@Libralove813
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Help! My Scorpio Man has iced me out (Page 2)
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The fact that you see him driving 45 minutes to you as his power play 💁
Because it feels that way to us jumpy Libras. Which is why a Scorpio Libra relationship reallllyyy needs good communication and honesty, and the ability to and interest in understanding each other. Imo y'all are worth it tho cuz you are hella amazing under the outer layers.
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Thank you. Yep.
Also one more bit of advice.. if and when he does reach out, just try to be receptive and not too reactive. Like if he tries to pick a fight again (hopefully he won’t… but if his ego is bruised he might) don’t give into it by becoming defensive. I have libra rising as stellium so I know how it is to want to become ice queen and show how quickly we can detach, but I would just be honest and tell him like “my feelings were hurt which is why I reacted the way that I did”. Scorpios are typically forgiving of emotional responses especially if we are given reassurance that there was some type of emotion behind it. It’s possible that he was feeling insecure about you traveling without him and that’s why it manifested in an ugly way, with him starting fights. Obviously I could be wrong, but we are extremely insecure but try to hide it most times.
Thank you for this. We libras do go on the defensive and detach. I had said I would be vulnerable with him and not do that and I had been up to this point.
Thank you @ImperfectStorm
I am learning this in my own situation right now.. i have libra rising and it’s conjunct the libra rising of the Pisces I have been dealing with and I’ve gotten a taste of my own medicine in dealing with him. 😅 i never realized until dating another person who has the same rising sign how we can come across as being cold and detached as a measure of self preservation, even when there are loads of emotions rolling underneath.
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Self preservation indeed. That's it. I love deeply and hurt easy. I'm working on it as well. Best to you and yours!
Y’all both are hot messes. I just realized I haven’t really seen anyone in a healthy relationship with a Scorpio male on dxp in a long time.
Lol, I wonder if he sat in a car, drinking coffee, pissing in a water bottle, waiting for you to prove you wasn’t home
Y’all both are hot messes. I just realized I haven’t really seen anyone in a healthy relationship with a Scorpio male on dxp in a long time.
Isn’t that the sad truth? Or at least a passionate, hot sex one.
If someone could prove me wrong, that’d be cool 😎 😅
Hey, you seems nice. Despite all the answers, you still responded to those politely. I like you.
I would say, think ahead. Yeah, you probably did some petty mistakes but honestly, I'll probably did the same thing if I were you and I am much more petty than that. If a man react this way just for something small, imagine living your life with him. I've been there and honestly, it was the most horrigible time of my life! (he's not a Scorpio though, a Sag)
Have your time alone and think about it. It's better to feel awful now than later.
Good luck!
Thank you. I'm definitely thinking on all sides of this.
I try to find the message in harshness as well. I asked, lol. Thank you for chiming in
Y’all both are hot messes. I just realized I haven’t really seen anyone in a healthy relationship with a Scorpio male on dxp in a long time.
Just when I'm provoked he knows that's my trigger... hanging up on me
Lol, I wonder if he sat in a car, drinking coffee, pissing in a water bottle, waiting for you to prove you wasn’t home
No he didn't even get out and knock on the door. I never said I wasn't home. He assumed asking where was I. I just said none of your business and he left
Y’all both are hot messes. I just realized I haven’t really seen anyone in a healthy relationship with a Scorpio male on dxp in a long time.
Nobody that posts on dxp is ever really in a healthy relationship with any sign that they’re on here asking about. Lol 😂 In healthy relationships, people communicate with each other instead of asking advice from strangers online.
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LOL! Great point lmbo. 🤦🏿♀️
Y’all both are hot messes. I just realized I haven’t really seen anyone in a healthy relationship with a Scorpio male on dxp in a long time.
Nobody that posts on dxp is ever really in a healthy relationship with any sign that they’re on here asking about. Lol 😂 In healthy relationships, people communicate with each other instead of asking advice from strangers online.
LOL! Great point lmbo. 🤦🏿♀️
That’s no shade to you because that’s what brought most of us here to dxp lmao to ask about some guy
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Truth
They where both pissy with each other. A simple disagreement snowballed. Immature stuff.
He may have been mad but he showed up when it matters and in return she blow him off more, continued the confrontation.
What should have been a sit down and discussion at any point became a drawn out fight.
You told a guy who you are dating( Scorpio no less), that you are none of his business. That's a nail in the coffin ⚰️ for your relationship. Even I felt hurt and angry when I read that. Good luck.
Next time you are both (or next boyfriend) are tired and stressed warn each other so you can adapt and not take it personal. Avoid text for anything serious. A huge chunk of communication between people is in voice tonality and body language.
I'm intrigued by the idea of driving over. MOST of my relationships have been with Scorpio, I think probably my Cancer moon to blame but I KNOW these beasts well. And being Gemini, I WILL bring the drama. So, yeah - I'd creep up on him and stand there with a boombox in the rain. And then give him the best makeup sex of his life.
This was totally your fault and if I were him I would have blocked you and let you find a way to the airport.
Thanks but I disagree. And I did take myself to the airport as I told him I would do
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Okay, I'm sorry, I know you're hurt. Look he needs to know you feel punished and punished good before he takes you back. Show him that you are and then invite him to a home cooked meal followed by you as dessert.
You were immature when you pretended not to be home. He’s being immature by ghosting. Tit for tat. Let him have time to sulk.
If and when he comes back it means he’s not done with you yet and you can apologize and fire yourself as his alarm clock.
They where both pissy with each other. A simple disagreement snowballed. Immature stuff.
He may have been mad but he showed up when it matters and in return she blow him off more, continued the confrontation.
What should have been a sit down and discussion at any point became a drawn out fight.
You told a guy who you are dating( Scorpio no less), that you are none of his business. That's a nail in the coffin ⚰️ for your relationship. Even I felt hurt and angry when I read that. Good luck.
Next time you are both (or next boyfriend) are tired and stressed warn each other so you can adapt and not take it personal. Avoid text for anything serious. A huge chunk of communication between people is in voice tonality and body language.
Agreed. Thank you
You were immature when you pretended not to be home. He’s being immature by ghosting. Tit for tat. Let him have time to sulk.
If and when he comes back it means he’s not done with you yet and you can apologize and fire yourself as his alarm clock.
Agreed. I am his alarm clock 3xs a day. I missed this one time bc I was tending to my needs...go figure
Typical Libra women - always failing to recognise that their childish, controlling and passive-aggressive behaviour is akin to throwing kerosene onto a modest fire.
So you don't think he was being childish and controlling?
Some details are missing? I'm sure they are.
There always is...
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Heck I thought I was pretty detailed without writing a novel. What details are you referring to?
This was totally your fault and if I were him I would have blocked you and let you find a way to the airport.
Thanks but I disagree. And I did take myself to the airport as I told him I would do
Okay, I'm sorry, I know you're hurt. Look he needs to know you feel punished and punished good before he takes you back. Show him that you are and then invite him to a home cooked meal followed by you as dessert.
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He is not responding. I've texted and called him every day the last 5 days. I think I'll stop for a couple of days
This was totally your fault and if I were him I would have blocked you and let you find a way to the airport.
Thanks but I disagree. And I did take myself to the airport as I told him I would do
Okay, I'm sorry, I know you're hurt. Look he needs to know you feel punished and punished good before he takes you back. Show him that you are and then invite him to a home cooked meal followed by you as dessert.
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He is not responding. I've texted and called him every day the last 5 days. I think I'll stop for a couple of days
You were immature when you pretended not to be home. He’s being immature by ghosting. Tit for tat. Let him have time to sulk.
If and when he comes back it means he’s not done with you yet and you can apologize and fire yourself as his alarm clock.
Agreed. I am his alarm clock 3xs a day. I missed this one time bc I was tending to my needs...go figure
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There should be a discussion about boundaries moving forward. He’s grown, he can set himself an alarm. I’m with you on not feeling it when you ask him not to come and he shows up like a stalker. Don’t bring drama to my home please 😅 peaceful vibes only.
You were immature when you pretended not to be home. He’s being immature by ghosting. Tit for tat. Let him have time to sulk.
If and when he comes back it means he’s not done with you yet and you can apologize and fire yourself as his alarm clock.
Agreed. I am his alarm clock 3xs a day. I missed this one time bc I was tending to my needs...go figure
There should be a discussion about boundaries moving forward. He’s grown, he can set himself an alarm. I’m with you on not feeling it when you ask him not to come and he shows up like a stalker. Don’t bring drama to my home please 😅 peaceful vibes only.
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For sure! Lol. Thanks
You disrespected him. Simple.
.so nothing I can do?
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Ask for forgiveness.
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. It sounds like a toxic dance.
My advice for you is to not date a water sign. Pick a sign that's down for the shallow emotions and drama (like Gemini). Not just for them but for you because you clearly can't see the forest for the trees when someone is being a cranky pants lol.
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. It sounds like a toxic dance.
My advice for you is to not date a water sign. Pick a sign that's down for the shallow emotions and drama (like Gemini). Not just for them but for you because you clearly can't see the forest for the trees when someone is being a cranky pants lol.
Huh?
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. It sounds like a toxic dance.
My advice for you is to not date a water sign. Pick a sign that's down for the shallow emotions and drama (like Gemini). Not just for them but for you because you clearly can't see the forest for the trees when someone is being a cranky pants lol.
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Air and water are mismatched...
hmmm in my experience, scorpios HATE saying sorry... as well as HATE being lied to... also HATE when you forget small but significant details with attached meanings to them lol.. sounds like a classic move, silent treatment as punishment.. but he's definitely thinking about you.. i'm not sure if you'd want to put up with mind games like this, it's a lot of control issues. though your huge mistake was admitting that you hid from him at home when he drove out lol why would u do that
source: growing up under my mother, the scorpio queen
Not unless there are other aspects of their chart.
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. It sounds like a toxic dance.
My advice for you is to not date a water sign. Pick a sign that's down for the shallow emotions and drama (like Gemini). Not just for them but for you because you clearly can't see the forest for the trees when someone is being a cranky pants lol.
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Air and water are mismatched...
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This is a PSA for air signs but do not date a water sign! The incompatibility with this element may be good short term…like 3 days…but long term it’s a complete fiasco! People keep saying “air isn’t deep enough for water.” Pfft everyone is emotional to a certain extent and so is air. Our emotional responses are proportionate to the offence/wrongdoing whereas water is considered “deep” which is nothing but euphemism for “overboard and excessively emotional.” This is why the water signs act immaturely when hurt. Cancers with their silent treatment. Scorpios with their stonewalling and Pisces with their backbiting. They just don’t communicate and relationships run on that good stuff. Good luck to anyone wanting to date water.
Does Air really go with any element?
Air + Water = Hurricane
Air + Fire = Inferno
Air + Earth = Drought (cracked land = Earthquake
Air + Air = Tornado
Does Air really go with any element?
Air + Water = Hurricane
Air + Fire = Inferno
Air + Earth = Drought
Air + Air = Tornado
I am inferno and that’s how I feel exactly 🔥 💥
Does Air really go with any element?
Air + Water = Hurricane
Air + Fire = Inferno
Air + Earth = Drought
Air + Air = Tornado
Air and water are essential for life. Hurricane destroys what stand in its path, like a power couple destroying obstacles in their path.
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Air and water is essential for immediate life, but earth and fire is also needed for sustainable life. Ever gone hungry and cold? Not fun 🥲
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. It sounds like a toxic dance.
My advice for you is to not date a water sign. Pick a sign that's down for the shallow emotions and drama (like Gemini). Not just for them but for you because you clearly can't see the forest for the trees when someone is being a cranky pants lol.
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Air and water are mismatched...
This is a PSA for air signs but do not date a water sign! The incompatibility with this element may be good short term…like 3 days…but long term it’s a complete fiasco! People keep saying “air isn’t deep enough for water.” Pfft everyone is emotional to a certain extent and so is air. Our emotional responses are proportionate to the offence/wrongdoing whereas water is considered “deep” which is nothing but euphemism for “overboard and excessively emotional.” This is why the water signs act immaturely when hurt. Cancers with their silent treatment. Scorpios with their stonewalling and Pisces with their backbiting. They just don’t communicate and relationships run on that good stuff. Good luck to anyone wanting to date water.
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And good luck for any water signs wanting to date air signs!
He is not responding. I've texted and called him every day the last 5 days. I think I'll stop for a couple of days
And what did you say in your texts? How were they worded?
Did you accept some responsibility in the matter or apologise?
It's possible to disarm someone who is pissed off with you, if you word things the right way.
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I just told him that I was deeply sorry. That he drove to see about me and I allowed my emotions to hurt and unintentionally rejected the one I love. I said, I know it's not a good feeling and that I should have been better and I'm working on that. Then I asked what can I do for his forgiveness and any way we can rebuild connection and trust.
See this is where you fucked up…He came anyway! Like a 45-50 min drive. I pretended not to be home so he called ond asked where I was, I asked if he was going to apologize he said no so I said none of your business. He said ok bye.
I would have iced you out too. Good luck. Lol
Yeah. It sounded immature and stupid
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Thanks
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. It sounds like a toxic dance.
My advice for you is to not date a water sign. Pick a sign that's down for the shallow emotions and drama (like Gemini). Not just for them but for you because you clearly can't see the forest for the trees when someone is being a cranky pants lol.
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Air and water are mismatched...
Nah, it just requires BOTH sides to set ego aside to make it work.
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True. Thanks
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. It sounds like a toxic dance.
My advice for you is to not date a water sign. Pick a sign that's down for the shallow emotions and drama (like Gemini). Not just for them but for you because you clearly can't see the forest for the trees when someone is being a cranky pants lol.
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Air and water are mismatched...
... Sometimes it is....i would never act that way with a moody Scorpio i kinda always get them back in their happy moods and afterwards they spoil me because they are just happy to have you. Scorpios have their moods and moments but to get into it with pity drama is not cool. When i see a moody water sign that i like and respect my caring Taurus nature kicks in and i just want to be there and protect instead of attack lol
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We all have a button that gets pushed and don't always show up as our best let alone perfect selves.
You two don't sound compatible.
It's only been 4 months and already you're both hurting each other over such petty little things.
You guys are playing tug of war trying to one up each other, it's nuts. Literally what's the point of this relationship?
I wanna break up with both of you and I'm not even in it.
He is not responding. I've texted and called him every day the last 5 days. I think I'll stop for a couple of days
And what did you say in your texts? How were they worded?
Did you accept some responsibility in the matter or apologise?
It's possible to disarm someone who is pissed off with you, if you word things the right way.
I just told him that I was deeply sorry. That he drove to see about me and I allowed my emotions to hurt and unintentionally rejected the one I love. I said, I know it's not a good feeling and that I should have been better and I'm working on that. Then I asked what can I do for his forgiveness and any way we can rebuild connection and trust.
It will take him a long ass time to forgive you. Even if he breaks the silent treatment and you guys make up, that incident will be brewing underneath and he'll throw it in your face the next time you guys have another tiff. Just a pre caution since we Libras move on from squabbles pretty quickly.
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Thank you. It's my first time dating a Scorpio so it's been a learning experience. I guess this overshadows all my good
And could you both settle the drama by now?
I'm ready but he has ghosted me
You two don't sound compatible.
It's only been 4 months and already you're both hurting each other over such petty little things.
You guys are playing tug of war trying to one up each other, it's nuts. Literally what's the point of this relationship?
I wanna break up with both of you and I'm not even in it.
This was once incident
I just don’t understand why people ice others out? It’s so mean and childish. I could never do that to someone. I’ve had it done to me and understand how it feels. Just have a conversation and work things out or don’t. Or if you really need some space then let the other know you’re not going to communicate for awhile and need some time to think/reflect. Don’t just ghost. 😔
It's the worst. And I have abandonment issues so I'm sure that's making it feel worse. Just say something. But I'm beginning to tire of thinking about it
You disrespected him. Simple.
I apologized
I just don’t understand why people ice others out? It’s so mean and childish. I could never do that to someone. I’ve had it done to me and understand how it feels. Just have a conversation and work things out or don’t. Or if you really need some space then let the other know you’re not going to communicate for awhile and need some time to think/reflect. Don’t just ghost. 😔
It's the worst. And I have abandonment issues so I'm sure that's making it feel worse. Just say something. But I'm beginning to tire of thinking about it
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Abandonment issues are no joke at all. How about you think he is death and doesn't exist anymore. You would be forced to move on without him, alone.
That helped me to let go of any idiot and be more confident in myself, alone! 😕😕
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I may well end up doing so. Part of me doesn't want to let go of the feeling I have for him. And to add insult to injury my birthday is next weekend...we had plans 😭
These complications over small things he offered you readily and easily speak volumes.
You don't think he matters much. That's it.
You two don't sound compatible.
It's only been 4 months and already you're both hurting each other over such petty little things.
You guys are playing tug of war trying to one up each other, it's nuts. Literally what's the point of this relationship?
I wanna break up with both of you and I'm not even in it.
This was once incident
It's one of several according to you:
Is he ghosting me? It feels awful bc while we debated more than we liked we enjoyed being together.
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I just don’t understand why people ice others out? It’s so mean and childish. I could never do that to someone. I’ve had it done to me and understand how it feels. Just have a conversation and work things out or don’t. Or if you really need some space then let the other know you’re not going to communicate for awhile and need some time to think/reflect. Don’t just ghost. 😔
It's the worst. And I have abandonment issues so I'm sure that's making it feel worse. Just say something. But I'm beginning to tire of thinking about it
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Abandonment issues are no joke at all. How about you think he is death and doesn't exist anymore. You would be forced to move on without him, alone.
That helped me to let go of any idiot and be more confident in myself, alone! 😕😕
I may well end up doing so. Part of me doesn't want to let go of the feeling I have for him. And to add insult to injury my birthday is next weekend...we had plans 😭
They do get under the skin. But if he can't let go of ego and communicate too, it's going to be hell later. You'll bend, and he'll push more. People can say Scorpio this or Libra that, but if both people really care and love each other, they will be able to at least communicate freely to resolve things. I'm not saying change their core, but...
Ok so Scorpio has a specific love language and thought processes. As does Libra. They don't need to be the same to understand each other and work together, they just need to be able to stop and think, wait, what if the other person sees this differently? Maybe we can discuss it and understand each other. Now, in the heat of the moment it might not work, there will still be fights, but the ability to step back then come back and work it out makes a big difference.
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All of this. Well stayed. If only...
These complications over small things he offered you readily and easily speak volumes.
You don't think he matters much. That's it.
Not true. Thanks
You two don't sound compatible.
It's only been 4 months and already you're both hurting each other over such petty little things.
You guys are playing tug of war trying to one up each other, it's nuts. Literally what's the point of this relationship?
I wanna break up with both of you and I'm not even in it.
This was once incident
It's one of several according to you:
Is he ghosting me? It feels awful bc while we debated more than we liked we enjoyed being together.
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He's a Scorpio he likes to debate, I don't. He admits to liking debate just not arguing. I don't like either.
Anyway thanks
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