It ended badly

long story so starting with most important take away: If you guys know anyone on Effexor, make sure they take their freaking pill at exactly the same time of day and that they take it everyday. And, if they also take Ritalin, keep an eye out for any sort of violent outburst. http://www.livestrong.com/article/72433-violent-effects-effexor-ritalin/<BR>
If you are around anyone who has a prescription for Effexor, and they start acting strange ... don't argue with them, just try to find out if they missed a day or something.

Unfortunately we found this out the hard way: after her walking across a kitchen floor that was covered with glass from dishes she had thrown, barefoot, cutting her feet to pieces and threatening to kill either me or herself, I had to call the police out. It was all going down right in front of my kids too. I had them loaded in the truck trying to leave and she came out with a pair of scissors and tried to slash a tire so I couldn't leave.

We've figured out in the past that some of our worst fights happened when she would miss taking her Effexor, but it still didn't occur to me that she might have missed taking it this time until I was outside talking to the cop and he asked me if she was on anything. He noticed too how she would be normal one second and "unregulated" the next ... as he put it.

I'm paranoid about the police, and calling them out was the last thing in the world I wanted to do. I was fully prepared for us both to be arrested on the spot, but they handled the situation really well. That's the other thing I would want to say to anyone in this situation ... don't be afraid to call the police. Get them out there before a situation gets worse. They were great. They got her settled down, got the paramedics out to check her feet (which she didn't feel until the next day). They let me leave after I gave my statement and then stayed with her as she packed some stuff. The only thing I'm worried about is what she told them. I heard her say something about that I had tried to choke her before, but I don't think they believed her much. She told me the next day that she just said that to try and protect her career she needed it to be my fault—? wtf

what sucks is that we were starting to make up before all this, and now it's really over ... and looking back, I think it may have been that damn pill that kept sending her over the edge and I just didn't know how to handle it.

" It was all going down right in front of my kids too. I had them loaded in the truck trying to leave and she came out with a pair of scissors and tried to slash a tire so I couldn't leave. "


Lovely.

Well, at least it's ended. Good job.

yes, definitely for the better. I hate to say it, but I'm already just liking having my house back to myself. Didn't miss not having someone to cuddle with at all. The dogs were perfectly happy to sleep together on the chair in the living room. Once I finish cleaning my house, it will actually stay clean for a while. I feel guilty I feel so good about having her gone. Plus, she's making it easy on me ... calling and texting non-stop ... and that's oddly comforting to me. She's having a really hard time still of course.

Also, earlier in the morning of the day she totally lost it ... she kicked over a 47" LCD TV I was working on and ruined the screen. She said she kicked it because it was a metaphor for her ... she said she felt like she was just some piece of junk that I picked up because I thought I could fix it, but couldn't.

god I hated that it came to this, but we can't even try again. My ex-wife wouldn't let me see my kids anymore if I let that woman anywhere near them again at this point.

The next day when I met Aqua to get the dogs, she said how she told her friend, "I guess I'm officially one of those crazy women." her friend says, "what, you didn't already know that about yourself?"

Posted by aurora
You are so going to take her back lol

nah, anything short of having to call police / going psycho in front of my kids, I would. but that's a deal breaker

fuck, and talk about embarrassing ... all the neighbors watching, house surrounded by police and ambulance ... i'm sure they've heard the craziness before too and never knew if we were making love or fighting

Whats this career she is in thats so important...is she in politics or something? If her irrational behavior with u is due to her missing taking her medication then how come she doesnt do all that at her job and doesnt "missing" her pill put the same career she so fiercly protect in jeopardy (in case she acts out while at work)? I dont think the medication is an issue here since she ONLY acts (emphasize ACTS) crazy around u...maybe YOU make her crazy. Ever thought of that?

well.. I'm happy for you, jru.

Don't blame the pill. Stick to your guns and make it your mantra to remember

1) In front of kids.

2) Running after you (and the kids!) with scissors.

3) Police saved your ass.


Enjoy your *I love Me* time.

😉

Thanks FUM. yes, i'll be sticking to my guns. My ex-wife already read me the riot act ... is that the saying? ... anyway, she threatened not to let the kids stay with me anymore if she ever thought I was putting them in a situation like that again. So, it's beyond me now. My kids have been sick of her for a while actually. They were just being nice because they could tell how much I cared about her.

lol Watercup, yes it is me that drives her over the edge. That's one of the things she's been harping on lately ... to stop blaming her for everything. It's really just the way we interact. Of course someone starts it, but it's the fact that once it gets started, it escalates that is the problem. We drive each other crazy I guess ... just I stop short of stomping around on broken glass barefoot.

Posted by Pecheresse
LOl dude you're so addicted to your dramatic life. It's cute.

He's not the only one! 😛 Those were some great stories 😄

r u guys back together yet?

Glen Close? lol, i do wish the cops had taken her key since they stayed there with her the whole time anyway

well, I did discover today that I'm still pretty activated (easily angered). I drove across town to take one of the dogs and a box of her stuff to her today ... because she was running too late to come by my office and I didn't want the dog there. So, she takes a wrong turn and is even later to meet me half way, and then while I'm waiting for her she didn't listen to directions and drove right past me (busy talkin' on the phone). I lost it, told her to pull over and wait for me ... slammed the stuff into her car and said if you can't follow some basic instructions don't ever ask me to do anything for you again ... then I sped off. Got my lesson though, when I sped off I spilled a package of blueberries in my truck and spent more time picking them up off the floor board than I did waiting on her.

Omg ... exit Aqua stage left ... enter Aries stage right

I'm about to go meet her ... let you guys know how it goes.

Ok, we'll be right here 😛

LMAO 😄

actually don't think I have watched Fatal Attraction ... better check it out

ok, so I was pretty excited about Aries after talking to her on phone. she said how she was complaining to her mom about her marriage and her mom asked about me ... I've never even met her mom. Also, aries sounded really glad i'm single and eager to meet up.

We met at her church today so she could practice some songs she's working on for a recital ... some love triangle thing, i was laughing at her selection. She always tells the stories of the composers and the history of the songs ... i love that

oh, just a quick review for anyone new ... aries and I go way back, 8 years ago i fell in love with her at 1st sight (when I was married), 4 years ago we had a short fling (when she was married and I was separated), but we never slept together. she's still married and has a 2 yr. old now.

Anyway, I was all excited by her enthusiasm, but she still hasn't broken up with her lover yet. She's been trying, but said they met for a last lunch but both started crying so much that they didn't make it final yet. then she played a song he sang for her on her i-phone ... I could tell she's still in love with lover-boy (**poor husband right**). The lover sings good; I was jealous about that.

Ok, so that's the Aries update. I don't know what she wants with me now. Maybe it's too intense with the lover and she's looking for a less intense rebound fling. IDK. Me and Aries have been good friends for last 4 years, so maybe we'll just keep it at that. She's been hinting at more though.