contacting a Sag male

Hi,

Just wondering if I should bother contacting a Sag male I was very briefly involved with 1.5 years ago now. We had a bad last meeting, so don't even know if I should bother. And if so, how to go about it?

Thanks.

id say why do you want to contact if you had a bad meeting like 2 years ago?

good question....think it's boredom mostly. But honestly I don't think I ever forgot about the person. The reason I didn't contact them before is because I still had strong feelings for them and so needed to distance myself emotionally. Anyways, would like to see the person again, give it a second shot if possible.

i guess you could say exactly that. 🙂

Posted by DMV
i guess you could say exactly that. 🙂

Agreed... I've done this with Sag guy.

They're so much fun-- but simple, direct

truth is usually a winner.

They can be sneaky, but rarely malicious--

and if they don't want to reply... they won't.

SAGS 😄 I forget how much I like them sometimes.

ok, was thinking waiting a week to hear a response.....is this something they will think about or just say no/yes in their mind right away, impulsively?

Posted by estika9
ok, was thinking waiting a week to hear a response.....is this something they will think about or just say no/yes in their mind right away, impulsively?

It depends on the status of his mind right now.

I am bipolar. When I'm full of positive energy, I'd answer soon. Maybe wait one day. Or until weekend. But if I'm low energy, I'll wait until I have a good idea how to write back.

I also think that the first answer from a Sag is of little value. The first response means he wants not to give you a hard time. You did a good deed and he answers with a good deed.

But if he responses more than once, then he is interested.

Also it is wrong to answer his answer immediately. Sag likes distance. Plus Sag does not enjoy being chased. Unless you are a Cancer.

The best thing you can do is to run into him. Somewhere in the city. Show you are in good terms with him. And do nothing more. He'll seek you.

I hope my 2 cents don't confuse you.

great responses so far....thanks guys. to the last poster, yes I would love to just run into him but the problem is he lives almost 40 minutes away from me so no chance of that. I think he is bipolar too, haha. Moody for sure.....that's why, yes my feelings for him are certainly not as strong as before but if I didn't hear from him, I would be disappointed for sure. If I knew I would hear from him 100% , I would have already emailed him, you know? I don't mind waiting, it's just the uncertainty that would kill me to put myself out there like that. Fragile ego and all....

any other way of just "running" into him? Yeah, it's a stretch I know. I feel sometimes that I want the impossible, a challenge. There's a fine line between doing nothing and looking like I'm trying too hard. I'm Sag/Cap myself so understand almost completely what he is feeling. I hate to be chased as well....

i dont mind being chased - venus in capricorn

I remember when I first started dating this Sag, he had a little panic for himself and decided he wasn't interested anymore, he was very vague with his reason and just wanted out. If I hadn't been persistent in trying to change his mind, I don't think he would have ever contacted me again. But because I did we were together for 3 years 😉 So, personally I think you should contact him if you want to reconnect with him. 😄

awwwwwwwwwwwwww

Posted by DMV
i dont mind being chased - venus in capricorn

I changed my mind later when I was offline. When I was a student a Virguy chased me for a while. Finally I gave us the chance. Still I was suspicious.

I know male and female Sag may be different. Be now we have the example of JROI's story.

OP, better chase him than regretting it later.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Whatever you do, when you contact him, make sure you're a positive vibe and yes be honest about why you're contacting him. A simple, I was thinking about you recently and realized that I missed you like crazy. Lol. How are you?....that should make him smile, and start thinking of the good times you had, not the bad falling out In the end. Hopefully anyway. Just give it a shot. Whatever happens, you'll live.

excellent!

ok you guys rock.....yeah, I say screw it, life is short, I don't want to have any regrets. Worse case scenario he doesn't respond but I think he had strong enough feelings for me at one point that it would actually bother him if he didn't. To make matters more complicated, his house is up for sale (has been for over 2 years now) so he wants to move (last indication was out of the country). This is the reason why I originally hit the roof, cuz he didn't tell me this (at least not in so much detail), so I blamed him for using me as a piece of ass or meat or whatever and so he dropped me and said I was being mean and bossy. I was very pushy back then, yes that is true....and did some stupid things like showed up at his place, twice (never done this before but I was being impulsive and wanted to see him). He asked me why I didn't give him a heads up that I was coming. I said because you wouldn't have responded anyways, to which he replied, you don't know that. So I don't know. Thought I would forget about him after all this time, but I didn't which is weird cuz normally I get over things quickly.

I told this situation before and people said he was an asshole but in my heart I don't feel that at all, just bad timing that's all.

dontgetmewrong - I will steal your wording, if I were him that wording to me would seem pretty hard to resist....

this reminds me of the show Queer as Folk where Justin is relentlessly chasing Brian (I swear Brian must have been a Sag) to the point where he took all kinds of abuse from him until Brian one day realized (although hardly ever expressed it) that he too loved Justin. I know it's a TV show, but could happen. I mean in the grand scheme of things is our ego gonna matter when we are 80 years old and say to ourselves, haha! I didn't chase that person so my ego is still in tact. Who cares?

"changed "a*&hole" into marker" btw in the previous post

Good luck! 🙂

thanks guys - you're the best!!! Will keep you posted for sure!!

Sags are fun to be around

@OP:

Go for it as we don't hold grudges. As for response times, look for him to respond immediately if not within 24 hrs. If you haven't heard from him with 72, he's not interested and it won't be because he's debating. We're instinctual and will know immediately whether we want to entertain having certain people around. But, we may actually change our mind a few days later and it will be on impulse.

Good luck!

so finally got up the nerve to contact the guy. Decided to call instead of text as I couldn't stand waiting around to hear back from him. So low and behold he answers the phone and the conversation was good, but brief which is ok. He sounded a bit skeptical at first but I found out that he's planning on moving to Europe by the end of this year. He's been planning a move now for about 3 years so not sure it will materialize. Probably will this time, who knows.

Anyways, so I said I wanted to see him again before he goes and he said for me to call him in 2-3 months as he's not going away for a while. I'm like, 2-3 months, WTF—? I said how bout I call you in 2 weeks more like, then he said ok that would be fine. Then he said he had to go and that was that.

If he's not interested then why did he bother to answer the phone??

Strange man, which is probably why I like him.

according to the chart, he's a scorpio moon but not sure how accurate that is since I don't know the birth time.

Yeah weird/funny. 🙂

yeah, I don't know enough about astrology to know that. but as the other poster said, he is suspicious as hell. I remember one time I asked him what kind of vehicle he drove as I was curious and he got a bit bent out of shape probably assuming that I was after him for his money (I have my own so I could care less). Anyways, just thought I'd keep you all posted but guess I was just happy he answered the phone as I wasn't expecting that!