Sonrisa4ka
@Sonrisa4ka
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obviously not (yet), as I don't get what he wants from this "relationship"...
I'm female scorpio but I'm commenting as this is similar to two male Scorpios I've dated and also another scorpio guy I worked with. I found they don't initiate or take the lead (in the way you might want them to) because they are not 100% convinced they want you (they might be unsure of you or they might not be ready or something else that may not be anything to do with you/about you). They can be happy to sit and wait or let you come to them which is a bit lazy.
What do you want?
This guy is showing you a level of interest. Its friendly. He's not jumping you. Are you interested in him because he's been showing you interest? Did you like him before or have you grown to like him more over three last few months?
I think you need to be clear with what you want and want to happen. You work together so I'm not sure if this might be a problem for either of you or your employer.
Hopefully some Scorp guys will comment for you.
What do you want?
This guy is showing you a level of interest. Its friendly. He's not jumping you. Are you interested in him because he's been showing you interest? Did you like him before or have you grown to like him more over three last few months?
I think you need to be clear with what you want and want to happen. You work together so I'm not sure if this might be a problem for either of you or your employer.
Hopefully some Scorp guys will comment for you.
what's his Venus & Mars and moon/ mercury?
i find there are different types. The ones with Air Mars in my experience, and have heard, sit back...
Like they "weigh" things.
also afraid of initializing in case .......
i dont have any experience with Earth Mars men.... Only Air, Water and Fire mars...
on Water sun.
i find there are different types. The ones with Air Mars in my experience, and have heard, sit back...
Like they "weigh" things.
also afraid of initializing in case .......
i dont have any experience with Earth Mars men.... Only Air, Water and Fire mars...
on Water sun.
Posted by lisabethur8
what's his Venus & Mars and moon/ mercury?
i find there are different types. The ones with Air Mars in my experience, and have heard, sit back...
Like they "weigh" things.
also afraid of initializing in case .......
i dont have any experience with Earth Mars men.... Only Air, Water and Fire mars...
on Water sun.
They have been close for 6months and no progress screams beard from any sign standpoint. Maybe not sex but things would seem to be increased.
Does he flirt? Try to touch you? Does he ogle you... is he into girls š¤·š»āāļø š
Has he shared anything about his dating life/past relationships. Could be heās gay. Cause I cuddle on the couch with my gbff. We are very affectionate with each other.
He came with me the other weekend to look at houses and one of the realtors thought we were a couple š
He came with me the other weekend to look at houses and one of the realtors thought we were a couple š
Him being a Scorpio male I can imagine he may consider you as gf material, so he's mindfucking himself to see if you fit the task: If you initiate sex after 1 or 2 dates you're a slut. If he has to rape you somewhere down the line, you're gf material. Illusion of control.
Scorps are insecure that way š
Scorps are insecure that way š
He may also be 100% straight but also doesnāt want to overstep and ruin the friendship he values with you.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Has he shared anything about his dating life/past relationships. Could be heās gay.
LadyNeptune, fair point! When I read my post again, it indeed sounds as if he was a gay. But nope. He was married. Divorced. Has kids. Speaks quite openly about his past relationships and claims that he needs a woman in his life to sort out his life-mess...
Heās unsure. Scorpio men get a bad rep for being overly sexual but are also very emotional so may just be ātesting the watersā as they say. Theyāre also anxious creatures (some). Make a move. See what happens. Some guys like to know your just as into them as theyāre into you.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Him being a Scorpio male I can imagine he may consider you as gf material, so he's mindfucking himself to see if you fit the task.
Scorps are insecure that way š
enfant_terrible, indeed, I also thought about some potential insecurities or fears of rejection. But then he is fully secure to call me and invite to his place or stay with me on the phone for one hour speaking about everything and nothing (I don't speak that long with my parents!)... I really don't get it.
What's my role in that? Sit and wait when he is done with his "mindfucking process"?
Keep being a friend. Eventually he will come around...5 years maybe...or drop the clothes and end this torture!
One way or another...
One way or another...
Posted by Cappadonna
Heās unsure. Scorpio men get a bad rep for being overly sexual but are also very emotional so may just be ātesting the watersā as they say. Theyāre also anxious creatures (some). Make a move. See what happens. Some guys like to know your just as into them as theyāre into you.
Cappadonna, thanks for your message! Probably that's the only option left - to make a physical move, as verbally I say it all the time how much I value him and like spending time with him.
And then again, when we watched movies all night long, I was the one moving closer and closer, leaning on him and putting my head on his belly - I obviously don't consider him just as a pillow-replacement š š why it's always so complicated!!
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by Gemitati
Keep being a friend. Eventually he will come around...5 years maybe...or drop the clothes and end this torture!
One way or another...
Are you a Scorpio expert?click to expand
Yep! No...I am serious. I am...and also a Scorpio whisperer...
Posted by lisabethur8
what's his Venus & Mars and moon/ mercury?
i find there are different types. The ones with Air Mars in my experience, and have heard, sit back...
Like they "weigh" things.
also afraid of initializing in case .......
i dont have any experience with Earth Mars men.... Only Air, Water and Fire mars...
on Water sun.
āļø What she said. Find out his birth chart, and where his mars is. Also, keep in mind this may be an indication of how he approaches heavier ātasksā. Do you like a man who takes the lead in this department? If so this may not be your guy. Or just give it another go round and see what happens. Try canoodling closer to his face and see if he goes in for the kiss. I personally wouldnāt like a guy that doesnāt take the lead here. It would make me feel like Iām sexually undesirable.
Posted by Lionheart917Posted by GemitatiPosted by Lionheart917Posted by Gemitati
Keep being a friend. Eventually he will come around...5 years maybe...or drop the clothes and end this torture!
One way or another...
Are you a Scorpio expert?
Yep! No...I am serious. I am...and also a Scorpio whisperer...
Iāll call you master yoda,click to expand
You donāt have to...
It wouldnāt do anyone any good.
I donāt even know what ya heck is that! You better think of your actions next time you together.
What Iāll tell you is that he can keep it up until there is no actual sex forever...he is living joy in suffering.
I donāt see him being able to reject you because he is boiling on low...
Your move - he is done!
THEN depends on sex - Iāll tell you the rest...
Posted by Impulsv
A wise Gemini once told me when they behave as you described they have a small punks. Mine turned out to be true
Care to share?
Posted by CappadonnaPosted by lisabethur8
what's his Venus & Mars and moon/ mercury?
i find there are different types. The ones with Air Mars in my experience, and have heard, sit back...
Like they "weigh" things.
also afraid of initializing in case .......
i dont have any experience with Earth Mars men.... Only Air, Water and Fire mars...
on Water sun.
āļø What she said. Find out his birth chart, and where his mars is. Also, keep in mind this may be an indication of how he approaches heavier ātasksā. Do you like a man who takes the lead in this department? If so this may not be your guy. Or just give it another go round and see what happens. Try canoodling closer to his face and see if he goes in for the kiss. I personally wouldnāt like a guy that doesnāt take the lead here. It would make me feel like Iām sexually undesirable.click to expand
with your Libra moon... u might really like an Air mars man. it may conjunct/trine your moon and you would go..oohhhh myyyyyy the chemistry is insane lol ;p
and even u would think that leading would be a good idea LOL
Far from desperate I just don't know how this can be done in a relationship unless celibacy was involved. Past 3 months and fluids are being exchanged or friend zoning Is in effect.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CappadonnaPosted by lisabethur8
what's his Venus & Mars and moon/ mercury?
i find there are different types. The ones with Air Mars in my experience, and have heard, sit back...
Like they "weigh" things.
also afraid of initializing in case .......
i dont have any experience with Earth Mars men.... Only Air, Water and Fire mars...
on Water sun.
āļø What she said. Find out his birth chart, and where his mars is. Also, keep in mind this may be an indication of how he approaches heavier ātasksā. Do you like a man who takes the lead in this department? If so this may not be your guy. Or just give it another go round and see what happens. Try canoodling closer to his face and see if he goes in for the kiss. I personally wouldnāt like a guy that doesnāt take the lead here. It would make me feel like Iām sexually undesirable.
with your Libra moon... u might really like an Air mars man. it may conjunct/trine your moon and you would go..oohhhh myyyyyy the chemistry is insane lol ;p
and even u would think that leading would be a good idea LOLclick to expand
Moi? Air mars men ya say? Hmmm may have to investigate this notion LOL.. actually my Gemini bf that passed away and I had insane chemistry. That may explain zingsss š
Omg this is rubbish. Clearly he isnāt a proper guy.. maybe heās a virgin.. I dunno. How old is he? Maybe he has bad ED, or anxiety? But I think you would notice if he was nervous, and he doesnāt sound nervous.
You cannot be friend zoned, no friend guy buys champagne and watches movies, unless heās interested. Maybe itās just been a really long time since heās had sex. Have you met any of his friends, are they normal guys? Cos normal guys would tell him to make a move.
Hmmz one of my friends went out with a grandad and she told him she wants babies, and she went round to his house and he did this to her.. you havenāt said you want babies have you? And heās not a grandad? Lol Iām confused with this one.
You cannot be friend zoned, no friend guy buys champagne and watches movies, unless heās interested. Maybe itās just been a really long time since heās had sex. Have you met any of his friends, are they normal guys? Cos normal guys would tell him to make a move.
Hmmz one of my friends went out with a grandad and she told him she wants babies, and she went round to his house and he did this to her.. you havenāt said you want babies have you? And heās not a grandad? Lol Iām confused with this one.
You could put some viagra in that drink he has?
Posted by LibraSupreme
Far from desperate I just don't know how this can be done in a relationship unless celibacy was involved. Past 3 months and fluids are being exchanged or friend zoning Is in effect.
Posted by Lala1393
I think he's friendzoned you.
Scorps are usually very direct.click to expand
i have a huge suspicion there was AIR in personal planets involved... and someone with FIRE needs to help them on their way š Xd
He will loose interest in you if you continue to do what you are doing, give him a little push time to time, scorpio love challenges, mystery also scorpio love strong woman who can take care of themselves one reason could be that scorpio are kinda introverts and want their solitude. He is just showing that he is into you it will not stay longer if you let him discover all of youš keep some part of you of your life private.Now the famous thing about scorpio is their intensity that we simply scared to show everyone coz we have no idea how people going to react but if you can show him you can take it, He will show you what lay beyond the walls, remember of scorpio sting if he sense any sign of negativity from you he will strike sadly not on your face!. if you want to keep him forever tell him time to time how valuable his existence in your life matter to you and you will have someone who will do ANYTHING just to see you happy and smiling... i think i have shared too much about scorpions.
Posted by Lala1393
I think he's friendzoned you.
Scorps are usually very direct.
Men Scorpios arenāt women Scorpios. And they can be reserved and they are. Itās a holding their strenght until they can game.
Unless they just want sex. Then they are direct...
Okay, as a Scorpio I can tell you: we act that way when we value your presence in our lives so much that we'd rather continue in the platonic dating than risk you not feeling the same way as us. I've been platonically dating someone for the last 10 months, never making a move, because I like the guy way too much to lose him as a friend if he doesn't feel the same way (and I'm almost positive he does feel the same way). If he's acting that way, he feels about you DEEPLY, and desperately doesn't want to screw things up with you. As for Scorpios being astute? Yeah we are, hugely. He probably knows in his heart of hearts that you like him a lot, but does that shut up the little voice in the back of our heads that tells us what we're risking if we're wrong? No, it doesn't. If anything, it amplifies it. The stakes are too high.
It sounds like he's biding his time, hoping something eventually happens, but is also terrified that something WILL happen.
Look at his mars and his venus, too. He sounds very much like a Virgo guy I'm seeing who has his venus in Virgo and his mars in Libra. Venus in Virgo (for example) would seriously slow down any attempts to jump you, even if he's as Scorpio-male as they come. He'll be ceaselessly weighing up the pros and cons of any relationship with you, obsessing over his worthiness to be with you, and completely paranoid that you don't feel the same, no matter how obvious you think you've been. The mars in Libra in him acts to stymie any tendency towards action. It just backs up the weighing of pros and cons, completely negating the ability to move things forward.
Just a thought. It could be something like that that's holding him back.
It sounds like he's taking you so seriously that he's putting "doing things right" with you above all else in importance in his mind. That's a good thing. Really.
It sounds like he's biding his time, hoping something eventually happens, but is also terrified that something WILL happen.
Look at his mars and his venus, too. He sounds very much like a Virgo guy I'm seeing who has his venus in Virgo and his mars in Libra. Venus in Virgo (for example) would seriously slow down any attempts to jump you, even if he's as Scorpio-male as they come. He'll be ceaselessly weighing up the pros and cons of any relationship with you, obsessing over his worthiness to be with you, and completely paranoid that you don't feel the same, no matter how obvious you think you've been. The mars in Libra in him acts to stymie any tendency towards action. It just backs up the weighing of pros and cons, completely negating the ability to move things forward.
Just a thought. It could be something like that that's holding him back.
It sounds like he's taking you so seriously that he's putting "doing things right" with you above all else in importance in his mind. That's a good thing. Really.
Iāve been in this situation before. I liked her as a friend and occasionally thought about sex but nothing more. Eventually she made the move on me and I just went with it.
Why? I didnāt consider her long term SO material. Donāt read into this.
Why? I didnāt consider her long term SO material. Donāt read into this.
One way to find out, make a move!
So...will this story have some one made the move or keep going into nowhere?
No matter what you call it, Fornication is wrong.
No matter what you call it, Fornication is wrong.
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