Dealing With Disagreeable People

I thought I'd share something I shared with someone:

The subject is about people who have nothing better to do than be mean to other people.

I think such people have been through something real nasty and haven't found their way out of it. When we react negatively towards their nastiness, we only feed them their regular diet.
Now, that is not to say, we need to baby them, but perhaps, try and take the high road.
I try, I fail, we all do, but I try to get back on my horse and keep ridin'. But I think the more we return kindness to those who are disagreeable, even hateful with us, the better the odds that we could turn the tide and make the world a better place. - The most critical part of accomplishing that goal requires a lot of dedication. It's something I think is worth striving toward because I am personally sick of living in this hell hole full of hate.

I am a man of two extremes. Which extreme shall I take?
1) love?
2) hate?

I'll take hate to the pinnacle... to the very top: Murder!
Have I ever wanted to kill someone?
You bet your life I have!
I was a hair's breadth away from cutting a man's head clean off.
But... Wisdom stopped me.
What would you think of me if I did?

The little things can add up.
It is best to toss those heavy negative boxes off the truck.
Empty Trucks Move Faster.

Posted by BullGem
Interesting perspective indeed. It's astounding that we all criticize each other of being bitter and hateful, yet conduct ourself in the same way. It's contradictory. If you don't like a trait in someone it goes against reason that you'd find it accpetable in you.

Like you said, we all fail, i fail.

*shrug*
Some people will disagree as they believe it's a good thing to let those feelings out, anger and such, to engage in shouting matches.
They think that the best thing is to constantly fight back, when the patterns show that things only get worse.

*another shrug*

It's our choice to take the high road or not. But no one else should be blamed for the negative consequences but ourselves.

We all have our demons that we are confronted with, when we let those demons out to hurt other people, we in turn
contribute to their misery they, in turn pass that disease on to someone else.

The blackest hate is no different than the "Black Death" of yesteryear. It is no different than a sexually transmitted
disease. No different than any communicable contagious disease.

What is necessary is that we MUST identify it as such and stop lying to ourselves. We need to start giving a damn about
other people because IF we don't, they will one day not give a damn about us when we need them to.

We hear of the word "Karma" what goes around comes around. We only reap what we sow.

Posted by Let*It*Be
"We need to start giving a damn about other people because IF we don't, they will one day not give a damn about us when we need them to."


Ironically ^^^^ that is what I displayed yesterday, and goes with the example given! I don't know about you Firebird, but the last thing I *need* in my life are ignorant, nasty assholes. Dying alone would be better and not feared one bit. Peace baby...PEACE! 😉

Hold the line, Soldier! Hold the Line!

LIB, You did good. I'm sorry that those kinds of people don't know when to refrain.

Now, Folks, there are two kinds of angry people - Let*It*Be and MrFirebird
Well... I'll let Buddy tell you.

Imagine a sounding board, a whippin' post.
It's a lot tougher than you might think.
You whip it. it doesn't bat an eye.
You curse it, it' don't give damn what you think about it.

Or...
A punching bag.
Punch all you want.
It won't say a word.
Beat it until your hands are bloody.
Curse it, it just stares right back at you
A punching bag will wear you out.
Then... you end up giving it a hug in all your exhaustion.

Funny isn't it?

I ought to dedicate this thread to my x.
It's her birthday today.

Posted by Crustacea
Not so much.

I find it better to leave those people a lone. Been there done that. They just drag you down with them and drain you at the end of the day. Trying to better these people and care~ is doing nothing because really people change when THEY want to and they do it for themselves or to achieve whatever agenda they have set in their minds.

+1

Posted by Sizzurp
Best way to deal with disagreeable people is to simply not deal with them at all. If you know the nature of the snake is to strike, why interact with the snake at all?

You don't learn anything that way.

The truth of the matter is, I have actually killed a southwestern Diamondback rattlesnake. I cut it's head clean off.
it's body wriggled for 6 hours into the evening.
I've heard it said, it's the soul of the snake trying to leave the body.

Posted by Let*It*Be
"The truth of the matter is, I have actually killed a southwestern Diamondback rattlesnake. I cut it's head clean off."


lol...I ate fried rattlesnake at a resort in Scottsdale AZ. Yum! 😉

Stimulating. 😉

Posted by Crustacea

Posted by Sizzurp
Best way to deal with disagreeable people is to simply not deal with them at all. If you know the nature of the snake is to strike, why interact with the snake at all?

I love this.

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Crusty,
What are you going to do if that snake threatens you or a child?

Posted by Let*It*Be
"Seems like a waste of energy when indifference is often the best recourse."


Takes more energy to hide, deny & pretend then it is to look evil in the eye and stand up to it.

I guess it depends on how you define "indifference". I don't see it as hiding, denying or pretending anything. Simply not giving the person any thought at all. Actually requires no energy at all.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Let*It*Be
"Seems like a waste of energy when indifference is often the best recourse."


Takes more energy to hide, deny & pretend then it is to look evil in the eye and stand up to it.

I guess it depends on how you define "indifference". I don't see it as hiding, denying or pretending anything. Simply not giving the person any thought at all. Actually requires no energy at all.

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Indifference can come at a bad time. The very time when you need to be hot or cold.

Posted by Let*It*Be
Hell..he could have served the head just cut off to me and I would've eaten it!

And the previous quip...

You sure are up and at 'em.
That hawk medicine, gotta watch it, sometimes. Makes one a bit wild.
😉

but what if it weren't a snake? what if it were a BEAR? have you KILLED a bear? have you strangled it with your armpit hair and left it for dead?

there is an irony here though. the pisces moon...it reared its psychotic head on the pisces forum and surprise, surprise, its sun couldn't let go so it's here...proclaiming the same. no wonder that moon is so farked! they actually have no concept of true emotion and think that the stronger and louder they proclaim that they FEEEEEEEL, it MUST be so...to the point of eating snakes in a trailer park under a moonlit sky.

Posted by Let*It*Be
Indifference is a very weak pretense of the truth.

Hmmm...I don't know about that. When you say "truth" what do you mean? Is there an assumption that one must feel something towards someone, but they are denying this feeling? I may be misunderstanding you.

Posted by Let*It*Be
"You sure are up and at 'em.
That hawk medicine, gotta watch it, sometimes. Makes one a bit wild."


I feel that snake in my veins right now sir.

interesting.

Posted by Let*It*Be
..not to mention those who practice indifference here are usually the ones that slither, attempt to hit and then run.

Then *that* is not indifference. It's someone claiming "not to care" when they actually do. I find people that declare these words often care the most, but are trying to convince everyone else and themselves otherwise.

Posted by caligula
but what if it weren't a snake? what if it were a BEAR? have you KILLED a bear? have you strangled it with your armpit hair and left it for dead?

there is an irony here though. the pisces moon...it reared its psychotic head on the pisces forum and surprise, surprise, its sun couldn't let go so it's here...proclaiming the same. no wonder that moon is so farked! they actually have no concept of true emotion and think that the stronger and louder they proclaim that they FEEEEEEEL, it MUST be so...to the point of eating snakes in a trailer park under a moonlit sky.

wooly bullaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! wooly bully.... wooly bully.

😄

I was twelve at the time. My right of passage, as it were.

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Let*It*Be
"Seems like a waste of energy when indifference is often the best recourse."


Takes more energy to hide, deny & pretend then it is to look evil in the eye and stand up to it.

I guess it depends on how you define "indifference". I don't see it as hiding, denying or pretending anything. Simply not giving the person any thought at all. Actually requires no energy at all.

Indifference can come at a bad time. The very time when you need to be hot or cold.

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Who say one *needs* to do anything about a situation? True, there are times when a response is required if the situation/person/event threatens your well being. But in reference to the OP someone choosing to being an a**hole does not require anything. I don't have to play nice, "kill them with kindness", much less acknowledge their bullsh*t. In the effort to be kind, stand up, act hot or cold, etc your main goal (as I see it) is to "change" the person; force them to behave how you *think* they should behave because they are being "unpleasant". No, actually the person just needs to "be". Just as you have the right to just "be" without others telling you how you should act. And if it's to be a douche bag, fine be one, just not near me, and you would get as much attention and thought as I would give a fly. If you at some point choose to act in a way I find tolerable--when your ready, then I will acknowledge you. My indifference is not an effort to change the person, simple a choice to surround myself with something other than what he/she is offering.

*when you're ready

Posted by Let*It*Be
FB? When the snakes body wriggled for 6 hours after you cut it's head off, what were you feeling?

I need to think on that. The memory did not occur to me until recently when I started posting the video above. ie very recently. Hmmmmmm.
"Intense power and authority" I don't know, a sense of doing what needed to be done, comes to mind.
It was killed in the interest of protecting people and children in the camp. That, for sure, was my motivation.
I'll never forget that.

Posted by Let*It*Be
"Then *that* is not indifference. It's someone claiming "not to care" when they actually do. I find people that declare these words often care the most, but are trying to convince everyone else and themselves otherwise."


^^^exactly, and what you've successfully defined here is the "herd" mentality, the fake people, those who I disassociate from the real world and here.

Ahhhh.....got it.

Posted by Let*It*Be
An example would be the person who brought the word in, then called in part of the herd who I'm PURPOSELY being indifferent to. lol So in actuality I'm *faking* indifference to get a point across and avoiding the fact that a raunchy stench has entered the thread, and I'm trying really hard to ignore it. 😉

Does that make sense?

LOL! It does. That's why I said I think I'm misunderstanding you. I'm caught up now.

but the fact that your moon is passively aggressively addressing my beloved, aromatic, deliciousness is proof positive that you're full of shit.

in essence, you're feigning indifference, but you suck at it.

Pisces Moon...INSANITY PERSONIFIED

Posted by Let*It*Be
"*when you're ready"

Did I take too long? I apologize.

No, no, no...."editing" my post.

on a side note, anyone here killed any mammoths? Specifically, has anyone killed any mammoths with a tooth floss, a sewing needle and thread?

*correction*

a *piece* of tooth floss...2 inches long...peppermint flavor.

Posted by Let*It*Be
I need to think on that. The memory did not occur to me until recently when I started posting the video above. ie very recently. Hmmmmmm.
"Intense power and authority" I don't know, a sense of doing what needed to be done, comes to mind.
It was killed in the interest of protecting people and children in the camp. That, for sure, was my motivation.
I'll never forget that.


You know what FB? I imagined exactly that! Protection...speaks volumes.

Interesting. Very interesting.
I am compelled to cite the "wisdom" which I mentioned at the beginning of this topic.
I was reminded of what I was tempted to do - I had a choice - a or b - no more, no less.
Had I chosen to fulfill my temptation, I would not be having this conversation with any of you.

a) I'd be imprisoned, likely death row.
b) I'd be dead by cop or by my own hand.

Either way, I would NEVER had gotten to hold my Grandson. NEVER!
Wisdom spoke. I listened.

I wonder what the symbolic meaning, if there is one, for the act of killing that rattler is.
It feels like a boy's rite of passage into manhood. - that's the only way I know how to explain
the significance of that experience.

I'm with Sizzurp and PhoenixRising on this one.


+ 100 to everything they said

Posted by Let*It*Be
I had a choice - a or b - no more, no less.
Had I chosen to fulfill my temptation, I would not be having this conversation with any of you.

a) I'd be imprisoned, likely death row.
b) I'd be dead by cop or by my own hand.


Well, I suppose this is a case where *wisdom* won. For the record...cops are shying away from the "suicide by cop" thing these days. They'll take your knee caps out first unless there's a lot of people around.

Always remember no matter how far you are down, the only way to go from there is up. One day at a time. 😉

That's right. That was one of the darkest moments of that sort, in my life.
Thanks, LIB.
🙂

Posted by Let*It*Be
Takes a lot for me to get down and it's seldom, but when it does occur, there's no contact with the outside world until it's worked out and gone. Always loved that saying "well that's a load off my mind" 🙂

That's interesting. I generally do that, myself.
Travel light, come in well balanced.