Need Advise - Scorpio Husband Is A Compulsive Liar

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

I mean he could play penny stocks until he sharpens his game with the stock market; $ 25K for one year in the US economy standards is 1 person's salary.

Posted by nicole1988

Thank you everyone for taking the time to read, understand, respond, and listen. I really value your feedback as I feel so low right now. I repeat - no one likes to be fooled or lied to - consistently. That's why I mentioned that this time I want to Stand my ground with this Scorpio man ( the libran in me wants resolve things quickly - but I too am just keeping silent this time around). I want HIM to suggest a resolution. What do you all think? Will standing my ground make him realize where he's wrong? I am just give him his space and not saying a word.

That's the thing, scorpios don;'t respect someone who doesn't stand their ground, and it's a libra's nature to turn the cheek for many things to keep the peace (libras will explode if need be but every explosion you put them on the spot for is a notch against that relationship, due to disturbing their peace). It sounds like eventually this is going to go downhill relationship wise.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

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I need the birth years also

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

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Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

It might be real easy going now, because he's so secretive, who knows what else he's not saying that eventually he might blow the cover off as an issue later on.

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It might be real easy going now, because he's so secretive, who knows what else he's not saying that eventually he might blow the cover off as an issue later on.

Do I confront him again or just keep quiet and let him approach me?

I feel when my parents talk to him it has an impact, as he is respectful towards them. Should I add my parents and him on a whatsapp group and share how I feel - pretty much what I initially wrote on this thread. He knows my parents know. Ours was an arranged marriage. I just want to get the point across - that stop lying and fooling. Do you think this will anger the scorpio? Exposing him and his lies in the open?

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Here's the thing. First off, your culture does arranged marriages. Do they frown upon divorce? Will you be thrown into obscurity? By asking this I'm just examining all possibilities..

Secondly, here's the thing. You have to think about what qualities you absolutely need in a relationship as opposed to luxury qualities. If transparency regarding joint finances is a necessity, then express it family meeting style , over the internet or in person. Let your parents see how you tell him, so he can't turn it around and shame you should a divorce happen. Have witnesses to the conversation. **Also, scorpios admire someone who speaks their mind. Again, if the worse case scenario happens, he can't say, "all you had to do was let me knowhow you felt,"as a comeback to make you feel bad. Revenge is a hallmark quality of theirs whether they deserved the initial hit or not. Most scorpios really don't play fair in relationships, which is why many avoid them to begin with. Hypocrisy is something you might have to learn to accept. But in the long run, **can the you twenty years from now really respect someone like that?

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He doesn’t like to be told what to do, but he does tell me and try to control my finances.

Your husband sounds like an idiot, and I know how that feels....I too am married to a stock market fiend who also has lost more money to the market than I’d like to admit here.

But your spouse seems to be addicted more to the gamble than the art of investment. I’ve seen this too often in people that become more invested in the feeling of risking it in the market than the fruits of the work.



We’ve had some issues regarding investments and after a few arguments, we came together with an agreement in order for us to live peacefully.



We now have a 100% disclosure agreement regarding finances. My portfolio is healthier than his and he often comes to me for advice, and we discuss which actions to take together. I can’t count how often my advice has literally saved his ass, and it took a while for him to trust my ethics but he’s pretty tame now.

How we make it work:

- We agree on initial investment amounts for any move we’re making. I keep track of everything in a shared excel chart.

- We discuss options when to sell, when to buy, what we’re putting puts on etc. There needs to be an underlying understanding that there will be losses and you can’t react emotional for every loss.

- If were not agreeing on a specific move the other wants to make, that partner is allowed to do the move on their own but with a limited set amount of money.

All gains and losses must be disclosed the day of. We always set a stop loss - and you can calculate this based on how much risk you choose to take.

Saving for security and a future should be something you both do. Setting principles and agreements needs to be done or you’re never going to work through this.

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It might be real easy going now, because he's so secretive, who knows what else he's not saying that eventually he might blow the cover off as an issue later on.

Do I confront him again or just keep quiet and let him approach me?

I feel when my parents talk to him it has an impact, as he is respectful towards them. Should I add my parents and him on a whatsapp group and share how I feel - pretty much what I initially wrote on this thread. He knows my parents know. Ours was an arranged marriage. I just want to get the point across - that stop lying and fooling. Do you think this will anger the scorpio? Exposing him and his lies in the open?

Here's the thing. Fist off, you in a culture that does arranged marriages. Do they drown upon divorce? Will you be thrown into obscurity? By asking this I'm just examining all possibilities..

Secondly, here's the thing. You have to think about what qualities you absolutely need in a relationship as opposed to luxury qualities. If transparency regarding joint finances is a necessity, then express it family meeting style , over the internet or in person. Let your parents see how you tell him, so he can't turn it around and shame you should a divorce happen. Have witnesses to the conversation.

Divorce is not really a taboo in my culture anymore. It also depends on the family to belong to. I come from a very modern family where Divorce is no longer a taboo, as there have been divorces in my family (my parents aren't divorced). He belongs to a traditional family where Divorce is a very big deal and a taboo. I know he wouldn't want a divorce unless I am just evil or disrespecting his parents.

Honestly, I don't even want him to feel that I am suggesting or threatening divorce because thats not what I want. I do love him and I think we have a beautiful marriage, but its just this component that's messed up.

I want to know by initiating a family style conversation - will he feel I am trying to intimidate, expose or threaten him? If so, I would never do it.

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Money matters are not an emotional issue, it's more of a joint responsibility so he shouldn't feel threatened. You'll be fine. Scorpios feel threatened when they love you and you play with their emotions. This is not emotional in any sense of the word. The only way he's going to respect you, and know that lying to you is not an acceptable solution e v e r, is by you saying it. Don't use the word "lie," say "going forward, everything money-related needs to be transparent between us. I want all money matters to be a joint responsibility between us both." Don't ask him if he's clear on that (he'll feel like you're talking down to him trust me). If he doesn't say anything after delivering that statement, say, "is there anything you feel you need to say?" and then just wrap it up.

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It might be real easy going now, because he's so secretive, who knows what else he's not saying that eventually he might blow the cover off as an issue later on.

Do I confront him again or just keep quiet and let him approach me?

I feel when my parents talk to him it has an impact, as he is respectful towards them. Should I add my parents and him on a whatsapp group and share how I feel - pretty much what I initially wrote on this thread. He knows my parents know. Ours was an arranged marriage. I just want to get the point across - that stop lying and fooling. Do you think this will anger the scorpio? Exposing him and his lies in the open?

Here's the thing. Fist off, you in a culture that does arranged marriages. Do they drown upon divorce? Will you be thrown into obscurity? By asking this I'm just examining all possibilities..

Secondly, here's the thing. You have to think about what qualities you absolutely need in a relationship as opposed to luxury qualities. If transparency regarding joint finances is a necessity, then express it family meeting style , over the internet or in person. Let your parents see how you tell him, so he can't turn it around and shame you should a divorce happen. Have witnesses to the conversation.

Divorce is not really a taboo in my culture anymore. It also depends on the family to belong to. I come from a very modern family where Divorce is no longer a taboo, as there have been divorces in my family (my parents aren't divorced). He belongs to a traditional family where Divorce is a very big deal and a taboo. I know he wouldn't want a divorce unless I am just evil or disrespecting his parents.

Honestly, I don't even want him to feel that I am suggesting or threatening divorce because thats not what I want. I do love him and I think we have a beautiful marriage, but its just this component that's messed up.

I want to know by initiating a family style conversation - will he feel I am trying to intimidate, expose or threaten him? If so, I would never do it.

Money matters are not an emotional issue, it's more of a joint responsibility so he shouldn't feel threatened. You'll be fine. Scorpios feel threatened when they love you and you play with their emotions. This is not emotional in any sense of the word. The only way he's going to respect you, and know that lying to you is not an acceptable solution e v e r, is by you saying it. Don't use the word "lie," say "going forward, everything money-related needs to be transparent between us. I want all money matters to be a joint responsibility between us both." Don't ask him if he's clear on that (he'll feel like you're talking down to him trust me). If he doesn't say anything after delivering that statement, say, "is there anything you feel you need to say?" and then just wrap it up.

Thank you, so no involving my parents? I just talk to him directly...

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Reread what I wrote. Yes--I'd involve the parents. I'd tell them to stay quiet and just to listen.

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It might be real easy going now, because he's so secretive, who knows what else he's not saying that eventually he might blow the cover off as an issue later on.

Do I confront him again or just keep quiet and let him approach me?

I feel when my parents talk to him it has an impact, as he is respectful towards them. Should I add my parents and him on a whatsapp group and share how I feel - pretty much what I initially wrote on this thread. He knows my parents know. Ours was an arranged marriage. I just want to get the point across - that stop lying and fooling. Do you think this will anger the scorpio? Exposing him and his lies in the open?

Here's the thing. Fist off, you in a culture that does arranged marriages. Do they drown upon divorce? Will you be thrown into obscurity? By asking this I'm just examining all possibilities..

Secondly, here's the thing. You have to think about what qualities you absolutely need in a relationship as opposed to luxury qualities. If transparency regarding joint finances is a necessity, then express it family meeting style , over the internet or in person. Let your parents see how you tell him, so he can't turn it around and shame you should a divorce happen. Have witnesses to the conversation.

Divorce is not really a taboo in my culture anymore. It also depends on the family to belong to. I come from a very modern family where Divorce is no longer a taboo, as there have been divorces in my family (my parents aren't divorced). He belongs to a traditional family where Divorce is a very big deal and a taboo. I know he wouldn't want a divorce unless I am just evil or disrespecting his parents.

Honestly, I don't even want him to feel that I am suggesting or threatening divorce because thats not what I want. I do love him and I think we have a beautiful marriage, but its just this component that's messed up.

I want to know by initiating a family style conversation - will he feel I am trying to intimidate, expose or threaten him? If so, I would never do it.

Money matters are not an emotional issue, it's more of a joint responsibility so he shouldn't feel threatened. You'll be fine. Scorpios feel threatened when they love you and you play with their emotions. This is not emotional in any sense of the word. The only way he's going to respect you, and know that lying to you is not an acceptable solution e v e r, is by you saying it. Don't use the word "lie," say "going forward, everything money-related needs to be transparent between us. I want all money matters to be a joint responsibility between us both." Don't ask him if he's clear on that (he'll feel like you're talking down to him trust me). If he doesn't say anything after delivering that statement, say, "is there anything you feel you need to say?" and then just wrap it up.

Thank you, so no involving my parents? I just talk to him directly...

Reread what I wrote. Yes--I'd involve the parents. I'd tell them to stay quiet and just to listen.

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Thank you very much. Appreciate all your advise.

When you discuss this, have you asked if you can take 100k without asking him and go buy a car or go to vegas and put it on a craps table? I promise he would have a problem with it.

My ex had major gambling issues before we married, it was one of those red flags I didn't see clearly and thought since I found out all the bad (before) he would have a clean slate to work with. Deceptive people are just that, he needs to want to change this for your marriage and himself. I wouldn't trust that man if he can lie to your face over and over he will do it for anything.

I'm curious what are his other placements?

Posted by nicole1988

This is the first time in my 5 year marriage that I am taking such a strong stance because I feel ENOUGH NOW. If we want to have kids then this behavior is not acceptable. It will just harm our marriage, which actually is great except for this part. 😢

I would not have children with this man. He’s a liar and you cannot trust him.

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You're not wrong. Scorpios are bad with money. His results "losses" should tell you everything.

Whenever there are problems like that with money in a marriage, then there are problems in a marriage. You can take that statement to the bank. In a marriage, money has to be the most transparent thing ever. People and money cause some crazy emotions, which will destroy marriage. The fact you talk to him about divorce is a proof of that. You guys got way too far already. He needs to understand what he is doing wrong, because he is actually hurting himself.

One more, get rid of financial adviser.

Is Bill Gates bad with money too? He is a Scorpio after all.

Sadly, Scorpio placements can indicate duplicity. The Scorpion hides itself from others and can become almost invisible...

I am Scorpio dominant and have met many people in my life who have lead double lives and either have Scorpio sun or Moon and sometimes Venus....

Leo sun/Scorpio moon woman lead a double life whilst her husband worked away...she had three, maybe four affairs

Scorpio sun/Scorpio moon and Venus woman had a 12 year long affair whilst married

Aqua sun/Scorpio moon man kept up a gambling addiction and lost everything inc his long term partner.. He went for counselling...didn't work

Aqua sun/Scorpio man was sleeping with another woman whilst being in a rship with a Pisces woman and then before marrying another woman was sexting the Pisces

Aries sun/Scorpio moon man lied to his family about having a gf....he lived a double life

Scorpio sun/Aqua moon woman lead a double life, gambled and had numerous affairs behind her husband's back

To say Scorpio energy can't be deceitful is to be in denial...

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I do believe he feels guilty and embarrassed, hence he feels the need to hide it. However, when he doesn’t want to admit or acknowledge this fact.

Have your tried seeking financial/marital advice? It seems some professional help might help.

Not yet, I am planning to. Pretty sure he won’t e open to it.

How does he suggests you solve the problems you have then? 5 years is quite some time and if you both still love each other I think you can make it work if you both put in the effort but he needs to do it too otherwise it won't.

I agree, therefore this time I am going to just remain silent till he is ready to talk and suggest a solution. I don’t always want to be the one suggesting solutions. He needs to take charge here, as this is a repetitive pattern on his end. I am hoping my silent treatment will make him realize how upset I am and he will at least come and talk to me. I generally don’t give the silent treatment and always make the first move.

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Would you expect a Heroin addict walk up to his wife and say: "Okay here is how I am gonna" guit. No. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. You need advice on how to handle addicts, this is just as serious as substance abuse.

How could he lose 100K in 3-5 years, but be debt free and also maintain a joint account while you were seemingly happy with his contribution? He must be earning a lot, then.

If you want to save for the future, you need two joint accounts, not one. One for paying bills and meals. Another one for savings, and the best way to get a return from it in years to come, is by buying stock in good and very good companies. Google apple/alphabet/amazon share price. They are now in free downfall due to coronavirus, from a huge peak a few months ago, so you may want to wait a few weeks/months to stabilize before buying. You need to learn by reading about the stock market, and fast!

What he was doing was not investing, but gambling. This is an addiction, and you need to be able to keep track of it, since he may get into debt in the future.

Previous "lying" is the least of your worries now. All gambles are in denial. Please do not use your energy screaming about it. Of course he "earned less", if you consider the loss he was making!!!! You should have behaved like an adult and taken your part of responsibility for filling in tax forms every f-king year, as a minimum.

Now you've lost your innocence...it's not too late to learn and take a firm stance, if you want to save your marriage and your finances.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

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She’s an Aries and he’s a Capricorn.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

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**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

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Yeah, but WHERE was she born?

I know this is totally unrelated but how do we add a new topic in here. Can't figure it out at all.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Yeah, but WHERE was she born?

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Look, at closest range, she is an Aries moon at 00 degrees. She is still an Aries moon—not a Taurus moon.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Yeah, but WHERE was she born?

Look, at closest range, she is an Aries moon at 00 degrees. She is still an Aries moon—not a Taurus moon.

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Even if she was born in India, for example?

Wanting to keep some of his funds separate is not the issue here.

Him LYING to you and HIDING money from you is a huge problem. I’d assume he has more than a stock addiction, like an escort addition or secret family he’s hiding from you by removing the paper trail. But I tend to have a pessimist/glass half full view.

Without honesty the relationship deteriorates quickly.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Yeah, but WHERE was she born?

Look, at closest range, she is an Aries moon at 00 degrees. She is still an Aries moon—not a Taurus moon.

Even if she was born in India, for example?

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Yes, even if she was born in India.

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

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And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

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It’s an illness ... an addiction, I’ve lived with it but he refused to get help. I lost a home. Gambling is as bad as a drug or alcohol problem, if not worse.

....the good thing for me was i took my mother’s advice and didn’t have a joint account with the gambling man. I was also wise enough not to have a child with him...

I’d never have a joint account with anyone.

Wasn’t going to mention this, but since it’s already been mentioned, I’ll go ahead say that I think it’s beyond him hiding money as well.

First thought I had was he’s probably taking care of another woman, child or family.

Mainly because just before you two married you found out he was in love with another woman.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Oct. 19 not 16. I m Taurus moon

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In your original posting, you accidentally put Oct. 16 (see below):

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Oct. 19 not 16. I m Taurus moon

In your original posting, you accidentally put Oct. 16 (see below):

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

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Now that I'm provided with your accurate birthday, that changes a lot; you're born on the cusp of libra-scorpio; you're more than equipped to handle his sun sign. Your sun signs can work very well together; your moon is in opposition to his sun, creating a constant attraction/repulsion cycle between you two. But your two moons are in harmony as earth signs; that may help even out the sun/moon opposition (your Taurus moon to his scorpio moon) more towards your favor whenever differences of opinions come up.

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Oh and actually, the reason why it doesn't make me angry and sets off alarm bells about the guy is because I'd be wiser than to argue about it. Its just wise to do so which is why I first suggested she keeps a separate account for herself but not let him borrow money from her or let her pay more. She needs to look after herself. He's not gonna change overnight. He's been like that for 5 years. I wouldn't marry someone like that. More so, I wouldn't marry someone I don't know.

It could be an addiction. It could be that he thinks he will eventually crack it and make more. It could be that he's overprotective of his money so he didn't tell her or it could be that he was embarrassed. Who knows? How do you trace money lost in stocks? Does it mean he showed her his stock market account? Does he do day trading? Or did he invest in long term stocks which prices fell off in the last 3 years hence the loss of 100K+? I don't think we have those details yet? Or maybe I missed it. But its important to understand if he was actually gambling or not no? But in general, any investment is a gamble anyway. You can't control someone who wants to gamble or invest. However you wanna call it. You can manage the risk being with someone like that. For one, they can talk about his set budget for it. He can continue to do it without having to lie to her and potentially manage his losses as well. But just pointing out that he's lying, he's not doing the right thing etc. Well everyone pointed it out. But no one actually pointed out a solution including you. They can talk. But what did she have to say? She didn't wanna lose the marriage but he's not gonna change in a blink of an eye. There's no point in arguing about it.

Yes, I am sure he thinks he can eventually crack it. He does day trading. No he never showed me his account. Because I reviewed the tax that was being filed I found this information. I was adamant I want to review the taxes this time. He has always kept me away from it. He had no choice but to let me review it because he knew I wasn’t going to let it go.

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Its not about stocks or shares but his addiction and if he doesn’t heal it he will always go behind your back and you will always be married to a liar. Is that how you want to live?

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Oct. 19 not 16. I m Taurus moon

In your original posting, you accidentally put Oct. 16 (see below):

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Now that I'm provided with your accurate birthday, that changes a lot; you're born on the cusp of libra-scorpio; more than equipped to handle his sun sign. Your sun signs can work very well together; your moon is in opposition to his sun creates a constant attraction/repulsion cycle between you two. But your two moons are in harmony as earth signs; that may help even out the sun/moon opposition (your Taurus moon to his scorpio moon) more towards your favor whenever differences of opinions come up.

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Thank you, isn’t he a Capricorn moon? You mentioned Scorpio moon in your previous post.

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

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Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Oct. 19 not 16. I m Taurus moon

In your original posting, you accidentally put Oct. 16 (see below):

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Now that I'm provided with your accurate birthday, that changes a lot; you're born on the cusp of libra-scorpio; more than equipped to handle his sun sign. Your sun signs can work very well together; your moon is in opposition to his sun creates a constant attraction/repulsion cycle between you two. But your two moons are in harmony as earth signs; that may help even out the sun/moon opposition (your Taurus moon to his scorpio moon) more towards your favor whenever differences of opinions come up.

Thank you, isn’t he a Capricorn moon? You mentioned Scorpio moon in your previous post.

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Oct. 19 not 16. I m Taurus moon

In your original posting, you accidentally put Oct. 16 (see below):

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Now that I'm provided with your accurate birthday, that changes a lot; you're born on the cusp of libra-scorpio; more than equipped to handle his sun sign. Your sun signs can work very well together; your moon is in opposition to his sun creates a constant attraction/repulsion cycle between you two. But your two moons are in harmony as earth signs; that may help even out the sun/moon opposition (your Taurus moon to his scorpio moon) more towards your favor whenever differences of opinions come up.

Thank you, isn’t he a Capricorn moon? You mentioned Scorpio moon in your previous post.

Where did I say scorpio moon; please reference the post.

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

Wells since you wanna point that out to prove a point, yes. My husband lies about the price of video games that he buys. Big deal right? I bet women like you would argue with a man about that to assume full control. 🙂 I lie too. You just don't have a clue what about 🙂 what do you lie about? 😋

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Oh and actually, the reason why it doesn't make me angry and sets off alarm bells about the guy is because I'd be wiser than to argue about it. Its just wise to do so which is why I first suggested she keeps a separate account for herself but not let him borrow money from her or let her pay more. She needs to look after herself. He's not gonna change overnight. He's been like that for 5 years. I wouldn't marry someone like that. More so, I wouldn't marry someone I don't know.

It could be an addiction. It could be that he thinks he will eventually crack it and make more. It could be that he's overprotective of his money so he didn't tell her or it could be that he was embarrassed. Who knows? How do you trace money lost in stocks? Does it mean he showed her his stock market account? Does he do day trading? Or did he invest in long term stocks which prices fell off in the last 3 years hence the loss of 100K+? I don't think we have those details yet? Or maybe I missed it. But its important to understand if he was actually gambling or not no? But in general, any investment is a gamble anyway. You can't control someone who wants to gamble or invest. However you wanna call it. You can manage the risk being with someone like that. For one, they can talk about his set budget for it. He can continue to do it without having to lie to her and potentially manage his losses as well. But just pointing out that he's lying, he's not doing the right thing etc. Well everyone pointed it out. But no one actually pointed out a solution including you. They can talk. But what did she have to say? She didn't wanna lose the marriage but he's not gonna change in a blink of an eye. There's no point in arguing about it.

Yes, I am sure he thinks he can eventually crack it. He does day trading. No he never showed me his account. Because I reviewed the tax that was being filed I found this information. I was adamant I want to review the taxes this time. He has always kept me away from it. He had no choice but to let me review it because he knew I wasn’t going to let it go.

Its not about stocks or shares but his addiction and if he doesn’t heal it he will always go behind your back and you will always be married to a liar. Is that how you want to live?

Not at all. I don’t think he’s justified in saying I’m paying the mortgage and bills so it’s ok for me have $ 100k+ of losses in the last 3 years. That’s just irresponsible behavior which he is trying to justify, and if he really thought there is nothing wrong with it then he wouldn’t be continuously lying and hiding stuff. Oh my god he’s a true Scorpio! He knows it’s an addiction, he knows he lying, but he will not acknowledge it. He will keep getting defensive, making more lies up and go silent.

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So what are you going to do?

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

Oh. And what do you propose she tells him BTW? After all, since my response triggered you, you must have a brighter idea than mine? Instead of trolling me, why not give the Op your suggestion? I'm not the one asking for advice anyway. You don't need to question me. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

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We are very different people.

Your content to be lied to in your relationships and are advising the op to suck it up and be the same. I disagree. Simple as that.

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

Wells since you wanna point that out to prove a point, yes. My husband lies about the price of video games that he buys. Big deal right? I bet women like you would argue with a man about that to assume full control. 🙂 I lie too. You just don't have a clue what about 🙂 what do you lie about? 😋

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I know what you lie about. I knew early on, but I won’t tell nobody. 🤫

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

Wells since you wanna point that out to prove a point, yes. My husband lies about the price of video games that he buys. Big deal right? I bet women like you would argue with a man about that to assume full control. 🙂 I lie too. You just don't have a clue what about 🙂 what do you lie about? 😋

I know what you lie about. I knew early on, but I won’t tell nobody. 🤫

Good girl! Lol Lady Neptune might pm you to ask she seems really interested in my life after all. Lol

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Oh and actually, the reason why it doesn't make me angry and sets off alarm bells about the guy is because I'd be wiser than to argue about it. Its just wise to do so which is why I first suggested she keeps a separate account for herself but not let him borrow money from her or let her pay more. She needs to look after herself. He's not gonna change overnight. He's been like that for 5 years. I wouldn't marry someone like that. More so, I wouldn't marry someone I don't know.

It could be an addiction. It could be that he thinks he will eventually crack it and make more. It could be that he's overprotective of his money so he didn't tell her or it could be that he was embarrassed. Who knows? How do you trace money lost in stocks? Does it mean he showed her his stock market account? Does he do day trading? Or did he invest in long term stocks which prices fell off in the last 3 years hence the loss of 100K+? I don't think we have those details yet? Or maybe I missed it. But its important to understand if he was actually gambling or not no? But in general, any investment is a gamble anyway. You can't control someone who wants to gamble or invest. However you wanna call it. You can manage the risk being with someone like that. For one, they can talk about his set budget for it. He can continue to do it without having to lie to her and potentially manage his losses as well. But just pointing out that he's lying, he's not doing the right thing etc. Well everyone pointed it out. But no one actually pointed out a solution including you. They can talk. But what did she have to say? She didn't wanna lose the marriage but he's not gonna change in a blink of an eye. There's no point in arguing about it.

Yes, I am sure he thinks he can eventually crack it. He does day trading. No he never showed me his account. Because I reviewed the tax that was being filed I found this information. I was adamant I want to review the taxes this time. He has always kept me away from it. He had no choice but to let me review it because he knew I wasn’t going to let it go.

Its not about stocks or shares but his addiction and if he doesn’t heal it he will always go behind your back and you will always be married to a liar. Is that how you want to live?

Not at all. I don’t think he’s justified in saying I’m paying the mortgage and bills so it’s ok for me have $ 100k+ of losses in the last 3 years. That’s just irresponsible behavior which he is trying to justify, and if he really thought there is nothing wrong with it then he wouldn’t be continuously lying and hiding stuff. Oh my god he’s a true Scorpio! He knows it’s an addiction, he knows he lying, but he will not acknowledge it. He will keep getting defensive, making more lies up and go silent.

He is the shadow side of Scorpio

So what are you going to do?

I know for a fact that involving my parents is going to have a serious impact on him. Till now it’s just words to him when I say “my parents also can see you are lying to me”. But I do feel involving them will make him even more embarrassed and out of pressure he might listen and not do it again. But he will always harbor resentment that I kind of threatened him and he will avoid meeting my parents. I am trying to decide is this really the right path?

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He gave you the run around for his paystubs (fact) even lied about it (fact) only for you to once after obtaining them, find out he had a secret checking account (fact) and to learn that he's been burning around $ 25,000 (5 figures, not three or four) away choosing bad stock trade prospects (fact). He's hid taxpapers from you for years(fact). Scorpios tend to value honesty, but he's not giving honesty in return. Scorpio and libra are a bad match to begin with. Your egos aspire in two separate directions. Wondering a few things; how long you dated beforehand, and what both birthdates are. Eventually, scorpios prefer to be alone, whereas libras want someone to accompany them to surface-layered social gatherings almost everywhere. Most scorpios are happy, with like--a cat.

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Well, your charts say nothing spectacular. Your sun signs aren't compatible, your moon signs are not compatible, now both mercuries (communication style s) are in scorpio; you're both blunt and sharp to the point you can really hurt feelings. Neither mars sign is compatible, **but your venus signs--his venus is libra, conjunct your sun and your venus is scorpio--conjunct his sun. That's one long-range soulmate connection, but it definitely isn't enough to stand on its own. On the contrary, that one splendid planetary double whammy has a lot of (not even just mediocre but) negative placements working against it. Your north and south nodes aren't aligned, which isn't trouble, but it isn't special either. The north south node stuff can be overlooked, but the personal planets have a lot working against them with regard to obtaining mutual understanding, especially later on in life when its less about looks and more about personality, and also now for when it comes to ironing out any problems. Your chinese zodiacs are excellent together. Your life path no.'s are also excellent together. All and all, I don't like delivering bad news, but I'd say though there's gonna be trouble..

What are their moon signs?

His moon is in Capricorn and Mine is in Taurus

Hm I dont know why @mikeNYNYC said your moon sign weren't compatible since you're both earth moons but I do think there's some truth to it. Taurus moons don't place that much value in material things but cap moons do. They have the opposite mentality when it comes to money's worth.

I think as a libra/taurus you might want to work things out and try to fix things in the relationship longer than you should. Taurus moon can be stubborn but sometimes in a way that doesn't benefit them in the long run. He needs to meet you half the way or want to fix it too or it's just doomed for failure.

**Uhm, she’s an Aires Moon, not a Taurus Moon. She’s born Oct 16, 1986. Whether she’s born 12am or 11:59pm, she’s an Aries Moon btw 3 to 15 degrees.

Oct. 19 not 16. I m Taurus moon

In your original posting, you accidentally put Oct. 16 (see below):

We never dated. We spoke online for a few months and then got married. It was an arrange marriage.

My birthday - Oct. 16

His Birthday - Nov. 10

I need the birth years also

I am 1986 Oct. and he is 1983 Nov.

Now that I'm provided with your accurate birthday, that changes a lot; you're born on the cusp of libra-scorpio; more than equipped to handle his sun sign. Your sun signs can work very well together; your moon is in opposition to his sun creates a constant attraction/repulsion cycle between you two. But your two moons are in harmony as earth signs; that may help even out the sun/moon opposition (your Taurus moon to his scorpio moon) more towards your favor whenever differences of opinions come up.

Thank you, isn’t he a Capricorn moon? You mentioned Scorpio moon in your previous post.

Where did I say scorpio moon; please reference the post.

“But your two moons are in harmony as earth signs; that may help even out the sun/moon opposition (your Taurus moon to his scorpio moon) more towards your favor whenever differences of opinions come up. “

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Ah, now that last post I screwed up my words, because of the constant back n forth going on w everyone. I meant to say, “your Taurus moon to his Scorpio sun”

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

Oh. And what do you propose she tells him BTW? After all, since my response triggered you, you must have a brighter idea than mine? Instead of trolling me, why not give the Op your suggestion? I'm not the one asking for advice anyway. You don't need to question me. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

We are very different people.

Your content to be lied to in your relationships and are advising the op to suck it up and be the same. I disagree. Simple as that.

Who says I'm content about being lied to? Your assumption. Doesn't mean it's the reality. Lol do you even know me at all? Nope. You know only what I share on dxp. 🙂 you say you're not content being lied to. How do I know you're telling the truth? Nope. I dunno that either. She said she didn't want a divorce. If you're listening to the Op than pushing your ideas without hearing her out, then you'd know. She's asking how to deal with it. You disagree with me. I get that. But I wasn't talking to you. Talk to her. Give HER your suggestions. Not me. Like I said, iwas sharing a different POV. I don't see anything wrong with that. So why are you attacking me? I don't question the ideas you shared with her. Why are you questioning mine? It's just odd. It's not my post is it? I'm not the one asking for help. So I don't get your reasoning behind your responses to me.

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The irony of getting the ‘you don’t know me’ spiel right after you gave me the ‘women like you’ diatribe

You asked me what my advice to the op is.

I’m answering.

My advice is to disregard your advice.

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

Oh. And what do you propose she tells him BTW? After all, since my response triggered you, you must have a brighter idea than mine? Instead of trolling me, why not give the Op your suggestion? I'm not the one asking for advice anyway. You don't need to question me. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

We are very different people.

Your content to be lied to in your relationships and are advising the op to suck it up and be the same. I disagree. Simple as that.

Who says I'm content about being lied to? Your assumption. Doesn't mean it's the reality. Lol do you even know me at all? Nope. You know only what I share on dxp. 🙂 you say you're not content being lied to. How do I know you're telling the truth? Nope. I dunno that either. She said she didn't want a divorce. If you're listening to the Op than pushing your ideas without hearing her out, then you'd know. She's asking how to deal with it. You disagree with me. I get that. But I wasn't talking to you. Talk to her. Give HER your suggestions. Not me. Like I said, iwas sharing a different POV. I don't see anything wrong with that. So why are you attacking me? I don't question the ideas you shared with her. Why are you questioning mine? It's just odd. It's not my post is it? I'm not the one asking for help. So I don't get your reasoning behind your responses to me.

The irony of getting the ‘you don’t know me’ spiel right after you gave me the ‘women like you’ diatribe

You asked me what my advice to the op is.

I’m answering.

My advice is to disregard your advice.

Why don't you tell her directly? Why tell me. Lol

You jumped to an assumption about me quite quickly: that I'm OK being lied to. That to me, her husband's lying is just a personality trait. I was returning the favor. 🙂 anyway, I really don't need to talk to you. You don't interest me as much. Reason why I rarely respond to your posts. Kthanksbye.

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I did tell her directly. She’s getting notifications for every post in her thread.

You act brand new.

Not everyone needs to agree with you. Don’t be so touchy. Work on that.

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Ok everyone, finally after giving it a lot of thought I have decided:

A) I will not involve my parents for now and call him out

B) I will stand my ground and continue to remain silent

C) Me always approaching him with a solution somewhere shows him she wants to make it work no matter what. THIS time he needs to show me he wants to make it work.

D) I am just going to keep silent and observe when does he finally say something. He hasn’t said a word since the last fight.

I gave you some solid advice on how to navigate investing as a couple. Investing isn’t a “sin” or “con”...you being scared says a lot.

I don’t think you acknowledged what I said, but you sure enjoyed repeating the same cycled cliche responses about being so strung.

IMO: you’re equally as slow as your spouse. This is most likely something you enjoy crying about.....because if you didn’t, you’d be finding a solution for yourself. Instead you’re taking an entitled position wherein your spouse is the sole person responsible to “change things” while you simply “observe”.

Good luck 😆

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We have a joint account and separate accounts too. We both put money in the joint account and have freedom to spend from our separate accounts, but he’s always trying to hide how much he makes maybe because he doesn’t want to contribute more to the joint account.

And he hides and tries to blatantly lie about money he makes or has lost. Even I spend, but there is a limit. It’s not like when he makes money in stocks he saves it. He increases the stakes and ends up loosing even more. Just him acknowledging that yes he feels he’s being irresponsible is fine with me. But he just lies and lies and gets defensive. Maybe because of guilt or embarrassment because he is a well educated man?

Do you contribute equal amounts in your joint account? If so, there's no need for him to put more even if he earns more. Unless it's something you have agreed upon before marriage. He's not lying out of guilt and embarrassment. He feels it's none of your business because he's done his responsibility and the rest is his money. He doesn't need to disclose or discuss with you. I think you have to cut him some slack unless he starts making you pay for more or stops paying the bills.

You’d raise kids with this guy?



Y’all fuking crazy

Well, I'm not married to her husband. I'm basically just letting her see another POV. It's really up to her. Me and my husband don't argue about money because we discussed it before marriage. We are the practical couple. No surprises. But seems she's married him without knowing some things. So she has to incorporate a wider understanding of his personality now than just arguing with him about it.

And the reason she ‘doesn’t know things’ is because he’s been lying to her 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I like how him lying and hiding money from her is, to you, just a personality trait.

Well, do you think everyone is honest? You're delusional to think he's an isolated case. Everyone lies. Just in different levels. She doesn't know things about him because she explained that it was an arranged marriage. They didn't have discussions about finances prior to marrying. It explains a lot.

Yes, I’m delusional in expecting my partner to keep things 100 with me.

And on that note, what does your husband lie to you about? Since ‘everyone lies’, right 🙃

Oh. And what do you propose she tells him BTW? After all, since my response triggered you, you must have a brighter idea than mine? Instead of trolling me, why not give the Op your suggestion? I'm not the one asking for advice anyway. You don't need to question me. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

We are very different people.

Your content to be lied to in your relationships and are advising the op to suck it up and be the same. I disagree. Simple as that.

Who says I'm content about being lied to? Your assumption. Doesn't mean it's the reality. Lol do you even know me at all? Nope. You know only what I share on dxp. 🙂 you say you're not content being lied to. How do I know you're telling the truth? Nope. I dunno that either. She said she didn't want a divorce. If you're listening to the Op than pushing your ideas without hearing her out, then you'd know. She's asking how to deal with it. You disagree with me. I get that. But I wasn't talking to you. Talk to her. Give HER your suggestions. Not me. Like I said, iwas sharing a different POV. I don't see anything wrong with that. So why are you attacking me? I don't question the ideas you shared with her. Why are you questioning mine? It's just odd. It's not my post is it? I'm not the one asking for help. So I don't get your reasoning behind your responses to me.

The irony of getting the ‘you don’t know me’ spiel right after you gave me the ‘women like you’ diatribe

You asked me what my advice to the op is.

I’m answering.

My advice is to disregard your advice.

Why don't you tell her directly? Why tell me. Lol

You jumped to an assumption about me quite quickly: that I'm OK being lied to. That to me, her husband's lying is just a personality trait. I was returning the favor. 🙂 anyway, I really don't need to talk to you. You don't interest me as much. Reason why I rarely respond to your posts. Kthanksbye.

I did tell her directly. She’s getting notifications for every post in her thread.

You act brand new.

Not everyone needs to agree with you. Don’t be so touchy. Work on that.

Are you that dense? When did I say I want everyone to agree with me? I was saying leave me be. My opinion isn't the same as everyone else. Why does it matter to you? Why does it affect you or bother you? You got issues. Geezus. You're actually the one getting touchy. I don't think I initiated this with you. But of course, you're gonna make it out that I'm the one with an issue. Honey, I don't talk to you because your opinions are yours. This isn't your thread or mine. So can you just stop? Don't give me your advise. I didn't ask for it. Go talk to someone else. I'm not interested in your POV. Maybe if there's a POV you have that's new and interesting to me, I might make some effort to talk to you. But really, whether you agree with me or not, it doesn't matter to me. Your opinions are too predictable. Bores me. So leave me alone. Like I seriously don't interact with you for a reason. Don't you get it?

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Ok now this is just getting redundant.

You responding to tell me how you will no longer respond 🙃

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How could he lose 100K in 3-5 years, but be debt free and also maintain a joint account while you were seemingly happy with his contribution? He must be earning a lot, then.

If you want to save for the future, you need two joint accounts, not one. One for paying bills and meals. Another one for savings, and the best way to get a return from it in years to come, is by buying stock in good and very good companies. Google apple/alphabet/amazon share price. They are now in free downfall due to coronavirus, from a huge peak a few months ago, so you may want to wait a few weeks/months to stabilize before buying. You need to learn by reading about the stock market, and fast!

What he was doing was not investing, but gambling. This is an addiction, and you need to be able to keep track of it, since he may get into debt in the future.

Previous "lying" is the least of your worries now. All gambles are in denial. Please do not use your energy screaming about it. Of course he "earned less", if you consider the loss he was making!!!! You should have behaved like an adult and taken your part of responsibility for filling in tax forms every f-king year, as a minimum.

Now you've lost your innocence...it's not too late to learn and take a firm stance, if you want to save your marriage and your finances.

He pays for our home mortgage, pays the bills, I pay for other household stuff. Then we put money in the joint account. I don’t earn as much as him. I believe he lies he earns less so that he doesn’t have to contribute more (maybe because he thinks it’s unfair as I am not earning as much as he does) and also so that he can satisfy his trading addiction.

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His Earnings=salary+stock trading balance. If his stock balance is negative, he DOES earn less. You should ask him "how much is your salary?" instead. If what he says does not much the payslip, then you could claim he lied!

By the way, he is not obliged to contribute more than you to a common savings account. If he is paying the mortgage on his own and the bills, is the house on his name or both of you? Otherwise it looks like he is contributing A LOT more than you. You are far too entitled!