Sex is primal.

Sex is primal. Without love it's animalistic and damn near self serving. Not to say sex cannot be animalistic when you love someone but let's face it, sex is primal.

im trying to understand.

sex is sooo not a big deal to me.

I mean when im inlove and im making love with someone that's one thing. and that is what I want the most sexually.

but when im not committed, im just like. I need to release. that guy is cute, this guy is fun. let me come thru, lets go out and home together.I am so the girl that would call a guy and come over, no shame. i would hang out for a little afterwards and then let him know i was going to leave now. i think i always made it clear that i was not interested in anything other then. and looking back (since im no longer in that world) i would take a guy home or call a guy i had slept with before no big deal.

i used them the same way i had been used by guys in the past.

some got hurt and some understood what it was. no drama.

if i was picking up on a guy, and decided to take him home. i knew then and there that this would never go anywhere, he wont respect me afterward and to just enjoy the moment. i was always surprised then they (if they) wanted more of a relationship. i would always be like "No... i cant respect myself in a relationship that started with a hook up"

all my few committed relationships started with a better story of connection then i just took him home one time.

Well, yes. It's a basic biological function to ensure the continuation of the human race (and most other animal species) and most people find it rather pleasurable.

I wouldn't call it selfish to engage in sex if you're not in love with the person. That is open to individual preference, worldview, percerptions of love and relationships and sometimes cultural values and upbringing.

I mean to say, that engaging in sex is about pleasure. Whether to please him, yourself, or the lot of ya, it's self serving.

It's au natural.

Animals do it. Plants do it in their own way.

We all have sex. Be it with yourself or with another it's the pleasure that's the ultimate goal.

I love debating this fact so feel free to share your view..