The Mind of The Sag Male (Page 2)

He likes all my pictures I post it's weird within minutes of my posting them he likes them....I sent him an apology message... He hasn't responded but it made me feel better but honestly I am trying to figure out if I should just block him and move on. I feel like he is playing head games with me.

Thanks for that much appreciated. . . . I know deep down I have to let him go . . . Hard when the hook he throws is there! Will have to stop contact and distract myself!

Posted by Lhasa
It didn't take long to turn this thread into a love column, could be a good time to install a paypal donate button lol

Ikr! Save the Horses and Help Me Pay For Law School Foundation lol

Posted by Boots671
Thanks for that much appreciated. . . . I know deep down I have to let him go . . . Hard when the hook he throws is there! Will have to stop contact and distract myself!

You're welcome. The part is you know part of them actually cares about you. They just care about themselves more. It stems from them not loving themselves and they want you to fill that void and they'll do anything to do it.

Posted by Eyes84
He likes all my pictures I post it's weird within minutes of my posting them he likes them....I sent him an apology message... He hasn't responded but it made me feel better but honestly I am trying to figure out if I should just block him and move on. I feel like he is playing head games with me.

Its possible that he is playing games but he could be admiring you from a distance. Translation: you're fine as hell and he likes you but he feels you're not right for...at least at this point. The fact that you sent him an apology means you have honor and integrity. Something that is admirable. Don't let your pride make you feel like you failed. You left the ball in his court. Its up to him to choose. If he doesn't, that's no knock on you. If it makes you uncomfortable, block him. It may be best that you two separate and leave things up to fate. In time and with healing, you two could get back together. Its good to reflect and let go. That way the past won't affect the future with him or someone else.

@Eyes: I'm curious about something and if you don't mind I'd like to ask you a question. What is it about this guy that attracted you to him and please be honest.

I love his drive.. He is on top of things . I like that he can challenge me,his intelligence. He is different, very classy never disrespectful. A true gentleman. I do like the fact he takes good care of his children. He is passionate a big plus lol

Posted by Eyes84
I love his drive.. He is on top of things . I like that he can challenge me,his intelligence. He is different, very classy never disrespectful. A true gentleman. I do like the fact he takes good care of his children. He is passionate a big plus lol

I see. What about the bad. You eluded to it in the other thread.

Well the bad... He tends to put his energy in to other people so much he forgets about me... Leo's need attention plain and simple it's just how we are.. I crave his great convo and adoration but he is a social butterfly. We are long distance and good communication goes a long way with me. I don't ask for hours of his time, I just like to know he is thinking of me. Take out 15 mins of your day and call me that will make me smile the rest of my day. He also has a lot of female friends and I will admit that makes me jealous and these days females in my eyes cannot be trusted.. He did text me today I was so shocked I didn't know how to respond.

Posted by Eyes84
Well the bad... He tends to put his energy in to other people so much he forgets about me... Leo's need attention plain and simple it's just how we are.. I crave his great convo and adoration but he is a social butterfly. We are long distance and good communication goes a long way with me. I don't ask for hours of his time, I just like to know he is thinking of me. Take out 15 mins of your day and call me that will make me smile the rest of my day. He also has a lot of female friends and I will admit that makes me jealous and these days females in my eyes cannot be trusted.. He did text me today I was so shocked I didn't know how to respond.

With that being said, is there any room for compromise? And yes, I told you he'd be back _—Make no mistake though, this doesn't mean he's into. He's testing you to see how you respond and if you will allow him to come back. No criticism, but he wants to see what your mentality is and if its something he can deal with

Well I said "back from the dead?" My sarcasm might have him speechless lol

Posted by Eyes84
Well I said "back from the dead?" My sarcasm might have him speechless lol

Nah I doubt it lol. He probably got distracted. I want to share with you my experiences with a couple of Leo females a few years back.

Ok shoot, lol I'm up all night

Posted by Eyes84
Ok shoot, lol I'm up all night

Lol he hit you back?

Nope he hasn't... You wanted to share your Leo experiences so I was letting you know I'm waiting to see what you have to say.

PMed you

What does it mean when a sag guy says he likes you, but isn't ready for a relationship right now due to being hurt in the past. He flirts with me n sometimes gets jealous when I see him, but in between he doesn't ring all text me or have any contact at all.

Posted by BCJ
What does it mean when a sag guy says he likes you, but isn't ready for a relationship right now due to being hurt in the past. He flirts with me n sometimes gets jealous when I see him, but in between he doesn't ring all text me or have any contact at all.

He's being honest. He wants you but knows he isn't ready and swings between those two feeling. He knows you want more so he keeps his distance so you or he won't get attached.

Sag men r great! N thy can b very attractive, but it's there confidence thats most appealing! N that thy r never boring

Do you think he trying to distance himself until he's ready for a relationship then he may want me n want to commit or is he trying and get rid of his feelings for me and hoping I will get over my feelings for him?!?

Hell yea! I am a Pisces girl me and my Sagittarius guy just broke up. and I mean it was perfect, then out of the blue he cant love me or give me his all. that's a bunch of crap. it doesn't make any sense. I admit I ve been too jealous an clingy to him lately.he says he cant give me his all he doesn't want to be with anyone an he won't say he doesn't love me anymore, he just say he can't do this anymore,he says he is just going to be single. he wants no one else. that doesn't make any sense. and he still wants me to meet his family that's weird. any advice from a sag guy?

Posted by BCJ
Do you think he trying to distance himself until he's ready for a relationship then he may want me n want to commit or is he trying and get rid of his feelings for me and hoping I will get over my feelings for him?!?

A little of both. He's going to distance himself regardless. We're very independent minded. How long have you two bern around each other and how would you describe your situation?

Posted by Lovebeinasag
Sag men r great! N thy can b very attractive, but it's there confidence thats most appealing! N that thy r never boring

Why is it that I see so few of us as couples?

Posted by Thuwaiba

Hell yea! I am a Pisces girl me and my Sagittarius guy just broke up. and I mean it was perfect, then out of the blue he cant love me or give me his all. that's a bunch of crap. it doesn't make any sense. I admit I ve been too jealous an clingy to him lately.he says he cant give me his all he doesn't want to be with anyone an he won't say he doesn't love me anymore, he just say he can't do this anymore,he says he is just going to be single. he wants no one else. that doesn't make any sense. and he still wants me to meet his family that's weird. any advice from a sag guy?

I'm sorry but I've dated a few Fishes and you all don't get jealous and clingy all of a sudden.

Posted by sunnyvirgo83
I have met a sag male my first ever. HE blew my mind and I'm completely smitten. He's very calm, cool, and collective. He has morals and seems to be a good guy.

So far so good?

I kno it's not sudden it has always been like that ! But two months ago he moved to another city an so did I and the stress of it all got into us. We havnt been seeing each other much and every time we met was for sex! Even after he broke up with me 2weeks later we had sex. But he simply said we were just friends. Why wud he still see me? An why wud he introduce me to his family just after we spilt up

I always been jealous but this time I took it to the next level I was finding his location via gud fone so I cud see where he was all the time, he found out an went ballistic ! That was the source of our breakup

Flirted for a few months (nothing major, just dropping in he was single, n calling me gorgeous really).
He indirectly asked me for my number about 4 months ago n said he had always liked me. Started seeing each other n he seemed smitten. He told me every girl in his past had hurt him quite early on.
After a while he said he wasn't ready emotionally or in the head for anything. He didnt know what he wanted, he liked me, but he was scared of getting hurt n his heart wasnt letting him get totally involved. Said he didn't want just sex, and could only offer me friendship right now!
Since he doesn't call or text at alll. I see him Occasionally when I bump into him, he seems to flirt - be interested in me, look at me, laugh, seems to try n keep me talking etc, but not as much flirting as he used to. He sometimes says stuff to make me think he wants me around n to keep me interested, and did seem to get quite jealous a few weeks ago when I asked him a guys name,.
I'm not contacting him at all, but he knows I want a relationship with him.
I told him I was willing to wait around for a bit if he saw a future with me via text a few times a while ago, and also to not make me wait if he didnt want me or wanted to keep him options open, but he never told me not to wait or that he didnt want me, he just ignored my messages!
Clearly he's distancing himself from me, but he just being nice when I see him or flirting? Surely he would just tell me not to wait n move on and not give me the time of day when I see him if he didnt like me!
He confuses me - he doesnt know I'm not waiting anymore, but really like him and do want to be with him.
Just unsure if he's trying to stay platonic n give himself time to be ready n maybe want something in the future or whether he is kindly meaning leave me alone, I'm not interested n want nothing with u in the future, don't wait for me I would rather find someone else!

Is there anything I can do to improve my situation, coz I would love be with him.
Is not texting or calling n giving him space making the situation worse, or should I text him every now n again just to say hi, I'm still interested?!?
Unsure whether I've lost him for good

Your situation is simple. He wants you but he's not ready but he won't be rude when he sees you. He'll flirt because he really likes you but he can't bring himself to take it further. Honestly, waiting for him is noble but a mistake. Just see the other threads about Sag men in our forum. All of them in limbo waiting for him to decide whether he wants to be with them or not after he's told them in one way or another what his intentions are. The Sags are just sitting and waiting for the picture to unfold because they're too skeptical of people. They're honest about the commitment thus shifting half of the responsibility to the other party. But the mistake in this is they are also responsible because they know the other person wants a commitment...thus it ends up being friends with benefits.

Don't wait for him to decide because you'll be waiting forever and honestly he probably won't commit. When were ready, we verbalized it and make our intentions clear. We tell you we want to be with you and back that up with clear and concise action...as in I'm your man...boyfriend and you are my lady. Let's move in together.

Posted by Thuwaiba
I always been jealous but this time I took it to the next level I was finding his location via gud fone so I cud see where he was all the time, he found out an went ballistic ! That was the source of our breakup

Thuwaiba you answered your own question. I'm sorry but you drove him away plain and simple. He still care and that's why he'll have sex with you but your ways keep in at a distance. What were you jealous of?

Thanks!!!!!
I've text him telling him I like him, and want sonething with him, but I'm trying to move on to save me not getting hurt! Surprise surprise - he doesn't reply!!!!!!
Really hurts, coz I really like him and know how good we were together!
Do u think he will want me in the future if he does still like me now I've told him im not waiting, or will he just not bother with me at all and just find someone else when he is ready?!?!

Any idea why he's not replying when I text him initially, saying I was willing to wait a few months for him n asking him to tell me if he doesn't see a future with me so I'm not waiting for no reason? Told him I would walk away if he didnt see anything with me, yet he's still ignoring me!!!!
Surely he would have the decency to tell me not to wait around!!!
Is he deliberately not replying to make me think he's still interested so I don't walk away or that he's just plain ignoring me in the hope I will just leave him alone n get over him?!?

Posted by BCJ
Any idea why he's not replying when I text him initially, saying I was willing to wait a few months for him n asking him to tell me if he doesn't see a future with me so I'm not waiting for no reason? Told him I would walk away if he didnt see anything with me, yet he's still ignoring me!!!!
Surely he would have the decency to tell me not to wait around!!!
Is he deliberately not replying to make me think he's still interested so I don't walk away or that he's just plain ignoring me in the hope I will just leave him alone n get over him?!?

Stop looking for reflection. Just stop. It's gonna ruin you're whole fucking life.

He kept goin to birmigham every two week fan he wouldn't tell me he was there or answer his fone it happened like three times! And I kept questioning him ! He asked me how did I kno he was there that's wen I told him he forgot to switch his location off on his fone an I cud see he was there! So he just said u kno wat I think we shud break up !

Posted by BCJ
Any idea why he's not replying when I text him initially, saying I was willing to wait a few months for him n asking him to tell me if he doesn't see a future with me so I'm not waiting for no reason? Told him I would walk away if he didnt see anything with me, yet he's still ignoring me!!!!
Surely he would have the decency to tell me not to wait around!!!
Is he deliberately not replying to make me think he's still interested so I don't walk away or that he's just plain ignoring me in the hope I will just leave him alone n get over him?!?

At this point, it goes beyond him being a Sag. I know it may be rude but its obvious hrs pushing you away. Honestly, he's doing you a favor.

Posted by Thuwaiba
He kept goin to birmigham every two week fan he wouldn't tell me he was there or answer his fone it happened like three times! And I kept questioning him ! He asked me how did I kno he was there that's wen I told him he forgot to switch his location off on his fone an I cud see he was there! So he just said u kno wat I think we shud break up !

Thuwaiba, I know you like/love him but its obvious at this point. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you or probably anybody. Most likely he's going to see someone. Any man who goes on a scheduled trip and turns his phone off without telling means he's seeing someone. The phone thing is so he's not interrupted. It hurts, but I think its best you move forward.

Sorry, but how can he 'want me' yet want to push me away at the same time?!?
Thought that maybe him not giving me an answer to me waiting etc may have been his way of keeping me around and keeping the door open to come back if he wants.
Surely being a sag he would just tell me not to wait n that he doesn't want anything with me? And surely he wouldn't want to talk and keep me around etc when he sees me?!?
Do you think by keeping my distance and not texting or doing anything he will change his mind and want something with me eventually or not?!?

Told him that I will completely walk away from him if he couldn't see anything with me down the line - surely if he didnt want anything with me he would just tell me!
Something's telling me he's trying to keep me around and interested incase he wants to come back!!!

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Being disengenuous will get you friend zoned or put in "not to commit to" status in a hurry. Yeah, we'll be your friend. Chill with you, go out, talk on the phone etc. Some of us will even sleep and date you...but it'll be friends with benefits. This is because we like you and are waiting for you or things to change to give us the green light to commit. Sadly, some of us don't commit even when you do change because of who you were has convinced us that's the true you and will come back. Some of us simply don't believe in commitment at all but want the comfort of a relationship...but that's bigger than a sag male. It never ceases to amaze me the little stuff women try to pull. They want your heart all the while not demonstrating that they can take care of it. Our logic is simple and most of the time just and fair. If you'll be dishonest and untruthful about the little things...how can I trust you when it matters most? If I can't trust you with a dollar, I'm not going to trust you with 10. We wont say anything to you because we're aware that most people know exactly what they're doing and the truth brings light and theyll do anything to protect the image of themselves they've created. So, we keep it moving.

what if the roles were switched. What if the sag male is the untrustworthy? See I'm not about games and, I'm very open and honest. I put my cards on the table and see how he played the game. My sag went MIA on me and why I have no clue? You say that you guys value trust, honesty and communication for a relationship to work. When the woman is giving all of that and more why do you guys pull away without any explanation as.to why. Answer me that please. Especially when the man clearly says he's lookinf for a relationship.I was very hesitant to let this man into my life, but he persisted in wanting to be a part of it. I let him in and now I'm left wondering why.

I'll address your first question. Turn it on yourself. Would you want someone to continue to chase you after you've told them you didn't want a relationship? Contrary to popular belief but sometimes no means no! The dude hasn't contacted you at all. He keeping up that boundary so that you and he won't get hurt. Yes, he has some feeling but we're honest in one way or another. His displaying jealousy is simply him being overt about what others hold in. At tats end of the day, he still sticks to he's not ready.

Let's play devils advocate for a second and say he is trying to keep you around in case he "changes his mind." Why would you want someone who plays games like that?? Seriously! Either way it goes back to the fundamental truth...he's not ready! In this scenario he's not treating you right from the get go but you'll overlook an obvious deal breaker because you want him and wasn't to change him. We can rehash theories if what's going on all day. Talk about his Venus conjuncts Timbuktu all we want...the dude ain't ready and isn't serious at the least. I'm just trying to save you some heartache.

Did you read correctly the guy told me he was ready for a relationship. He clearly told me he wanted one. Im not sure if your post was referrimg to what I wrote?

@Moodz: I apologize. It wasn't directed at you but BCJ.

My man contacted me yesterday we exchanged texts all day an I decided to call him in the evening! We spoke heart to heart for a gud 30min! I tried to explain my behaviour an how I was feeling he listened to me carefully! We decided we were going to meet in the following few days ! Now I wanna ask wats the best way to apologise to a sag and do I have any chance to get back with him — He didn't wana talk abt our break up for the last 3weeks untill yesterday , is it a gud sign ?

Posted by Thuwaiba
My man contacted me yesterday we exchanged texts all day an I decided to call him in the evening! We spoke heart to heart for a gud 30min! I tried to explain my behaviour an how I was feeling he listened to me carefully! We decided we were going to meet in the following few days ! Now I wanna ask wats the best way to apologise to a sag and do I have any chance to get back with him — He didn't wana talk abt our break up for the last 3weeks untill yesterday , is it a gud sign ?

Its a positive move in a good direction and only time will tell if it was a good ideas, have a heart to heart face to face talk...no sex

No sex = snoozefest

Posted by DMV
No sex = snoozefest

_—

Omg.

I take back everything I said about no Sex. I will never mention it again.

He flew in to see me this week and I might have to call out tomorrow. Cold compressions and a jacuzzi tub later and I'm still sore. Never ever will I bring this subject up to to him. .. that's a promise. Something about me talking a lot of Shit and well I better be ready. Thanks for all the great advice but that man took my breath away. I'm just gonna sit In the corner and lay low for awhile.

Posted by coldwater
Omg.

I take back everything I said about no Sex. I will never mention it again.

He flew in to see me this week and I might have to call out tomorrow. Cold compressions and a jacuzzi tub later and I'm still sore. Never ever will I bring this subject up to to him. .. that's a promise. Something about me talking a lot of Shit and well I better be ready. Thanks for all the great advice but that man took my breath away. I'm just gonna sit In the corner and lay low for awhile.

Lmao! Yup, we've got skills. Underneath that awkwardness and jovial nature lies a sexual beast. Remember, we are half horse _??

Well....

Yeah I called in today. Just laying in bed aching. He texted me and I I told him I stayed home today. Had the gall to ask why I missed work. He knows good and well why. I told him I feel like I've been hit by a train and then the local city bus and the passenger car after that. I need some Tylenol. I admit I was getting a little nervous when he said I hope u ready. I trIed to be nice but I guess he wasn't having it. He said something about making all my dreams come true and having the sex I always wanted. ....

If I was in the next room I'd have demanded my money back. I know they can't have gotten any rest.

The only soft part of this story is I see how he felt about me. He wrapped me in his arms and we fell asleep like that. We had an awesome time. He was into me and I him. And outside the hotel he treated me like a total princess. He took care of everything.

Inside the room, I have to admit he ruled.