Disappears when we spend time together

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Every single time we hangout he pulls back! This time we fucked (took a year) over a week ago, and he did not pull back right away. It was great, he rolled over, cuddled me and knocked out lol. The day before he shared some great news about work, and we had a great playful conversation. He came into my job, i was busy and asked my friend why I am not speaking with him ( I just don't want to overstep boundaries)... I then said hi. We texted later..I told him I wasn't trying to see him the night before because I was busy...

The next day I give him attention when he walks in, and he's abrupt, and standoffish, won't hug me. Boom doesn't text me and now gone off somewhere. I see him every morning before work, and no one has seen him during this week as well. I texted no response, and I want to let him know it bothers me.

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@Virgopio

Well, calm down Miss.

The first thing is scorpio's have a very big ego and they are very gentle soul.

So, he will come back. Hope you have left the sorry notes.

The thing about his avoiding is he might have felt that you ignored him or you are trying to play with his feeling or your using him. Esp after the exp you mentioned, the thing is I believe he likes you in some way (love? not sure yet). Trust me he wouldn't come to your work place otherwise. Or I'm making a meal out of it.... it might be he is trying to spend some quality time with himself. But I strongly feel that he kinda got rejected with that work incident.

Let us know what happens! Again this is my opinion.. don't break your head too much.
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@Virgorpio
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Posted by Xqzit
@Virgopio

Well, calm down Miss.

The first thing is scorpio's have a very big ego and they are very gentle soul.

So, he will come back. Hope you have left the sorry notes.

The thing about his avoiding is he might have felt that you ignored him or you are trying to play with his feeling or your using him. Esp after the exp you mentioned, the thing is I believe he likes you in some way (love? not sure yet). Trust me he wouldn't come to your work place otherwise. Or I'm making a meal out of it.... it might be he is trying to spend some quality time with himself. But I strongly feel that he kinda got rejected with that work incident.

Let us know what happens! Again this is my opinion.. don't break your head too much.


Thanks lol He does feel like I ignore him at times. I will give him a couple more day and then shoot a check in text... No sorry notes were left
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Posted by femme
Aww he's standoffish because you were standoffish with him first lol

I'm assuming he expected/wanted a warmer welcome at your job. Especially the day after your relationship went to the next level.

Nothing to stress over though, when he comes back, compromise. Let him know you're willing to work on it and that his disappearing acts bother you too.


I only hold back, because of the disappearing acts lol. But I will let him know when we finally do speak.
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Posted by femme
Aww he's standoffish because you were standoffish with him first lol

I'm assuming he expected/wanted a warmer welcome at your job. Especially the day after your relationship went to the next level.

Nothing to stress over though, when he comes back, compromise. Let him know you're willing to work on it and that his disappearing acts bother you too.


I only hold back, because of the disappearing acts lol. But I will let him know when we finally do speak.
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Worst trait for the Scorpio, IMO. Hate the disappearing act only because I don't understand really why they do it. Sure I've read the forums but still...smh
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Posted by femme
Aww he's standoffish because you were standoffish with him first lol

I'm assuming he expected/wanted a warmer welcome at your job. Especially the day after your relationship went to the next level.

Nothing to stress over though, when he comes back, compromise. Let him know you're willing to work on it and that his disappearing acts bother you too.


I only hold back, because of the disappearing acts lol. But I will let him know when we finally do speak.
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And he disappears because you hold back? That cycle needs to be broken somewhere lol Hope he's willing to meet you halfway.

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I saw him the other day at my job ignored me but watching me ... His brother is the one that said something to me... So I texted him " I do not like when you're unresponsive, because it makes me feel like you're uninterested, and me unwanted so i would appreciate it if you would let me know" Yesterday still nothing... Just cutting my losses. It wasn't the best way to confront but the only way available. Bet one day he'll pop up like nothing happened!
I bet he will too.

Seems to be the norm for the Scorp I know. I'm actually considering just blocking his phone number and moving on. Well, wait a minute, I don't feel the same for him anymore because of the emotional damage he's inflicted by this type of behavior... so I guess I HAVE moved on. Yay me!! 🙂