After MONTHS of pain with my Scorpio Ex, REVENGE

Ah, Revenge is sweet!

First of all, thank you to everyone on this board, you guys all really helped me and I thank you so much.

I have been offered a permanent position here within my company in my hometown, which I have accepted. No more travel. I can finally have a life amongst my family and friends.

Now the fun stuff, MY REVENGE!!! It appears to me that he may have some regretts, I have been civil when I see him, make sure I look spectacular. I have been working out like a mad woman, more for my mental state of mind, however the physical benefits have been wonderful. The woman in me is loving, absolutely LOVING that it seems to make him a tad jealous when he sees me out. I will admit, I make darn sure I look like a freaken model,(well best I can anyway) when I go out. I purposley dress how he likes, and I must admit, I feel pretty good about how I am looking these days, he will be out with his friends, sometimes she is with them. I make sure one of my girls watch his reaction, stupid I know, but this has been fun. He squirms a bit, he called me the other night, kind of chewing me out for dancing! He said he didnt' know I could dance, then he said "I'm not the jealous type, you do what you want" then a few minutes later he is being all reminicent of our past, I said, "Yes, we did have alot of fun didn't we? Its too bad how it all fell apart, but you seem happy with her, and I am moving on too" he says "How about you and I go out to dinner tomorrow night?" I said I was busy. Keep in mind, this conversation was at like 1 in the morning, I would never accept a date from a drunk dial!!

He flat out says he hates the thought of me being with another man. He says he is not jealous, but I like to think he is.

So, did I stumble upon the achillies heel of a Scorpio man? Does it really bug him that I am out and about, with other men flirtting with me, asking me to dance, etc. etc. OR wishfull thinking on my part?

My question is this my Scorpio's - Could he really be jealous? I guess I need to know I am sticking it to him just a bit, I am not being all over these guys, not my style , (Virgo) but I am having fun. I love that it is maybe hurting him even if just a little.

What do you think? ( I know, I know very high school, but still, it has been fun, I have not gone looking for him, I just make sure in case I see him I look my best.

Of course he is jealous...his comments speak for themselves. My concern is how much energy you are putting into making him notice how hot you are....this is NOT letting go. Take it from one who has done that too many times. And you are still speaking to him...the cord isnt cut, love. Dont let that cord strangle you. Take care of and do you!! FOR YOU!

I'm not seeking revenge, revenge, like slashing tires, sleeping with his friends and that crap, I know it bothers him my being out, and available, I am not some tavern wench that grinds on guys, gets all hammererd and goes home with ransoms. He cheated on me, I dumped him and while I still love him, and he has Vern calling and texting like crazy since I got home, I can't ever trust him again.

I just want him to REGRET the hurt he caused me, I love knowing the thought of me with someone else bothers him. If even a smudge, but I wouldn't do it for the sake of ticking him off, I'm
No whore. He does know that. I love how when I am out he watches every move I make. I like how that is annoying her! All the hurt she put me through? To have me back in town rattles her.

I am well aware I am still in love, and will always love him. We were perfect, then he cheated when I was out of town. I can't trust. But now that I'm back? For good? I like how he seems to be regretting it. She is kind of vulgar, I actually kind of laughed when I saw what she wears. Pretty loud clothing, pretty loud mouth. He looked embarrassed. Thats when I left the club. He likes understated and elegant. I HAD to leave so I didn't laugh out loud. Immature of me? Oh yeah. I know. But it is nice to know my being here is freaking her out. I guess my heart needs these little things, if nothing else but to make me feel I'm worth something.

Most often a relationship with a Scorp, kinda goes like this: they'll somehow (un)willingly uncovering your weak spot and poke it with a stick (not fun). You crumble. They see you being weak, look at you fighting with that weakness, even poke some more. There's no mercy with a Scorpio. They're only into power. As soon as you get up, the scent of power brings them back. They become powerless facing your power. That's their drug.
Take the opportunity of meeting a Scorp to detach and observe exactly what it is they find as weak in you, since they are like sniffing doghounds. This is Pluto, neutral but challenging. Then look at Pluto's mythic bride, Persephone: a virgin picking flowers on a hilltop. You've gotta be very honest with yourself, to the core, to attract a Scorpio. No schemes, just honest and brave.
Don't hate the Scorp, look at your own wounds and see how the challenge got you on the other side in a stronger shape.

Sorry about the spelling, typing fast on a phone, Bethann I hope you get my idea. In the end it is all about how you've dealt with that part of yourself, not about him. Sure and certain, the same thing will happen to the women after you.

All I'm doing is living my life, if he shows up where I'm at, he shows up. It is comical. For sure. But what was not funny were the lies, and bullshit I suffered through, and the incredible pain and uncertainty I went through. I am not evil, i would never lie to anyone, or cheat or plan a truly mean thing to realy hurt someone. But it is giving me some small bits of "so there" when I do run into him, Ive always kept in shape and I know he likes the way I dress. As far as telling him, or spilling the beans? Nothing to spill. But for me? I am loving how annoyed she is, how pissy he gets when I don't answer my phone, I'm glad he hates me dancing, I'm glad he worries wondering if I went home with someone- hence the calls late at night, to SEE if inam alone, I'm
No fool. I'm well aware he would love nothing more than for me to sit home like a good little girl and wait for him to come around. NOT happening. I'm staying as busy as I can so I DON'T cave in. I CAN'T cave in. This man lied repeatedly to me. One of his buddies has called me a few times, to ask me out, I'm not going there. The last thing I need is more drama with him. When I start dating again, and I will, I will be at peace with this. For now? I look great, I feel great and I'm proud of me. I'll get over this. But in the meantime, I love how my dancing with another man pisses him off!! I think after what he did to me a few swift kicks his way are warranted. So if I am taking pleasure in my tiny little victories, so what. it's not like I planned some all our crazy ass stalking attack. Living well is the best revenge. I've got a great, great career, I have worked out and am proud of keeping fit, I can wear my 22 year old daughters clothes- not that I do, I would look idiotic, but HE lost ME! I also love how other men say that he was a fool to do what he did, Even his friends say that, not only to me, but they gave said it to him.

I have met a Judge. His wife died three years ago. We workout at the same gym, we have gone for coffee a few times and are going kind of getting to know each other. He knows I'm coming off for me a hurtful breakup. So who knows. Oh, he's a Taurus.

Reconstructing a Leo - you described him perfectly! Great insight.

LoL! My Virgo sister dated a Scorpio for years! He's actually the father of my niece. My sister put up with A WHOLE LOT fooling with him, but she won in the end. He's with someone else, but he even told his current girlfriend that if he has another child he'd want it to be with my sister, as if he'll have that opportunity again smh.

Scorpios are good about getting revenge, but you all know how to hit it where it hurts, probably even better than a Scorpio since you are much more observant of what he likes/dislikes and what ticks him off. Hopefully he's not a crazy Scorpio and get's too jealous, but my sister would get her Scorpio all the time, which made it a crazy relationship since he was a crazy Scorpio. It would ALWAYS be him in the wrong, but she'd subtly come back harder til he always ended up flying off the handle(crazy). They kind of both went down horribly in that relationship, but it's not like one has a huge edge over the other when it comes to revenge.

I'm sure your Scorpio is fuming inside, but continue to do you, however don't mess up your opportunity with your Taurus.

I hear what your all saying, I know it is childish to like how it irritates him, I know I need to move on, but I can't help that I like that he is not liking me home and available. I'm slowly getting it together, it's been hell. I know this is stupid my obsession with how I look, but I've worked very hard for it and I'm proud of it. I'm being very selfish right now and taking care of me first, I NEED to.

But I am coming out of the smoke. I go back to work full time the 1st of December. Then my pitty party must end, as I won't have time. Back to the real world. The past 6 weeks when I got home have been fraught with the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. I think I handled it ok. As far as revenge? to others it may not seem to revengeful, but to me? Like I said, minor victories add up. I like that. I didn't have to stoop to low tactics, and all that, taking care of ME was the best revenge. I could have sat around and cried and ate chocolates and that sterotypical melodrama, I didn't. I re painted rooms in my house, new comforters, new color pallet in the bathrooms, bought a new car, worked out, went out with friends, and in typical Virgo fashion, cleaned every inch of my house, plus I had some landscaping done.....in the yard, the other? Well, I keep up. I am moving on. And it sucks. But my revenge? He hates that I am out and available. I LOVE that it annoys him. Now major revenge? Not my style . Like I said, little victories have impact as well, even if it is only to make me feel better about me. That's a victory.

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Posted by Nemesis
it's hideous ffs. 😄

don't tell me you bought something like that?

It's on my Christmas wishlist 🙂

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Does it have earflaps?

BTW?? I like that hat.

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Posted by Nemesis
it's hideous ffs. 😄

don't tell me you bought something like that?

It's on my Christmas wishlist 🙂

Does it have earflaps?

joj ne mogu vise hahaha 😄 😛

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on se sali. umrijet cu od smjeh!

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Posted by Nemesis
it's hideous ffs. 😄

don't tell me you bought something like that?

It's on my Christmas wishlist 🙂

Does it have earflaps?

Most certainly 🙂

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Wow!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Gotta keep those ears nice and toasty 🙂

It's shaped like a helmet with a Rod Stewart wig covering it.

I actually have a silver fox fur head band. Love it.

I will be fine. I will get over this in time.

That's true Bethann, you will. Letting go is very painful, when we love someone. I am in the early stages of letting go myself. Makes it easier when the scorpio has put me on ice, of course. I have found that forcing myself to get up and out ie helpful. Staying away is critical. I would love to enjoy the feeling you have of his jealousy and stuff, but it will onbly keep me attached if I do it for long periods of time.

My greatest fear is that he will contact me again..THEN...I will have to truly put on my big girl panties....and be a woman who is strong, confident and aware of her value in not accepting unacceptable behavior. Good luck to you...to us both.

She sounds like a virgo.. CORRECT never seek revenge on a Scorpio male..

Be nice to him .. I beg you .. he will burn you when you are not expecting..

Like taking your facebook page down.. //closing your cell number.. or having a fax maching call it 24x7

karma is too damn slow sometimes...

It's cool if you're doing your thing and lookin' fine and he notices and gets jealous. Feels good! But if you're doing it on purpose, he's sure to notice and be amused that he still has such power over you. As long as strong feelings (good or bad) are driving your behavior around him, he wins.

The working out was for me, to keep me from obsessing, I don't go out looking for him. We do not live in a big City, well not major anyhow. The odds of running into each other is pretty high. And of course when I get dressed to go out, I want to look good, but I will admit, I am aware of what HE liked. He always liked the way I dressed, I've stepped it up a notch, I want him to eat his heart out, oh wait he would have to have one!

I am moving on. I FORCE myself too. If I walk in a club and if he is there, I leave, but if I was there first? No way unless I was leaving anyway. I don't drive by his house, I don't flirt with his friends, I'm not stalking him. I FORCE myself to get up and get busy every day so I don't dwell, so I won't cave in to him. And I will admit I am ticked off at what he did to me, that being said? I'm
civil if I see him. I'm not a bitch to him at all. I will say hello and keep moving. He gets annoyed with that, but like I told him, I need time to get over this. He can't expect me to just turn the page and all is fine! He created this, he lied, he allowed her in, he hired her, all the while lied to me about it all. So if I am taking solace in knowing I'm the better woman, knowing it is bugging him. GOOD! He deserves to hurt, even if it is minor. As far as his sting? I'm not to worried, he can't hurt me anymore than he already has.

Keep strong, girl! One day, it will be hard to believe you were even with him in the first place!

I'm trying. With every fiber of my being, I'm trying.

I always felt like jealousy was a stupid way to revenge.

I prefer burning the house down ;P

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Nope, he could be genuinely wanting to be respectful after the break up and be civil.
It's always interesting to note how people go all out with the 'revenge on a scorpio thing'.
He's just continued to be himself and you've gone to greater lengths to show him you're 'doing you'.
Alternatively he could be a douche and doing a 'don't know what you've got 'til it's gone'.

I remember when a Sag did that with me.
I pretended to be so jealous and she continued to waste her time trying to
make it worse ... it was so obvious she was trying to play a game with me
so ... haha.

Used to serve my ego so much when I'd walk into a room and she'd turn her
back to me and get close with the nearest guy in the gym - at the dance -
just to show me that I don't matter at all.

Grade 8 was a hard year for her.

What grade are YOU in?

It would be far worse to come over and one-arm hug him
and put a drink in his hand and say:

"You were right to treat me the way you did - I was
a b**ch and needed a wake-up call. I just want to
thank you because since I changed, I am so much
happier in my life."

He'll then feel guilty and say "No, no ..."
and tell you everything nice ( probably )
and then you say

"No - I was a horrible person ... I didn't even
deserve to live ... maybe I shouldn't have ..."

And you'll totally destroy him.

Bethan I read this entire post because it sounds very similar to my situation. I think you'll like my story. but in my case I kept my lying, cheating, scorp around til I met someone else.I'm a cancer with virgo rising. At first he sensed my interest begin to diminish.I did let him know before I moved forward with the new guy (aqua) (love them). I asked him were we stand (knowing perfectly well what the answer was going to be)he said nowhere sorry.I then told him there's someone else that's interested. With all his ego and tough guy badassness (i love making up words lol) he said "do what you gotta do". That was my green light.Me and aqua hit it off great. Scorpio kept trying to stay in touch but I'd call him out on something and he'd dissapear. That's how he'd avoid confrontation.While we were together I hated it because he'd be mia for days if I dared to complain about anything. I used it to my advantage this time bc I didn't want him around while I was trying to get to know my aqua. Manipulative? very! I'm a cancer.(bbm blushing face). He finally dissapeared for a few months and called me one day thinking I was going to run into his arms again but I had to break the news that I'm seeing someone else and it's very serious.He flips out but had no choice but to accept it.That was hard to see but ya reap what u sow.It was the old didn't appreciate what he had till it's gone.I had zero interest in him at this point but I still care for him as a person.
Fast Forward 6 months later Aqua who is the absolute love of my life that completes me in every way pops the question and were engaged. My aqua is a hopeless romantic and openly shows it. Me and scorpio have lots of mutual friends on face book and in real life that he is well aware of all our updates. Me and aqua have done so much traveling just because of his job and the different countries our families live. While scorp is living his depressed miserable life that has him driving up and down the same street every day I have been around the world and back with my new found real love.
I have had a few run ins with him and he absolutely hates me. He will not even look at me or speak to me.I am very neutral about him and wish him the best.I think if we broke up on his terms he wouldn't have felt this strongly. It almost seems as if he's trying to get me back by never speaking to me again for what I did to him. Honestly, if I never heard from him ever again my life would be perfectly content.

I completely understand your desire for revenge. Being happy, sucssesful, staying in shape, looking good is the absolute best revenge you can ever have on someone. Yes revenge is bad and I agree that it's not as bad as slashing tires or egging a house but it feels really good to make someone regret doing you wrong and taking you for granted. Just be careful of not letting him know or thnk that your doing it all to get him back because that will only flatter him and all your efforts to get him back will be wasted. Although you'll be still looking great and doing great so it's not a big loss bc who care's about him and what he thinks anyways.

Also, just be confident that if you moved to another planet the day after you broke up with him that the memory of the time you were together alone is enough to make him regret losing you.

Keep up the great work! Forget about him.

P.S. Hopefully all goes well with your new Taurus but be careful of what may happen when he finds out your actually seeing someone else.

P.P.S Don't give in to his tears or his promises of eternal faithfulness. It's all BS and he just can't bare to see you with anyone else. He will say anything to get you away.

And MOST IMPORTANT: Cut him off completely. You don't want him ruining a potentionally good situation because of your lingering feelings.

Me and the Taurus went to dinner last night, then to a movie, it was very relaxed, we had a great time, well I did, I think he did too as he called this morning to thank ME for 'being such a beautiful, charming date'. He is so nice, so interesting to talk with. We are going into Chicago tomorrow for the day.

Mr. X is flipped out! I had 12 messages on my phone when I got home. All 'how could you?'. And "I never thought you would do this to me' and my favorite "I thought I knew you!!" totally ticked off HUGE that I actually had a date! He stopped by this afternoon BEGGING me to forgive him, of course 'she' means nothing to him, blah blah blah, at first I was thrilled, then I thought, you dick! I was miserable for months, I cried real tears, and when I really needed him to man up and be there? Nothing! Now that the shoe is on the other foot? He doesn't like it. Well, to bad. He should have thought about that. This breakup was all his doing, not mine.

Taurus knows that the X crushed me, he knows who he is, he thinks that X was a fool to play games with our relationship. He is aware that I'm a bit gun shy, and feels awful for ME, because of how I was treated. The thing is? When I am with Taurus? I don't think of my X. I think I'm getting over him. I also think that is why mr x I'd flipping. Now all of the sudden he wants me back. No freaked way! Two weeks ago? I was teetering, today? Nope. I didn't feel anything when he was pissing and moaning but annoyed. I thought if unheard those words I would cave, and I didn't. He was almost pitifully transparent and oh so cliche'. How boring. I can and have found better. Whether or not Taurus and I develop into a serious relationship is way way to soon to tell. But in the mean time I am going to enjoy his company, he is so fun to talk with, he being a Judge, he has some funny stories about his cases, some sad, some horrifying, but it is interesting.

So here I am, I had waited to hear those words 'please forgive me and come back'. And when I finally did? To little, to late. I loved what we had at one time, but it would never be that again. The thing is, I don't see him the same way, he's really a jerk! He's a liar. He's just not man enough. I think I'm OK! HA! Moving on and living well IS the best revenge.

Wow, what a story. How did the ex know you had a date? Interesting his reaction....hmmm..how long ago did you two break up?

We officially broke up? Ha ha? Me or him? Ha ha! I think the 'break' was in July. We had an argument over this woman he hired, and him
Lying about her. I was misserable for months, he kept telling me he loved only me and was faithful, yet I was hearing how he was out partying etc. Etc. He kept to that story, but my gut kept saying something was not right. Then when I called him and said I was coming home 8 weeks ago— He started with the ' you may hear rumors' kind if stuff, and a few other things that my antenna shot up! Then I KNEW he was cheating. I blew up, he blew up, I got home, his behavior was so guilty, I heard from HER friends, all about him and her, yes, like 8th graders to give that poster a few back a nod, and we had it out. That was it. It just ended. But months before I knew innmy gut he was cheating. It was the most humiliating time for me when I got home. He made such a fool of me. But in the end? I never had a public melt down, It was hell for a while.

HA! I so called it!! That's the exact melt down shpeel that I got from my ex scorp. Wow what a coincidence that the day I tell him i'm about to get engaged soon he tells me he was about to talk to me about getting married and he figured that he knew that I wanted that more than anything that i'd surely never say no to him.
Bethann I got the same pitiful bs from my ex and I looked at him just like you did and told him its crazy how fast tables can turn and only 4 months ago I was in your shoes and you were in mine. Honestly it made me feel bad a little and it took everything inside of me to hold my ground but I did and I got through it and left with my dignity and respect. He hate's me now and tries to tell people I stalk him and blocks me and my family from face book as if I give a shit. But he drive's 45 minutes from home and hangs out at a bar thats a half a mile from my house and I'm the stalker. HA!

The thing is, I sooooo wanted an apology and I thought I wanted him back, but as soon as he started with his schpeel? All I could think if was really? All the crap, all my hurt, he didn't give one shit! Suddenly he didn't look so great anymore. He looked pathetic. All the lies! I meant nothing. It all hit me and I didn't care anymore. I listened to him, and I told him, "I wanted to hear that from you for so long, but now? I'll accept your apology, but I'm not coming back. I loved you so much and you destroyed me. I suffered for months, I would try to call you, you wouldn't answer, I was so hurt, I felt so rejected yet you continued to lie and cheat and made me feel like I was losing my mind. I didn't deserve that and you don't deserve me. You put me through hell, and could not have cared less. Let's just say good bye now.

Then I opened my door and he walked out. He sat in my drive way a while, called me, but I wouldn't answer. It's OVER. And I survived.

what a painful lesson. But arent all lessons painful? Very sad. Did he even at least agree with you on what a fuck he was to you? Any kind of remorse? Humility? Im glad you are moving on. COngrats!

I don't think he has remorse, not at all. If he did he would have apologized long before now. I think he really does hate to see me dating again, but to bad. I won't lie, today my heart is sad. But I will not cave in. I can't. It would never be the same, and he would do it all again.

I'm going to Chicago and Taurus is picking me up in about 45 minutes.

No he doesn't have remorse because he's selfish. He can't grasp the concept of you treat someone badly they will eventually walk away. He actually thinks your the asshole because you left him. He prob thinks your a skank for hookin up with someone else so fast. It's all games and manipulation so that he can keep you on the side while he does his thing.. More reason to walk away and wish him well. And mark my word..HE WILL NEVER CHANGE!! If he ever calls you again give him the "I think you should just let me do me and you can do you"...lol! I never had a chance to tell my ex scorp that but it woulda been a good one. Good luck

Taurus and Virgo are very compatible. Use the lessons you learned with the scorp for the taurus. Move slowly. Love yourself. How was your date in Chicago?

You should add your update here, Bethann.....

Posted by DazedScorp
Fair warning, seeking revenge on a Scorp is a dangerous game...

And people say Scorpios are spiteful.....

Scorpio and I are back on and better than ever.

It was hell on me when we were apart, I tried dating others, but my heart was always with Scorpio. I would see him out with others and it never got easier. I hid the hurt better as time went on, but ugh! We would run into each other from time to time, maybe grab a coffee or a quick lunch, but I knew he was with 'the skank' as I referd to her. I dated a few guys, nothing serious, I simply could not get Scorpio out of my heart. We would see each other at a clubs, I would purposely sit with my back to him cuz it hurt to much to see him out with others. he would watch me, who I danced with, one time I was slow dancing, NOT grinding and getting all nasty, but a slow dance, guess who came and slow danced right next to me? I about died seeing his arms around someone else! Later I found out he was furious I was slow dancing, he told me he wanted to kill the guy! But I digress.

But we were friendly to each other. One night I needed gas and forgot my credit card, I called Scorpio, he came and paid the 90.00 in gas, we went for a drink, and had a great time. I dressed extra nice the next day and showed up at his office to pay him back (he didn't take it btw) I knew 'she' would either see me or would hear I was there. Well, he invited me to lunch, and as we walked towards the door? 'she' was coming down the hall. She was furious, he told her he needed some report on his desk by 4 and off we went. She blew up his phone. At lunch, as we talked, I finally had the chance to tell him how her and her friends had rubbed my nose in the dirt of him and her. He got tears in his eyes! We talked some more and he invited me to dinner the following Sat., I hesitated, I said, well I'm not sure, I would love to, but you will cancel and I will be left hanging like before. The look on his face was priceless. But we did go to dinner and dancing it was a great evening. He wanted to rush right back into a relationship, I wanted it to, but I slowed things way down, he crushed me before, I was devastated and did NOT want that again. So I dated him, but I kept to my life, the gym, my wine nights with the girls, etc., he had to put in an effort, no more last minute calls and I would go, he had to call me in advance, cuz if me and the girls made plans? I would not change them cuz he called. He had to put in the effort to date me. I no longer will be a door mat! I am worth being treated like a woman, with respect, and c

Posted by Bethann
I think after what he did to me a few swift kicks his way are warranted. So if I am taking pleasure in my tiny little victories, so what.

I have met a Judge. His wife died three years ago. We workout at the same gym, we have gone for coffee a few times and are going kind of getting to know each other. He knows I'm coming off for me a hurtful breakup.

This is just a question based on what you've shared thus far, but what victory are you celebrating exactly? The very fact that you have started a thread asking us about a man--whom we've never met mind you--what he might be feeling? says a lot. But there's more. You want to know what are his motives, you're worried about what his CURRENT girlfriend is doing when she sees you, how she dresses and asking your girlfriends to "watch his reactions" doesn't sound like you've moved on to me. You also have the opportunity to start a new thing with someone else and you seem to have started that potential relationship with tainted stories about hardship from your past. Why does a man that you have gone out with for "coffee a few times" need know you're coming off of a hurtful breakup? Perhaps because you haven't moved on? All of this screams "the Scorpio is still a priority"---oh and sorry, in my book that means he's really winning. I'm not sure if others will/have asked you this later on in this thread, but you need to ask yourself why did he called you at 1am in the morning--drunk call or not? My guess is because he knew he could. You (despite whatever you are trying to convince us in this thread) are still "available". And before we get into a back and forth about what that means, I don't necessarily mean physically. I mean he can smell that there is a opening he just needs to try hard enough. If you weren't available he wouldn't be able to talk to you, let alone have the balls to call you after hours because he lost that right by virtue of being a dirt bag and cheating. He wouldn't have wasted your time "reminiscing" when he called, it would have been "hey I saw you and realized I really f*cked up. Could I get another chance?" But he didn't do that, why? Because he plans to play this little dance with you--again because he can. Don't mistake his

calls at 1am as a victory. It is simply the dance we Scorpios are infamous for....

I will read through the rest of this thread, but I already think I know where this story is gonna go....

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Posted by everevolvingepithet
Nope, he could be genuinely wanting to be respectful after the break up and be civil.
It's always interesting to note how people go all out with the 'revenge on a scorpio thing'.
He's just continued to be himself and you've gone to greater lengths to show him you're 'doing you'.
Alternatively he could be a douche and doing a 'don't know what you've got 'til it's gone'.

I remember when a Sag did that with me.
I pretended to be so jealous and she continued to waste her time trying to
make it worse ... it was so obvious she was trying to play a game with me
so ... haha.

Used to serve my ego so much when I'd walk into a room and she'd turn her
back to me and get close with the nearest guy in the gym - at the dance -
just to show me that I don't matter at all.

Grade 8 was a hard year for her.

What grade are YOU in?

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^^^^^THIS!

Care. Well, we are firmly back as a couple. I have learned some very valuable lessons, do not ever let a man take you for granted, speak up! Scorpio men are flirts, they attract women like flies to a barnyard, but we have to believe in ourselves! We are stronger than we were before, the sex? Well that was never an issue, but off the charts. The biggest change is me, I no longer put him on a pedestal. I no longer am afraid to draw my line in the sand. In the time we were apart? I learned to love ME, to always stay true to myself and the rest of life seems to go so much better. We have fun, I am so happy now. And what's interesting? I trust him again. I trust me and my intuition.

He hated knowing I was dating other men, it drove him nuts! He told me he would lose sleep wondering if I was being intimate with anyone. He said when he saw me out? It would break his heart what he threw away, that he messed up and that no other woman could fill the void in his heart. He compared women he met to me! The first time we made love after getting back together (i wasn't sure, so it took 5 weeks!) he held me so close, and said he will never let me go again. He missed me terribly, and thought I would never give him another chance.

He loves how feminine I am, that I fuss over my hair, I always dress like a lady, classy, sexy but in a understated sexy way, he loves that I am all woman and classy while out in public, and loves that behind closed doors? Him and I? Well, I'm not inhibited with him at all. He likes when I run around the house in just a T shirt. Scorpio men, from what I have learned, want that challenge. The thing is? It's not a game, i tried that and it back fired HUGE, the challenge comes in when you learn to believe in yourself, respect yourself, don't be a puppet for him or anyone, live your life, be true to yourself, don't drop plans if he calls and you've made plans! That's not game playing,you have plans with your friends, stick to them! He will respect that. That is not game playing. Its life. If a guy wants you enough, they will make the effort, that is not being hard to get, it's being worth getting. BTW? We are going to Lake Tahoe for a two week VK on a luxury houseboat! So this Virgo woman and her Scorpio man have been through a lot, but are stronger than ever!

I really need to pay attention to the dates on threads before contributing. I could have saved my time...As I stated above, I already knew where this was going. Funny thing though, (your words):

11/11/11: "Now all of the sudden he wants me back. No freaked way! Two weeks ago? I was teetering, today? Nope. I didn't feel anything when he was pissing and moaning but annoyed. I thought if unheard those words I would cave, and I didn't. He was almost pitifully transparent and oh so cliche'. How boring. I can and have found better...So here I am, I had waited to hear those words 'please forgive me and come back'. And when I finally did? To little, to late. I loved what we had at one time, but it would never be that again. The thing is, I don't see him the same way, he's really a jerk! He's a liar. He's just not man enough."

11/14/11: "I want him to eat his heart out, oh wait he would have to have one!"

11/19/11: "I knew innmy gut he was cheating. It was the most humiliating time for me when I got home. He made such a fool of me. But in the end? I never had a public melt down, It was hell...All the crap, all my hurt, he didn't give one shit! Suddenly he didn't look so great anymore. He looked pathetic. All the lies! I meant nothing. It all hit me and I didn't care anymore...I didn't deserve that and you don't deserve me. You put me through hell, and could not have cared less."

And now....?

Posted by Bethann
Scorpio and I are back on and better than ever....I no longer will be a door mat! I am worth being treated like a woman, with respect, and c

Okay, well good luck with that

The best thing about this whole situation is what I learned about myself. As far as Taurus? Very nice man, as far as he knowing about my break up? We talked about relationships, so? I was honest, while we didn't 'mesh' he's become a great friend. I am not saying I handled anything perfectly, far from it, I did some pretty stupid things. So did Scorpio, he admits it, i admit it, oh well. Right now? He is sleeping right next to me, with my dog. I never stopped loving him, I tried, I really tried, who was I kidding? No one, just myself. but I love this man with all my heart, and have for a long time, and he loves me, he always has, he effed up, he regrets it, I did not go rushing back in, I had to guard my heart, and take my time, he understands that, he knows he blew my trust out of the water, but I believe he really loves us as us too. I believe he really missed me, by the things he says and does.

Wow I was very angry back then.

Loving yourself, realizing/believing in your worth, and treating yourself so well that you never, ever accept piss-poor or indifferent treatment from a man IS INDEED the way to a man's heart, absolutely.

I just don't know if I could ever take a CHEATER back (I never have), I would imagine I'd always feel this little niggling in the back of my mind, this whisper.. He could do it again.. he did it once.. he shattered me.. he could do it again.. and this time it would hurt SO much more!

Best of luck to you though, and hey.. at least you already know you could survive the betrayal and still be breathing throughout learning to love yourself again and rebuilding the pieces, cuz you already have.