alicialicia
@alicialicia
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fellow scorps, need someone to lean on
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Give it time he will be back there is probably more to this story than you are letting on. Fights between a Cancer and Scorpio are emotionally charged and they can be very mentally draining for us Cancer guys. Yes Cancer guys can be insensitive which is not good when a Scorpio is in a close relationship which makes her feelings hypersensitive. It can be walking on eggshells with Scorpio women.
Let a cancer man process his thoughts we make rash decisions when we get in fights we do a lot of mud slinging saying stuff we don't mean. You Scorpio women have everything prepared because you are stewing on what you are angry about when you do lash out it comes out all at once. His quickest solution was to cut you off now he's giving you the silent treatment till he makes up his mind. He knows damn well he's mind phucking with you, Scorpios obess and worry about everything.
Let a cancer man process his thoughts we make rash decisions when we get in fights we do a lot of mud slinging saying stuff we don't mean. You Scorpio women have everything prepared because you are stewing on what you are angry about when you do lash out it comes out all at once. His quickest solution was to cut you off now he's giving you the silent treatment till he makes up his mind. He knows damn well he's mind phucking with you, Scorpios obess and worry about everything.
My best friends a cancer and your best bet is to ignore him like he never existed!
This gets to her the most. Her ex broke up with her at the beginning of the year and didn't even have the respect or decency to reply to her messages. Being made to feel irrelivent to a cancer I think is the worst thing you can do.
Don't contact him, disappear for a week from all forms of social media and then suddenly look like your social calendar is brimming. Go out a lot to parties, dinner with friends, fun runs etc and upload photos. He will wonder why you haven't contacted and then see all the fun you're having and suddenly start to feel like you aren't effected and that he meant nothing to you.
In the mean time you need to decide if you really want this guy. I'm going to say it's only your ego. You can't understand why he doesn't want you anymore and this is killing you but do you actually want him? And before you answer that, think to yourself "do I not deserve someone better then a guy who will discard of me at the drop of a hat?".
If you ignore and get on with your life and he see's this, I Garuntee he will come back and based off of your answer from my question, you decide if you settle for that behaviour or find yourself someone more deserving of your love!
This gets to her the most. Her ex broke up with her at the beginning of the year and didn't even have the respect or decency to reply to her messages. Being made to feel irrelivent to a cancer I think is the worst thing you can do.
Don't contact him, disappear for a week from all forms of social media and then suddenly look like your social calendar is brimming. Go out a lot to parties, dinner with friends, fun runs etc and upload photos. He will wonder why you haven't contacted and then see all the fun you're having and suddenly start to feel like you aren't effected and that he meant nothing to you.
In the mean time you need to decide if you really want this guy. I'm going to say it's only your ego. You can't understand why he doesn't want you anymore and this is killing you but do you actually want him? And before you answer that, think to yourself "do I not deserve someone better then a guy who will discard of me at the drop of a hat?".
If you ignore and get on with your life and he see's this, I Garuntee he will come back and based off of your answer from my question, you decide if you settle for that behaviour or find yourself someone more deserving of your love!
^^^ all the above posts are awesome advice. Nothing to add here. This is why I don't don't Cancerian men or heavy Cancer placements. It's a no from me.
If after a deep soul searching you find that you didn't offend him at all and he blew you off and dumped u just like that,pls ignore him like he never existed'Scorpios are really good at that,but if u think deeply and find that you did something that pushed him away,reach out and apologize.That being said try and eat,don't starve yourself for no reason.*hugs*
Posted by thisisstupidI really can't. I feel I might throw up
not a scorp, but please dont starve yourself over him. at least drink a glass of milk or something :/
don't know enough about the situation to comment, but please keep your dignity intact.
Posted by Stihl46The stuff he said is unforgivable in my eyes. He has to have meant it because there is no going back after this. "The relationship isnt working out. We both know that. Its over between us."
Give it time he will be back there is probably more to this story than you are letting on. Fights between a Cancer and Scorpio are emotionally charged and they can be very mentally draining for us Cancer guys. Yes Cancer guys can be insensitive which is not good when a Scorpio is in a close relationship which makes her feelings hypersensitive. It can be walking on eggshells with Scorpio women.
Let a cancer man process his thoughts we make rash decisions when we get in fights we do a lot of mud slinging saying stuff we don't mean. You Scorpio women have everything prepared because you are stewing on what you are angry about when you do lash out it comes out all at once. His quickest solution was to cut you off now he's giving you the silent treatment till he makes up his mind. He knows damn well he's mind phucking with you, Scorpios obess and worry about everything.
Then when I asked him to call me and that I was shocked, didn't just a few days ago he told me he loved me? He says "Stop bullshiting urself. This doesn't have to be a big deal. Lets be adults about it. We know the shit isn't working so lets acknowledge that and move foward. Thats all the closure u need."
And then he went on to ask what did I like about the relationship then? And I said just being around him, having him by my side, even when we had some diaagreements they were okay because it's healthy from time to time (as long as it's not over every little thing and there is no name calling) and he said "I don't buy that." So what do you do then.
Then he obsessed about why I said "forget going to the movies" that was our plan for the Sunday. I'm wondering if it's cause he thought that was me throwing in the towel? I explained I said that because I didn't want to go with him that day anymore because I was hurt aaaaand he never even mentioned a desire to go.
I'm so done though. Off the roller coaster
Then he obsessed about why I said "forget going to the movies" that was our plan for the Sunday. I'm wondering if it's cause he thought that was me throwing in the towel? I explained I said that because I didn't want to go with him that day anymore because I was hurt aaaaand he never even mentioned a desire to go.
I'm so done though. Off the roller coaster
Posted by AgentP911I have a cancer moon so a cancer technically should've been a match right? Hell no
^^^ all the above posts are awesome advice. Nothing to add here. This is why I don't don't Cancerian men or heavy Cancer placements. It's a no from me.
Oh he's cold...damn...hope you feel better dear.
Posted by BlackMambaHow is that something to be proud of? Also scorpions were always known to feel deeply, just hide it very wellPosted by happyface1ICE COLD. SCORPIOS REALLY UNDERESTIMATE THE CLAWS.
Oh he's cold...damn...hope you feel better dear.
DON'T. WE'LL SCRATCH YOUR SOUL OUT AND LOVE EVERY MINUTE OF IT.
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Posted by Arielle83She didn't punish him. He was inconsistant, she called him out on it. He withdrew to his Crab shell.
You punished him with words so he punished you with absence.
Sometimes we just don't give a fuck when someone ridicules us.
"Boo hoo she hurt my pouty feelz."
Imagine constantly having to walk on eggshells around that. She's better off.
Posted by alicialiciaDisregard my last comment. You two probably deserve eachother. 😄Posted by AgentP911I have a cancer moon so a cancer technically should've been a match right? Hell no
^^^ all the above posts are awesome advice. Nothing to add here. This is why I don't don't Cancerian men or heavy Cancer placements. It's a no from me.click to expand
Posted by thisisstupidIf a Crab gets their butt hurt and no one's there to feel it, does it make a sound?
Your comments were unhelpful garbage anyway.
What's it to you?
Posted by alicialiciaI can totally relate to your feelings and hope you'll get better soon. Don't let this guy hurt you even more by not eating because of him! You deserve much better...
And then he went on to ask what did I like about the relationship then? And I said just being around him, having him by my side, even when we had some diaagreements they were okay because it's healthy from time to time (as long as it's not over every little thing and there is no name calling) and he said "I don't buy that." So what do you do then.
Then he obsessed about why I said "forget going to the movies" that was our plan for the Sunday. I'm wondering if it's cause he thought that was me throwing in the towel? I explained I said that because I didn't want to go with him that day anymore because I was hurt aaaaand he never even mentioned a desire to go.
I'm so done though. Off the roller coaster
I dated a cancer man for a while, who was always hot and cold and eventually I had to let him go. Being a scorpio I always give a lot of myself when I'm in love. And it's really painful and confusing to find out, that one of a sudden his feelings cool down or are gone for no evident reason... We scorps have really intense emotions and feel deeply. I think therefore we get hurt easily, but it also makes us strong. Try to forget him and move on. I know it's not easy, but he didn't treat you with the respect you deserve. Sometimes I think we scorpio girls are too nice to cancers, because we think they need to be treated with care and that they feel and think as deeply as us. But in the end we are the ones getting hurt.
Posted by Arielle83Please stop posting here, I asked for help from Scorpios, not some bitch who dates one and thinks she knows it all.Posted by thisisstupidNo I'm 32 and have grown into understanding how I actually feel.Posted by Arielle83your libra moon makes you more detached than others, so its easier for you to say.Posted by enfant_terribleI walk on eggshells around my scorp sometimes.Posted by Arielle83She didn't punish him. He was inconsistant, she called him out on it. He withdrew to his Crab shell.
You punished him with words so he punished you with absence.
Sometimes we just don't give a fuck when someone ridicules us.
"Boo hoo she hurt my pouty feelz."
Imagine constantly having to walk on eggshells around that. She's better off.
It's like cancer and scorp can kill each other when they are angry. I think scorp holds on but cancer just distracts themselves with external happiness.
External happiness is when ppl think we are in a shell. We are just not into someone being negative so we go have fun.
Also scorpio likes to feel their feelings and obsess over them. Cancer tries to purge their emotions but in private. It's two separate thought processes.
Everytime I've broken up with a guy etc. I've always just done something to make me happy.
Op should find external happiness, not look to a man who won't pay attention to her feelings. He doesn't care because he broke it off. Why waste energy on him.
but its good advice.
When I was younger I fell into depression over rejection. Now that I'm older I realise it isn't the end of the world.
When one door closes, another one opens.click to expand
Thanks to all the kind comments, they really were helpful. Even though this is the Internet, I appreciate that people can take the time to help out other human beings, even when they cannot see the face or hear the voice. Time will heal. After all I am a Scorpio and Phoenix eventually rises from the ashes!
Posted by Arielle83Wow, you can read minds of people you've never met? I asked for help from Scorpios on how to deal with heartache so fuck off. And I do know how to deal with reality, I have more tPosted by alicialiciaOkay so you don't actually want to know what he's probably thinking.Posted by Arielle83Please stop posting here, I asked for help from Scorpios, not some bitch who dates one and thinks she knows it all.Posted by thisisstupidNo I'm 32 and have grown into understanding how I actually feel.Posted by Arielle83your libra moon makes you more detached than others, so its easier for you to say.Posted by enfant_terribleI walk on eggshells around my scorp sometimes.Posted by Arielle83She didn't punish him. He was inconsistant, she called him out on it. He withdrew to his Crab shell.
You punished him with words so he punished you with absence.
Sometimes we just don't give a fuck when someone ridicules us.
"Boo hoo she hurt my pouty feelz."
Imagine constantly having to walk on eggshells around that. She's better off.
It's like cancer and scorp can kill each other when they are angry. I think scorp holds on but cancer just distracts themselves with external happiness.
External happiness is when ppl think we are in a shell. We are just not into someone being negative so we go have fun.
Also scorpio likes to feel their feelings and obsess over them. Cancer tries to purge their emotions but in private. It's two separate thought processes.
Everytime I've broken up with a guy etc. I've always just done something to make me happy.
Op should find external happiness, not look to a man who won't pay attention to her feelings. He doesn't care because he broke it off. Why waste energy on him.
but its good advice.
When I was younger I fell into depression over rejection. Now that I'm older I realise it isn't the end of the world.
When one door closes, another one opens.
I'm not dating a scorpio. I'm married to one.
You clearly don't want to understand the cancer/scorpio dynamic.
You're the bitch who can't handle reality. Keep crying.
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Posted by cornflowerAw thank you 🙂 I'm sorry that happened to you. After a lot of reflection I now know I'm much better off and you are too. I used to date a Taurus and an Aries and am still friendly with both of them... I just thought being a fellow water sign it would of gone a lot better.Posted by alicialiciaI can totally relate to your feelings and hope you'll get better soon. Don't let this guy hurt you even more by not eating because of him! You deserve much better...
And then he went on to ask what did I like about the relationship then? And I said just being around him, having him by my side, even when we had some diaagreements they were okay because it's healthy from time to time (as long as it's not over every little thing and there is no name calling) and he said "I don't buy that." So what do you do then.
Then he obsessed about why I said "forget going to the movies" that was our plan for the Sunday. I'm wondering if it's cause he thought that was me throwing in the towel? I explained I said that because I didn't want to go with him that day anymore because I was hurt aaaaand he never even mentioned a desire to go.
I'm so done though. Off the roller coaster
I dated a cancer man for a while, who was always hot and cold and eventually I had to let him go. Being a scorpio I always give a lot of myself when I'm in love. And it's really painful and confusing to find out, that one of a sudden his feelings cool down or are gone for no evident reason... We scorps have really intense emotions and feel deeply. I think therefore we get hurt easily, but it also makes us strong. Try to forget him and move on. I know it's not easy, but he didn't treat you with the respect you deserve. Sometimes I think we scorpio girls are too nice to cancers, because we think they need to be treated with care and that they feel and think as deeply as us. But in the end we are the ones getting hurt.click to expand
people on this site are actually disgusting, running around trying to belittle people and be condescending. Her first post made it pretty clear she is in a fragile state, so you think bullying her online is going to help the situation.
Man there's some weak ass, self conscious and miserable people on here
Man there's some weak ass, self conscious and miserable people on here
Posted by Arielle83
You punished him with words so he punished you with absence.
Sometimes we just don't give a fuck when someone ridicules us.
I think it's your independent Aries moon that may not give a fuck when ridiculed, cuz most of the cancer men and women I know don't have that kind of strength.
First off, you said you two were on and off for eight months.
...you're shocked this didn't last a month being "official?"
Sounds like he snapped because you were harping on him. Either way, be glad this is how you found out how he deals. Move on the best you can. And stop with the dramatic "I can't eat" bs. Simmer the hell down and go find some Ben and Jerry's. Get those endorphins going to help you calm the hell down. You two obviously weren't that hot on eachother if you were on and off again for 8 freaking months and only serious for a month. This is high school shit right here.
The situation sucks, but I can't help but think there's more going on than you're telling us. Cancers don't just suddenly flip out for no reason. They can be emotionally draining and ridiculous, sure, but they just don't do it out of the blue for no reason.
Sorry you got dumped, it sucks, but you'll survive. Learn from your mistakes, learn from him being a weirdo and move along.
...you're shocked this didn't last a month being "official?"
Sounds like he snapped because you were harping on him. Either way, be glad this is how you found out how he deals. Move on the best you can. And stop with the dramatic "I can't eat" bs. Simmer the hell down and go find some Ben and Jerry's. Get those endorphins going to help you calm the hell down. You two obviously weren't that hot on eachother if you were on and off again for 8 freaking months and only serious for a month. This is high school shit right here.
The situation sucks, but I can't help but think there's more going on than you're telling us. Cancers don't just suddenly flip out for no reason. They can be emotionally draining and ridiculous, sure, but they just don't do it out of the blue for no reason.
Sorry you got dumped, it sucks, but you'll survive. Learn from your mistakes, learn from him being a weirdo and move along.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamYeah I really shouldn't of let it go on and off like that. But there isn't more, he really did just snap. It's partly my fault, I should of known better. He's told me before about his previous two relationships and they were also on and off. I guess it's normal to him!
First off, you said you two were on and off for eight months.
...you're shocked this didn't last a month being "official?"
Sounds like he snapped because you were harping on him. Either way, be glad this is how you found out how he deals. Move on the best you can. And stop with the dramatic "I can't eat" bs. Simmer the hell down and go find some Ben and Jerry's. Get those endorphins going to help you calm the hell down. You two obviously weren't that hot on eachother if you were on and off again for 8 freaking months and only serious for a month. This is high school shit right here.
The situation sucks, but I can't help but think there's more going on than you're telling us. Cancers don't just suddenly flip out for no reason. They can be emotionally draining and ridiculous, sure, but they just don't do it out of the blue for no reason.
Sorry you got dumped, it sucks, but you'll survive. Learn from your mistakes, learn from him being a weirdo and move along.
also he has an Aries Mars :/
I tried to not use this as an excuse for how he acts but maybe it explains something. His mom died when he was 6, his dad disowned him and grandma who raised him wasn't good to him at all. He had aunts and uncles but he was largely on his own, hanging out with his friends and doing whatever he wanted.
Posted by alicialiciaTry to move on and not to worry. Trust me I know it's easier said than done, but focus on you.Posted by Stihl46The stuff he said is unforgivable in my eyes. He has to have meant it because there is no going back after this. "The relationship isnt working out. We both know that. Its over between us."
Give it time he will be back there is probably more to this story than you are letting on. Fights between a Cancer and Scorpio are emotionally charged and they can be very mentally draining for us Cancer guys. Yes Cancer guys can be insensitive which is not good when a Scorpio is in a close relationship which makes her feelings hypersensitive. It can be walking on eggshells with Scorpio women.
Let a cancer man process his thoughts we make rash decisions when we get in fights we do a lot of mud slinging saying stuff we don't mean. You Scorpio women have everything prepared because you are stewing on what you are angry about when you do lash out it comes out all at once. His quickest solution was to cut you off now he's giving you the silent treatment till he makes up his mind. He knows damn well he's mind phucking with you, Scorpios obess and worry about everything.
Then when I asked him to call me and that I was shocked, didn't just a few days ago he told me he loved me? He says "Stop bullshiting urself. This doesn't have to be a big deal. Lets be adults about it. We know the shit isn't working so lets acknowledge that and move foward. Thats all the closure u need."click to expand
Cancer men are selfish, I've found. They usually come back around sooner or later. May even be months later. In the meantime you can't wait.
Especially in the manner he is leaving things, he might come to his senses after some time apart and realize what he's done. Doesn't seem like there is closure here and that will be needed at some point.
Crabs are not work it btw. We can handle it, but why?? Lmao
Worth it*
Ugh my phone
Ugh my phone
Hm so we text to break up. Haha okay major red flags here.
@alicialicia- alittle confirmation about the people we care about and the things we do for them in the process.. alittle feedback without criticism is helpful in a relationship. If there is always a closed mouth, two fixed closed mouth won't get better. I like to know if something is not right so I can improve. If I asked did you like the movie, then answer honestly. If I keep asking confirmation though there's something wrong.
Posted by Arielle83"If someone needs comfort they should watch Disney." Don't try to bullshit anyone, you're condescending.Posted by thisisstupidTrue but this is how I express myself literally.Posted by Arielle83I know what you're saying. There's just better ways to express it to someone whos in her state of mind. Water moon, remember?
Time and energy on someone who won't give u what u want in a relationship?
You'd suffer even more if the push and pull continue.
Like I said cancer/scorpio can be tough. It takes a tonne of emotional understanding and patience.
I live it.
Whatever tone ppl ascribe to it, is their doing.
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It's "should HAVE." "Should of" does not make sense in any way, shape, or form.
This crap has spread like the plague and makes my brain want to melt. You do know that "should of" makes no sense, right? Why use it?
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Why did you feel the need to make it "official" with someone who's so freaking flaky? Are you that desperate to be in a relationship? You Scorps act like you'll fucking die if you aren't paired off. Grow a pair emotionally. You'll be okay.
This crap has spread like the plague and makes my brain want to melt. You do know that "should of" makes no sense, right? Why use it?
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Why did you feel the need to make it "official" with someone who's so freaking flaky? Are you that desperate to be in a relationship? You Scorps act like you'll fucking die if you aren't paired off. Grow a pair emotionally. You'll be okay.
Posted by alicialiciaNo... you're using it as an excuse.
I tried to not use this as an excuse for how he acts but maybe it explains something. His mom died when he was 6, his dad disowned him and grandma who raised him wasn't good to him at all. He had aunts and uncles but he was largely on his own, hanging out with his friends and doing whatever he wanted.
Even if this is a source of his issues, why do would you bother to use it as a get out of jail free card for treating others like shit?
He is the first guy I've ever dated who acted like he couldn't care less about our relationship and made me feel like I was nothing. I saw him in person yesterday when he gave me back some money I loaned him. He promised to come to my place to return it in the afternoon (lie) he never answered any of my texts. So after dinner, I went over to his myself, knocked on the door and he eventually answers, wearing the belt I bought him just a week ago (I wanted to rip it off of him) I said I think I deserve an apology or an explanation as to why he thought breaking up over text wasn't disrespectful. I said its obviously his choice if he doesn't want to be with me anymore but why does he have to burn bridges, he can at least end it on a positive note that acknowledges our time together? He said I'm "creating shadows in my head" and that's it. Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
Posted by thisisstupidMy first boyfriend was a Taurus and he took two years to get over me. Some of my friends were friends with his so I heard about it. *shrugs*Posted by elllesquelol 😛
I see your scorpio moon 😄
btw I sort of agree with your post above...lets just remember that women have a harder time dealing with break ups than men, no matter what placements they have.click to expand
Posted by elllesqueHmm maybe. But my mom is a Capricorn and my dad is a Scorpio. They were married for 16 years. She remarried and he never did. He took it a lot harder.
*caps are notorious at hanging on to exes.
Damn phone!
They like the Saturn feeling of misery and what 'could have been'. Anyone in a relationship after the first can never reach the pedestal of the very first one.
They feel like they are settling.
Posted by candycloudsMature is the word! 🙂 what would be the best match then, sign wise?Posted by alicialiciaIt seems like he is using it as an excuse that you also didn't want to be with him anymore ?
He is the first guy I've ever dated who acted like he couldn't care less about our relationship and made me feel like I was nothing. I saw him in person yesterday when he gave me back some money I loaned him. He promised to come to my place to return it in the afternoon (lie) he never answered any of my texts. So after dinner, I went over to his myself, knocked on the door and he eventually answers, wearing the belt I bought him just a week ago (I wanted to rip it off of him) I said I think I deserve an apology or an explanation as to why he thought breaking up over text wasn't disrespectful. I said its obviously his choice if he doesn't want to be with me anymore but why does he have to burn bridges, he can at least end it on a positive note that acknowledges our time together? He said I'm "creating shadows in my head" and that's it. Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
Cancers are weird. They can be really good or really bad for scorpios. I really think Scorpios do best with more mature men, who understand them completely and take care of them in small ways and are always there, kind of like a father figure. Because let's accept it, we are not that easy to get along with and we can be the moodiest of them all. And we expect the unconditional forever type of love.click to expand
Like I'm a Scorpio sun, cancer moon, sag Mercury, Capricorn Venus, cancer Mars, libra Jupiter, Aquarius saturn
Posted by candycloudsSounds perfect 🙂Posted by alicialiciaYou have a lot of water so I'd say an earth sign, a Taurus or Capricorn would be perfect 🙂 But really anyone who is a little bit older and has a good career and treats you like his queen 😛Posted by candycloudsMature is the word! 🙂 what would be the best match then, sign wise?Posted by alicialiciaIt seems like he is using it as an excuse that you also didn't want to be with him anymore ?
He is the first guy I've ever dated who acted like he couldn't care less about our relationship and made me feel like I was nothing. I saw him in person yesterday when he gave me back some money I loaned him. He promised to come to my place to return it in the afternoon (lie) he never answered any of my texts. So after dinner, I went over to his myself, knocked on the door and he eventually answers, wearing the belt I bought him just a week ago (I wanted to rip it off of him) I said I think I deserve an apology or an explanation as to why he thought breaking up over text wasn't disrespectful. I said its obviously his choice if he doesn't want to be with me anymore but why does he have to burn bridges, he can at least end it on a positive note that acknowledges our time together? He said I'm "creating shadows in my head" and that's it. Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
Cancers are weird. They can be really good or really bad for scorpios. I really think Scorpios do best with more mature men, who understand them completely and take care of them in small ways and are always there, kind of like a father figure. Because let's accept it, we are not that easy to get along with and we can be the moodiest of them all. And we expect the unconditional forever type of love.
Like I'm a Scorpio sun, cancer moon, sag Mercury, Capricorn Venus, cancer Mars, libra Jupiter, Aquarius saturnclick to expand
Daaaaaaamn why couldn't I have been a Pisces or libra though?!
Posted by elllesque++++ Scorp sun, Taurus moon. It aches a lot until one day (may seem like ages) it finally gone.
I love how the cardinals signs are like....."Stop acting like you are desperate to be in a relationship! Just get over him already!!"
lolworthy. Especially with as much *time* it takes us (fixed sings) to suss out a person and want to be in a relationship with them.
This is the difference between *fixed* and *cardinal*.
When a relationship goes south....
Cardinal signs *see* people as expendable and if they are not of any use to them, they are finished bothering...
Cancers will scrap book or tuck their partner in their mementos box under the bed and pull them out occasionally to reminisce.
Libras will turn them into a pretty petrified statue to put on the mantle to look at on occasion.
Capricorns will simply take them back to the store for an exchange or refund (always holding on to the receipt, never losing it)
Aries will just toss them in the trash, not even bothering with the recycle bin.
Fixed are not like that.....
You become a fixture in our life. Once you become that fixture.....you are a part of it. Once that relationship is over......it's much more difficult to remove a permanent fixture from your life than to simply pick up an object and toss it out.
You have to use a bolt cutter to remove it from the cement floor.....hire a back hoe to get out all the damn roots......and hire a dozen movers to get it out of your parameter.....then you have to figure out where you are going to put it so it's not in sight any longer.....not to mention the clean up involved afterwards to make everything look like it was never there to begin with.
Being in a relationship for a fixed sign is an investment (even for Aqua). We just don't take that shit lightly. If we did....you all wouldn't be so damn uncomfortable and dumbfounded when we walk away.
Posted by alicialiciaHe broke up over text?
He is the first guy I've ever dated who acted like he couldn't care less about our relationship and made me feel like I was nothing. I saw him in person yesterday when he gave me back some money I loaned him. He promised to come to my place to return it in the afternoon (lie) he never answered any of my texts. So after dinner, I went over to his myself, knocked on the door and he eventually answers, wearing the belt I bought him just a week ago (I wanted to rip it off of him) I said I think I deserve an apology or an explanation as to why he thought breaking up over text wasn't disrespectful. I said its obviously his choice if he doesn't want to be with me anymore but why does he have to burn bridges, he can at least end it on a positive note that acknowledges our time together? He said I'm "creating shadows in my head" and that's it. Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
Fuck that guy. Move on.
I've yet to deal with a break up via text because they had the balls to do it in person, but if someone did, it'd make dropping them so much easier. Only pussified assholes break up via text. Not worth fretting over or wanting to keep around, tbh. I want someone who can actually handle life, not evade it.
Posted by alicialiciaAlso, this is the reason why he flipped the fuck out. Your ass turned right around and dismissed it as if it were nothing. Cancers are emotional creatures and if something bothers them, your response is not to dismiss or downplay their feelings because you reacted like a cunt. Scorps have a tendency to downplay and dismiss things when they've been in the wrong and this is what you did right here. This is why the Cancer got so upset. Not justifying his reaction and I do agree that it's a bit overkill, but it's not surprising.
Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
Nevermind that your original story made it sound like this all happened in one instance. Now it's you didn't explain things, left and never said goodbye, but then he texts you that he wants to break up. This is the typical Scorp bit where you glazed over your wrong and painted it to make you solely the victim. You both are at fault in this situation.
Sorry OP, based on this, you're kind of an insensitive bitch and he's kind of a weenie. Not a good match.
Learn from YOUR mistakes as well as what you don't want in a dude, what doesn't work in a relationship, etc. And freaking eat something. Nobody likes a drama queen.
Posted by thisisstupidYou should never go that route, pussy.Posted by rockyroadicecreamYeah. isn't that what's best?Posted by alicialiciaif someone did, it'd make dropping them so much easier.
He is the first guy I've ever dated who acted like he couldn't care less about our relationship and made me feel like I was nothing. I saw him in person yesterday when he gave me back some money I loaned him. He promised to come to my place to return it in the afternoon (lie) he never answered any of my texts. So after dinner, I went over to his myself, knocked on the door and he eventually answers, wearing the belt I bought him just a week ago (I wanted to rip it off of him) I said I think I deserve an apology or an explanation as to why he thought breaking up over text wasn't disrespectful. I said its obviously his choice if he doesn't want to be with me anymore but why does he have to burn bridges, he can at least end it on a positive note that acknowledges our time together? He said I'm "creating shadows in my head" and that's it. Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
i'd only go the text route if I was still dating that person and not yet in full commitment.click to expand
I'd only see it valid if it were like a first date, maybe second. Beyond that, it's still really impersonal and a weenie way of going about things.
Take a look at your namesake. It describes text break ups perfectly. You're a pos for thinking they're okay though.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamUmm... I don't think you read the story in the right order cause there is no "original story" that bit about saying something happened LAST NIGHT after he has already dumped mePosted by alicialiciaAlso, this is the reason why he flipped the fuck out. Your ass turned right around and dismissed it as if it were nothing. Cancers are emotional creatures and if something bothers them, your response is not to dismiss or downplay their feelings because you reacted like a cunt. Scorps have a tendency to downplay and dismiss things when they've been in the wrong and this is what you did right here. This is why the Cancer got so upset. Not justifying his reaction and I do agree that it's a bit overkill, but it's not surprising.
Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
Nevermind that your original story made it sound like this all happened in one instance. Now it's you didn't explain things, left and never said goodbye, but then he texts you that he wants to break up. This is the typical Scorp bit where you glazed over your wrong and painted it to make you solely the victim. You both are at fault in this situation.
Sorry OP, based on this, you're kind of an insensitive bitch and he's kind of a weenie. Not a good match.
Learn from YOUR mistakes as well as what you don't want in a dude, what doesn't work in a relationship, etc. And freaking eat something. Nobody likes a drama queen.
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My friends have been such a big help too, never forget them! They're already planning a night out. Everyday gets a little better.
I was hopeful as you should be in every relationship. But I have a lot to offer the next guy and I know now I'm gonna go for someone who has good family relationships.
I was hopeful as you should be in every relationship. But I have a lot to offer the next guy and I know now I'm gonna go for someone who has good family relationships.
Posted by alicialicia+1
My friends have been such a big help too, never forget them! They're already planning a night out. Everyday gets a little better.
I was hopeful as you should be in every relationship. But I have a lot to offer the next guy and I know now I'm gonna go for someone who has good family relationships.
Some desperate bitches drop all their friends when they pair off. It's a stupid, stupid thing to do, tbh. If things happen to go south, you won't have anyone.
Posted by thisisstupidYou want to try that again in English? You sound like you're off your meds.Posted by rockyroadicecreamYou wanna get over it, or continue to bitch to yourself that you miss him?Posted by thisisstupidYou should never go that route, pussy.Posted by rockyroadicecreamYeah. isn't that what's best?Posted by alicialiciaif someone did, it'd make dropping them so much easier.
He is the first guy I've ever dated who acted like he couldn't care less about our relationship and made me feel like I was nothing. I saw him in person yesterday when he gave me back some money I loaned him. He promised to come to my place to return it in the afternoon (lie) he never answered any of my texts. So after dinner, I went over to his myself, knocked on the door and he eventually answers, wearing the belt I bought him just a week ago (I wanted to rip it off of him) I said I think I deserve an apology or an explanation as to why he thought breaking up over text wasn't disrespectful. I said its obviously his choice if he doesn't want to be with me anymore but why does he have to burn bridges, he can at least end it on a positive note that acknowledges our time together? He said I'm "creating shadows in my head" and that's it. Then he proceeded to ask me (again) why I decided to not see the movie with him that day, because I never explained it, but I just left without another word, not even a goodbye. His obsession with why I didn't want to see the movie with him is strange. Two reasons: he never expressed interest in going and he had plans that evening so by the time he texted me it was already too late. But whatever. I never want him back in my life.
i'd only go the text route if I was still dating that person and not yet in full commitment.
I'd only see it valid if it were like a first date, maybe second. Beyond that, it's still really impersonal and a weenie way of going about things.
Take a look at your namesake. It describes text break ups perfectly. You're a pos for thinking they're okay though.
I'd modify "dates" to until we're actually intimate.
but if she's rabid like you, i'll stick to text. or bring a baseball bat.click to expand
Wow this turned into a Cancer bashing lol, Scorpio and Cancer's fight its the way it goes there are misunderstandings with each other it is hard to explain. Funny thing is its always the Scorpio that ends up p*ssed off stewing over things and the Cancer can't figure out what in the hell is wrong because the Scorpio thinks people are mind readers.
I lost count on how many times I heard "fine" or " I'm fine " from the first Scorpio I knew something was bothering her but she would never tell me it would frustrate me and I would walk away in turn would p*ss her off even more. It is so easy to rub a Scorpio woman the wrong way then you are in damage control, Scorpio women's feelings go into hypersensitive mode when they are close to you. As a Cancer man walking on egg shells isn't fun it gets tiring after awhile.
I lost count on how many times I heard "fine" or " I'm fine " from the first Scorpio I knew something was bothering her but she would never tell me it would frustrate me and I would walk away in turn would p*ss her off even more. It is so easy to rub a Scorpio woman the wrong way then you are in damage control, Scorpio women's feelings go into hypersensitive mode when they are close to you. As a Cancer man walking on egg shells isn't fun it gets tiring after awhile.
Posted by alicialiciaI'm late, but I figured I'd comment anyway. Given the fact that you have been off and on for 8 month I'm guessing this break up wasn't over one "little disagreement". The fact that you're choosing to focus solely on that or you're oblivious to the ongoing issues you were having may be part of the problem. You both sound to be struggling to make things work and he pulled the plug. It's possible that he did love you or cared for you, but that isn't enough of a reason to stay with someone. It doesn't make the statement a lie. Love does not mean one should stay in an unhappy situation.
My Cancer man just broke up with me... over text. We dated on and off for 8 months and then finally a month ago made it official. We told each other we loved each other. The last month has been the best one yet, with minor disagreements. Then this morning we were going back and forth because I told him I was disappointed that he forgot our plans for today. Last night he was supposed to come over after work because I was feeling really down. But he blew me off. And today when I explained to him that I was disappointed that he a) didn't come over like he promised and b) completely forgot our plans for today, he suddenly says this isn't working and we both know it. It floored me. It was one little disagreement and he just dumped me........But how do I heal? I can't eat, I don't know how I'm going to sleep. And he won't even talk to me on the phone, let alone in person, about what happened.
I'm not sure trying to talk to him about it would make much difference simply because you would be doing something that conflicts with the other: accept the break up and work things out. Choose one and my suggestion would be the former. I mean be honest with yourself, even if he explained "what happened" would it really matter? Certain things stick with Scorps and how this played out will be one of those things for you. You sound too deeply wounded to move past any explanation he could give you, so it makes sense to try to move forward.
Anyway, try to simply to do something nice for yourself. Everyday. The goal isn't to forget him, because you won't be able to do that and that approach will lead to you to beat yourself up when it's not happening fast enough. The goal is to do something small or nice to take your mind off of him for a few moments to an hour. Also, purge your thoughts into a journal. Don't let them occupy your mind. Purge, do something nice, purge, do something nice. You will see over time you will think of him less and less. Your appetite will return in time.
Posted by elllesqueTruly.
I love how the cardinals signs are like....."Stop acting like you are desperate to be in a relationship! Just get over him already!!"
lolworthy. Especially with as much *time* it takes us (fixed sings) to suss out a person and want to be in a relationship with them.
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