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Alright ya'll...do any of you feel as if you come across like "too much" for a lot of people?

I've had a handful of people/friends/loved ones tell me this...and, as much as I'd like to say it doesn't bother me, it does.

I feel misundersrood. I'm not trying to be obnoxious/annoying...that's just kinda how I come across.

I'm a people person. I love being friendly and I love getting to know people...and I feel like it gets misconstrued a lot of the time. And, due to a lot of personal shit going on in my life, I'm reflecting on it...and just curious if it's a "me" thing...or what lol.

Discuss! I don't care who adds to the discussion, everyone has a pov okay! 🙃
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Alright ya'll...do any of you feel as if you come across like "too much" for a lot of people?

I've had a handful of people/friends/loved ones tell me this...and, as much as I'd like to say it doesn't bother me, it does.

I feel misundersrood. I'm not trying to be obnoxious/annoying...that's just kinda how I come across.

I'm a people person. I love being friendly and I love getting to know people...and I feel like it gets misconstrued a lot of the time. And, due to a lot of personal shit going on in my life, I'm reflecting on it...and just curious if it's a "me" thing...or what lol.

Discuss! I don't care who adds to the discussion, everyone has a pov okay! 🙃
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Posted by WalkThroughTheBadlands

No, it's not you. It's the detatchment creating society we live in. People now are a lot less approachable then in years passed and have little patience and tolerance for others. Whether that be family and friends or complete strangers. You seem sweet and are one of the more likeable people on DXP...no need to change 🙂


Ehhh...you sure? This has happened all of my life despite being pretty senstitive - I deflect and try n hide emotions, who knows how well that goes tho haha.



I don't like my ppl feeling 'negative' emotions and I pick up on them and try to turn their frown upside down lol.

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No, it's not you. It's the detatchment creating society we live in. People now are a lot less approachable then in years passed and have little patience and tolerance for others. Whether that be family and friends or complete strangers. You seem sweet and are one of the more likeable people on DXP...no need to change 🙂


Ehhh...you sure? This has happened all of my life despite being pretty senstitive - I deflect and try n hide emotions, who knows how well that goes tho haha.



I don't like my ppl feeling 'negative' emotions and I pick up on them and try to turn their frown upside down lol.



Well you are not wrong to want to cheer up others, especially if you know what they are feeling. Sometimes you have to be resolved to the fact that there is nothing you can do or that they want you to do.

Deflecting and hiding emotions with no outward sign....you sound like a Scorpio
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😂 scorp-dom!
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Posted by nanobot

You seem like a really nice person. I can't relate because I am mostly an introvert, but I can relate on the opposite side with some people being "too much", I like to be around calmer people generally and super extroverts just kind of exhaust me with their presence. Then again, all human presence exhausts me eventually and I prefer to be around non humans. Dogs, precisely.


I don't mean to be 'in your face' tho...I just get so excited and want to know people that it gets misinterpreted. But I understand, hence why I brought it up lol.
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Posted by FantamRooster

I think you are experiencing the extrovert backlash. When I was a kid, being extroverted was the ideal way to be, and introverted and lower energy people were treated like something was wrong with them. Now we've swung the other direction, and being introverted is often seen as better. For some reason, people have a hard time valuing one thing without devaluing its opposite.

Fuck it! You can buck the trend.




I see it...but I wanna love everyone! lol
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Posted by Scotteh007

Theres a fine line between being too talkitve and being too quiet. And I couldn't tell you where the in-between is.

Today had an hour trip somewhere with someone and we talked about 90 percent of that trip about a lot of topics. I almost felt like it was nonsense and can't entirely remember what all was said.

Then after the fact I keep thinking to myself. Is that what an extrovert is?


That's how it is to talk to this double Sag! lol but i'm funnnn!
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Posted by CuddleBug88

Alright ya'll...do any of you feel as if you come across like "too much" for a lot of people?

I've had a handful of people/friends/loved ones tell me this...and, as much as I'd like to say it doesn't bother me, it does.

I feel misundersrood. I'm not trying to be obnoxious/annoying...that's just kinda how I come across.

I'm a people person. I love being friendly and I love getting to know people...and I feel like it gets misconstrued a lot of the time. And, due to a lot of personal shit going on in my life, I'm reflecting on it...and just curious if it's a "me" thing...or what lol.

Discuss! I don't care who adds to the discussion, everyone has a pov okay! 🙃

It's not only you 🙂 Though usually I'm introverted and recharging from people's presence, on those rare occasions when I like someone I tend to be extroverted - cheery, bubbly and talking much and fast.

Somehow people then think that I'm childish, stupid or talk nonsense when I'm just excited.

It's also bad when I'm dating - people assume I'm sooooo into them, then friendzone me (I don't like to play games or fake unavailability), when I just am curious about them and a little attentive - that's prob why I've been called "too intense"...
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Alright ya'll...do any of you feel as if you come across like "too much" for a lot of people?

I've had a handful of people/friends/loved ones tell me this...and, as much as I'd like to say it doesn't bother me, it does.

I feel misundersrood. I'm not trying to be obnoxious/annoying...that's just kinda how I come across.

I'm a people person. I love being friendly and I love getting to know people...and I feel like it gets misconstrued a lot of the time. And, due to a lot of personal shit going on in my life, I'm reflecting on it...and just curious if it's a "me" thing...or what lol.

Discuss! I don't care who adds to the discussion, everyone has a pov okay! 🙃

It's not only you 🙂 Though usually I'm introverted and recharging from people's presence, on those rare occasions when I like someone I tend to be extroverted - cheery, bubbly and talking much and fast.

Somehow people then think that I'm childish, stupid or talk nonsense when I'm just excited.

It's also bad when I'm dating - people assume I'm sooooo into them, then friendzone me (I don't like to play games or fake unavailability), when I just am curious about them and a little attentive - that's prob why I've been called "too intense"...
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Yo same!
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Posted by Ellygant

I’ve been told this a lot all my life as well. Sag rising. Scorp dom.

It’s been my observation, the same people that say that are the same people who actually like this a lot at first. Makes them feel important. Special. But when they realize that’s just who you are some feel insulted (because it wasn’t really about them) or tired of it (because they only like it when it’s about them). People that are friends with me for me don’t say it hardly at all. Or when they do it’s gentler and more constructive than constrictive.


Scorp-dom, and rising and venus here.

Hm. Food for thought. Thanks! I'll have to think about that.
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Sags usually talk a lot and that's ok. Be you. You should vocaroo all your posts from now on.

We need more Sag friendliness.


I can never figure out vocaroo on my phone lol...but maybe someday! I can tell all ya'll to shut it and look at the bright side! 😂😋
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Vocaroo wasn't designed for phones. It took me a while to figure it out.
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Not very often but often enough I've been asked, "how can you analyze so much? don't you get tired?" And this from those who enjoy talking with me for a while. Only they know how to stop. I don't.

must be my Sag Mercury as detriment. plus Sag Mars.


Sag merc here as well...Aries mars

I'm always thinking and observing things too. And what I think, I most likely will say it - can't help it lol.
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Not very often but often enough I've been asked, "how can you analyze so much? don't you get tired?" And this from those who enjoy talking with me for a while. Only they know how to stop. I don't.

must be my Sag Mercury as detriment. plus Sag Mars.


Sag merc here as well...Aries mars

I'm always thinking and observing things too. And what I think, I most likely will say it - can't help it lol.
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There you have it.

this comes across to most people as hyperactive. distracted.

it is also inconsiderate (sweet abuse?). we should do more sport. or in my case some Chinese Astrology web sites say I should do things with my hand. so the energy is channeled better.
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Not very often but often enough I've been asked, "how can you analyze so much? don't you get tired?" And this from those who enjoy talking with me for a while. Only they know how to stop. I don't.

must be my Sag Mercury as detriment. plus Sag Mars.


Sag merc here as well...Aries mars

I'm always thinking and observing things too. And what I think, I most likely will say it - can't help it lol.

There you have it.

this comes across to most people as hyperactive. distracted.

it is also inconsiderate (sweet abuse?). we should do more sport. or in my case some Chinese Astrology web sites say I should do things with my hand. so the energy is channeled better.

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Yeah, I'm not distracted really tho. I know what's happening around me most of the time. I'm always observing, even if it seems i'm not. It actually prob comes across as being so focused on everything but what's in front of me...and that's prob where it gets misunderstood.

Hmm...interesante...🙃
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Posted by Arielle83

I’m two extremes. I go real quiet and then when I go out I get wild. My Leo mercury doesn’t give a shit either.

I self reflect a lot and realise that most ppl are self conscious and me thinking I’m ruining their time is kind of thinking I have too much power. I don’t. Most ppl aren’t caring what other ppl do, and if they do they have nothing better to do.

I’m at the point where I have fun and do what I want. If I’m too much, they don’t need to be around me. Just like I wouldn’t waste my time with ppl I can’t stand.


I can go quiet from time to time...it's usually cause I'm sensing some confrontation - something I have a hard time dealing with. I'm actually pretty sensitive.

But most of the time I do whatever and tell people if they don't like it they don't need to look at me lol. But yeah, sometimes I get all introspective about stupid bullshit - gonna work on not doin this though.
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If it doesn’t work for you why do you repeat the behaviours?


It's not intentional. I'm an excitable person by nature, and it's hard to contain it. I try to. Usually ends up backfiring on me though.


Do you turn it up the entire time?

That’s exhausting.. for you.
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Nah, I try n downplay it all the time. I don't wanna be the obnoxious one.
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Not very often but often enough I've been asked, "how can you analyze so much? don't you get tired?" And this from those who enjoy talking with me for a while. Only they know how to stop. I don't.

must be my Sag Mercury as detriment. plus Sag Mars.


Sag merc here as well...Aries mars

I'm always thinking and observing things too. And what I think, I most likely will say it - can't help it lol.

There you have it.

this comes across to most people as hyperactive. distracted.

it is also inconsiderate (sweet abuse?). we should do more sport. or in my case some Chinese Astrology web sites say I should do things with my hand. so the energy is channeled better.




Yeah, I'm not distracted really tho. I know what's happening around me most of the time. I'm always observing, even if it seems i'm not. It actually prob comes across as being so focused on everything but what's in front of me...and that's prob where it gets misunderstood.

Hmm...interesante...🙃
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me too. I'm really focused. During a talk my mind can open lots of pages and want to go back to complete all of them. I hate it to forget "how did we get from A to z?". I can repeat all the steps of the discussion from z back to A. And I love it when they can help me at this. it shows the talk was lively.