PROBLEM..... HELP!

Guy(Scorp) and Girl(n/a) split up because long distance issues
Guy meets new girl(Saggie, they get closer over time(non sexual). new Girl lets guard down and accepts her feelings for guy. They are in the process of possibly being together...... untill.....
Ex girl comes to visit for a week and discusses getting back with guy. Ex girl still lives long distant. she questions info regrding new girl, some questions are a little fishy. exp: Ex girl asks guy does new girl have the guy new number? the number was changed almost a month ago.... how does she know new girl ever had the old number?
Guy tells new girl about the sittuation to be upfront. claiming since he and the new girl are "vibin with each other and stuff"
New girl asks guy, what is he going to do?
Guy says he said he would think about it.....he doesnt think it will work. new girl feels that the guy still has feelings if he needs to think about it.

What should new girl do? Is the guy testing the new girl, possibly manipulating the sittuation? Should the new girl just back off?

i went through that before....i left, he came back..same situation your in sagg.

Ok. I wrote in third person hoping to make it vividly clearer....

I just dont want to be 2nd choice ya know. If you want to be with me be with me because of that. I can be with anyone and I am quick to move on. I'm trying to understand his view.

Thats exactly how i felt, i'm to good for second place... At that point i got turned off completely and just left.

Do what will make YOU happy, because that is what HE is going to do...Worry about you, not him.

Do you know his ex gf's sign?..

Should I worry about her coming into town when we are "officially together" basically, im asking have you ever known Scorps that still harbor feelings for his past while in another relationship?
He stated previously, he always has to take his time with being someone so that he can dedicate himself to only that person.

Yes, but Dancing Bread, the ex can't keep making an appearance when she pleases. At some point, "Guy" has to decide to break it off with "Ex" because "New Girl" can't be strung along.

If "Ex" is truly an ex, then she gave up her right to interrogate "Guy" on the phone numbers he has.

As far as manipulation goes, that is something that "New Girl" needs to feel out herself since it's apparent by reading the story in 3rd party that not everything is being said to form a more solid opinion.

that's a tricky one.... No one hear can really tell you if you should worry, we don't know him, we can only give you an opinion...Your obviously on hear bc your worried....You should go with whatever feeling's and judgements you have, Trust yourself.

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If "Ex" is truly an ex, then she gave up her right to interrogate "Guy" on the phone numbers he has

That's how i felt at the time, this girl is going to come strolling in when she feel's there is another girl around? Nope, i'm not one to tolerate that...So sag it really all depends on what you will and will not put up with.

That's not always the case.. well at least not in my case....If you don't leave now, you'll just come to a point when you run out of patience and tired of feeling like second place...You'll start to look at it as pathetic.

It also depends on how they're relationship was to.... Why did they break up? How was she to him? How was her fam to him? you know alot of things..

I can't see them getting back together if they broke up once over long distance issues already, that would obviously just lead to another break up....but who knows..

K i'm going to shut up...since i'm nor a scorp or a man...

DB!!!!!!!!!! WHERE ARE YOU?! LOL

There's more to the story...

Decision....... decision.... I like him.... but I dont wanna get screwed over. Though if it works out then I will be like I'm glad I had the patience! Mann....

I LACK PATIENCE!!!!! He has soooo much of it. This is some BS!!! haha. I just dont wanna go to jail at the end of the day messing around with him.

"It also depends on how they're relationship was to.... Why did they break up? How was she to him? How was her fam to him? you know alot of things.. "

They broke up because of the long distance issue and they were having more bad times than good ones.

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He sure needs to! I 'm trying to remember the feeling of a split. Ok, My ex and I split in Oct from a 4 year relationship I was over him in Dec officially, he wanted to be with me still around Feb/March. I told him to stop calling me..

This guy and ex girl split like in Feb from a 2-3 year relationship, so the feelings may still linger fresh to the guy. I'm about to go sock him in the eye and tell him to suck it up! haha. Missing fun times and moments with me, mournin over this BS! dang!

Fierce sag,

Of course her sign does matter...especially if she is another water sign or worse still a scorpio. Then feelings would be too strong to get over.

haha patience....oh dear.

i ask only bc when it happened with me his ex was a taurus...LOL obviously they both can't let go at times... so i agree with topaz and hi ya hunni!

I'm a taurus and I second that notion!

knew you would =) haha

you know what, if i could put two and two together. I mentioned to him my feelings for a Gemini and he asked me what is May(forgot exact day) or somethin.. and I said "oh thats a Taurus, Gems are like June" maybe he was referring to her..........Yikes! He's a Scorp/Leo Moon. I'm a Saggie/Taurus moon

""fierce sagittarius....

sag & scorp are complete inverse interm of 'solving a problrm'
sags r ready to discuss, weigh options and come up with a decision ( right or wrong, but yet decisive)

scorps are intovert, wont discuss and they keep atleast multiple scenario working at a time...

my bestfriend is a scorp (male), over time,,,,, what works best for him.....oneliners, deep emotional single sentence or silence while staying close..............

dont leave him, he wont come to you, and would never admitt his pain on loosing you....be there and be strong..but do tell him that you are being hurt...contrary to normal belief, scorps do feel pain of loved ones..

P.S: your use of third person is appreciable, you just want direct, non-biased honest response to a hypothetical situation .... best of luck.."

Thanks, I will try. My bestfriend is a Scorp but female and she is very caring of the other person even if she doesnt have romantic feelings for them, unless they hurt her...

Have a friend was in same situation. Old girlfriend (they were supposed to get married) lived in another state. She had to take a back seat for a while when the girlfriend was in town. She finally told him she couldn't take it anymore. Stopped seeing him (he's scorpio, she's an aqua.) and he called after 2 months wanting to just be friends. Of course, that's what he said. That's NOT what happened. This went on for a while. And after many fights (a common thing with scorp) he took her away on vacation and proposed. And now, any years later, I'm happy to announce... they are still fighting.

"Should I worry about her coming into town when we are "officially together" basically, im asking have you ever known Scorps that still harbor feelings for his past while in another relationship?"

Yes. Yes, and YES. They have no problem carrying on simultaneous relationsips, either. Just make sure he's being up-front with you too, because this "thinking about it" could drag on FOREVER.

And now, any years later, I'm happy to announce... they are still fighting.

LOL! ::sighs:: love bugs!

"So from my perspective if you're in that postition it's because he's not taking you seriously, so do what is best for you ! I feel there is more to the story though ..."

I dont know.... he told me that he thought I was BS'n him when I expressed my feelings to him before. I wasnt though at all, I explained to him. He then said then I must be serious if I put it that way. I dont know at this point, but he about to get dropped in like 5....4....3...2...1.. ok. I dont mind being patient if its worth it but if its just a dead end type thing... oh boy!

If he's not willing to make you first, then forgive me but fuck him. (not that way either)

I give you credit though, because if i was in the picture and then all of a sudden his ex gf comes into play out of no where after a couple of months and he suddenly has mixed feelings, i'd leave...Which i have. Especially after being honest about how i feel & making it that i am serious about the feelings i have for him. From what your saying you shouldn't have to be patient any longer. It's either he wants you or he doesn't, and you have to have the attitude HIS LOSS, he'll know it and eventually come around ...or if not ...better anyway, Do you really wan't to have the stress of playing "THE BOY IS MINE" at that point?

He made the decision to not get back with his ex or be with anyone else he claimed.... Anyways I told him, I'm not convinced that he does not want to not be with me. So I made him mine and I'm his now. I was tired of playing with him on this, he doesnt tell me, I tell him! He said ok and we are together.

hello....topaz woman i come to this site of your if you can help me about my little problem of my boyfriend....im scorpian woman and i have an leo man in 9 years ahead..anyway my real problem is still i dont know if he really love me...why? until now he never tell the magic words.. now we used to argue for if he really love or maybe his using me...sometimes we still figthing for those ladies in his phone.. if i will try to talk to him his gonna say that is only friend...now we are figthing again one lady call me that his fucking this lady when i try to talk to him in the next day because im angry he told me he dont know what happend that day he was in his friend house and he left his celphone when he get drunk... so i send a lot of message to him saying goodbye...he response my message saying its okey but i dont know what do you mean...topaz lady i hope you can advise me for this......