Overthinking and the effects it has on us, Sag.

Lately I think I have been causing myself a lot of anxiety (for lack of better word)

I have been going through a lot of changes.

New job

Moving to a new city

Transferring my son schools

introducing my boyfriend to my son

its been a lot

and in the beginning I used my intuition in my lucky stars to make my choices to take the job that was suggested to me, accept the condo that fell in my lap, move my son to a city I feel will be better for him community and educationally and intro the boyfriend to let him understand the way my life works if he wants to get in any deeper.

but now im freaking the F out.

im scared for ethan (my son) - is the school good enough, is he overwhelmed, is he stressed, is he upset. hes a virgo and we are very different, he is also not emotionally communicative with me. (does anyone know why or how I can change that?)

also im bored in my new job, im worried im going to bore myself to death. I can deal with boredom

I should be like I cant believe im getting paid this much for this position. I could seriously leave for 2 hours and no one would notice. its sOoOoOo boring.

and my Taurus boyfriend and my Virgo son,. whoa. so in the signs they should be really compatible. but so far my boyfriend doesn't really engage that much with Ethan, and man Ethan seriously just wants so much of his attention. I think he thinks my boyfriend is second coolest person to his dad which is great. but so far my Taurus is just super silent, no as engaging, he makes less effort. when we go places with ethan hes quick to offer me advice to make me a better parent, my son doesn't take me as seriously because well im a mom, I nurture and love, im strict but not as strict as I thought compared to what my Taurus is suggesting. don't get me wrong I like his suggestions and I respect his opions always, I can take it but im also thinking in my head " does he think im a wuss mom, does ethan disrespect me? does he think ethan is a jerk (he can be a bit of a jerk to me)" all the over thinking.

we are 8 months into this relationship and everyone (in this forum) says its too soon, its still early its this its that. and I get it and im trying my best not to think so much. but I so badly want my relationship to evolve with my boyfriend, not rushing but to never end. I think my Taurus is wonderful, no only for me emotionally and as my favorite person but for my son who needs a role model. he needs someone he can take seriously, and that aint me and at his age (8) this is the time he needs it. and its gotta be for keeps. but I cant tell with my Taurus if he understands that. and if he does understand, if its freaking him out? or if he even likes my son. I asked him the other day, what he thought of ethan, and if he is ready to see us more often now that we are moving closer and now that I will be primary parent to ethans life. and he said he's just chilling, hes good. and that he hasn't really had any time with ethan because im always there. - that was it. always leaving me needing more. what do that mean?

I know

your going to say chill

why am I do anxious about my life right now.

things are seriously falling to a place that I have been hoping for since I left my ex.

and still I finding ways to worry myself and spoil it.

(Im sorry for typos, hard to understand areas, im dyslexic so its kind my thing. but also im at work and cant waste too much time proofing. so give me a pass)

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Posted by aflyingarrow

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You guys overthink? Wow... y'all seem so chill and just going with the flow of things.

I'm commenting because I'm seeing a triple/quadruple Sag and want to follow this, lol...

We do.. and we over feel too..

But you will never know ??

Do y'all ever reveal that part of yourself to anyone you trust?

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i feel so much. i worry a lot. mainly about the future. things change so much which i love but its always scary and i wanna know whats going to happen before it happens and im always seeking that reassurance that everything is going to be good.

but no i don't like to show that. obviously when im really comfortable with someone, and i know that person cares and has no judgement and can be trusted and depended on (which are all really hard things to find in my opionion) i will voice my worry. but i will always dumb it down

i hate to look weak. i don't like people feeling bad for me. and i don't like people with controlling opionions so i don't always express it i just secretly worry and worry and worry until it all basicly works its self out

and yes totally..... then im like "love it when everything falls into place"

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Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by lovinglioness1115

Posted by aflyingarrow

Posted by lovinglioness1115
You guys overthink? Wow... y'all seem so chill and just going with the flow of things.

I'm commenting because I'm seeing a triple/quadruple Sag and want to follow this, lol...

We do.. and we over feel too..

But you will never know ??

Do y'all ever reveal that part of yourself to anyone you trust?

i feel so much. i worry a lot. mainly about the future. things change so much which i love but its always scary and i wanna know whats going to happen before it happens and im always seeking that reassurance that everything is going to be good.

but no i don't like to show that. obviously when im really comfortable with someone, and i know that person cares and has no judgement and can be trusted and depended on (which are all really hard things to find in my opionion) i will voice my worry. but i will always dumb it down

i hate to look weak. i don't like people feeling bad for me. and i don't like people with controlling opionions so i don't always express it i just secretly worry and worry and worry until it all basicly works its self out

and yes totally..... then im like "love it when everything falls into place"

Do you also need a lot of space/alone time when in relationships?

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i don't thinks so.

i mean i do enjoy alone time. but as a mom that's kinda hard and we do thing separately but i always keep my self rather busy. but i enjoy everything equally. mom time, boyfriend time, group things, alone time.