@Libralove813
7 Years
Help! My Scorpio Man has iced me out (Page 4)
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Gurrrrl don’t drink and drive. It’s not worth it.
Update us when he contacts you again. You both spoke now you have to let the feelings die down.
Damage repair is going on. Be very, VERY patient with both him and yourself. Try not to raise any new arguments, especially petty ones.
He does still have feelings for you but is unsure of what to do next. Maybe once he's with you, alone, comfort him a bit. Make sure he RETURNS THE FAVOR.
Got it. I'm not pressing the issue just reestablish communication and friendship. We talked again today on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. And that's the update
Update us when he contacts you again. You both spoke now you have to let the feelings die down.
Damage repair is going on. Be very, VERY patient with both him and yourself. Try not to raise any new arguments, especially petty ones.
He does still have feelings for you but is unsure of what to do next. Maybe once he's with you, alone, comfort him a bit. Make sure he RETURNS THE FAVOR.
Got it. I'm not pressing the issue just reestablish communication and friendship. We talked again today on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. And that's the update
Essentially, yes. You're not starting over, you're just going back to the light flirting and conversation that makes you both feel comfortable again.
He has 'forgiven' you = I'm paying attention to what happens next with 'us'. Him asking you to call him back is basically wondering if he can slowly begin trusting you again.
Now, all you need to think about is: after fighting - is this relationship worth saving? If YES, proceed with light flirting and banter. If MAYBE or NO, you need to let him down slowly and you end it AMICABLY.
You are the deciding factor here, not him.
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I love this last comment. I have actually been asking myself that today. Is it worth it? It seemed like a lot for me. I will be paying attention as well and deciding.
Thank you sooo much for the continued advice and perspectives... you are gonna be my dxp bestie in a minute 😂
Update us when he contacts you again. You both spoke now you have to let the feelings die down.
Damage repair is going on. Be very, VERY patient with both him and yourself. Try not to raise any new arguments, especially petty ones.
He does still have feelings for you but is unsure of what to do next. Maybe once he's with you, alone, comfort him a bit. Make sure he RETURNS THE FAVOR.
Got it. I'm not pressing the issue just reestablish communication and friendship. We talked again today on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. And that's the update
Essentially, yes. You're not starting over, you're just going back to the light flirting and conversation that makes you both feel comfortable again.
He has 'forgiven' you = I'm paying attention to what happens next with 'us'. Him asking you to call him back is basically wondering if he can slowly begin trusting you again.
Now, all you need to think about is: after fighting - is this relationship worth saving? If YES, proceed with light flirting and banter. If MAYBE or NO, you need to let him down slowly and you end it AMICABLY.
You are the deciding factor here, not him.
I love this last comment. I have actually been asking myself that today. Is it worth it? It seemed like a lot for me. I will be paying attention as well and deciding.
Thank you sooo much for the continued advice and perspectives... you are gonna be my dxp bestie in a minute 😂
Sleep on it, take two days if you have to - but come up with an answer by then. Don't Libra that shit for 2 weeks. 😂
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Final update for now
We talked again Friday morning on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. We talked most of Friday. He is taking me out for dinner this weekend for my birthday. At one point in the conversation he called me baby. I think it was a slip from how he used to refer to me lol. But that's the update. Gonna take it slow, one day at a time and see how we do...
Soooo it's been almost 2 months and I figured I'd be true to system and report that, things had begun to get back on track after a month. He spoiled me and we spent time together bonding again...after about a month I noticed him pulling back. He was still calling everyday, but not as much, still texting everyday, but not as much and he wasn't coming to see me as often.
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event. I confronted him, with her, and he admitted it.
I do understand that there is always a possibility of exes showing back up. we both parted from our exes earlier this year. He could have told me that leading up to the event and I would have opted to stay home and let go. I felt disrespected to say the least b/c he could have just been honest when I was attempting to reach out during his time of absence. I took a chance and it backfired. Part of me thinks I should have let him stay gone the first time and the second part of me feels like i took one of the biggest risks in love for me in even going after him, waiting for him, being patient with him in our dating relationship etc., i've never done that, so i grew and also learned the hard way b/c based on his previous and now subsequent actions, he probably didn't deserve it, but many times they dont.
Any who. Yes I was/still am a little, upset and hurt and feeling foolish, but I also feel like his loss and how he couldn't have cared to even put me in that situation. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I run into him out this weekend. I hadn't seen him and he tried several time to speak to me coming and then say good bye to me leaving. I responded to his 2nd attempt to say hi when he saw me with a flat "hey" and he offered to get me something to drink and i said no. but I did not respond to his 3 attempts to say goodnight/bye as he was leaving out/walking to the parking lot. I was there with a couple of friends and had a great time at the party and danced with a couple of guys and laughed as if he wasn't there and my friend said he just watched from across the room all night. I felt good leaving, but I won't lie having seen him, the next day lingering feelings emerged and i thought about the "good" feelings we had and felt sad, but then i thought, those probably were a lie as well. So I'm just caring for my emotions and my bruised heart and ego and moving on. I knew there was a risk, but not in him working on the low to get his ex back. that was planned. But there's an "I told you so" in here somewhere for several of you and you did, but I risked it, such is the case in love.
Anywho this is the final update on this Scorpio guy. Best to everyone!! Cheers and Thank you!
how old are you?
Soooo it's been almost 2 months and I figured I'd be true to system and report that, things had begun to get back on track after a month. He spoiled me and we spent time together bonding again...after about a month I noticed him pulling back. He was still calling everyday, but not as much, still texting everyday, but not as much and he wasn't coming to see me as often.
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event. I confronted him, with her, and he admitted it.
I do understand that there is always a possibility of exes showing back up. we both parted from our exes earlier this year. He could have told me that leading up to the event and I would have opted to stay home and let go. I felt disrespected to say the least b/c he could have just been honest when I was attempting to reach out during his time of absence. I took a chance and it backfired. Part of me thinks I should have let him stay gone the first time and the second part of me feels like i took one of the biggest risks in love for me in even going after him, waiting for him, being patient with him in our dating relationship etc., i've never done that, so i grew and also learned the hard way b/c based on his previous and now subsequent actions, he probably didn't deserve it, but many times they dont.
Any who. Yes I was/still am a little, upset and hurt and feeling foolish, but I also feel like his loss and how he couldn't have cared to even put me in that situation. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I run into him out this weekend. I hadn't seen him and he tried several time to speak to me coming and then say good bye to me leaving. I responded to his 2nd attempt to say hi when he saw me with a flat "hey" and he offered to get me something to drink and i said no. but I did not respond to his 3 attempts to say goodnight/bye as he was leaving out/walking to the parking lot. I was there with a couple of friends and had a great time at the party and danced with a couple of guys and laughed as if he wasn't there and my friend said he just watched from across the room all night. I felt good leaving, but I won't lie having seen him, the next day lingering feelings emerged and i thought about the "good" feelings we had and felt sad, but then i thought, those probably were a lie as well. So I'm just caring for my emotions and my bruised heart and ego and moving on. I knew there was a risk, but not in him working on the low to get his ex back. that was planned. But there's an "I told you so" in here somewhere for several of you and you did, but I risked it, such is the case in love.
Anywho this is the final update on this Scorpio guy. Best to everyone!! Cheers and Thank you!
Good riddance and at least he was honest about it and it didn't take too long to get it all figured out.
Best of luck in moving on, and don't fault him for still loving his ex. It just wasn't meant to be.
There are plenty more single men available and waiting, you just have to wade through the shit pool of married and attached men first, to find your diamond. Taken men are polluting dating apps.
how old are you?
May I ask why?
Soooo it's been almost 2 months and I figured I'd be true to system and report that, things had begun to get back on track after a month. He spoiled me and we spent time together bonding again...after about a month I noticed him pulling back. He was still calling everyday, but not as much, still texting everyday, but not as much and he wasn't coming to see me as often.
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event. I confronted him, with her, and he admitted it.
I do understand that there is always a possibility of exes showing back up. we both parted from our exes earlier this year. He could have told me that leading up to the event and I would have opted to stay home and let go. I felt disrespected to say the least b/c he could have just been honest when I was attempting to reach out during his time of absence. I took a chance and it backfired. Part of me thinks I should have let him stay gone the first time and the second part of me feels like i took one of the biggest risks in love for me in even going after him, waiting for him, being patient with him in our dating relationship etc., i've never done that, so i grew and also learned the hard way b/c based on his previous and now subsequent actions, he probably didn't deserve it, but many times they dont.
Any who. Yes I was/still am a little, upset and hurt and feeling foolish, but I also feel like his loss and how he couldn't have cared to even put me in that situation. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I run into him out this weekend. I hadn't seen him and he tried several time to speak to me coming and then say good bye to me leaving. I responded to his 2nd attempt to say hi when he saw me with a flat "hey" and he offered to get me something to drink and i said no. but I did not respond to his 3 attempts to say goodnight/bye as he was leaving out/walking to the parking lot. I was there with a couple of friends and had a great time at the party and danced with a couple of guys and laughed as if he wasn't there and my friend said he just watched from across the room all night. I felt good leaving, but I won't lie having seen him, the next day lingering feelings emerged and i thought about the "good" feelings we had and felt sad, but then i thought, those probably were a lie as well. So I'm just caring for my emotions and my bruised heart and ego and moving on. I knew there was a risk, but not in him working on the low to get his ex back. that was planned. But there's an "I told you so" in here somewhere for several of you and you did, but I risked it, such is the case in love.
Anywho this is the final update on this Scorpio guy. Best to everyone!! Cheers and Thank you!
Good riddance and at least he was honest about it and it didn't take too long to get it all figured out.
Best of luck in moving on, and don't fault him for still loving his ex. It just wasn't meant to be.
There are plenty more single men available and waiting, you just have to wade through the shit pool of married and attached men first, to find your diamond. Taken men are polluting dating apps.
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Thank you!!! There's definitely pee in pool lol.
And I don't fault him for still loving his ex but for not being honest about his intentions to get back with her when he decided that's what he wanted.
Ah the games they play. Conflicted for the win. Annndd now regretting his decision.
Good for you for walking away. Wishing you the best in finding a committed loving partner 💖
Thank you so much for that! I need the well wishes with all these relational land mines.
I don't know what he is but he made his choice.
He hit it and quit it Pete Davidson style . Scorpios know the feminine ways well so they manipulate them well. He's probably enjoying himself knowing he got to you and managed to stay away at the same time.
Yeah maybe but life has already handed him punches so he can have this one. He may have meant it for evil but God will make good of it 😉
Ugh I am sorry that it ended up in disappointment, especially after all the effort you put in. I’ve been through something similar and it’s so bittersweet, bitter because of the disappointment, sweet because of the lessons and growth.
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Let him sit with that regret for a while like he made you sit with it for all that time. 💯 you did the best you could and you moved with integrity.. like you said, karma will take care of the rest.
Thank you ☺️. This message is very comforting. I did really him. I did move with integrity. When we confronted him together and he admitted he asked her there and told her he wanted to get back together and that he was just with me for fckg. That hurt whether it's true or to get her back. But you can't say that about someone and expect them to believe you actually cared about them.
I don’t even know why people waste time with these cowards. They try to bury their problems/insecurities whatever it may be but it will always come to surface.
When people stop abetting their behavior they will finally realize it’s not everyone else, it is them. A socially intelligent individual should be able to see Scorpios facade and knock it down.
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Ugh I am sorry that it ended up in disappointment, especially after all the effort you put in. I’ve been through something similar and it’s so bittersweet, bitter because of the disappointment, sweet because of the lessons and growth.
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Let him sit with that regret for a while like he made you sit with it for all that time. 💯 you did the best you could and you moved with integrity.. like you said, karma will take care of the rest.
Thank you ☺️. This message is very comforting. I did really him. I did move with integrity. When we confronted him together and he admitted he asked her there and told her he wanted to get back together and that he was just with me for fckg. That hurt whether it's true or to get her back. But you can't say that about someone and expect them to believe you actually cared about them.
He is a real piece of shit!! Not your loss at all. He did you a favor.. you dodged a bullet.
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Indeed!! Thank you...sigh
how old are you?
May I ask why?
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Him being older than you and saying, I wish I had met you 20 yrs ago. Wanted to know if the instant ick I got from reading that was justified.
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
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I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
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Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
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Three weeks in and talking about love!!!
Do you have something you want to tell me?!! 😛
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
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as Scorpio Venus I’ve detach with exes but those I was not in love with. The one I love is not easy
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
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how old are you?
May I ask why?
Him being older than you and saying, I wish I had met you 20 yrs ago. Wanted to know if the instant ick I got from reading that was justified.
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I can tell how old you are lol. He's 9 yrs older than me
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
Three weeks in and talking about love!!!
Do you have something you want to tell me?!! 😛
You already know... 😉
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The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!
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I did not send his calls to vm he sent mine there.
Thanks though.
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
Three weeks in and talking about love!!!
Do you have something you want to tell me?!! 😛
Ummm no. I said it in the initial post and this updated post
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
as Scorpio Venus I’ve detach with exes but those I was not in love with. The one I love is not easy
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Good to know. Thanks
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!
I did not send his calls to vm he sent mine there.
Thanks though.
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It was only a few short months. I think it's best to just move on.
I'm not a Scorpio but I do think that when someone treats me a certain way, like ignoring and playing games, that they will continue to do that. (whether on his or your side) I hold grudges and cut my losses.
He's older then you, and decided to try again with someone else that will probably continue to treat him whatever way he didn't want to be treated, same for the ex. Let them have each other. Better to find out sooner than later.
It's always best to move on and find someone new, than to deal with stuff you couldn't resolve from the past. People don't really change, if you can't tolerate them in a short amount of time, like 6 months or less, how can you do it for years? (Rhetorical question)
It's just easier to find a person that you are happier with and that brings out the best in you, not someone who is making you unhappy- That goes for any sign.
@ImperfectStorm called it. And YOU have the balls to expect HIM to apologize? Haha! YOU done fk’d up. Best you can do is try crawling back with apologies and offers of BJ’s. 🍆🍆🍆
What a moron she is! I think she found out he didn’t want her or something but I haven’t read it yet…wow!
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!
I did not send his calls to vm he sent mine there.
Thanks though.
It was only a few short months. I think it's best to just move on.
I'm not a Scorpio but I do think that when someone treats me a certain way, like ignoring and playing games, that they will continue to do that. (whether on his or your side) I hold grudges and cut my losses.
He's older then you, and decided to try again with someone else that will probably continue to treat him whatever way he didn't want to be treated, same for the ex. Let them have each other. Better to find out sooner than later.
It's always best to move on and find someone new, than to deal with stuff you couldn't resolve from the past. People don't really change, if you can't tolerate them in a short amount of time, like 6 months or less, how can you do it for years? (Rhetorical question)
It's just easier to find a person that you are happier with and that brings out the best in you, not someone who is making you unhappy- That goes for any sign.
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THIS! Definitely am moving on. I'm a Libra-Taurus so mentally I'm moving on but letting go from the heart will take another 2-3wks.
Thanks for your perspective
@ImperfectStorm called it. And YOU have the balls to expect HIM to apologize? Haha! YOU done fk’d up. Best you can do is try crawling back with apologies and offers of BJ’s. 🍆🍆🍆
What a moron she is! I think she found out he didn’t want her or something but I haven’t read it yet…wow!
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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Distance make them found more fucks and it’s not 18th Century anymore to wait for the letter to come for years…when dick grew older and they had to pretend to love to fuck…or marry.
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OK
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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I hope one of those convos was about open communication.
Sounds typical scorp, he's over it and moving forward. Approaching the communication convo if you haven't yet might need to be handled a little carefully so he doesn't feel like you're trying to dredge up the past, rather to prevent problems going forward. And it's up to you, but don't go on too long treading lightly lest you end up on eggshells forever. Yes, scorps can be reaaallllyyyy sensitive, but don't take it to doormat status trying to avoid issues.
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You're right. That and problem-solving. Identify the problem, and solve it together. However it takes two for that to work.
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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I hope one of those convos was about open communication.
Sounds typical scorp, he's over it and moving forward. Approaching the communication convo if you haven't yet might need to be handled a little carefully so he doesn't feel like you're trying to dredge up the past, rather to prevent problems going forward. And it's up to you, but don't go on too long treading lightly lest you end up on eggshells forever. Yes, scorps can be reaaallllyyyy sensitive, but don't take it to doormat status trying to avoid issues.
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Thank you. Great words. This is true. And yes we talked about it at his initiation, we discussed the communication and I'm not walking on eggshells either just choosing my words and battles. I've gotten to the point that we will either make it work or not.
Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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Distance make them found more fucks and it’s not 18th Century anymore to wait for the letter to come for years…when dick grew older and they had to pretend to love to fuck…or marry.
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I don't understand this comment soon I'll just say "ok"
Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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Distance make them found more fucks and it’s not 18th Century anymore to wait for the letter to come for years…when dick grew older and they had to pretend to love to fuck…or marry.
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Stop it. This shallow shit isn't always the case.
Sometimes people have to learn the hard way what they want and is important. That includes with others.
You don't have to dismiss the past mistakes. Lol it's more like check to see if they learned thier lesson.
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Hanging up on you is very disrespectful, and you deserve better treatment. Have you tried a direct approach? Let him know exactly what it is that you expect from him and exactly what you have to offer him. Then see how he responds. You have more patience than I do.
"We've been together 4 months."
That's a short time. And you still have to raise him. Think about it.
Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Hanging up on you is very disrespectful, and you deserve better treatment. Have you tried a direct approach? Let him know exactly what it is that you expect from him and exactly what you have to offer him. Then see how he responds. You have more patience than I do.
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Thank you. And yes. I'm pretty clear and direct so there's no confusion. We talked, went out to dinner. He's in limbo so he says....he wants to get back with his ex but he also wants to see where things could go with us. I told him he needs to figure that out on his own
Omg why? Lol
Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
click to expandI would.
click to expandThank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Hanging up on you is very disrespectful, and you deserve better treatment. Have you tried a direct approach? Let him know exactly what it is that you expect from him and exactly what you have to offer him. Then see how he responds. You have more patience than I do.
click to expandThank you. And yes. I'm pretty clear and direct so there's no confusion. We talked, went out to dinner. He's in limbo so he says....he wants to get back with his ex but he also wants to see where things could go with us. I told him he needs to figure that out on his own
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Glad you found out the truth. Good decision.
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