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So I have an update man this might be a long one.
So last night Thursday night was my birthday party that My Scorpio Man and I already put in place prior to the silent treatment. We had actually made plans for this entire weekend including last night. He had reserved me a VIP area for me at one of the local lounges and I had invited several of my friends to come out to have fun and party the Night away with me. I had contemplated all week whether or not I was going to go because he wasn't taking to me and I just didn't know if I could handle putting myself out there to be ignored. After some convincing from some friends and because I had already invited everybody and they did not want me to feel like I was backing down because of him I decided to keep the plans even though I didn't know for sure if I still even had the VIP boot. Just go out and have fun celebrating. Thursday morning gets here I went to work and I was full of emotions that came out of nowhere but we know where they came from. I think it was maybe some anxiety and sadness from the whole situation and then knowing that I probably would see him Thursday night and not knowing what to expect. Well I showed up as if I still had the section and when I walked in he saw i just stood there waiting to see what he'd say and he said oh here's your section over here on the dance floor and you look beautiful.
so that was fine all my friends came and then the next thing you know he brought me the bottled water I requested. he danced with me that night you know a little bit later after that. I was being entertained by them but he was checking on me and out of nowhere he shows up with a glass of my favorite wine and I said oh what's this he said oh just in case he said I know you like it. so I accepted it and then he sent the waitress over and she told me he told her to take care of me whatever I want. Then I went out on the dance floor and when I came back I had food at the table and he had come by and brought me my usual order so that was great and then it just felt like he had warmed up and loosened up to me at least talking to me a little bit now whether that was him hosting or not I don't know but he was being cordial but he really was seeing after me like he normally would when we were together. so he asked me to dance the second time and this time y'all I could not help it, I said so you don't have any feelings left for me all? He said oh yeah of course I do always and I said but what? and he said no but, he said you just don't know what you did to me when you did that and in that moment I could feel the weight of it the way he said it and I said I think I do, I did not know then but I think I do now and then I just looked at him before we started dancing I said I'm so sorry and when I said I could see in his eyes whether it was my apology or what my apology stirred up in him I could tell it had some kind of impact on him and so rest of the night we were more friendly and open with each other. it's not like we were back to how we were before but when I was leaving I mean he waited for me, walked me to my car gave me a hug and I said will you call me when you're done and he said yes. so he called me on the drive home and I asked him what did I do to him. so I don't drag it out y'all he said he felt rejected. he said after he had open his heart up to me even after he said he wasn't going to get in another relationship after his ex hurt him deeply, he said but when he met me he decided to open his heart up to me and let me in and he felt like I rejected him and then not to mention when I acted like I wasn't home he said it made him believe that I wasn't there and that I had chose to be with somebody else that night and that I made up that argument just so I could go and be with somebody else you know which is what happened with his ex and he said he didn't see my car there and I was going out of town the next day and so all that just made him think I wanted to be somewhere else and I just explained to him that I was home he did not see my car because I parked in a different place because I had planned on getting back out so I parked in the front instead of the back and plain sight but he didn't see bcuz that's not where I normally park at night . He said he then started questioning me going out of town to visit one of my family members turning 70 and if that's what I was doing or if I was going to meet up with another guy. I asked him so before all this happened did you believe I was going to celebrate my 70 year old uncle he said yes I did but after everything I didn't anymore. so I told him that I'm still learning him and his triggers and I told him I was not anything malicious that it was straight out of the heat of the moment In my emotions and I was tired so I really didn't mean anything malicious and that I wouldn't do that to him just to make him hurt it just came from emotion and I told him I would have liked the opportunity to have learned from that just through a conversation. I said talking to you I understand when I did what I did you you were triggered and so whatever your triggers result into that's what I got. I said had I known this would hit deep I would have done something differently and I did not mean to make you feel rejected. he went on to reiterate just kind of all the stuff that had gone through his mind and it just took him back to that place with his ex and so that conversation ended and segued into something else and we stayed on the phone probably an hour and by then we had made it back home he said he needed freshen up and he'd call me back. He offered to take me to dinner for my birthday. he didn't end up calling me back maybe he went to sleep. I sent him a message good night and let him know I was off the next day if he wanted to call me.
Whew I know I probably gave too many unnecessary details but that's the update. Doesn't mean that things are going to go back to the same but we had the conversation.
So last night Thursday night was my birthday party that My Scorpio Man and I already put in place prior to the silent treatment. We had actually made plans for this entire weekend including last night. He had reserved me a VIP area for me at one of the local lounges and I had invited several of my friends to come out to have fun and party the Night away with me. I had contemplated all week whether or not I was going to go because he wasn't taking to me and I just didn't know if I could handle putting myself out there to be ignored. After some convincing from some friends and because I had already invited everybody and they did not want me to feel like I was backing down because of him I decided to keep the plans even though I didn't know for sure if I still even had the VIP boot. Just go out and have fun celebrating. Thursday morning gets here I went to work and I was full of emotions that came out of nowhere but we know where they came from. I think it was maybe some anxiety and sadness from the whole situation and then knowing that I probably would see him Thursday night and not knowing what to expect. Well I showed up as if I still had the section and when I walked in he saw i just stood there waiting to see what he'd say and he said oh here's your section over here on the dance floor and you look beautiful.
so that was fine all my friends came and then the next thing you know he brought me the bottled water I requested. he danced with me that night you know a little bit later after that. I was being entertained by them but he was checking on me and out of nowhere he shows up with a glass of my favorite wine and I said oh what's this he said oh just in case he said I know you like it. so I accepted it and then he sent the waitress over and she told me he told her to take care of me whatever I want. Then I went out on the dance floor and when I came back I had food at the table and he had come by and brought me my usual order so that was great and then it just felt like he had warmed up and loosened up to me at least talking to me a little bit now whether that was him hosting or not I don't know but he was being cordial but he really was seeing after me like he normally would when we were together. so he asked me to dance the second time and this time y'all I could not help it, I said so you don't have any feelings left for me all? He said oh yeah of course I do always and I said but what? and he said no but, he said you just don't know what you did to me when you did that and in that moment I could feel the weight of it the way he said it and I said I think I do, I did not know then but I think I do now and then I just looked at him before we started dancing I said I'm so sorry and when I said I could see in his eyes whether it was my apology or what my apology stirred up in him I could tell it had some kind of impact on him and so rest of the night we were more friendly and open with each other. it's not like we were back to how we were before but when I was leaving I mean he waited for me, walked me to my car gave me a hug and I said will you call me when you're done and he said yes. so he called me on the drive home and I asked him what did I do to him. so I don't drag it out y'all he said he felt rejected. he said after he had open his heart up to me even after he said he wasn't going to get in another relationship after his ex hurt him deeply, he said but when he met me he decided to open his heart up to me and let me in and he felt like I rejected him and then not to mention when I acted like I wasn't home he said it made him believe that I wasn't there and that I had chose to be with somebody else that night and that I made up that argument just so I could go and be with somebody else you know which is what happened with his ex and he said he didn't see my car there and I was going out of town the next day and so all that just made him think I wanted to be somewhere else and I just explained to him that I was home he did not see my car because I parked in a different place because I had planned on getting back out so I parked in the front instead of the back and plain sight but he didn't see bcuz that's not where I normally park at night . He said he then started questioning me going out of town to visit one of my family members turning 70 and if that's what I was doing or if I was going to meet up with another guy. I asked him so before all this happened did you believe I was going to celebrate my 70 year old uncle he said yes I did but after everything I didn't anymore. so I told him that I'm still learning him and his triggers and I told him I was not anything malicious that it was straight out of the heat of the moment In my emotions and I was tired so I really didn't mean anything malicious and that I wouldn't do that to him just to make him hurt it just came from emotion and I told him I would have liked the opportunity to have learned from that just through a conversation. I said talking to you I understand when I did what I did you you were triggered and so whatever your triggers result into that's what I got. I said had I known this would hit deep I would have done something differently and I did not mean to make you feel rejected. he went on to reiterate just kind of all the stuff that had gone through his mind and it just took him back to that place with his ex and so that conversation ended and segued into something else and we stayed on the phone probably an hour and by then we had made it back home he said he needed freshen up and he'd call me back. He offered to take me to dinner for my birthday. he didn't end up calling me back maybe he went to sleep. I sent him a message good night and let him know I was off the next day if he wanted to call me.
Whew I know I probably gave too many unnecessary details but that's the update. Doesn't mean that things are going to go back to the same but we had the conversation.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Libralove813
So I have an update man this might be a long one.
So last night Thursday night was my birthday party that My Scorpio Man and I already put in place prior to the silent treatment. We had actually made plans for this entire weekend including last night. He had reserved me a VIP area for me at one of the local lounges and I had invited several of my friends to come out to have fun and party the Night away with me. I had contemplated all week whether or not I was going to go because he wasn't taking to me and I just didn't know if I could handle putting myself out there to be ignored. After some convincing from some friends and because I had already invited everybody and they did not want me to feel like I was backing down because of him I decided to keep the plans even though I didn't know for sure if I still even had the VIP boot. Just go out and have fun celebrating. Thursday morning gets here I went to work and I was full of emotions that came out of nowhere but we know where they came from. I think it was maybe some anxiety and sadness from the whole situation and then knowing that I probably would see him Thursday night and not knowing what to expect. Well I showed up as if I still had the section and when I walked in he saw i just stood there waiting to see what he'd say and he said oh here's your section over here on the dance floor and you look beautiful.
so that was fine all my friends came and then the next thing you know he brought me the bottled water I requested. he danced with me that night you know a little bit later after that. I was being entertained by them but he was checking on me and out of nowhere he shows up with a glass of my favorite wine and I said oh what's this he said oh just in case he said I know you like it. so I accepted it and then he sent the waitress over and she told me he told her to take care of me whatever I want. Then I went out on the dance floor and when I came back I had food at the table and he had come by and brought me my usual order so that was great and then it just felt like he had warmed up and loosened up to me at least talking to me a little bit now whether that was him hosting or not I don't know but he was being cordial but he really was seeing after me like he normally would when we were together. so he asked me to dance the second time and this time y'all I could not help it, I said so you don't have any feelings left for me all? He said oh yeah of course I do always and I said but what? and he said no but, he said you just don't know what you did to me when you did that and in that moment I could feel the weight of it the way he said it and I said I think I do, I did not know then but I think I do now and then I just looked at him before we started dancing I said I'm so sorry and when I said I could see in his eyes whether it was my apology or what my apology stirred up in him I could tell it had some kind of impact on him and so rest of the night we were more friendly and open with each other. it's not like we were back to how we were before but when I was leaving I mean he waited for me, walked me to my car gave me a hug and I said will you call me when you're done and he said yes. so he called me on the drive home and I asked him what did I do to him. so I don't drag it out y'all he said he felt rejected. he said after he had open his heart up to me even after he said he wasn't going to get in another relationship after his ex hurt him deeply, he said but when he met me he decided to open his heart up to me and let me in and he felt like I rejected him and then not to mention when I acted like I wasn't home he said it made him believe that I wasn't there and that I had chose to be with somebody else that night and that I made up that argument just so I could go and be with somebody else you know which is what happened with his ex and he said he didn't see my car there and I was going out of town the next day and so all that just made him think I wanted to be somewhere else and I just explained to him that I was home he did not see my car because I parked in a different place because I had planned on getting back out so I parked in the front instead of the back and plain sight but he didn't see bcuz that's not where I normally park at night . He said he then started questioning me going out of town to visit one of my family members turning 70 and if that's what I was doing or if I was going to meet up with another guy. I asked him so before all this happened did you believe I was going to celebrate my 70 year old uncle he said yes I did but after everything I didn't anymore. so I told him that I'm still learning him and his triggers and I told him I was not anything malicious that it was straight out of the heat of the moment In my emotions and I was tired so I really didn't mean anything malicious and that I wouldn't do that to him just to make him hurt it just came from emotion and I told him I would have liked the opportunity to have learned from that just through a conversation. I said talking to you I understand when I did what I did you you were triggered and so whatever your triggers result into that's what I got. I said had I known this would hit deep I would have done something differently and I did not mean to make you feel rejected. he went on to reiterate just kind of all the stuff that had gone through his mind and it just took him back to that place with his ex and so that conversation ended and segued into something else and we stayed on the phone probably an hour and by then we had made it back home he said he needed freshen up and he'd call me back. He offered to take me to dinner for my birthday. he didn't end up calling me back maybe he went to sleep. I sent him a message good night and let him know I was off the next day if he wanted to call me.
Whew I know I probably gave too many unnecessary details but that's the update. Doesn't mean that things are going to go back to the same but we had the conversation.
...and he didnt call you back!
And trust me - there is not one person who read this is thinking that you are back together...since you mentioned it a few times like if it seemed like you are ack. NO!click to expand
It was 3a. Umm I said exactly what I meant, you are seeming, not me lol.
Posted by Findingbalance
In flyby mode but pretty much all as expected. Glad he decided to finally be honest. That's actually huge. As long as things keep on the open track, this could be a good thing.
I'm glad I got to hear him out and he hear me.
I'm okay with that.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Libralove813
So I have an update man this might be a long one.
So last night Thursday night was my birthday party that My Scorpio Man and I already put in place prior to the silent treatment. We had actually made plans for this entire weekend including last night. He had reserved me a VIP area for me at one of the local lounges and I had invited several of my friends to come out to have fun and party the Night away with me. I had contemplated all week whether or not I was going to go because he wasn't taking to me and I just didn't know if I could handle putting myself out there to be ignored. After some convincing from some friends and because I had already invited everybody and they did not want me to feel like I was backing down because of him I decided to keep the plans even though I didn't know for sure if I still even had the VIP boot. Just go out and have fun celebrating. Thursday morning gets here I went to work and I was full of emotions that came out of nowhere but we know where they came from. I think it was maybe some anxiety and sadness from the whole situation and then knowing that I probably would see him Thursday night and not knowing what to expect. Well I showed up as if I still had the section and when I walked in he saw i just stood there waiting to see what he'd say and he said oh here's your section over here on the dance floor and you look beautiful.
so that was fine all my friends came and then the next thing you know he brought me the bottled water I requested. he danced with me that night you know a little bit later after that. I was being entertained by them but he was checking on me and out of nowhere he shows up with a glass of my favorite wine and I said oh what's this he said oh just in case he said I know you like it. so I accepted it and then he sent the waitress over and she told me he told her to take care of me whatever I want. Then I went out on the dance floor and when I came back I had food at the table and he had come by and brought me my usual order so that was great and then it just felt like he had warmed up and loosened up to me at least talking to me a little bit now whether that was him hosting or not I don't know but he was being cordial but he really was seeing after me like he normally would when we were together. so he asked me to dance the second time and this time y'all I could not help it, I said so you don't have any feelings left for me all? He said oh yeah of course I do always and I said but what? and he said no but, he said you just don't know what you did to me when you did that and in that moment I could feel the weight of it the way he said it and I said I think I do, I did not know then but I think I do now and then I just looked at him before we started dancing I said I'm so sorry and when I said I could see in his eyes whether it was my apology or what my apology stirred up in him I could tell it had some kind of impact on him and so rest of the night we were more friendly and open with each other. it's not like we were back to how we were before but when I was leaving I mean he waited for me, walked me to my car gave me a hug and I said will you call me when you're done and he said yes. so he called me on the drive home and I asked him what did I do to him. so I don't drag it out y'all he said he felt rejected. he said after he had open his heart up to me even after he said he wasn't going to get in another relationship after his ex hurt him deeply, he said but when he met me he decided to open his heart up to me and let me in and he felt like I rejected him and then not to mention when I acted like I wasn't home he said it made him believe that I wasn't there and that I had chose to be with somebody else that night and that I made up that argument just so I could go and be with somebody else you know which is what happened with his ex and he said he didn't see my car there and I was going out of town the next day and so all that just made him think I wanted to be somewhere else and I just explained to him that I was home he did not see my car because I parked in a different place because I had planned on getting back out so I parked in the front instead of the back and plain sight but he didn't see bcuz that's not where I normally park at night . He said he then started questioning me going out of town to visit one of my family members turning 70 and if that's what I was doing or if I was going to meet up with another guy. I asked him so before all this happened did you believe I was going to celebrate my 70 year old uncle he said yes I did but after everything I didn't anymore. so I told him that I'm still learning him and his triggers and I told him I was not anything malicious that it was straight out of the heat of the moment In my emotions and I was tired so I really didn't mean anything malicious and that I wouldn't do that to him just to make him hurt it just came from emotion and I told him I would have liked the opportunity to have learned from that just through a conversation. I said talking to you I understand when I did what I did you you were triggered and so whatever your triggers result into that's what I got. I said had I known this would hit deep I would have done something differently and I did not mean to make you feel rejected. he went on to reiterate just kind of all the stuff that had gone through his mind and it just took him back to that place with his ex and so that conversation ended and segued into something else and we stayed on the phone probably an hour and by then we had made it back home he said he needed freshen up and he'd call me back. He offered to take me to dinner for my birthday. he didn't end up calling me back maybe he went to sleep. I sent him a message good night and let him know I was off the next day if he wanted to call me.
Whew I know I probably gave too many unnecessary details but that's the update. Doesn't mean that things are going to go back to the same but we had the conversation.
...and he didnt call you back!
And trust me - there is not one person who read this is thinking that you are back together...since you mentioned it a few times like if it seemed like you are ack. NO!click to expand
I'm just giving the update. You really don't have to keep coming back to read and to be a jerk.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Libralove813Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Libralove813
So I have an update man this might be a long one.
So last night Thursday night was my birthday party that My Scorpio Man and I already put in place prior to the silent treatment. We had actually made plans for this entire weekend including last night. He had reserved me a VIP area for me at one of the local lounges and I had invited several of my friends to come out to have fun and party the Night away with me. I had contemplated all week whether or not I was going to go because he wasn't taking to me and I just didn't know if I could handle putting myself out there to be ignored. After some convincing from some friends and because I had already invited everybody and they did not want me to feel like I was backing down because of him I decided to keep the plans even though I didn't know for sure if I still even had the VIP boot. Just go out and have fun celebrating. Thursday morning gets here I went to work and I was full of emotions that came out of nowhere but we know where they came from. I think it was maybe some anxiety and sadness from the whole situation and then knowing that I probably would see him Thursday night and not knowing what to expect. Well I showed up as if I still had the section and when I walked in he saw i just stood there waiting to see what he'd say and he said oh here's your section over here on the dance floor and you look beautiful.
so that was fine all my friends came and then the next thing you know he brought me the bottled water I requested. he danced with me that night you know a little bit later after that. I was being entertained by them but he was checking on me and out of nowhere he shows up with a glass of my favorite wine and I said oh what's this he said oh just in case he said I know you like it. so I accepted it and then he sent the waitress over and she told me he told her to take care of me whatever I want. Then I went out on the dance floor and when I came back I had food at the table and he had come by and brought me my usual order so that was great and then it just felt like he had warmed up and loosened up to me at least talking to me a little bit now whether that was him hosting or not I don't know but he was being cordial but he really was seeing after me like he normally would when we were together. so he asked me to dance the second time and this time y'all I could not help it, I said so you don't have any feelings left for me all? He said oh yeah of course I do always and I said but what? and he said no but, he said you just don't know what you did to me when you did that and in that moment I could feel the weight of it the way he said it and I said I think I do, I did not know then but I think I do now and then I just looked at him before we started dancing I said I'm so sorry and when I said I could see in his eyes whether it was my apology or what my apology stirred up in him I could tell it had some kind of impact on him and so rest of the night we were more friendly and open with each other. it's not like we were back to how we were before but when I was leaving I mean he waited for me, walked me to my car gave me a hug and I said will you call me when you're done and he said yes. so he called me on the drive home and I asked him what did I do to him. so I don't drag it out y'all he said he felt rejected. he said after he had open his heart up to me even after he said he wasn't going to get in another relationship after his ex hurt him deeply, he said but when he met me he decided to open his heart up to me and let me in and he felt like I rejected him and then not to mention when I acted like I wasn't home he said it made him believe that I wasn't there and that I had chose to be with somebody else that night and that I made up that argument just so I could go and be with somebody else you know which is what happened with his ex and he said he didn't see my car there and I was going out of town the next day and so all that just made him think I wanted to be somewhere else and I just explained to him that I was home he did not see my car because I parked in a different place because I had planned on getting back out so I parked in the front instead of the back and plain sight but he didn't see bcuz that's not where I normally park at night . He said he then started questioning me going out of town to visit one of my family members turning 70 and if that's what I was doing or if I was going to meet up with another guy. I asked him so before all this happened did you believe I was going to celebrate my 70 year old uncle he said yes I did but after everything I didn't anymore. so I told him that I'm still learning him and his triggers and I told him I was not anything malicious that it was straight out of the heat of the moment In my emotions and I was tired so I really didn't mean anything malicious and that I wouldn't do that to him just to make him hurt it just came from emotion and I told him I would have liked the opportunity to have learned from that just through a conversation. I said talking to you I understand when I did what I did you you were triggered and so whatever your triggers result into that's what I got. I said had I known this would hit deep I would have done something differently and I did not mean to make you feel rejected. he went on to reiterate just kind of all the stuff that had gone through his mind and it just took him back to that place with his ex and so that conversation ended and segued into something else and we stayed on the phone probably an hour and by then we had made it back home he said he needed freshen up and he'd call me back. He offered to take me to dinner for my birthday. he didn't end up calling me back maybe he went to sleep. I sent him a message good night and let him know I was off the next day if he wanted to call me.
Whew I know I probably gave too many unnecessary details but that's the update. Doesn't mean that things are going to go back to the same but we had the conversation.
...and he didnt call you back!
And trust me - there is not one person who read this is thinking that you are back together...since you mentioned it a few times like if it seemed like you are ack. NO!
I'm just giving the update. You really don't have to keep coming back to read and to be a jerk.
No, I have to. If you can post all this nonsense so can I. Or you can stop...click to expand
Welp, stay tuned then...
Gurrrrl don’t drink and drive. It’s not worth it.
Posted by TXCowboy
Update us when he contacts you again. You both spoke now you have to let the feelings die down.
Damage repair is going on. Be very, VERY patient with both him and yourself. Try not to raise any new arguments, especially petty ones.
He does still have feelings for you but is unsure of what to do next. Maybe once he's with you, alone, comfort him a bit. Make sure he RETURNS THE FAVOR.
Got it. I'm not pressing the issue just reestablish communication and friendship. We talked again today on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. And that's the update
Posted by TXCowboyPosted by Libralove813Posted by TXCowboy
Update us when he contacts you again. You both spoke now you have to let the feelings die down.
Damage repair is going on. Be very, VERY patient with both him and yourself. Try not to raise any new arguments, especially petty ones.
He does still have feelings for you but is unsure of what to do next. Maybe once he's with you, alone, comfort him a bit. Make sure he RETURNS THE FAVOR.
Got it. I'm not pressing the issue just reestablish communication and friendship. We talked again today on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. And that's the update
Essentially, yes. You're not starting over, you're just going back to the light flirting and conversation that makes you both feel comfortable again.
He has 'forgiven' you = I'm paying attention to what happens next with 'us'. Him asking you to call him back is basically wondering if he can slowly begin trusting you again.
Now, all you need to think about is: after fighting - is this relationship worth saving? If YES, proceed with light flirting and banter. If MAYBE or NO, you need to let him down slowly and you end it AMICABLY.
You are the deciding factor here, not him.click to expand
I love this last comment. I have actually been asking myself that today. Is it worth it? It seemed like a lot for me. I will be paying attention as well and deciding.
Thank you sooo much for the continued advice and perspectives... you are gonna be my dxp bestie in a minute 😂
Posted by TXCowboyPosted by Libralove813Posted by TXCowboyPosted by Libralove813Posted by TXCowboy
Update us when he contacts you again. You both spoke now you have to let the feelings die down.
Damage repair is going on. Be very, VERY patient with both him and yourself. Try not to raise any new arguments, especially petty ones.
He does still have feelings for you but is unsure of what to do next. Maybe once he's with you, alone, comfort him a bit. Make sure he RETURNS THE FAVOR.
Got it. I'm not pressing the issue just reestablish communication and friendship. We talked again today on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. And that's the update
Essentially, yes. You're not starting over, you're just going back to the light flirting and conversation that makes you both feel comfortable again.
He has 'forgiven' you = I'm paying attention to what happens next with 'us'. Him asking you to call him back is basically wondering if he can slowly begin trusting you again.
Now, all you need to think about is: after fighting - is this relationship worth saving? If YES, proceed with light flirting and banter. If MAYBE or NO, you need to let him down slowly and you end it AMICABLY.
You are the deciding factor here, not him.
I love this last comment. I have actually been asking myself that today. Is it worth it? It seemed like a lot for me. I will be paying attention as well and deciding.
Thank you sooo much for the continued advice and perspectives... you are gonna be my dxp bestie in a minute 😂
Sleep on it, take two days if you have to - but come up with an answer by then. Don't Libra that shit for 2 weeks. 😂click to expand
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you already know! Hahaha!
Final update for now
We talked again Friday morning on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. We talked most of Friday. He is taking me out for dinner this weekend for my birthday. At one point in the conversation he called me baby. I think it was a slip from how he used to refer to me lol. But that's the update. Gonna take it slow, one day at a time and see how we do...
We talked again Friday morning on the phone for 4hrs. Mostly catching up and having different conversations about different topics. At one point he said he forgives me and we continued on on conversation. At the end of the conversation he asked me to call him in a couple of hours. We talked most of Friday. He is taking me out for dinner this weekend for my birthday. At one point in the conversation he called me baby. I think it was a slip from how he used to refer to me lol. But that's the update. Gonna take it slow, one day at a time and see how we do...
Soooo it's been almost 2 months and I figured I'd be true to system and report that, things had begun to get back on track after a month. He spoiled me and we spent time together bonding again...after about a month I noticed him pulling back. He was still calling everyday, but not as much, still texting everyday, but not as much and he wasn't coming to see me as often.
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event. I confronted him, with her, and he admitted it.
I do understand that there is always a possibility of exes showing back up. we both parted from our exes earlier this year. He could have told me that leading up to the event and I would have opted to stay home and let go. I felt disrespected to say the least b/c he could have just been honest when I was attempting to reach out during his time of absence. I took a chance and it backfired. Part of me thinks I should have let him stay gone the first time and the second part of me feels like i took one of the biggest risks in love for me in even going after him, waiting for him, being patient with him in our dating relationship etc., i've never done that, so i grew and also learned the hard way b/c based on his previous and now subsequent actions, he probably didn't deserve it, but many times they dont.
Any who. Yes I was/still am a little, upset and hurt and feeling foolish, but I also feel like his loss and how he couldn't have cared to even put me in that situation. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I run into him out this weekend. I hadn't seen him and he tried several time to speak to me coming and then say good bye to me leaving. I responded to his 2nd attempt to say hi when he saw me with a flat "hey" and he offered to get me something to drink and i said no. but I did not respond to his 3 attempts to say goodnight/bye as he was leaving out/walking to the parking lot. I was there with a couple of friends and had a great time at the party and danced with a couple of guys and laughed as if he wasn't there and my friend said he just watched from across the room all night. I felt good leaving, but I won't lie having seen him, the next day lingering feelings emerged and i thought about the "good" feelings we had and felt sad, but then i thought, those probably were a lie as well. So I'm just caring for my emotions and my bruised heart and ego and moving on. I knew there was a risk, but not in him working on the low to get his ex back. that was planned. But there's an "I told you so" in here somewhere for several of you and you did, but I risked it, such is the case in love.
Anywho this is the final update on this Scorpio guy. Best to everyone!! Cheers and Thank you!
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event. I confronted him, with her, and he admitted it.
I do understand that there is always a possibility of exes showing back up. we both parted from our exes earlier this year. He could have told me that leading up to the event and I would have opted to stay home and let go. I felt disrespected to say the least b/c he could have just been honest when I was attempting to reach out during his time of absence. I took a chance and it backfired. Part of me thinks I should have let him stay gone the first time and the second part of me feels like i took one of the biggest risks in love for me in even going after him, waiting for him, being patient with him in our dating relationship etc., i've never done that, so i grew and also learned the hard way b/c based on his previous and now subsequent actions, he probably didn't deserve it, but many times they dont.
Any who. Yes I was/still am a little, upset and hurt and feeling foolish, but I also feel like his loss and how he couldn't have cared to even put me in that situation. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I run into him out this weekend. I hadn't seen him and he tried several time to speak to me coming and then say good bye to me leaving. I responded to his 2nd attempt to say hi when he saw me with a flat "hey" and he offered to get me something to drink and i said no. but I did not respond to his 3 attempts to say goodnight/bye as he was leaving out/walking to the parking lot. I was there with a couple of friends and had a great time at the party and danced with a couple of guys and laughed as if he wasn't there and my friend said he just watched from across the room all night. I felt good leaving, but I won't lie having seen him, the next day lingering feelings emerged and i thought about the "good" feelings we had and felt sad, but then i thought, those probably were a lie as well. So I'm just caring for my emotions and my bruised heart and ego and moving on. I knew there was a risk, but not in him working on the low to get his ex back. that was planned. But there's an "I told you so" in here somewhere for several of you and you did, but I risked it, such is the case in love.
Anywho this is the final update on this Scorpio guy. Best to everyone!! Cheers and Thank you!
how old are you?
Posted by Libralove813
Soooo it's been almost 2 months and I figured I'd be true to system and report that, things had begun to get back on track after a month. He spoiled me and we spent time together bonding again...after about a month I noticed him pulling back. He was still calling everyday, but not as much, still texting everyday, but not as much and he wasn't coming to see me as often.
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event. I confronted him, with her, and he admitted it.
I do understand that there is always a possibility of exes showing back up. we both parted from our exes earlier this year. He could have told me that leading up to the event and I would have opted to stay home and let go. I felt disrespected to say the least b/c he could have just been honest when I was attempting to reach out during his time of absence. I took a chance and it backfired. Part of me thinks I should have let him stay gone the first time and the second part of me feels like i took one of the biggest risks in love for me in even going after him, waiting for him, being patient with him in our dating relationship etc., i've never done that, so i grew and also learned the hard way b/c based on his previous and now subsequent actions, he probably didn't deserve it, but many times they dont.
Any who. Yes I was/still am a little, upset and hurt and feeling foolish, but I also feel like his loss and how he couldn't have cared to even put me in that situation. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I run into him out this weekend. I hadn't seen him and he tried several time to speak to me coming and then say good bye to me leaving. I responded to his 2nd attempt to say hi when he saw me with a flat "hey" and he offered to get me something to drink and i said no. but I did not respond to his 3 attempts to say goodnight/bye as he was leaving out/walking to the parking lot. I was there with a couple of friends and had a great time at the party and danced with a couple of guys and laughed as if he wasn't there and my friend said he just watched from across the room all night. I felt good leaving, but I won't lie having seen him, the next day lingering feelings emerged and i thought about the "good" feelings we had and felt sad, but then i thought, those probably were a lie as well. So I'm just caring for my emotions and my bruised heart and ego and moving on. I knew there was a risk, but not in him working on the low to get his ex back. that was planned. But there's an "I told you so" in here somewhere for several of you and you did, but I risked it, such is the case in love.
Anywho this is the final update on this Scorpio guy. Best to everyone!! Cheers and Thank you!
Good riddance and at least he was honest about it and it didn't take too long to get it all figured out.
Best of luck in moving on, and don't fault him for still loving his ex. It just wasn't meant to be.
There are plenty more single men available and waiting, you just have to wade through the shit pool of married and attached men first, to find your diamond. Taken men are polluting dating apps.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Libralove813
Soooo it's been almost 2 months and I figured I'd be true to system and report that, things had begun to get back on track after a month. He spoiled me and we spent time together bonding again...after about a month I noticed him pulling back. He was still calling everyday, but not as much, still texting everyday, but not as much and he wasn't coming to see me as often.
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event. I confronted him, with her, and he admitted it.
I do understand that there is always a possibility of exes showing back up. we both parted from our exes earlier this year. He could have told me that leading up to the event and I would have opted to stay home and let go. I felt disrespected to say the least b/c he could have just been honest when I was attempting to reach out during his time of absence. I took a chance and it backfired. Part of me thinks I should have let him stay gone the first time and the second part of me feels like i took one of the biggest risks in love for me in even going after him, waiting for him, being patient with him in our dating relationship etc., i've never done that, so i grew and also learned the hard way b/c based on his previous and now subsequent actions, he probably didn't deserve it, but many times they dont.
Any who. Yes I was/still am a little, upset and hurt and feeling foolish, but I also feel like his loss and how he couldn't have cared to even put me in that situation. Fast forward a couple weeks later and I run into him out this weekend. I hadn't seen him and he tried several time to speak to me coming and then say good bye to me leaving. I responded to his 2nd attempt to say hi when he saw me with a flat "hey" and he offered to get me something to drink and i said no. but I did not respond to his 3 attempts to say goodnight/bye as he was leaving out/walking to the parking lot. I was there with a couple of friends and had a great time at the party and danced with a couple of guys and laughed as if he wasn't there and my friend said he just watched from across the room all night. I felt good leaving, but I won't lie having seen him, the next day lingering feelings emerged and i thought about the "good" feelings we had and felt sad, but then i thought, those probably were a lie as well. So I'm just caring for my emotions and my bruised heart and ego and moving on. I knew there was a risk, but not in him working on the low to get his ex back. that was planned. But there's an "I told you so" in here somewhere for several of you and you did, but I risked it, such is the case in love.
Anywho this is the final update on this Scorpio guy. Best to everyone!! Cheers and Thank you!
Good riddance and at least he was honest about it and it didn't take too long to get it all figured out.
Best of luck in moving on, and don't fault him for still loving his ex. It just wasn't meant to be.
There are plenty more single men available and waiting, you just have to wade through the shit pool of married and attached men first, to find your diamond. Taken men are polluting dating apps.click to expand
Thank you!!! There's definitely pee in pool lol.
And I don't fault him for still loving his ex but for not being honest about his intentions to get back with her when he decided that's what he wanted.
Posted by Findingbalance
Ah the games they play. Conflicted for the win. Annndd now regretting his decision.
Good for you for walking away. Wishing you the best in finding a committed loving partner 💖
Thank you so much for that! I need the well wishes with all these relational land mines.
I don't know what he is but he made his choice.
Posted by Bumboklaat
He hit it and quit it Pete Davidson style . Scorpios know the feminine ways well so they manipulate them well. He's probably enjoying himself knowing he got to you and managed to stay away at the same time.
Yeah maybe but life has already handed him punches so he can have this one. He may have meant it for evil but God will make good of it 😉
Posted by ImperfectStorm
Ugh I am sorry that it ended up in disappointment, especially after all the effort you put in. I’ve been through something similar and it’s so bittersweet, bitter because of the disappointment, sweet because of the lessons and growth.
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Let him sit with that regret for a while like he made you sit with it for all that time. 💯 you did the best you could and you moved with integrity.. like you said, karma will take care of the rest.
Thank you ☺️. This message is very comforting. I did really him. I did move with integrity. When we confronted him together and he admitted he asked her there and told her he wanted to get back together and that he was just with me for fckg. That hurt whether it's true or to get her back. But you can't say that about someone and expect them to believe you actually cared about them.
I don’t even know why people waste time with these cowards. They try to bury their problems/insecurities whatever it may be but it will always come to surface.
When people stop abetting their behavior they will finally realize it’s not everyone else, it is them. A socially intelligent individual should be able to see Scorpios facade and knock it down.
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When people stop abetting their behavior they will finally realize it’s not everyone else, it is them. A socially intelligent individual should be able to see Scorpios facade and knock it down.
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Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by Libralove813Posted by ImperfectStorm
Ugh I am sorry that it ended up in disappointment, especially after all the effort you put in. I’ve been through something similar and it’s so bittersweet, bitter because of the disappointment, sweet because of the lessons and growth.
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Let him sit with that regret for a while like he made you sit with it for all that time. 💯 you did the best you could and you moved with integrity.. like you said, karma will take care of the rest.
Thank you ☺️. This message is very comforting. I did really him. I did move with integrity. When we confronted him together and he admitted he asked her there and told her he wanted to get back together and that he was just with me for fckg. That hurt whether it's true or to get her back. But you can't say that about someone and expect them to believe you actually cared about them.
He is a real piece of shit!! Not your loss at all. He did you a favor.. you dodged a bullet.click to expand
Indeed!! Thank you...sigh
Posted by Libralove813Posted by LadyNeptune
how old are you?
May I ask why?click to expand
Him being older than you and saying, I wish I had met you 20 yrs ago. Wanted to know if the instant ick I got from reading that was justified.
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by FindingbalancePosted by ImperfectStorm
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.click to expand
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by saggurl88Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by FindingbalancePosted by ImperfectStorm
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.click to expand
Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!
Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by Libralove813
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
@saggurl88click to expand
Three weeks in and talking about love!!!
Do you have something you want to tell me?!! 😛
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by saggurl88Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by FindingbalancePosted by ImperfectStorm
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.click to expand
as Scorpio Venus I’ve detach with exes but those I was not in love with. The one I love is not easy
Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by Libralove813
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
@saggurl88click to expand
. 😎
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Libralove813Posted by LadyNeptune
how old are you?
May I ask why?
Him being older than you and saying, I wish I had met you 20 yrs ago. Wanted to know if the instant ick I got from reading that was justified.click to expand
I can tell how old you are lol. He's 9 yrs older than me
Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by saggurl88Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by Libralove813
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
@saggurl88
Three weeks in and talking about love!!!
Do you have something you want to tell me?!! 😛
You already know... 😉click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by saggurl88Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by FindingbalancePosted by ImperfectStorm
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!click to expand
I did not send his calls to vm he sent mine there.
Thanks though.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Saturn_ReturnsPosted by Libralove813
I didn't think it an issue until 3 weeks in and I asked him directly if he was still interested, etc. He said yes, he loves me, he's looking forward to loving me in 2023 and he wish he had met me 20 yrs ago (he's older than me). Well a short week after this conversation...I find out, from his ex, whom he invited to an event unbeknownst to me, that I also attended, that HE mentioned to her about wanting to get back together (she had left him) while at the event.
I was soooooo expecting that... 😎
@saggurl88
Three weeks in and talking about love!!!
Do you have something you want to tell me?!! 😛
https://media.tenor.com/L-q99rw2wncAAAAM/bedtime-mouse.gif
Ummm no. I said it in the initial post and this updated post
Posted by TruemaraPosted by ImperfectStormPosted by saggurl88Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by FindingbalancePosted by ImperfectStorm
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
as Scorpio Venus I’ve detach with exes but those I was not in love with. The one I love is not easyclick to expand
Good to know. Thanks
Posted by Libralove813Posted by saggurl88Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by saggurl88Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by FindingbalancePosted by ImperfectStorm
The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!
I did not send his calls to vm he sent mine there.
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It was only a few short months. I think it's best to just move on.
I'm not a Scorpio but I do think that when someone treats me a certain way, like ignoring and playing games, that they will continue to do that. (whether on his or your side) I hold grudges and cut my losses.
He's older then you, and decided to try again with someone else that will probably continue to treat him whatever way he didn't want to be treated, same for the ex. Let them have each other. Better to find out sooner than later.
It's always best to move on and find someone new, than to deal with stuff you couldn't resolve from the past. People don't really change, if you can't tolerate them in a short amount of time, like 6 months or less, how can you do it for years? (Rhetorical question)
It's just easier to find a person that you are happier with and that brings out the best in you, not someone who is making you unhappy- That goes for any sign.
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@ImperfectStorm called it. And YOU have the balls to expect HIM to apologize? Haha! YOU done fk’d up. Best you can do is try crawling back with apologies and offers of BJ’s. 🍆🍆🍆
What a moron she is! I think she found out he didn’t want her or something but I haven’t read it yet…wow!
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The problem with Scorpios is as fixed signs, we sometimes slip back to what’s comfortable, especially when feeling insecure or ego-bruised. I bet that’s probably all that it was.. his ego was probably bruised and he wanted to go back to someone that was predictable.. someone that he knew what to expect from. But I agree with you that now, it sounds like he is regretting that choice.
Interesting. I always thought it was that difficulty letting go, like once you are attached it's kind of forever even if it's over. My Venus acts this way, but have to admit that part of it definitely is comfort zone.
I feel like Scorpio sun and Scorpio Venus are different in our approach to relationships.. I can’t always relate to what I’ve read about scorp Venus. After breakups I usually lose that sense of possessiveness and become more detached so I don’t really feel attached to exes. I’ve never liked the idea of going back because I feel like an ex is an ex for a good reason.
I agree with this as a Scorpio Venus, I detach almost too quickly, must be my sun/venus combo cause I'm usually like this at the first sign of BS.
I don't wait to be told twice, especially when a person lies.
Or maybe it’s our libra rising that helps us detach. Who knows. Lol I have a Virgo Venus, I always thought scorp Venus were way more intense than scorp suns in regards to relationships.
Well this wasn't a relationship 😅 😬
And our Libra energies probably help, but I think it gives me passive energy, but who knows.
I would've been done after the airport misunderstanding on her end. He tried, and she told him no and sent his calls to voicemail, if I remember correctly. I'm not surprised at this outcome even though she tried her best to fix it.
That's one thing I actually like about Scorpios, they mean what they say, and follow through, even if they are being emotional and bratty. They are dependable, ~ can't say that about some other flighty characters!
I did not send his calls to vm he sent mine there.
Thanks though.
It was only a few short months. I think it's best to just move on.
I'm not a Scorpio but I do think that when someone treats me a certain way, like ignoring and playing games, that they will continue to do that. (whether on his or your side) I hold grudges and cut my losses.
He's older then you, and decided to try again with someone else that will probably continue to treat him whatever way he didn't want to be treated, same for the ex. Let them have each other. Better to find out sooner than later.
It's always best to move on and find someone new, than to deal with stuff you couldn't resolve from the past. People don't really change, if you can't tolerate them in a short amount of time, like 6 months or less, how can you do it for years? (Rhetorical question)
It's just easier to find a person that you are happier with and that brings out the best in you, not someone who is making you unhappy- That goes for any sign.click to expand
THIS! Definitely am moving on. I'm a Libra-Taurus so mentally I'm moving on but letting go from the heart will take another 2-3wks.
Thanks for your perspective
Posted by GemiMayPosted by geminiflyby
@ImperfectStorm called it. And YOU have the balls to expect HIM to apologize? Haha! YOU done fk’d up. Best you can do is try crawling back with apologies and offers of BJ’s. 🍆🍆🍆
What a moron she is! I think she found out he didn’t want her or something but I haven’t read it yet…wow!click to expand
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
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Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…click to expand
I would.
Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
Posted by Libralove813Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26I would.Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by Libralove813Distance makes the heart grow fonder.Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance make them found more fucks and it’s not 18th Century anymore to wait for the letter to come for years…when dick grew older and they had to pretend to love to fuck…or marry.click to expand
OK
Posted by FindingbalancePosted by Libralove813Posted by Agua_Aqi_Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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I hope one of those convos was about open communication.
Sounds typical scorp, he's over it and moving forward. Approaching the communication convo if you haven't yet might need to be handled a little carefully so he doesn't feel like you're trying to dredge up the past, rather to prevent problems going forward. And it's up to you, but don't go on too long treading lightly lest you end up on eggshells forever. Yes, scorps can be reaaallllyyyy sensitive, but don't take it to doormat status trying to avoid issues.click to expand
You're right. That and problem-solving. Identify the problem, and solve it together. However it takes two for that to work.
Posted by FindingbalancePosted by Libralove813Posted by Agua_Aqi_Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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I hope one of those convos was about open communication.
Sounds typical scorp, he's over it and moving forward. Approaching the communication convo if you haven't yet might need to be handled a little carefully so he doesn't feel like you're trying to dredge up the past, rather to prevent problems going forward. And it's up to you, but don't go on too long treading lightly lest you end up on eggshells forever. Yes, scorps can be reaaallllyyyy sensitive, but don't take it to doormat status trying to avoid issues.click to expand
Thank you. Great words. This is true. And yes we talked about it at his initiation, we discussed the communication and I'm not walking on eggshells either just choosing my words and battles. I've gotten to the point that we will either make it work or not.
Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26OKPosted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by Libralove813Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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Distance make them found more fucks and it’s not 18th Century anymore to wait for the letter to come for years…when dick grew older and they had to pretend to love to fuck…or marry.
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I don't understand this comment soon I'll just say "ok"
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by Libralove813Distance makes the heart grow fonder.Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Distance make them found more fucks and it’s not 18th Century anymore to wait for the letter to come for years…when dick grew older and they had to pretend to love to fuck…or marry.click to expand
Stop it. This shallow shit isn't always the case.
Sometimes people have to learn the hard way what they want and is important. That includes with others.
You don't have to dismiss the past mistakes. Lol it's more like check to see if they learned thier lesson.
Posted by Libralove813Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26I would.Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Hanging up on you is very disrespectful, and you deserve better treatment. Have you tried a direct approach? Let him know exactly what it is that you expect from him and exactly what you have to offer him. Then see how he responds. You have more patience than I do.
"We've been together 4 months."
That's a short time. And you still have to raise him. Think about it.
That's a short time. And you still have to raise him. Think about it.
Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by Libralove813Posted by Agua_Aqi_Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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Hanging up on you is very disrespectful, and you deserve better treatment. Have you tried a direct approach? Let him know exactly what it is that you expect from him and exactly what you have to offer him. Then see how he responds. You have more patience than I do.click to expand
Thank you. And yes. I'm pretty clear and direct so there's no confusion. We talked, went out to dinner. He's in limbo so he says....he wants to get back with his ex but he also wants to see where things could go with us. I told him he needs to figure that out on his own
Omg why? Lol
Posted by Libralove813Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by Libralove813Hanging up on you is very disrespectful, and you deserve better treatment. Have you tried a direct approach? Let him know exactly what it is that you expect from him and exactly what you have to offer him. Then see how he responds. You have more patience than I do.Posted by Agua_Aqi_Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by Agua_Aqi_
Lessons learned: Be more decisive, and always be on time. You're getting on his nerves.
I would just end it, but I'm like that. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then leave him alone. His loss.
You would end? You would suffocate her with your poetry or whatever…you aren’t all there yourself you know…
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I would.
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Thank you. He actually reached out after a month and a half saying he missed me. He had tried previously to get me to talk to him but I wasn't ready so I didn't. This time I was and we've had several conversations since then. I'm treading carefully even though he's acting like he's trying to pick up from where we left off.
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Thank you. And yes. I'm pretty clear and direct so there's no confusion. We talked, went out to dinner. He's in limbo so he says....he wants to get back with his ex but he also wants to see where things could go with us. I told him he needs to figure that out on his ownclick to expand
Glad you found out the truth. Good decision.
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