you are, I'd grow to resent the fuck out of everyone else for judging me. Because I'm human, and I just want to be happy like everyone else.
I took role of 3 women and spoiled him worse than they did.
He never hurt me. However after years of happy together he started to take me for granted. I didn't mind being young however about 10 years ago I started to wonder. I was 40 and something started to be not enough.
I was getting tired of carrying shopping bags home while he was slowly getting out of the car so he has one trip with bags instead of 2 because I had already done 3!
Nothing and I mean NO THING done by h around the house!
All phone calls and everything is on me.
I started to mind it probably because i was getting older! And tired!
And 8 years ago I've met a Scorpio.
I wasn't looking! Never! It happened!
Man who is me but male...
And I saw man who does it all! We are still joking that if we end up together we will fight about who does what because we do it all! So if it comes to cooking - you cut - I fry! Or out the door! Lol
So you said 40 years? Wow!click to expand
Posted by Gemitatito be fair, it's you who changed. not your husband.Posted by LadyPootsAlotOk. My husband is a wonderful person at heart. His mother and aunt who worshiped him died when I was 3 mo pregnant.Posted by GemitatiWell, I don't know. I do know that he has neglected you and made you feel bad for many years before Mr. Scorpio came along, so maybe you resent him too much to let him be happy. Maybe on some deep level you need for him to pay for what he did. Maybe it goes further back than him. Were you allowed to love who you wanted to love? Were you allowed to pursue your dreams?Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
I found myself at the beginning of your situation, but I didn't go through with it. Still, I got to feel some of the shame and guilt. But THEN, I got angry. Forty years of being a good person, working hard, doing what people ask, putting my own needs aside, trying trying trying, crying crying crying, and then getting so tired and hard, I didn't even cry anymore. And after all that, one mistake that I thought would make me happy ruined who I was to everyone? Who I am is no longer who I was? Good? Reliable? Hardworking? Loving? Trustworthy?
I imagine if I stayed in limbo like that, where you are, I'd grow to resent the fuck out of everyone else for judging me. Because I'm human, and I just want to be happy like everyone else.
I took role of 3 women and spoiled him worse than they did.
He never hurt me. However after years of happy together he started to take me for granted. I didn't mind being young however about 10 years ago I started to wonder. I was 40 and something started to be not enough.
I was getting tired of carrying shopping bags home while he was slowly getting out of the car so he has one trip with bags instead of 2 because I had already done 3!
Nothing and I mean NO THING done by h around the house!
All phone calls and everything is on me.
I started to mind it probably because i was getting older! And tired!
And 8 years ago I've met a Scorpio.
I wasn't looking! Never! It happened!
Man who is me but male...
And I saw man who does it all! We are still joking that if we end up together we will fight about who does what because we do it all! So if it comes to cooking - you cut - I fry! Or out the door! Lol
So you said 40 years? Wow!click to expand
you spoiled him rotten and acted like his mother for decades (which is a typical unhealthy savior complex in relationship) and then you changed. you just grew tired and sick of taking care of everything any more, thus the affair
think about it. if you spoiled your kid rotten and they turn into useless losers in their 20s, you think it's because they are born losers?
i have found that most men do not change easily. once they settle into a pattern, it would take a lot to change the status quo. that's why i am a firm believer that in a relationship, boundaries, roles and how you interact with each other should be defined in the beginning of the relationship to avoid resentments down the road
"You teach others how to treat you"
you have failed your marriage
you have failed your marriage
Posted by GemitatiI'm not talking about you bitch. Stay in your lane.Posted by LadyNeptuneSo? What's your point?Posted by tizianiMy frame of reference is very limited as well. I know three ladies in their early 40s to late 50s who put in 15+ years with their now ex husbands.Posted by LadyNeptuneFair enough. I suppose I haven't spoken with many people who put in that amount of time into a relationship/marriage and come out the other end like that, so I can see how that would be tough too.Posted by tizianiI suppose.Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
Also equally hard to see another so easily fulfill his needs and him to be seemingly genuinely happy when you've dedicated your life to the same and haven't gotten those results. Makes those 20 old years seem pointless. And leaves you floundering to find your purpose.
Or so I've been told.
The one whoose coped the best is the one who had a job/career. The other two really struggled because they were stay at home moms and didn't have anything to throw themselves into when they split up (kids were grown and moved out at that point).
Sense of identity is vital to your sense of wellbeing.
I don't meet to support myself if I end up with my Scorpio.
He wouldn't allow it. He does everything himself! From fking to cooking!
And loving it. Spin want to take load off his shoulders and have him come home to a dimmer that he doesn't have to cook!click to expand
Posted by iCloud9Not even arguing your point!Posted by Gemitatito be fair, it's you who changed. not your husband.Posted by LadyPootsAlotOk. My husband is a wonderful person at heart. His mother and aunt who worshiped him died when I was 3 mo pregnant.Posted by GemitatiWell, I don't know. I do know that he has neglected you and made you feel bad for many years before Mr. Scorpio came along, so maybe you resent him too much to let him be happy. Maybe on some deep level you need for him to pay for what he did. Maybe it goes further back than him. Were you allowed to love who you wanted to love? Were you allowed to pursue your dreams?Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
I found myself at the beginning of your situation, but I didn't go through with it. Still, I got to feel some of the shame and guilt. But THEN, I got angry. Forty years of being a good person, working hard, doing what people ask, putting my own needs aside, trying trying trying, crying crying crying, and then getting so tired and hard, I didn't even cry anymore. And after all that, one mistake that I thought would make me happy ruined who I was to everyone? Who I am is no longer who I was? Good? Reliable? Hardworking? Loving? Trustworthy?
I imagine if I stayed in limbo like that, where you are, I'd grow to resent the fuck out of everyone else for judging me. Because I'm human, and I just want to be happy like everyone else.
I took role of 3 women and spoiled him worse than they did.
He never hurt me. However after years of happy together he started to take me for granted. I didn't mind being young however about 10 years ago I started to wonder. I was 40 and something started to be not enough.
I was getting tired of carrying shopping bags home while he was slowly getting out of the car so he has one trip with bags instead of 2 because I had already done 3!
Nothing and I mean NO THING done by h around the house!
All phone calls and everything is on me.
I started to mind it probably because i was getting older! And tired!
And 8 years ago I've met a Scorpio.
I wasn't looking! Never! It happened!
Man who is me but male...
And I saw man who does it all! We are still joking that if we end up together we will fight about who does what because we do it all! So if it comes to cooking - you cut - I fry! Or out the door! Lol
So you said 40 years? Wow!
you spoiled him rotten and acted like his mother for decades (which is a typical unhealthy savior complex in relationship) and then you changed. you just grew tired and sick of taking care of everything any more, thus the affair
think about it. if you spoiled your kid rotten and they turn into useless losers in their 20s, you think it's because they are born losers?
i have found that most men do not change easily. once they settle into a pattern, it would take a lot to change the status quo. that's why i am a firm believer that in a relationship, boundaries, roles and how you interact with each other should be defined in the beginning of the relationship to avoid resentments down the road
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However child born at 0 age.
Man I married was 37. Been married 3 times before. All wifes cheated and left.
Doesn't it rang a bell?
This jewel I have NOW - doesn't she deserve better? Like help?
Noooo! He is smiling, being nice and having his ass on a couch all day!
And I spoke a few times already!
Last night I've yelled!
Today he wiped the table and proudly showed me his awesome accomplishment! Lol
It's a mad house!
Posted by LadyNeptuneYou forgot to mark MY lane spinster!Posted by GemitatiI'm not talking about you bitch. Stay in your lane.Posted by LadyNeptuneSo? What's your point?Posted by tizianiMy frame of reference is very limited as well. I know three ladies in their early 40s to late 50s who put in 15+ years with their now ex husbands.Posted by LadyNeptuneFair enough. I suppose I haven't spoken with many people who put in that amount of time into a relationship/marriage and come out the other end like that, so I can see how that would be tough too.Posted by tizianiI suppose.Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
Also equally hard to see another so easily fulfill his needs and him to be seemingly genuinely happy when you've dedicated your life to the same and haven't gotten those results. Makes those 20 old years seem pointless. And leaves you floundering to find your purpose.
Or so I've been told.
The one whoose coped the best is the one who had a job/career. The other two really struggled because they were stay at home moms and didn't have anything to throw themselves into when they split up (kids were grown and moved out at that point).
Sense of identity is vital to your sense of wellbeing.
I don't meet to support myself if I end up with my Scorpio.
He wouldn't allow it. He does everything himself! From fking to cooking!
And loving it. Spin want to take load off his shoulders and have him come home to a dimmer that he doesn't have to cook!click to expand
Posted by GemitatiLol@spinster which by definition is an older unmarried destitute woman. I am none of those things.Posted by LadyNeptuneYou forgot to mark MY lane spinster!Posted by GemitatiI'm not talking about you bitch. Stay in your lane.Posted by LadyNeptuneSo? What's your point?Posted by tizianiMy frame of reference is very limited as well. I know three ladies in their early 40s to late 50s who put in 15+ years with their now ex husbands.Posted by LadyNeptuneFair enough. I suppose I haven't spoken with many people who put in that amount of time into a relationship/marriage and come out the other end like that, so I can see how that would be tough too.Posted by tizianiI suppose.Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
Also equally hard to see another so easily fulfill his needs and him to be seemingly genuinely happy when you've dedicated your life to the same and haven't gotten those results. Makes those 20 old years seem pointless. And leaves you floundering to find your purpose.
Or so I've been told.
The one whoose coped the best is the one who had a job/career. The other two really struggled because they were stay at home moms and didn't have anything to throw themselves into when they split up (kids were grown and moved out at that point).
Sense of identity is vital to your sense of wellbeing.
I don't meet to support myself if I end up with my Scorpio.
He wouldn't allow it. He does everything himself! From fking to cooking!
And loving it. Spin want to take load off his shoulders and have him come home to a dimmer that he doesn't have to cook!click to expand
Your happy being a married mans cum dumpster. I'm sure you'll be equally happy when your daughter follows your example.
Posted by Gemitatiwhy married someone who divorced 3 times and ex wives cheated every single time in the first place?Posted by iCloud9Not even arguing your point!Posted by Gemitatito be fair, it's you who changed. not your husband.Posted by LadyPootsAlotOk. My husband is a wonderful person at heart. His mother and aunt who worshiped him died when I was 3 mo pregnant.Posted by GemitatiWell, I don't know. I do know that he has neglected you and made you feel bad for many years before Mr. Scorpio came along, so maybe you resent him too much to let him be happy. Maybe on some deep level you need for him to pay for what he did. Maybe it goes further back than him. Were you allowed to love who you wanted to love? Were you allowed to pursue your dreams?Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
I found myself at the beginning of your situation, but I didn't go through with it. Still, I got to feel some of the shame and guilt. But THEN, I got angry. Forty years of being a good person, working hard, doing what people ask, putting my own needs aside, trying trying trying, crying crying crying, and then getting so tired and hard, I didn't even cry anymore. And after all that, one mistake that I thought would make me happy ruined who I was to everyone? Who I am is no longer who I was? Good? Reliable? Hardworking? Loving? Trustworthy?
I imagine if I stayed in limbo like that, where you are, I'd grow to resent the fuck out of everyone else for judging me. Because I'm human, and I just want to be happy like everyone else.
I took role of 3 women and spoiled him worse than they did.
He never hurt me. However after years of happy together he started to take me for granted. I didn't mind being young however about 10 years ago I started to wonder. I was 40 and something started to be not enough.
I was getting tired of carrying shopping bags home while he was slowly getting out of the car so he has one trip with bags instead of 2 because I had already done 3!
Nothing and I mean NO THING done by h around the house!
All phone calls and everything is on me.
I started to mind it probably because i was getting older! And tired!
And 8 years ago I've met a Scorpio.
I wasn't looking! Never! It happened!
Man who is me but male...
And I saw man who does it all! We are still joking that if we end up together we will fight about who does what because we do it all! So if it comes to cooking - you cut - I fry! Or out the door! Lol
So you said 40 years? Wow!
you spoiled him rotten and acted like his mother for decades (which is a typical unhealthy savior complex in relationship) and then you changed. you just grew tired and sick of taking care of everything any more, thus the affair
think about it. if you spoiled your kid rotten and they turn into useless losers in their 20s, you think it's because they are born losers?
i have found that most men do not change easily. once they settle into a pattern, it would take a lot to change the status quo. that's why i am a firm believer that in a relationship, boundaries, roles and how you interact with each other should be defined in the beginning of the relationship to avoid resentments down the road
However child born at 0 age.
Man I married was 37. Been married 3 times before. All wifes cheated and left.
Doesn't it rang a bell?
This jewel I have NOW - doesn't she deserve better? Like help?
Noooo! He is smiling, being nice and having his ass on a couch all day!
And I spoke a few times already!
Last night I've yelled!
Today he wiped the table and proudly showed me his awesome accomplishment! Lol
It's a mad house!
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you have a savior complex unless you fell in deeply in love with him. i'm a love addict so i can understand that lol
i think 1 time divorcee can be a jewel but 3 times means "not a husband material" is written on his forehead lol
Posted by LadyNeptuneYou are none of ANY things!Posted by GemitatiLol@spinster which by definition is an older unmarried destitute woman. I am none of those things.Posted by LadyNeptuneYou forgot to mark MY lane spinster!Posted by GemitatiI'm not talking about you bitch. Stay in your lane.Posted by LadyNeptuneSo? What's your point?Posted by tizianiMy frame of reference is very limited as well. I know three ladies in their early 40s to late 50s who put in 15+ years with their now ex husbands.Posted by LadyNeptuneFair enough. I suppose I haven't spoken with many people who put in that amount of time into a relationship/marriage and come out the other end like that, so I can see how that would be tough too.Posted by tizianiI suppose.Posted by LadyNeptuneOk but what I mean is it seems harder for women to NOT see another woman fulfill that role.Posted by tizianiThat kind of resentment is also because you have given the best years of your life to this man, bearing and raising his kids and keeping house for him. Your identity is so tied to his. Your lucky if you walk away with some alimony.
It seems harder for women to accept he left her because he just plain left, rather than the more comforting idea he left for another woman.
Women like this don't have a career to throw themselves into. So it's especially hard to see another fulfill your role.
Then there's no hiding place or nothing to soften the blow that you just both chose to go different ways.
Also equally hard to see another so easily fulfill his needs and him to be seemingly genuinely happy when you've dedicated your life to the same and haven't gotten those results. Makes those 20 old years seem pointless. And leaves you floundering to find your purpose.
Or so I've been told.
The one whoose coped the best is the one who had a job/career. The other two really struggled because they were stay at home moms and didn't have anything to throw themselves into when they split up (kids were grown and moved out at that point).
Sense of identity is vital to your sense of wellbeing.
I don't meet to support myself if I end up with my Scorpio.
He wouldn't allow it. He does everything himself! From fking to cooking!
And loving it. Spin want to take load off his shoulders and have him come home to a dimmer that he doesn't have to cook!
Your happy being a married mans cum dumpster. I'm sure you'll be equally happy when your daughter follows your example.
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You just bitter angry sorry being that I can't even call human!
And yep! I am happy to be his dumpster!
Any time! (do we have middle finger icon anywhere to insert just so she remember when she had something of that size...if ever?)?
Lmao
Posted by iCloud9It's funny from some point of view.Posted by Gemitatiwhy married someone who divorced 3 times and ex wives cheated every single time in the first place?Posted by iCloud9Not even arguing your point!Posted by Gemitatito be fair, it's you who changed. not your husband.Posted by LadyPootsAlotOk. My husband is a wonderful person at heart. His mother and aunt who worshiped him died when I was 3 mo pregnant.Posted by GemitatiWell, I don't know. I do know that he has neglected you and made you feel bad for many years before Mr. Scorpio came along, so maybe you resent him too much to let him be happy. Maybe on some deep level you need for him to pay for what he did. Maybe it goes further back than him. Were you allowed to love who you wanted to love? Were you allowed to pursue your dreams?Posted by LadyPootsAlotYou might have something useful here.Posted by Gemitati*shrugs*Posted by LadyPootsAlotHe is an impotent! Do you see h married me who is 11 years younger - getting someone 70 who doesn't probably care about sex with arthritis around her body unable to cook and making him HAPPY!Posted by GemitatiYou love someone else. Why does this bother you? Is it just ego? Why wouldn't you be relieved to see him happy with someone else so you don't have to worry about him and his heart condition?Posted by SaturnladyI have totally opposite opinion.
I think people don't leave their partners 'for another one'. They leave them because something is blocked and they think this energy could open up with the other one.
(Let's see an example: oh, my ex forced me to have children. But you don't force me. So, let's have it.
oh, but you are not tidy and don't like my friends and you didn't tell me you smoke ...and your family is... and now we have a child...whoaa...)
Other woman, other issues. I wouldn't worry at all.
No one leaves cozy home unless there is somewhere to go...
Never seen a man going into nowhere.
After no one! They usually have it all and warmed up for them on the other side!
Or younger with firmer body. Or one with money.
But I don't know every one!
I don't get you, woman!
You don't get it! He is a good looking man with no passion married for 23 years to
a gorgeous woman he adores who catering to his every whim and NOW I say good life to you dear! And he does what— Dancing with joy?
You're being selfish. If you love him, try to make him happy. If you can't, then you have decisions to make or not make just like you always have. But thinking into the future of yourself with your lover and begrudging your life partner happiness after YOU LEAVE HIM means to me that you are emotionally sick about something, dear. You need to figure out what that is.
I just don't quiet got it.
Care to tell more?
I found myself at the beginning of your situation, but I didn't go through with it. Still, I got to feel some of the shame and guilt. But THEN, I got angry. Forty years of being a good person, working hard, doing what people ask, putting my own needs aside, trying trying trying, crying crying crying, and then getting so tired and hard, I didn't even cry anymore. And after all that, one mistake that I thought would make me happy ruined who I was to everyone? Who I am is no longer who I was? Good? Reliable? Hardworking? Loving? Trustworthy?
I imagine if I stayed in limbo like that, where you are, I'd grow to resent the fuck out of everyone else for judging me. Because I'm human, and I just want to be happy like everyone else.
I took role of 3 women and spoiled him worse than they did.
He never hurt me. However after years of happy together he started to take me for granted. I didn't mind being young however about 10 years ago I started to wonder. I was 40 and something started to be not enough.
I was getting tired of carrying shopping bags home while he was slowly getting out of the car so he has one trip with bags instead of 2 because I had already done 3!
Nothing and I mean NO THING done by h around the house!
All phone calls and everything is on me.
I started to mind it probably because i was getting older! And tired!
And 8 years ago I've met a Scorpio.
I wasn't looking! Never! It happened!
Man who is me but male...
And I saw man who does it all! We are still joking that if we end up together we will fight about who does what because we do it all! So if it comes to cooking - you cut - I fry! Or out the door! Lol
So you said 40 years? Wow!
you spoiled him rotten and acted like his mother for decades (which is a typical unhealthy savior complex in relationship) and then you changed. you just grew tired and sick of taking care of everything any more, thus the affair
think about it. if you spoiled your kid rotten and they turn into useless losers in their 20s, you think it's because they are born losers?
i have found that most men do not change easily. once they settle into a pattern, it would take a lot to change the status quo. that's why i am a firm believer that in a relationship, boundaries, roles and how you interact with each other should be defined in the beginning of the relationship to avoid resentments down the road
However child born at 0 age.
Man I married was 37. Been married 3 times before. All wifes cheated and left.
Doesn't it rang a bell?
This jewel I have NOW - doesn't she deserve better? Like help?
Noooo! He is smiling, being nice and having his ass on a couch all day!
And I spoke a few times already!
Last night I've yelled!
Today he wiped the table and proudly showed me his awesome accomplishment! Lol
It's a mad house!
you have a savior complex unless you fell in deeply in love with him. i'm a love addict so i can understand that lol
i think 1 time divorcee can be a jewel but 3 times means "not a husband material" is written on his forehead lolclick to expand
So let's figure it out.
He had met Jewish girl at 21. Right after college and back than no one dated or lived together 'before' so she said how about we get married this year because next is a leap year and it's bad luck?
He is a nice guy! He says OK!
They living with her parents. Dad is a General or some sort! Mom is Henerals wife. Daughter laying in bed all day and hernia working.
When he comes home MIL asking him to shake the door rug because like he is the only one who used it. All Princess was good for is sex and parties.
He got fed up and left.
Second one in a few years. Gorgeous! Great couple! Everyone compliment her looks. He is 6'2" good looking guy but happy to have a beauty! Her Dad is wealthy as anything! 'Son...ill get you own flat'...and a beauty? Wow! He is like 26?
Let's!
Soon after he caught her with her college professor about 70 in bed! He could be 40 but at 26 he saw him as 70! Ugly divorce!
Later at 30 something he meets a woman. Adopts her child. Paying her bio father off and they living the country.
He is a nice guy! She loves rough sex!
So she brings lover and makes them friends! Shit hits the fan! Separation.
I come aboard. He is such a nice guy!!!
We get married. Ex says I give them 5 years! She was wrong! 23 now but...pattern is pattern...
Lol
I don't know if gives you any idea because I have one but I brush it off...
Can you guess?
nice guys finish last? ?
i don't mix nice with boring. i think a nice guy with a good heart is a catch, however being boring is not. many confuse boring as nice. boring and lazy in bed can be a deal breaker for many women
also, weak =\= nice. a yes yes man is not nice. that's weak and unattractive. no respect no love from women
i don't mix nice with boring. i think a nice guy with a good heart is a catch, however being boring is not. many confuse boring as nice. boring and lazy in bed can be a deal breaker for many women
also, weak =\= nice. a yes yes man is not nice. that's weak and unattractive. no respect no love from women
after all, women are attracted to real men lol
i think i fell in love with my scorp when he said no to me the first time lol. i couldn't believe that he could say no to me with the way he looked at me. just wow. lol
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