My relationships go backwards, and I love it!

I get intensely involved in a guy, then I begin to fall out of "love" with him. I love getting to the point in which I have gotten over him because, then, I can think clearly.
I think the worst thing a guy can do when he really wants me is to play it cool and hold off on things like affection, communication and sex. My mind doesn't hesistate to begin the process of falling out of strong like with him at that time.

Any of you sags like this or could it because of another one of my placements?

I think this really shows you're (emotionally) self-serving and unable to put yourself in the other person's position if you can feel relieved about it. I for one could never feel relieved for falling out of love with someone who still loves me. I think it's a terrible place to be and I'd rather get my heart broken than inflict that pain onto others. To me that's somehow more managable.

yeah, but you're a leo, so...

Posted by enfant_terrible
I think this really shows you're (emotionally) self-serving and unable to put yourself in the other person's position if you can feel relieved about it. I for one could never feel relieved for falling out of love with someone who still loves me. I think it's a terrible place to be and I'd rather get my heart broken than inflict that pain onto others. To me that's somehow more managable.

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Posted by enfant_terrible
I for one could never feel relieved for falling out of love with someone who still loves me. I think it's a terrible place to be and I'd rather get my heart broken than inflict that pain onto others. To me that's somehow more managable.

100% Cancer Venus approved.

Sorry MsX, but I can't go along with this one.

The only thing I'll add is that when the "clarity" comes, hopefully one would look for reasons to stay rather than leave. Truthfully, and no offense intended, whats happening is simple emotional usery. You pretty much know what will happen after doing it so many times. At the heart is a real fear of actual commitment. Otherwise, one would have the clarity in the beginning and then gradually fall in love so they can stay together. Its a lack of consideration for the other persons feelings. For the emotional and spiritual energy they invest in you. "Clarity" is realistically trying to find ways to leave...and not to build a real love that involves emotional maturity.

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sooo...how did all you bleeding hearts come up with my "love" for the individual calming down = me leaving them?
just because i gain clarity, i treat the man wrong? come on, now...quit projecting, people.
beautiful soul, read with your sag eyes, boo. i'm gonna need for you to understand what i'm saying here...lol!
the non-sags, tho, they can stay confused 😉

Posted by Lhasa
I do the same, and I really like it too when I start looking at the relationship and the other person with a little more clarity. It's like I just fall too hard too fast sometimes so when I wake up from it I feel a bit relieved lol

exactly.

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Posted by msX
I get intensely involved in a guy, then I begin to fall out of "love" with him. I love getting to the point in which I have gotten over him because, then, I can think clearly.
I think the worst thing a guy can do when he really wants me is to play it cool and hold off on things like affection, communication and sex. My mind doesn't hesistate to begin the process of falling out of strong like with him at that time.

Any of you sags like this or could it because of another one of my placements?

The part I made bold I totally can relate to. I will

stick a fork in someone so fast if they exhibited any

of that behavior.

I think this is partly due to your Venus Scorpio

snapping her pincers lol. When you say intensely

involved do you mean obsessing? I think once you're

no longer invested in someone that rear view mirror

perspective on things is great in giving you your

equilibrium back.

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yep. the whole rush of the initial time spent obssessing and being all into the guy is great fun and blinding.
after that settles, i start getting my equilibrium back, like you said.
at that time, i'm ready to not play games and be all grown up about the relationship.
but the guy will think he has me and want to start slacking. wrong move for them...lol!

Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Isn't that normal? First there's the infatuation and then when the newness of it all wears out you start to see a relationship for what it really is.

Don't see what's so Sag about that tbh😛

i used to think it was normal, but then i was told by many others that i should be cool first, not try to bag the dude off the jump. you know how "the rules" go, i shouldn't text, call or anything like that initially and then i can only contact him once after he's contacted me five times. whatever...i don't play those kind of games. they tell me to warm up to a guy. i get the hots for a guy and then cool off.

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Posted by Lhasa
I do the same, and I really like it too when I start looking at the relationship and the other person with a little more clarity. It's like I just fall too hard too fast sometimes so when I wake up from it I feel a bit relieved lol

exactly.

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Ok lol?

Honestly, I was looking at through Sag eyes...Venus in Sag to be specific. Going by your OP, and I can only go by your words without assuming, you stated you begin to fall out of love. Now I will assume(lol) that this is a pattern that produces less than stellar results. But look at what realistically happens. After giving heavy emotions etc from the get go through word and deed, that clarity means you shut them off because you paused. People go by your actions. While there are some that you should wake up from I'm sure that there are others who's actions didn't justify the reaction if you look at it logically. You may not have left them physically, but the key ingredient...emotion has been cut off. That person will then defend themselves because the energy of mistrust coming from you has caused them to then mistrust and question...producing drama.

With that being said, you stated that you don't leave them you have a serious talk. From a Mars in Scorp to a Venus in Scorp?, why not just have the talk first before you develop feelings? That way, you save the drama and hurt feelings and don't waste time over arguments and discussions that could've been avoided from the beginning. This approach may not be popular, but that's only if you're addicted to toxic situations...and I'm not saying you are_ Patience is a virtue. Realize and get a good sense of your feelings first and master them. Then, you'll be less likely to jump head first then step back. The honeymoon comes after the wedding...not before?

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Posted by Lhasa
I do the same, and I really like it too when I start looking at the relationship and the other person with a little more clarity. It's like I just fall too hard too fast sometimes so when I wake up from it I feel a bit relieved lol

exactly.

Now I will assume(lol) that this is a pattern that produces less than stellar results. But look at what realistically happens. After giving heavy emotions etc from the get go through word and deed, that clarity means you shut them off because you paused. People go by your actions. While there are some that you should wake up from I'm sure that there are others who's actions didn't justify the reaction if you look at it logically. You may not have left them physically, but the key ingredient...emotion has been cut off. That person will then defend themselves because the energy of mistrust coming from you has caused them to then mistrust and question...producing drama.

With that being said, you stated that you don't leave them you have a serious talk. From a Mars in Scorp to a Venus in Scorp?, why not just have the talk first before you develop feelings? That way, you save the drama and hurt feelings and don't waste time over arguments and discussions that could've been avoided from the beginning. This approach may not be popular, but that's only if you're addicted to toxic situations...and I'm not saying you are_ Patience is a virtue. Realize and get a good sense of your feelings first and master them. Then, you'll be less likely to jump head first then step back. The honeymoon comes after the wedding...not before?

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sir, why do you insist on trying to diagnose me? i am a pro at this. and where do you get the "less than stellar results" from? lol...you are slaying me tonight, boo.
no one gets shut off when i gain clarity. why are you thinking they is some hidden motive, action, agenda, or whatever behind what i am posting? please stop. there is no drama, no hurt feelings, and i have no idea where you are getting this from. jeeeeeeeeeeeezus.

i said i like how i am, i love my life, i am good. all i asked is if any other sags do the same. i bet you are a stone gas in re

...in real life, hahahaha! my bad!

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Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Isn't that normal? First there's the infatuation and then when the newness of it all wears out you start to see a relationship for what it really is.

Don't see what's so Sag about that tbh😛

Some people might need time to warm up instead of being infatuated from the start...
I also know a few who take the feeling as passion and once it wears out equate it with the relationship dying out instead of considering it as a normal step and enjoying it.

Also stereotypically sags are known for their propensity to crush hard... but yeah I think it's pretty common anyway lol

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yeah, i doubt there are many that even understand passion...or the art of it.
and it is indeed an art.

i am amused at how the people with thee most lackluster lives love to tell a passionate individual to calm down, slow down, and take it easy.
like, who wants to be like you? passion is fun! if it weren't, those same critics wouldn't be paying to see others live in their passion instead of trying it themselves.

crushing hard is fun. and us sags probably express our crushes more than most. and you knoooooooow how people have problems with our honesty, lol!

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Posted by Lhasa
I do the same, and I really like it too when I start looking at the relationship and the other person with a little more clarity. It's like I just fall too hard too fast sometimes so when I wake up from it I feel a bit relieved lol

exactly.

Now I will assume(lol) that this is a pattern that produces less than stellar results. But look at what realistically happens. After giving heavy emotions etc from the get go through word and deed, that clarity means you shut them off because you paused. People go by your actions. While there are some that you should wake up from I'm sure that there are others who's actions didn't justify the reaction if you look at it logically. You may not have left them physically, but the key ingredient...emotion has been cut off. That person will then defend themselves because the energy of mistrust coming from you has caused them to then mistrust and question...producing drama.

With that being said, you stated that you don't leave them you have a serious talk. From a Mars in Scorp to a Venus in Scorp?, why not just have the talk first before you develop feelings? That way, you save the drama and hurt feelings and don't waste time over arguments and discussions that could've been avoided from the beginning. This approach may not be popular, but that's only if you're addicted to toxic situations...and I'm not saying you are_ Patience is a virtue. Realize and get a good sense of your feelings first and master them. Then, you'll be less likely to jump head first then step back. The honeymoon comes after the wedding...not before?

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sir, why do you insist on trying to diagnose me? i am a pro at this. and where do you get the "less than stellar results" from? lol...you are slaying me tonight, boo.
no one gets shut off when i gain clarity. why are you thinking they is some hidden motive, action, agenda, or whatever behind what i am posting? please stop. there is no drama, no hurt feelings, and i have no idea where you are getting this from. jeeeeeeeeeeeezus.

i said i like how i am, i love my li

what you got to say, mr. beautiful soul?
let's wrestle and stuff...i wanna play!
put my hand in your face, lol!

Posted by msX
what you got to say, mr. beautiful soul?
let's wrestle and stuff...i wanna play!
put my hand in your face, lol!

Oh...nothing at all lol. 🙂

Don't be mugging me...its not 'll lady like 😛

lol! i adore you so!

Posted by msX
lol! i adore you so!

Lol

I usually start at intensely infatuated/in love, then begin the downward spiral towards hating his damn guts.

LOL...:sigh:

Posted by Wynter
I usually start at intensely infatuated/in love, then begin the downward spiral towards hating his damn guts.

LOL...:sigh:

hahahahaaa!!! i just spit out my damn cafe!

Posted by enfant_terrible
I think this really shows you're (emotionally) self-serving and unable to put yourself in the other person's position if you can feel relieved about it. I for one could never feel relieved for falling out of love with someone who still loves me. I think it's a terrible place to be and I'd rather get my heart broken than inflict that pain onto others. To me that's somehow more managable.

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