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So I had a pregnancy scare this week.

I went and bought a pregnancy test and turned out negative ( thank god )

But the bigger thing is that new scorp has never bought condoms for us. I asked him once and he said " I'm too broke right now "

This whole time we have been dating he hasn't.

I feel like this isn't respectful and is saying something about his personality. What you think?

i keep my own stock of condoms and i keep a plan b in the cabinet. i am on the pill. i feel that women have to take their bodies into their own hands.

if u guys choose to not use condoms, just get tested and show each other the results.

if a guy tries to not use a condoms with me, i know that he probably doesnt use them with alot of girls. so i wrap him up.

there are times where i need to feel skin on skin and i do go for it.

sucks that something so extraordinary like sex has to be marred by rubber condoms and diseases. they need to find a cure for that stuff so we can all go back to fuckin and being happy.

Yes and I get that but sex takes TWO people.

I think it's saying like " oh it's all her responsibility " and it is. But it's also yours because you have the dick that has sperm in it that you are putting in my vagina that can get me pregnant.

You can't buy condoms once?

REALLY?

dont leave it up to him....

a guy cant get u preggo if u dont want to be preggo. get on the pill. depo, ring, so many choices 🙂

he just enjoys skin on skin

I don't leave it up to him I'm the only one buying condoms we need.

That is fucking stupid.

I think he is selfish

him being selfish is the least of your concerns if u get pregnant. priorities... pick your battles.

If he's too broke to buy condoms, how's he gonna pay for a pregnancy? An abortion? A BABY?? Well, thank goodness YOU at least have the sense and foresight to buy/use the condoms anyway! Yes indeed, a woman NEEDS to be proactive with her own body, and not simply leave it up to the man. Kudos!

Yes, he's selfish to not buy the condoms. But you've set the tone by being the one to do it the whole time.. he doesn't worry about it, cuz he's got YOU worrying about it. Men don't "double up" like that.. they're simple creatures.. why worry about something that someone else already has covered? You're buying the condoms, and he's getting sex. That's win-win to him.

*evil grin* I'd stop buying the condoms, personally.. AND I'd refuse to sleep with him without one. "Sorry honey, I'm a bit strapped right now and can't afford condoms. But my sexual and reproductive health is important to me, so I don't want to have sex without one. What should we do about this?"

Condoms are like.. $ 2- $ 3 for a three pack at any drug store or gas station (or FREE at clinics or P.P.).. he REALLY can't afford condoms?! I mean, DAMNNNN. But honestly.. if he wants to have sex, and you refuse to do it without one, I BET he can find a couple bucks in spare change to buy a pack. He just doesn't NEED to right now, cuz you're merely "nagging".. I mean, that's his big "punishment" is to listen to you bitch about having to buy them? Big whoop.. and you're still buying the rubbers, and still giving him sex. Still works in his favor. Why fix what ain't broken? he thinks.

I'm not

Posted by Nefer
If he's too broke to buy condoms, how's he gonna pay for a pregnancy? An abortion? A BABY?? Well, thank goodness YOU at least have the sense and foresight to buy/use the condoms anyway! Yes indeed, a woman NEEDS to be proactive with her own body, and not simply leave it up to the man. Kudos!

Yes, he's selfish to not buy the condoms. But you've set the tone by being the one to do it the whole time.. he doesn't worry about it, cuz he's got YOU worrying about it. Men don't "double up" like that.. they're simple creatures.. why worry about something that someone else already has covered? You're buying the condoms, and he's getting sex. That's win-win to him.

*evil grin* I'd stop buying the condoms, personally.. AND I'd refuse to sleep with him without one. "Sorry honey, I'm a bit strapped right now and can't afford condoms. But my sexual and reproductive health is important to me, so I don't want to have sex without one. What should we do about this?"

Condoms are like.. $ 2- $ 3 for a three pack at any drug store or gas station (or FREE at clinics or P.P.).. he REALLY can't afford condoms?! I mean, DAMNNNN. But honestly.. if he wants to have sex, and you refuse to do it without one, I BET he can find a couple bucks in spare change to buy a pack. He just doesn't NEED to right now, cuz you're merely "nagging".. I mean, that's his big "punishment" is to listen to you bitch about having to buy them? Big whoop.. and you're still buying the rubbers, and still giving him sex. Still works in his favor. Why fix what ain't broken? he thinks.

Yea I don't need a boyfriend who thinks like this

I read it as she's been buying the condoms they use.. asked him to buy them (once) and he said he was too broke.. and that her "preggo scare" was mostly the result of her period being late and her panicking (cuz condoms aren't 100% ), not that they didn't use a condom. Although, if they DIDN'T use a condom... o.O

But either way, I'm struck by how you'd so easily throw in the towel, Sag.. rather than just speaking up and putting some responsibility on him to buy some of your condoms if he wants sex. I mean, no -- what girl wants a selfish boyfriend? But on the other hand.. what guy wants a girlfriend so unrealistic that she expects him to automatically KNOW what he "should" be doing in the relationship, and so childish that she'd break up with him over shit she never even had the guts to have an honest discussion about?

Mature adults TALK about something that's bothering them.. they don't expect someone to be a mind-reader or to "just get" whatever it is THEY think is important in a relationship. Communication is the answer.. communicate your expectations.. THEN if he doesn't come through, you throw in the towel. Sounds to me like you're looking around for an excuse to dump him, that you'd rather break up than talk openly about your issues. :c

:/ You have a point.

Ready to cheat rather than call after TWO DAYS... and unwilling to discuss (more than the ONE time she asked him to) him buying the condoms.. yeah.. two symptoms of her obvious inability to DISCUSS shit, and her unrealistic expectations about him "just knowing" what SHE (not Mary or Sue or Lisa or Tammy!) wants/needs in a relationship, and her hair-trigger RUNNING instinct.

And yeah, if they didn't use a condom, and then she had a pregnancy scare.. she's pushing all the blame for it on HIM not buying condoms.. so she can call him "selfish" and duck and run, her usual m.o. *sigh*

Posted by Nefer
I read it as she's been buying the condoms they use.. asked him to buy them (once) and he said he was too broke.. and that her "preggo scare" was mostly the result of her period being late and her panicking (cuz condoms aren't 100% ), not that they didn't use a condom. Although, if they DIDN'T use a condom... o.O

But either way, I'm struck by how you'd so easily throw in the towel, Sag.. rather than just speaking up and putting some responsibility on him to buy some of your condoms if he wants sex. I mean, no -- what girl wants a selfish boyfriend? But on the other hand.. what guy wants a girlfriend so unrealistic that she expects him to automatically KNOW what he "should" be doing in the relationship, and so childish that she'd break up with him over shit she never even had the guts to have an honest discussion about?

Mature adults TALK about something that's bothering them.. they don't expect someone to be a mind-reader or to "just get" whatever it is THEY think is important in a relationship. Communication is the answer.. communicate your expectations.. THEN if he doesn't come through, you throw in the towel. Sounds to me like you're looking around for an excuse to dump him, that you'd rather break up than talk openly about your issues. :c

Your right about alot of that

Posted by DazedScorp
You're talking about a girl who was going to cheat on her boyfriend instead of calling him to make sure he wasn't dead when she hadn't heard from him in two days.

Who wants to make a bet, that since they didn't have any condoms available, they had sex anyways without any other type of birth control?

No I didn't.

Stop throwing that in my face all the time. I didn't do it.

Posted by Nefer
:/ You have a point.

Ready to cheat rather than call after TWO DAYS... and unwilling to discuss (more than the ONE time she asked him to) him buying the condoms.. yeah.. two symptoms of her obvious inability to DISCUSS shit, and her unrealistic expectations about him "just knowing" what SHE (not Mary or Sue or Lisa or Tammy!) wants/needs in a relationship, and her hair-trigger RUNNING instinct.

And yeah, if they didn't use a condom, and then she had a pregnancy scare.. she's pushing all the blame for it on HIM not buying condoms.. so she can call him "selfish" and duck and run, her usual m.o. *sigh*

We don't have un protected sex

walmart sells birth control pills for the cost of a dime bag of weed!

Lol

I'm so confused.

This thread needs pictures.

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fucking LOL

😛

Ew

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Awwww damn. I bust out laughing so hard my daughter is asking me what's wrong. LMAOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!

omg, why are the kids justa rollin out lol

r u pregnant?

Well... o.o I have heard rumors. But I've heard a lot of rumors lately

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Yes :/

Posted by Sagittarius89
So I had a pregnancy scare this week.

I went and bought a pregnancy test and turned out negative ( thank god )

But the bigger thing is that new scorp has never bought condoms for us. I asked him once and he said " I'm too broke right now "

This whole time we have been dating he hasn't.

I feel like this isn't respectful and is saying something about his personality. What you think?

Um.

1. condoms are a lot cheaper than a fucking baby.
2. the clinic gives them out for free.

Posted by Sagittarius89
Yes :/

Ahhh I feel really bad now :/

Well, just take what I said and put it in past tense I guess

Don't you have to wait at least a month until you can get an abortion/take the abortion pill? or maybe it was 2 weeks. I've looked into it. It's super expensive. But then again so is a baby

No, you don't have to wait other than for an appointment. You do it as soon as possible.

If that's what you choose, of course.
Kind of sad when you think about it.....such a serious decision....so little time to make it really. :/

sag, what are you gonna do? are you okay?

Posted by brianafay
No, you don't have to wait other than for an appointment. You do it as soon as possible.

If that's what you choose, of course.
Kind of sad when you think about it.....such a serious decision....so little time to make it really. :/

When I read it said you needed to wait for it to develop or something. This was for the pill tho. Maybe theres alternative methods I'm not aware of. Science does advance every year. This was a few yrs ago

Sucks, but you get caught up in the heat of the moment and it feels so good, then bam. Baby!

sag: hope you are okay

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Oh damn lol

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Oh damn lol

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double damn

on the contrary....

too late

I have no idea why dazed likes to pick on me.

Whatever. Males always pick on me like this. Nothing new.

Anyway, I said we didn't have unprotected sex. The condom broke ( which I thought was okay because the first pregnancy test came out negative but I took two more and they came out positive ) and I am not on birth control because I am anemic and it made me constantly bleed.

It was an accident and I am taking care of it.

Sag,

there is NO need to explain yourself to a bunch of strangers on the internet.

be sure that hes literally right by your side, with what ever decision u choose.

What if I told you he wasn't the greatest.
That a country would fail to protect it's greatest natural resource.
That sometimes it is a matter of life and death.
That no one can outrun the truth.

What if I told you he's the only true Cubs fan.
That you could heal all wounds with a fight song.
That the man no one could stop, tragically was.
What if I told you running a marathon is easy.

^ Your avatar is fucking crazy.

CHUT UP!!!

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Posted by 28days6hours42minutes12seconds
CHUT UP!!!

go back to china, bitch. 😄

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I — you but I've chosen darkness.

Thanks guys

Posted by 28days6hours42minutes12seconds
CHUT UP!!!

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I like the avatar. 🙂

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Good morning you mongrels!!