sags and thier ex

what do you think of your exes?
if you had a good relation ship but grew apart because your partner was away on business trips all the time and you broke it off would you be friends with them? if not y not?
i suggested to my sag ex that broke off with me that i hoped we still could be friends ...this is more than a year after the break up...but she said she is not sure , maybe we could talk over the email. but she makes no effort at all ....
its not like I've hurt her, i was always good and respectful, so why she wouldn't want to be friends?
I thought that sag women talk with most of their exes?
i only see two reasons.
one she completely loathes me and is disgusted by my existence
or she is afraid that i might want to try something with her and she is scared that all the feelings might comeback

or am i completely wrong on this?

I'm having hard time moving on, i don't know how to deal with this anymore........

no, she broke it off with me

once after 4 years but came back crying but came back the same night so i took her back cauze this was not what i wanted and still loved her
and second time a year later , pulling away shutting me out and not willing to talk about it even though she promised that she would come to me if there ever is a problem

The problem is probably that this wasn't a 6 month or year long relationship. This was 5 years. It's hard to be friends with someone after youve known them on a much different level, especially over 5 years.

so its easier just to be a heartless bitch?.......gwad.....because of her i might not want to get with a sagitt ever again, not for a relation ship at least.

i dont insist at all, during the 18months after our break up we had contact maybe 3 or for times and it was always because of birthdays or holidays. once i initiated contact just out of the blue
what kills me that we had a good relation ship and we split up rather peacefully because I allowed , i knew she wanted out and i let her because it was killing me knowing that she does not want me anymore
and to think that all of that was because of my time away from home and she want even talk to me? y do i miss her so much? i didn't deserve this....what if i was a sailor, or in the military over seas, or traveling seals man and had to stay away from home.....would i deserve that?
I'll stop my ranting it wont change anything and it just makes me feel like crap

Most Sag's can be friends with ex's but, if they had a long term relationship with someone and they feel that the other person isn't over it then, they will probably keep their distance or if they are seeing someone seriously then, they may feel that they don't won't to open old wounds and created conflict in their new relationship. I get along with every one of my ex's but, I don't keep in contact with them all. If I see them then great, I say Hi or whatever but, I won't go out of my way to hang out with them or anything. Oh, and I am really bad at keeping in touch with people my email or anything. It's not to be mean it's just I get busy. You need to find away to totally let go otherwise it will stop you from moving forward to a healthy relationship.