michellemabelle
@michellemabelle
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Yin and yang
I think we've all encountered a person/relationship where we gave/cared more than the other
Sometimes a person literally does believe they're giving all they can even if the other person doesn't see it that way. So in that case, it's a matter of having "the talk" with the partner & spelling out exactly what you want/expect from them
While others are perfectly aware AND content with the fact that you're giving more than they are. In fact, if you do all the work, it gives them no incentive to give back. Or they never cared to begin with
I assume that people associate how much they give to another person with how they feel about them. Therefore, if you're getting alot from that person it's b/c they care alot. If you're getting nothing in return it's b/c there are no real feelings there. And if so, a person's selfishiness over-rides whatever feelings towards you they may have
Sometimes a person literally does believe they're giving all they can even if the other person doesn't see it that way. So in that case, it's a matter of having "the talk" with the partner & spelling out exactly what you want/expect from them
While others are perfectly aware AND content with the fact that you're giving more than they are. In fact, if you do all the work, it gives them no incentive to give back. Or they never cared to begin with
I assume that people associate how much they give to another person with how they feel about them. Therefore, if you're getting alot from that person it's b/c they care alot. If you're getting nothing in return it's b/c there are no real feelings there. And if so, a person's selfishiness over-rides whatever feelings towards you they may have
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Now Im in a new relationship and something puzzling is happening. When I started I gave everything enthusiastically but the giving back with equal enthusiasm wasnt there. So Its like I gave everything and now Im empty and so theres no energy transfer between us. Its more like a stand off where neither of us want to give.
My understanding of two people working well is like two glasses where one person pours into the other then the other pours back into the one. If I was a full glass Im now empty and because hes not pouring back into me I have no water to give and the interaction has frozen up. Another description for it is its like a circle of energy..an electric circuit where the energy gets stuck in one place so then there is no power.
I can see this happens when one partner is giving more than the other in arguements about housework, chores etc. What do people think? has anyone else had this problem?