help reading this scorp again

Here I am, trying hard to forget this scorp (as many of you have advided me to), keeping really quiet in my corner of the world, when today he invited me and another friend (another neighbor) to come over for a beer. When I arrived he was eager to show me a new floor lamp he had arranged ?just for you pretty Nina? (he knows I like indirect and soft light at night because of my photophobia) and proceeded to tell me how beautiful I looked tonight. Told me later that he adored my ?lady like? manner and tastes (he calls me Lady) and this and that. What I don't understand is that If he wants to put me in the friend category for whatever reason (either because I?m still getting a divorce, or because he?s just not into me), I wonder why does he keep on with all this flattery? Any insights? Is this his scopio seductive nature or does he actually like me? When one?s in love one tends to be optimistic, so I would appreciate your sincere opinion (even though I may not ignore it and may keep on going with my tiny hopes).

I pride myself for always knowing how and when to retrieve, but this one is pulling a good one on me!

Thanks again guys and girls.

I ment "may ignore it..."

They say it takes patience with scorps, but he's told me before he liked me as a friend and when we met again after my trip to se my soon ex, he told me about all these women he'd met on his own trip. Even an ex who he still seems to care about. He doesn't call me over by myself (only with our friend in common) neither does he come to my place (we live next door to each other and used to droop by once in a while before). So, he sends me clear messages that we're friends and then flatters me like that. It's soooooo f.....ing confusing, it's driving me crasy!!!

crazy

Kenny, I loved your reply, it gives me hope. but I'm at a stage that I don't completely believe he likes me and don't believe he doesn't like me.

when's your divorce final? maybe that's all he's waiting for to make his move?

just wondering coz i know for myself, i wouldn't get involved with someone who's still legally married - BUT if i were interested in him, i would definitely find ways to keep myself in the picture (as friends) until he was legally and emotionally free.

Scorp5,
my divorce is final, but I'm still talking things over with my husband. there are some legal and emotional matters we need to solve and the scorp knows that. He also knows I like him more than like a friend.

nina, maybe this guy needs assurance from you that he won't be your rebound guy. we all have done it; break up or divorce someone and the next person we date is just there to pick up the pieces.

if you know he won't just be there to pick up the pieces, let him know that and then see how he proceeds.

hummm, that's a high call HP, I've been rejected once already when he told me he liked me as a friend, I don't know if I can take another one...

yup, agree w/ HP. i def would want to know that before getting involved. it's like someone needs to tell me the pool's full before i plunge in head first, lol

and when i'm interested in someone, i tend to pay attention to the little things (like what he did with the lamp, which was really sweet), coz am focused on that person. another thing, i don't give out compliments a lot, usually it's to someone i am tuned into.

so unless scorp males (where are you, we need to hear your take 😄) are hugely different from the females, your scorp definitely seems interested in you.

Ok girls, I'll summon up all my courage and will talk to him. This is delicate because we left it (before I traveled in July) as friends and I?m not sure how to approach him without sounding out of place, arg? Well, at least it?ll clear up things, and I?ll know where he stands. Any suggestions on how to approach him?

Kenny,
My intention was to lay low for a while, but this man just appeared out of nowhere and I got caught. I really didn?t ask for it, not consciously. I didn't get back on the dating game at all. I was quiet at home when he came over one night.
You?re right, I would be cautious if I was him too. I think he likes me, but I'm not sure in what way, and this is what I've been trying to find out by asking you guys all these questions. If I knew I could keep on hoping we'd understand each other in the future. If not I could move him out of my heart.
And you're right again, what's the problem with being friends in the beginning?
Thanks again girl 🙂

Hello,

I have lots of experience with Scorpios, as I am a Cancer. Never had problem with them opening up (on the contrary), or showing their feelings, but I really do think that it has to do with water sign emphaty and connection between the two signs.
Now, I don't know what your sign is (doesn't really matter), but this is the advice from me : TIME and PATIENCE.

Time will show in what way he likes you, please don't hurry and push him, it will backfire. Scorpios like to take it easy, more mystery there is for them, the better.

You will know that he likes you if he opens up to you with the most personal, intimate things (I don't mean sexual), but really deep, emotional stuff. Also, when he is really interested what YOU THINK about things that he finds important, such as perhaps family, love, marriage, commitment, etc. He may sometimes even play the devil's advocate, saying controversial things in front of you, just to see what you think about them. If he likes you, he will be watching your every reaction and tought, and evaluating whether he likes you for it or not.
It is very encouraging that he takes care of little things, such as the lamp, or I forgot what it was. The scorpio that was in love with me wanted to INVOLVE ME in his life, introduced me to his family, friends, couldn't wait to show me his new apartment, talked to me about his plans and hopes for the future (and,along the way, very cleverly tested my feelings about them). Now, we cancers do have this ability to literally mind read scorpios, and they us, perhaps that's why there is such strong connection, we just KNOW how the other person feel.
But for everyone else it is the common sense. I would say, hold on for a while, don't push him, be friends first, let HIM TRUST you, and he will open up more and more. When he starts truly involving you in his world, you will know that he really likes you. From what you have already written, the signs are good, don't spoil it now with rushing things, because scorpios need time to develop trust. And a big NO-NO to do with scorpios is playing games. Don't even think about it! With their strong intuition they will know that you are playing games, and when they start playing games to get back to you, ALL IS LOST. Very hard to regaing their trust again, almost impossible. So sincerity, honesty, dependability and friendship are keywords. Good lucK!

Hello,

I have lots of experience with Scorpios, as I am a Cancer. Never had problem with them opening up (on the contrary), or showing their feelings, but I really do think that it has to do with water sign emphaty and connection between the two signs.
Now, I don't know what your sign is (doesn't really matter), but this is the advice from me : TIME and PATIENCE.

Time will show in what way he likes you, please don't hurry and push him, it will backfire. Scorpios like to take it easy, more mystery there is for them, the better.

You will know that he likes you if he opens up to you with the most personal, intimate things (I don't mean sexual), but really deep, emotional stuff. Also, when he is really interested what YOU THINK about things that he finds important, such as perhaps family, love, marriage, commitment, etc. He may sometimes even play the devil's advocate, saying controversial things in front of you, just to see what you think about them. If he likes you, he will be watching your every reaction and tought, and evaluating whether he likes you for it or not.
It is very encouraging that he takes care of little things, such as the lamp, or I forgot what it was. The scorpio that was in love with me wanted to INVOLVE ME in his life, introduced me to his family, friends, couldn't wait to show me his new apartment, talked to me about his plans and hopes for the future (and,along the way, very cleverly tested my feelings about them). Now, we cancers do have this ability to literally mind read scorpios, and they us, perhaps that's why there is such strong connection, we just KNOW how the other person feel.
But for everyone else it is the common sense. I would say, hold on for a while, don't push him, be friends first, let HIM TRUST you, and he will open up more and more. When he starts truly involving you in his world, you will know that he really likes you. From what you had already written, the signs are good, don't spoil it now with rushing things, because scorpios need time to develop trust. And a big NO-NO to do with scorpios is playing games. Don't even think about it! With their strong intuition they will know that you are playing games, and when they start playing games to get back to you, ALL IS LOST. Very hard to regaing their trust again, almost impossible. So sincerity, honesty, dependability and friendship are keywords. Good lucK!

P.S.

Another way you will know that he really likes you is : when scorpios are in love, they are the gentlest, most protective, tender beings in the whole world! They will be sweet and gentle, beautifully caring and nothing will be hard enough for them to do for the person they love.
Honestly, to have a scorpio in love with you, is the most divine experience, as they can make you fell like the most special woman in the world. They will behave with almost childlike enthusiasm, but still be strong, reliable and very, very loyal. Lets not even start about the passion, it is out of this world!
So all of this, plus my previous post, will give you some clues whether he *really* likes you or not. Just be patient, and natural, and you will find out.

From all you said lubenica, he really likes me. He seems a bit confused with my situation, but he enjoys my company and likes when I come around. I'm just not doing it often for we both need some time to regain some energy.
He's told me a lot about himself and former relationships and really listens when I tell him a about myself. In any circumstances the worst that may happen is that we become good friends. Ok then PATIENCE AND NO GAMES.

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH! You girls have been angels to me.

Glad we could be of help.

"He's told me a lot about himself and former relationships and really listens when I tell him a about myself. "

This really means a lot I think. Because scorpios just don't open up to anyone. He must already trust you a lot, and trust is very important to a Scorpio.
It is even better if something starts from friendship, at least you will get to know him very well like that. Also, be just a little bit misterious (no games, as we said), just perhaps leave some things unsaid, or even better, let him read between the lines, if you know what I mean. Just a little bit, not much. But what you said is very encouraging, let us know how things progress. Good luck!!!!!

Hey girls, new developments in my ordeal.
A few days ago, he left a box of chocolate cookies, the kinds I love, at my door. I went to thank him, we talked for a while and as he began moving towards me slightly, I left. Yesterday he asked me out for dinner, in a very informal way. He said he had asked our friend/neighbor also but he didn?t want to join us (he seemed to be telling me, hey this is not a date), but took me to a nice restaurant and paid for the bill, not before I protested a little. I asked him to come in when we came home, he seemed glad to, we talked some more, listened to music and he gave me those scorpio looks which I pretended to ignore. Mostly because of a ?small? detail: a girl he met in July, is coming to visit him for a week (thank goodness I won?t be around). I asked him if he was in love with her and he said no, but enjoyed her company. He asked me about my soon to be ex-husband and I told him we were going through with the divorce. He asked me if I missed my ex, I said no. He laughed. This was the first time we met outside our condo. I didn?t make a big deal out of it, treated it as if we did it all the time. I?m keeping my cool, my patience and my pride. In fact, I?m not even suffering anymore. I may be falling slightly out of love? if he takes too long, my heart may go cold for him and it?d be such a shame. Maybe this is one of the reasons why geminis and scorps are not the best match...

Nina,

I'm really confused. First, you say you are going through a divorce, then we ask you when the divorce will be final, then you say you already are divorced, and now you're saying you're going through the divorce still.

If anything, I don't think it's the Scorpio who is being wishy washy, it's you. Is your divorce final or not? If you're this confusing to a bunch of strangers like us, I feel sorry for this guy who experiences this first hand.

Tread lightly with him. If you're not ready for him and with you carrying this emotional baggage, he's going to run at the first sight of inconsistency.

I see, I got the expressions confused. When you asked if it was final I understood it meant that we had agreed in getting a divorce and were going through it, that is, the relationship has ended. My mistake, sorry. English is not my first language. It has not been finalized in the law, but we?re separated, no longer a couple. No wishy washing about it.