Sags are not meant to be in a Relationship

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Yeah. That's just what I think. We are not meant to be.
We are meant to experience Life in a very deep, spiritual way. We are meant to use our intuition to understand humanity.

But I dont think I'm made for relationships.
Like... There is always Drama!
I'm not even talking about all the people who are really not meant for us (water signs etc.)
There is drama all over the place with everyone.
"Perfect Match" Leo, Aquarius, Aries... - Yeah Right...... There is too much Individual selfish energy. Too much ego for one person to handle.

Maybe I only say that, because I feel like I experienced "true" love.
I'm kinda ashamed but in the last weeks I feel in love with 3 guys. Leo Guy was a Player. Libra Guy was playing games. Aquarius is fucking paranoid. It feeeelt so fucking good and real with the auqa, but ahhh....


😄 😄 😄

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Well I have known my Sag ex for many years now (we keep in touch because of our son) and it always seems to me that she has never really been better than 50-50 about the relationship, even though she has never found anybody else. For example, I am English and live in England and she is French and lives in France with our 11-year-old French son (also a Sag) and I have asked her if she might want me to go over and live with them in France: if she had said definitely yes, then I think I would have done it, but she has this kind of "gallic shrug" attitude to a lot of things, which might be a rather "Sag" attitude as well. As a Virgo I suppose it would feel good to be needed, but I wouldn't want to go over there and feel that I was just getting in her way and not being appreciated: I do feel that she seems to take a lot of things and people (including me) for granted and I resent that attitude.
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Like... There is always Drama!



Yes! Always drama. I would love to find someone who can just live for today, and experience those emotions without having to dwell on their past or the future. Seems like most men anymore have some sort of baggage they're dragging with them that I don't really want to know about and I just can't get away fast enough.

I'm too lazy to make a relationship work anyway, I guess
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Posted by Wynter
Like... There is always Drama!



Yes! Always drama. I would love to find someone who can just live for today, and experience those emotions without having to dwell on their past or the future. Seems like most men anymore have some sort of baggage they're dragging with them that I don't really want to know about and I just can't get away fast enough.

I'm too lazy to make a relationship work anyway, I guess
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Exactly. It seems the good ole days of two people coming together, loving each other, and building a life together are gone. Fairy tales now. Now everybody wants to play silly, childish games, and want to justify their ego either because their bored, insecure, or both. I sooooo want to go into a trademark Sagittarius truthful tirade right now...but I won't lol.
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Posted by Wynter
Like... There is always Drama!



Yes! Always drama. I would love to find someone who can just live for today, and experience those emotions without having to dwell on their past or the future. Seems like most men anymore have some sort of baggage they're dragging with them that I don't really want to know about and I just can't get away fast enough.

I'm too lazy to make a relationship work anyway, I guess



Exactly. It seems the good ole days of two people coming together, loving each other, and building a life together are gone. Fairy tales now. Now everybody wants to play silly, childish games, and want to justify their ego either because their bored, insecure, or both. I sooooo want to go into a trademark Sagittarius truthful tirade right now...but I won't lol.
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It's prominent, but not everyone is that way. I've found people who can be committed enough to form loving relationships with their significant others. People just need to learn to stop leaving once they're bored and stick it out. Too much is based on their feelings. That's why relationships fall apart these days. No work put into it. It's sad. Oh well, I've found someone who will work at it with me so I'm happy.
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Posted by Sutekh
You're super selfish with all those 1st house placements. It's not Sagittarius it's just your particular configuration.



Shut the fuck up. You're only trying to provocate me. Super lame.

I'm not selfish, I'm just strong. I have to be, my life wasn't / is easy. If I wasn't like this, I would be dead now.

I'm super selfish..... You dont know shit about me nor my life. Of course I concentrate on my life, but I'm not a ego. I give my everything to the people I love. I forgave my mother although she throw me on the street when I was 13. I always try to understand and help people, so FUCK YOU!

It's Sagittarius. I know it by experience, because I'm one. I am a Sagittarius with Sag venus, mercury and ascendant. And you wanna tell me I dont know shit?

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Posted by Wynter
Like... There is always Drama!



Yes! Always drama. I would love to find someone who can just live for today, and experience those emotions without having to dwell on their past or the future. Seems like most men anymore have some sort of baggage they're dragging with them that I don't really want to know about and I just can't get away fast enough.

I'm too lazy to make a relationship work anyway, I guess



Exactly. It seems the good ole days of two people coming together, loving each other, and building a life together are gone. Fairy tales now. Now everybody wants to play silly, childish games, and want to justify their ego either because their bored, insecure, or both. I sooooo want to go into a trademark Sagittarius truthful tirade right now...but I won't lol.



It's prominent, but not everyone is that way. I've found people who can be committed enough to form loving relationships with their significant others. People just need to learn to stop leaving once they're bored and stick it out. Too much is based on their feelings. That's why relationships fall apart these days. No work put into it. It's sad. Oh well, I've found someone who will work at it with me so I'm happy.
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No one wants to read your shit. You don't even know what you're talking about.
Gosh, you're going on my nerves.
I remember all the shit you wrote 2 years ago. " Hey people I'm fucking 4 different guys at the moment, what should I do hahaha"

Now your trying to act like you got it all figured out. I wanna laugh in your face
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Posted by Wynter
Like... There is always Drama!



Yes! Always drama. I would love to find someone who can just live for today, and experience those emotions without having to dwell on their past or the future. Seems like most men anymore have some sort of baggage they're dragging with them that I don't really want to know about and I just can't get away fast enough.

I'm too lazy to make a relationship work anyway, I guess
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I understand that....

why can't they just enjoy life? enjoy love, life, happiness?
we are way too positive for all this....
All the things I want are so simple..... I just want to be happy. I want to share my happiness with other people, I wanna give them strength, I want them to inspire me and I want to inspire them. I want positive energy.
Why isn't that possible?
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Posted by HonneTatemae
Beccy! 😄 How are you?

About Saggies and relationships- Are we meant to be in one or not? That I do not know, but I DO know that we don't NEED to be in one.

If we DO end up dating someone we like, it's basically just yummy frosting on our life-cake. It ISN'T one of the main ingredients.

Just my two cents. 🙂

And btw... Sag + Aqua= AWESOME. My longest, most intense relationship was with an Aquarius. It sounds weird to say it, but I kinda feel like him and I are destined for each other, and that we'll probably hook back up at some point in the future.

In the meantime, I'll keep eating my life cake....with or WITHOUT the frosting.

😉




Hey Honne 🙂)

You said that in a beautiful way and I agree with you. We don't need relationships to "be" happy or "feel" happy.

I do believe in destiny... And I think aquas and sags do really fit together. Aww, it sounds so nice and cute.... I hope it's going to happen for the both of you 😉

My first best friend was an aquarius, she was the greatest girl 😄 she was the first one to do all the crazy stuff all the others were too afraid to do. We always had so much fun..
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Posted by EISREGEN
Posted by Sutekh
You're super selfish with all those 1st house placements. It's not Sagittarius it's just your particular configuration.



Shut the fuck up. You're only trying to provocate me. Super lame.

I'm not selfish, I'm just strong. I have to be, my life wasn't / is easy. If I wasn't like this, I would be dead now.

I'm super selfish..... You dont know shit about me nor my life. Of course I concentrate on my life, but I'm not a ego. I give my everything to the people I love. I forgave my mother although she throw me on the street when I was 13. I always try to understand and help people, so FUCK YOU!

It's Sagittarius. I know it by experience, because I'm one. I am a Sagittarius with Sag venus, mercury and ascendant. And you wanna tell me I dont know shit?

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Lmao!! I love her...What's up EISREGEN? How's everything with you?
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First post here, here goes. What strikes me is that Sags have a fear of attachment, getting too close for fear it confines. I suppose it's a need to fulfill an independence that must be in control, but in itself is controlling. I have a sag friend who is like this. I restrict this control, or the amount I let this happen. I have to say - thus far and no further. For instance; taking her own sweet time to respond to a text (can't be arsed or bothered), and she isn't the only sag women I know that does this. They may not see it as such, but it's controlling the person waiting for a response, and not only with me. I have recently shut them out a little, but not given them any ultimatum. Really, I don't have time to indulge them. I'm tempted to tell them to grow up, think about other people. Somehow, I don't think it would help. Of course, I like them. They're both intelligent and can be lots of fun and funny.

The original poster seems to be self-absorbed, and I don't find this uncommon in my owm sag friend. She knows that she has a problem with relationships, has difficulty getting into the other person. The emphasis is always on remaining free to change course at will. This is very difficult when trying to cultivate a relationship. My friend is honest, but I think too quick to find chaps a scheming bunch. It's difficult getting into that close zone. The odds for any man are slim, getting through that defensive fence. I think some sags are a little short of empathy, and this is partly due to the focus being on control and not being controlled, almost to the point of paranoia. Keeping their' position, being slightly aloof. Difficult to get hold of and probably not wanting anyone to have that much effect on them. I've been very effected by this sag women, but I'm also quite sure I'd have to adjust to her as much as she'd have to adjust to me. I just think I would find it easier to do. I'm very much drawn to her, but wary. I'm probably not the best suited to a sag women, one-sided relationships aren't for me.
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I think a lot of things that happen boils down to insecurity. That breeds expectations etc. it goes to the basics. If one doesn't love themselves, how can they love another? Love is patient, kind, does not boast, keeps no record of wrongs and we know the rest. The truth is everybody is not on the same page when it comes to defining what love is. We know what it does and how it make us feel. I've said it once and I'll say it again. Fear and ego cannot coexist in the same space as love.

We all simply look for someone to put up with our crap. We come up with ego based "standards" that are impossible for anyone to meet then wonder why our relationships fail. Simple concept. We're all imperfect.

For example. A woman gripes at her man for leaving the toilet seat up without considering the fact that he had to raise it because she left it down. Who's wrong? Neither. But we as human being will argue with someone else without considering our own actions and even minimizing them. Again...ego. Change your behavior then teach. It's about consideration for others. If they don't change, don't try to impose your will.

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My friend doesn't, I think, love herself. Don't know why she's so hard on herself. She has an Emo stall and I think, as far as I understand Emo's, she is very much one herself. Can be a world of their own, oblivious to words of comfort or encouragement.

I know this Sag site gets involved with characterising people through planetary influences and sign traits. For some reason, I kind of buy into some of this. I probably reflect my own sign (Cancerian). In fact, I live on a boat and like my home etc.

I actually think my friend is missing out on the world and never pursues something, getting bored too quickly, moving on to something that may hold more promise. We greet and part with a kiss on the cheek, or sometimes a good hug. I would be quite happy to meet halfway, more than halfway. But, if it's to be all in her direction, it will be at the times I have. Times when I know that's the way it is and accept it. Whatever help or good reasons friends offer, she admits, she is resistant to them. A difficulty being beholden to anyone for anything.

The stall I mentioned. I fitted it out. It was clean, bright, attractive and fresh. Within months she wanted to move elsewhere. My energy is not boundless.
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Posted by EISREGEN
Posted by Wynter
Like... There is always Drama!



Yes! Always drama. I would love to find someone who can just live for today, and experience those emotions without having to dwell on their past or the future. Seems like most men anymore have some sort of baggage they're dragging with them that I don't really want to know about and I just can't get away fast enough.

I'm too lazy to make a relationship work anyway, I guess




I understand that....

why can't they just enjoy life? enjoy love, life, happiness?
we are way too positive for all this....
All the things I want are so simple..... I just want to be happy. I want to share my happiness with other people, I wanna give them strength, I want them to inspire me and I want to inspire them. I want positive energy.
Why isn't that possible?
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People are human beings. Not treats on a menu, a disk on a Juke Box, or a sweater in the draw. They may not be conveniently on your wavelength when you want and will require that you are able to tune into them in more than a superficial way and sacrifice what you want so they can have what they want, which in turn makes you happy to see them happy. Job done. This backwards and forwards exchange, and sharing is consideration. The only person, I think, who should expect things on their own terms all the while had better be called boss and pay well for that privilege.

You are mistaken, if you think wanting is the be all and end all. You can't realistic expect something that you do not 'earn'. Only children want and expect. Lose the, ' I want, I want , I want'. You really want people to enjoy your life. What you want isn't possible, because you are the one setting the limitations. People cannot meet your terms and conditions. Maybe you would be happy with a world full of clones, like yourself. No problems. But, you don't like static things. Maybe you are bored with yourself really. Life is not all ups, for anyone. And none should expect to have people only at their best times. You are feeling less than keen when everything doesn't flow in a nice and easy way. It's called reality. You deal with it, go through it, get over it, grow and learn. Don't waste yourself or others.
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Like... There is always Drama!



Yes! Always drama. I would love to find someone who can just live for today, and experience those emotions without having to dwell on their past or the future. Seems like most men anymore have some sort of baggage they're dragging with them that I don't really want to know about and I just can't get away fast enough.

I'm too lazy to make a relationship work anyway, I guess




I understand that....

why can't they just enjoy life? enjoy love, life, happiness?
we are way too positive for all this....
All the things I want are so simple..... I just want to be happy. I want to share my happiness with other people, I wanna give them strength, I want them to inspire me and I want to inspire them. I want positive energy.
Why isn't that possible?
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People are human beings. Not treats on a menu, a disk on a Juke Box, or a sweater in the draw. They may not be conveniently on your wavelength when you want and will require that you are able to tune into them in more than a superficial way and sacrifice what you want so they can have what they want, which in turn makes you happy to see them happy. Job done. This backwards and forwards exchange, and sharing is consideration. The only person, I think, who should expect things on their own terms all the while had better be called boss and pay well for that privilege.

You are mistaken, if you think wanting is the be all and end all. You can't realistic expect something that you do not 'earn'. Only children want and expect. Lose the, ' I want, I want , I want'. You really want people to enjoy your life. What you want isn't possible, because you are the one setting the limitations. People cannot meet your terms and conditions. Maybe you would be happy with a world full of clones, like yourself. No problems. But, you don't like static things. Maybe you are bored with yourself really. Life is not all ups, for anyone. And none should expect to have people only at their best times. You are feeling less than keen when everything doesn't flow in a nice and easy way. It's called reality. You deal with it, go through it, get over it, grow and learn. Don't waste yourself
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did you get burnt by some sag?



Me personally? No. But, of the ones I do know, my relationship will be strictly restricted to a level I believe they have the ability to respond to and reciprocate. It had to be tested first. There's no point banging your head against a brick wall and wasting time. I'm happy to let anyone be. But, when they ask for help and you give it as a friend, I sometimes feel that they would understand it better if the help came at a financial cost. Plain and simple, trade for trade. Leave friendship out of it. I don't like charging friends, it goes against the grain.

I did get burned by an Aquarian GF. I kind of look for keys words like - us, we, our. Not too many references to space and independence, I, me, mine; If those are what is wanted, it might be best to remain unattached.

It's no big problem if Sags want their own company, or anyone wanting to be alone for that matter. I'm ok myself, that way. But, I don't mind going 'out of my way'. That's no problem either. That's what friends do; look after each other. You know, sometimes I need help myself; any 'friend' who looks away then is going to have to work hard to get my attention back.

I read that Sags like to know what's what, in plain and honest terms. Not really ones for subtle signs, taking hints. It goes wrong and you wonder why. I have another Sag friend, she's had about six crashes in the car - looks bemused when I tell her 'I ain't getting in that with you at wheel'. Maybe she hasn't noticed the problem.
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I kinda agree with you. With the sags I know, they are just meant too do their own thing. They are just around too have fun and make people have fun, sorta thing. My bosses sun is a sag and hes 41, and he never sticks to a relationship. Hes always out drinking and ridin motorcycles and doin his own thing. His phone is ALWAYS goin off. I think his longest relationship was the 4 years one, and he ended it with her cause he didn't want too get married. And now he has like 3 girls and they all calling his parents crying and trying to get them too yell at his ass but they cannot! They will not interfere and my boss will turn too me and say ' You think he will listen too us? Oh nooooo! no no! ' and then he goes off laughing.

But I love him he bugs/teases/plays with me all the time and hes super fun. Sags are just the easy going-folk who do their own thing but they also are wise. They might not want too be the relationship type but they sure know all about them. Sags are smart.
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did you get burnt by some sag?



Me personally? No. But, of the ones I do know, my relationship will be strictly restricted to a level I believe they have the ability to respond to and reciprocate. It had to be tested first. There's no point banging your head against a brick wall and wasting time. I'm happy to let anyone be. But, when they ask for help and you give it as a friend, I sometimes feel that they would understand it better if the help came at a financial cost. Plain and simple, trade for trade. Leave friendship out of it. I don't like charging friends, it goes against the grain.

I did get burned by an Aquarian GF. I kind of look for keys words like - us, we, our. Not too many references to space and independence, I, me, mine; If those are what is wanted, it might be best to remain unattached.

It's no big problem if Sags want their own company, or anyone wanting to be alone for that matter. I'm ok myself, that way. But, I don't mind going 'out of my way'. That's no problem either. That's what friends do; look after each other. You know, sometimes I need help myself; any 'friend' who looks away then is going to have to work hard to get my attention back.

I read that Sags like to know what's what, in plain and honest terms. Not really ones for subtle signs, taking hints. It goes wrong and you wonder why. I have another Sag friend, she's had about six crashes in the car - looks bemused when I tell her 'I ain't getting in that with you at wheel'. Maybe she hasn't noticed the problem.
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u sound like such a downer
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Posted by Sag89
did you get burnt by some sag?



Me personally? No. But, of the ones I do know, my relationship will be strictly restricted to a level I believe they have the ability to respond to and reciprocate. It had to be tested first. There's no point banging your head against a brick wall and wasting time. I'm happy to let anyone be. But, when they ask for help and you give it as a friend, I sometimes feel that they would understand it better if the help came at a financial cost. Plain and simple, trade for trade. Leave friendship out of it. I don't like charging friends, it goes against the grain.

I did get burned by an Aquarian GF. I kind of look for keys words like - us, we, our. Not too many references to space and independence, I, me, mine; If those are what is wanted, it might be best to remain unattached.

It's no big problem if Sags want their own company, or anyone wanting to be alone for that matter. I'm ok myself, that way. But, I don't mind going 'out of my way'. That's no problem either. That's what friends do; look after each other. You know, sometimes I need help myself; any 'friend' who looks away then is going to have to work hard to get my attention back.

I read that Sags like to know what's what, in plain and honest terms. Not really ones for subtle signs, taking hints. It goes wrong and you wonder why. I have another Sag friend, she's had about six crashes in the car - looks bemused when I tell her 'I ain't getting in that with you at wheel'. Maybe she hasn't noticed the problem.



u sound like such a downer
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Omg right? lol
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
my Earth heavy Sag friends don't seem to have an issue with it. it's just not a priority. if it happens, it happens and they do alright.

i have two Sag friends who are twins. their venus and mars are in Earth signs, but their moons and Mercs are Scorp. as long as they're happy sexually, it's all good. the minute things go south in the bedroom, they bounce or cheat.

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haha. have we met? 🙂

sex is a priority. if the sex aint poppin, i get high strung. ive never cheated on my one and only bf, but if i were in a relationship and the sex went down hill, id break up.