do scorpio me love to emotionally torture their

girlfriends / wives?? Pls. not looking to bash any sign nor am I looking for harsh answers telling me to show dignity and the like. When you are emotionally involved with someone then it can hurt the most, period!

When he knows - because I have told him - that certain things he does hurts, like ignorning my b'day, and telling me aobut he buying gifts for this person's bday and that person's Bday. He just completely takes me for granted and is vry cold towards me unless he was to make out!

He will turn me down when I ask to go out for drinks with him, but he'll go with others.. things like that... He has time for everyone but me, until and unless he wants it. I left him and he says that he is upset inside, but I should do what's best for me. He won't even try to stop me and say wait lets work this out!

WTF! Sorry, I am also going thru that time of the month and that's why i am extra sensetive. This intense hurt feeling will go away in a few days.

My question is, will he try to contact me? We work together and i am leaving the company in few days, but haven't told him where i am going. He just knows that i am leaving.

You should do whats best for you.

sorry, i'm just gonna pass on this one.

my quota for 'bad scorp man' repetitive drivel this month has been exceeded. check back with me in july, but try do it on the 1st before the other scorp man haters show up. 😉

I dont' hate Scorpios. Actually, in many ways I find them to be great teachers and advisors... but the bad side of them is just too much pain

Never said you did. The same story gets old. Like I said, I may feel refreshed by early july.

lol @ the implication of this thread

I feel ur pain!

he will carry on treating you this way all the time you allow him to. simple as that. you can't change how he views you now cos it's too late. you should either accept the crumbs he's throwing or not bother 🙂

::ruffles SR's hair:: awwww.....you're not all bad 😉

"awwww.....you're not all bad"

Yeah we are. I actually love all the bitching that goes on about Scorpios. It's just I already analyzed Aries' problem already, and yet here she is, whining about how Scorp man isn't give her what she needs.

Fact of Life: Life is what it is. It doesn't revolve around you or bend around what you want. The sooner you accept this, the happier you will be.

Scropio rising, SO what is my problem— Whenever he needed anything I was there for him but seems Agent X is right, those are crumbs he is throwing at me.

What you seem to forget is that just as you have feelings we have feelings, too. I hurt because I have feelings for him, which I am working on to get rid of. Why so mean and demeaning in your answer?

"Why so mean and demeaning in your answer?"

The truth always hurts. I would think you, being an aries, would appreciate a blunt yet honest response.

What are the options here?

1. Move On.
2. Try to Change Him.
3. Try to Change You.

You say you're moving on, but the post doesn't address anything related to that. How do I move on? Where can I go to meet new guys? whatever.

It's just focusing on him, which makes me think your focus is still on options 2 and 3.

Anyway, I do understand people (but especially women) need to just spill it and have others listen. If that is indeed your intent, I will remain on the sidelines for your much-needed monologue.

Get what you know you deserve ladies!!!
women, women, women...


Your letting this happen to you, your an aries grab, him by the balls and take your respect....or get it from someone else.

Scorpio Rising, I won't take your answer personally, as I dont know you.. But I see why you get bad reputaion as the worst sign. Obviously, yes, I am on option 3 because this is fresh ! You being a scorpio should appreciate the long brooding process, except Aries gets over much faster. But as for this moment, i am hurting.

This is not a monologue. Would it hurt you to say a kind word? If it does, you should not have replied as i said not looking for harsh answers. Looking for truth, but not harsh answers.

"If it does, you should not have replied"

You are on the Scorpio board about a Scorpio problem and requesting a Scorpio participant to act like a non-Scorpio. Again, please read The Facts of Life.

"why you get bad reputaion as the worst sign."

yes.

I'm still laughing at the implication that suggests someone is taking an Aries for granted.

Taking for granted defines a Ram .... pay back is a bitch sometimes, and Scorpios are more than willing to show a person that.


Here's something you need to realize, since you've mentioned it a couple times, as if it's suppose to mean something ....... only you care about your pain. You mention it as if someone is suppose to be sympathetic to it, and perhaps they will on the superficial level .. however, nobody really cares about your pain, except you. We have our own pains in life to deal with.

Not meaning to sound as if you don't matter ... it's just when you say a couple times that you are in pain there, and suggest that other people are suppose to mold their responses to you accordingly ...

.. suggests emotional control, and Scorpios are masters .. you'd be wise to concede.

Aries,

I'm an Aries, too, in love with a Scorpio man. I came here for advice. Let me tell you something, and this is Aries to Aries.

Listen to what people are telling you here. You're frustrated because you can't manipulate this man, period.

We're good at that, we Aries. It's our MO. The men are clumsy at it, but the women, whoo, we can get a man wrapped around our finger tout de suite. And if he proves difficult or disappointing, we just dip. It's that simple. And you are mad as HELL that Scorpio guy isn't falling in line.

Guess what? He knows you're mad. Guess what else? He couldn't give a fuck.

It's not that he doesn't care about YOU. It's just that these are issues, to HIM, that are not a big deal. He wants to go out with his buddies drinking. It's not about you. It's about him wanting to go out with his buddies. The bday thing is a little iffy, I admit, but did you ever let him slide on that? Better still, did you tell him about it and then continue to do nice things for him when you were still pissed as hell over it? Probably, right? See, they can spot that kind of stuff, the "kill em with kindness" type of thing, and that's turns 'em right off. I have learned that if you're mad with them, tell them in that moment. Don't try to smooth it over because at best, they won't see you as genuine and at worst, they'll see you as a doormat.

It's tough. We're impatient and we really do think we're entitled. I can firmly admit that to myself. But we're not and patience does have it's place if you think it/he's worth it. If you don't, he will respect you if you bounce, trust me. Otherwise, he'll keep tossing out those crumbs to you while keeping an eye out for the girl that can deal with him, sit her ass down and realize it is NOT all about her.

I wish you well. I think I ran off a good Scorp because I didn't know the deal, but I think every cloud has a silver lining. Since meeting him, I've become much less self-absorbed and more cognizant of when I try to manipulate events and people to my benefit and I'm trying to clip that. I hold out hope that he's watching from afar to see if I walk the walk, but I know that in any case, I'm a better person for that experience, and if you play your cards right, you will be, too. Good luck!

How old is he?

Oh, and I do disagree with Agent X - in my experience, Scorp opinion CAN be changed if you set a tone and stick to it. A guy I love like a brother started off on the wrong foot with me and I escalated. The next year, when my best friend brought this Scorp into my circle, he and sized each other up, I set a different tone, he respected that and 18 years later, we're still tight as shit.

But don't let him get you so worked up. If you know the emotional period is only gonna last a few days, ride that shit out until you can present a calm face to the world! 🙂

"When he knows - because I have told him - that certain things he does hurts, like ignorning my b'day, and telling me aobut he buying gifts for this person's bday and that person's Bday. He just completely takes me for granted and is vry cold towards me unless he was to make out!

He will turn me down when I ask to go out for drinks with him, but he'll go with others.. things like that... He has time for everyone but me, until and unless he wants it. I left him and he says that he is upset inside, but I should do what's best for me. He won't even try to stop me and say wait lets work this out!"

I'm sorry Aries, i really have to tell you, i don't think he is interested in you as a serious prospect. That is not to say you are not worthy of somebody's love, it's just that he does not perceive you to be worthy of his love or affection, or whatever he calls it. If a scorp man is into you, you will know it.

I know it is REALLY hard moving on, but it might have to be something you should do.

In regards to whether or not he'll try to contact you once you have left the company, the only way you're gonna find out is to wait. Don't wait around for him, but just withdraw yourself and see what happens.

Love sucks when it is not requited, but you will find it easier to get over than you think. Silly scorpio man, lol. It's all his fault 😛 (joke)...

Bad relationships always hurt, but when you know they're no good for you sooner or later you get out of them, heal yourself and move on. You've already answered your own questions in your initial post when you said you had to look after yourself first.

If you're not getting what you want and he's treating you poorly, then leave...You're already dealing with the pain of being treated like cr@p, and a scorpio man will walk all over you for however long you allow it. You'll hurt a whole lot less once it's over, TRUST ME (I speak from experience).

what's your and his moon? that indicates how both of you relate on the emotional level and means more then sun sign. scorps do push/pull in the beginning but then if he likes you then it all stops. i'm an aries girl with scorp bf and we had misunderstandings for a while because of the communication issues. when all stuff started spilling out then it became soooo much better. i know aries aren't good at communicating since we don't want to start a fight. i'm concerned about you b-day since it's an important factor. if there is something that bothers you then you have to let him know. he might not know that he's doing something wrong and that's what was happening in my case. if he truly wants to be with you and you want to be with then both of you should adjust to the situation. one person can't change completely for the sake of another. it's not fair and will not last long. the real person always will come out at the end. it's almost impossible for an aries to change in a long run since we can bend and pretend that we change for a bf. but you'll be miserable and he won't be happy with a miserable person. if it doesn't work after a few talks and tries then maybe it's time to part ways on good terms. there shoudn't be control issues and who's on top unless you're in bed😉
not calling for 2 days is pretty common at the beginning of relationship but then you keep in constant contact when both of your feelings stabilized and both of you know where you stand with each other. most of it is caused by egos and power struggle to see who's going to cave in 1st. i know it's hard for an aries girl to understand that because we're more simple when it comes to feelings.
anotherscorp has a good list going.

aries...this is coming from another aries...drop his @ss...you dont need to waste all this energy on a man thats not giving you the time of day...scorpio or no scorp he obviously not interested...so keep it moving.....

/\/\ wise advice. He sounds like a real douche.

sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

As it applies to scorps well....

I guess in your case its did you get the message watcha gonna do about it

how long have you been together? if it's more then 4-5 months of him behaving like that then you should consider ending it. i'm sorry to tell you that. it's enough time for anyone to figure out feelings.

we scorps like someone that can stand up to us..he's doing this becuz you allow it...he feels as tho he can run all over you and i must admit that i do the same thing to a lot of men..i just play head games and get very cruel..i've been called sadistic...i find it funny..why? i'm trying to find the one that will not take my abuse and put me in my place...that man is the one for me...

To Aries. What I have experienced about scorp males (and still am) when they actually want, really like or love you. They will make time for you. Yes, you are correct in the fact that they will mostly do it on their terms and yes they will continue to do so if you allow it.

First question: Are or were you two in a relationship? Or just FWB's if you weren't ever in a relationship then why would you have any expectations unless you guys agreed on somehthings.

When a scorp guy is really into you. He craves you and misses you after he gets a little space and will make his way to you. He doesn't seem as though he is seriously into you. They are lustful individuals and can have several affairs. However, when they like/love you. You know it, however they an be selfish really untiol you put your foot down.

Example: He calls wanting to hook up. Suggest you guys meet for a drink or go to dinner or a movie. If he declines... Decline the hook up. This wil work either he will agree at some point or it will help you get over him completely. I know it can be hard but you have to take care of you first. NO MAN is worth sacrificing your own happiness. NO MAN!

straight to the point qs😉

Thanks guys you know us scorps. Keep it real!!! Ferdy, I know I have been neglecting my friends on these boards, but I have had so much shit going on in my life lately including some drama with a scorp I care about. But that is basically over. I will resurface soon. You know how we scorps transform and evolve at different stages. I think I am going through a stage. Luv you guys!!!

Queen Scorpio = thank you for a calm explanation unlike the few harsh ones I received from other users here... I don't allow him to treat me that way, but there are times when I let my guard down.. it's too tiring to try and stand up to him all the time. I will end this because when he's nice he;s really nice, but when he hurts me it's like he enjoys twisting knife..

I am sure that when I walk away, he'll think about what he has lost. But anyway, I have walked away now and not going back.

You are welcomed Aries. He doesn't seem like he deserves you. Go where it is easy and peaceful, there is enough stress in life without the added unnecessary chaos. (((Hugs)))

Thanks QS - and Yes, I have left him.

But as Friday is my last day on the job, I'll may run into him and he may pretend as if everything is ok.. but when I leave the company at the end of that day, I will quietly walk out of his life without saying anything..

If I say to him tath I have broken up with him, he'll cause problems for sure.

There are many fish in the sea.

FuckinA - "Okay, Aries, hon, what were you thinking when you typed this topic's title? It makes no sense."

I know I am strong enough to wait for the right guy- but when I typed that topic, at that moment I was feeling intensly -lonliness, need for love, you know? JUSt wanted to feel loved, missed and wanted. that's all. I am not a whinning person, but there are times when my feelings are very deep and intense, and this topic was written in that kind of a moment.

Aries lol I think FuckinA means...the title you typed makes no sense. Its not proper english. ....its doesnt make sense

lol :-p

oh sorry I misunderstood - well, that title is a perfect example of how badly I was feeling when I reached out with that question.

Funny, he called me 3 times with in 15 mins today as I would not pick up the phone... whatever, i am in a happy place right now 🙂

It's not unusual to be in a happy place when being chased down ... if he wasn't calling, for you to ignore ... I'd wager your place wouldn't be so happy.


At any rate .. glad you're happy.

lol@p-angel...you just made a lot of sense...i mean i am aries but i do see how we like to be emotionallly challenged...so we can lured you to our corner so make you suffer!!!!

and make you suffer!!!!

Aries, were you guys ever in a "relationship?" Doesn't seem like it.

Oh and Aries, the calling back to back is his way of luring you back in. Scorpio men get nervous when they feel they have been forgotten about. Threatened to an extent, even by those they might not be that much into (not that this is your case).