@LibraJackson
9 Years
confusing Gemini
Understanding Gemini and Libra Compatibility in Confusing Situations
Gemini and Libra are both air signs, which can create strong mental and emotional connections. Confusing behaviors may stem from Gemini's tendency to be indecisive or playful, while Libra seeks balance and harmony. Open communication and patience are key to clarifying feelings and expectations in this relationship.
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.
I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
He's so confusing and frustrating. I'm glad you cut ties, I wish I was like that.
Why did you guys break up?
Posted by Moonbutter
Why did you guys break up?
to be honest, I don't even know. We were fighting over nothing and it didn't feel the same I guess.
It wasn't a bad break up that's why we haven't stopped talking
Idk shit...maybe he wants to be with u without being labeled as ur boyfriend.
Posted by Moonbutter
Why did you guys break up?to be honest, I don't even know. We were fighting over nothing and it didn't feel the same I guess.
It wasn't a bad break up that's why we haven't stopped talking
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Do you guys connect emotionally?
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
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Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
Posted by LibraJackson
He's gem and I'm a libra. We were seeing eacother since last year and it ended early this year.Somehow we never ended. We are still seeing eacother, talking to eachother everyday.
Now and then we would meet up and do couple things. we've had many discussions about getting back together but it ended up with us being friends (more than friends) this has been going on over the year now.
We've tried stop talking to eachother and move on but both of us have no interested. He said he doesn't want to be with anyone else and yet he won't commit to a relationship with me. He said I deserve better and that he can't be the boyfriend he once was. He gets jealous and annoyed if he sees me with someone else or if I was talking to another guy but when I confronted him about it. He said I could do whatever I want
In fairness, I haven't move on and I couldn't. He's still the love of my life. The chemistry might not be the same but he knows me so well and I'm so comfortable around him. But he's confusing as fuck and I don't know what to do to make us both happy.
So all geminis out there. help me please !
Thank you
He most likely was committed before and it felt too restraining. Having a non-exclusive situationship suits us cause knowing that u are choosing to spend time with us makes us like u or love u. Obligations and commitment are suppressive
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
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Correct. Sexually it's not there. Sure she is good looking and there was a time where I was literally obsessed and she just had to look at me and I'd be turned on but all the fighting etc and hurts over the years just ruined it and now there's no physical/sexual attraction however, she still feels it toward me.
I do enjoy knowing I have her there but I don't have committment to her and can do as I please with anyone else. She seems to enjoy it also.
We still speak almost daily and see each other often and she will sleep over mine about 2-3 times per week and we'll snuggle. Doesn't sound very healthy I know but it works for us for now.
For sure once I meet someone else and start dating, I will erase my contact with her.
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
Correct. Sexually it's not there. Sure she is good looking and there was a time where I was literally obsessed and she just had to look at me and I'd be turned on but all the fighting etc and hurts over the years just ruined it and now there's no physical/sexual attraction however, she still feels it toward me.
I do enjoy knowing I have her there but I don't have committment to her and can do as I please with anyone else. She seems to enjoy it also.
We still speak almost daily and see each other often and she will sleep over mine about 2-3 times per week and we'll snuggle. Doesn't sound very healthy I know but it works for us for now.
For sure once I meet someone else and start dating, I will erase my contact with her.
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Have I mentioned you are...nuts? ?
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
Correct. Sexually it's not there. Sure she is good looking and there was a time where I was literally obsessed and she just had to look at me and I'd be turned on but all the fighting etc and hurts over the years just ruined it and now there's no physical/sexual attraction however, she still feels it toward me.
I do enjoy knowing I have her there but I don't have committment to her and can do as I please with anyone else. She seems to enjoy it also.
We still speak almost daily and see each other often and she will sleep over mine about 2-3 times per week and we'll snuggle. Doesn't sound very healthy I know but it works for us for now.
For sure once I meet someone else and start dating, I will erase my contact with her.
Have I mentioned you are...nuts? ?
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— yes hahaha
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
Correct. Sexually it's not there. Sure she is good looking and there was a time where I was literally obsessed and she just had to look at me and I'd be turned on but all the fighting etc and hurts over the years just ruined it and now there's no physical/sexual attraction however, she still feels it toward me.
I do enjoy knowing I have her there but I don't have committment to her and can do as I please with anyone else. She seems to enjoy it also.
We still speak almost daily and see each other often and she will sleep over mine about 2-3 times per week and we'll snuggle. Doesn't sound very healthy I know but it works for us for now.
For sure once I meet someone else and start dating, I will erase my contact with her.
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Interesting? What is your Moon and Venus
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
Correct. Sexually it's not there. Sure she is good looking and there was a time where I was literally obsessed and she just had to look at me and I'd be turned on but all the fighting etc and hurts over the years just ruined it and now there's no physical/sexual attraction however, she still feels it toward me.
I do enjoy knowing I have her there but I don't have committment to her and can do as I please with anyone else. She seems to enjoy it also.
We still speak almost daily and see each other often and she will sleep over mine about 2-3 times per week and we'll snuggle. Doesn't sound very healthy I know but it works for us for now.
For sure once I meet someone else and start dating, I will erase my contact with her.
Interesting? What is your Moon and Venus
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Libra Moon
Cancer Venus
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
Correct. Sexually it's not there. Sure she is good looking and there was a time where I was literally obsessed and she just had to look at me and I'd be turned on but all the fighting etc and hurts over the years just ruined it and now there's no physical/sexual attraction however, she still feels it toward me.
I do enjoy knowing I have her there but I don't have committment to her and can do as I please with anyone else. She seems to enjoy it also.
We still speak almost daily and see each other often and she will sleep over mine about 2-3 times per week and we'll snuggle. Doesn't sound very healthy I know but it works for us for now.
For sure once I meet someone else and start dating, I will erase my contact with her.
Interesting? What is your Moon and Venus
Libra Moon
Cancer Venus
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Somehow I'm not surprised about the Cancer Venus
Posted by Undine
He sounds like my Gem ex, except that we only talk once a week at salsa since I have unfriended him on FB.I think they don't feel the attraction any longer (especially when the former romantic relationship was otherwise good, but ended). They like us and and the fact that we like them more.
Next thing I would expect to happen (in my relationship) is for him to get a new GF, and for her to ask him to stop talking to me.
You guys sound like myself and cap ex. Your right on the lost attraction but we still like you.
I also still get jealous and hurt seeing or hearing about my ex cap with someone else. However, I don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. I love her but I'm not attracted to her. Our friendship is really amazing though and we just have a connection hence we keep coming back to each other.
Lost attraction? How? You mean you don't want her sexually?
Correct. Sexually it's not there. Sure she is good looking and there was a time where I was literally obsessed and she just had to look at me and I'd be turned on but all the fighting etc and hurts over the years just ruined it and now there's no physical/sexual attraction however, she still feels it toward me.
I do enjoy knowing I have her there but I don't have committment to her and can do as I please with anyone else. She seems to enjoy it also.
We still speak almost daily and see each other often and she will sleep over mine about 2-3 times per week and we'll snuggle. Doesn't sound very healthy I know but it works for us for now.
For sure once I meet someone else and start dating, I will erase my contact with her.
Interesting? What is your Moon and Venus
Libra Moon
Cancer Venus
Somehow I'm not surprised about the Cancer Venus
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LOL! What's that supposed to mean? Is it because I can't let go ?
The cap ex is Aries moon and Aqua venus.
Posted by Moonbutter
Why did you guys break up?to be honest, I don't even know. We were fighting over nothing and it didn't feel the same I guess.
It wasn't a bad break up that's why we haven't stopped talking
Do you guys connect emotionally?
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Sexually yes but I don't know about love emotional. He's would be there for me If I ask him but I don't know.
Posted by bittercupcake
Hun, he's not being confusing...you're just trying to hold on to a lost cause. That's why you are hurting and reading too much into it.He said the following:
he doesn't want to be with anyone else and yet he won't commit to a relationship with me.
He basically hasn't found anyone that has caught his interest.
He said I deserve better and that he can't be the boyfriend he once was. He gets jealous and annoyed if he sees me with someone else or if I was talking to another guy but when I confronted him about it. He said I could do whatever I want
Basically letting you know, that he doesn't want to commit to you but is content with getting all the benefits. You have no right to claim him and tell him he cant fck around with anyone else because he 'told you' you're not in a relationship. He's only using you.
If he does end up committing to you it's because he hasn't found anyone else better to take your place... but the moment that he does - he might bail.
So truthful and honest. I needed to hear that. Thank you
Men really aren't that complicated -- if he wanted to be with you, he would. He's pulling the wool over your eyes with his manipulative behavior. He doesn't want to be claimed because you're not it, unfortunately. I'm sorry to say. But because he hasn't found that one, he wants to keep you around, hence his confusing jealousy. It's purely a comfort thing. I certainly suggest moving on; wait for the one who doesn't hesitate to be with you.
Cancer Venus is going to make him cling... Libra moon is going to make him detached in a way and wishy/washy. Ultimately though, he's going to need a strong emotional connection before he commits.
He may love you but is keeping you around (a) for comfort and (b) until someone better comes along. That is 100% . I know I definitely did that with my ex.
Posted by nats
He may love you but is keeping you around (a) for comfort and (b) until someone better comes along. That is 100% . I know I definitely did that with my ex.
Well how would he love her then, if he's just using her?
Posted by bittercupcake
Hun, he's not being confusing...you're just trying to hold on to a lost cause. That's why you are hurting and reading too much into it.He said the following:
he doesn't want to be with anyone else and yet he won't commit to a relationship with me.
He basically hasn't found anyone that has caught his interest.
He said I deserve better and that he can't be the boyfriend he once was. He gets jealous and annoyed if he sees me with someone else or if I was talking to another guy but when I confronted him about it. He said I could do whatever I want
Basically letting you know, that he doesn't want to commit to you but is content with getting all the benefits. You have no right to claim him and tell him he cant fck around with anyone else because he 'told you' you're not in a relationship. He's only using you.
If he does end up committing to you it's because he hasn't found anyone else better to take your place... but the moment that he does - he might bail.
So truthful and honest. I needed to hear that. Thank you
I don't want to give you false hope and tell you it's because of a placement - this might give you a false sense of hope and I dont want to do that.... I was in a similar position where I tried to justify his confusing behavior (hot/cold) as the stars. But it was much more complex and I ended up heart broken so many times and it was only a year that we had been dating on/off... as someone who's been there - it's just not worth the pain.
Remember an important detail - people will fight for what they want and play hot/cold when they're not fully interested or are unsure of you.... i want someone who wants me not someone who is using me or settling for me.
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This is soo true
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He's gem and I'm a libra. We were seeing eacother since last year and it ended early this year.
Somehow we never ended. We are still seeing eacother, talking to eachother everyday.
Now and then we would meet up and do couple things. we've had many discussions about getting back together but it ended up with us being friends (more than friends) this has been going on over the year now.
We've tried stop talking to eachother and move on but both of us have no interested. He said he doesn't want to be with anyone else and yet he won't commit to a relationship with me. He said I deserve better and that he can't be the boyfriend he once was. He gets jealous and annoyed if he sees me with someone else or if I was talking to another guy but when I confronted him about it. He said I could do whatever I want
In fairness, I haven't move on and I couldn't. He's still the love of my life. The chemistry might not be the same but he knows me so well and I'm so comfortable around him. But he's confusing as fuck and I don't know what to do to make us both happy.
So all geminis out there. help me please !
Thank you