How can I handle this situation with my Scorpion friend?

So recently my Scorp friend made me to confess my feelings for him. And after I told him that I love him he friendzone me in manipulative way but he didn't say 'NO' or didn't say 'I dont feel that way for you. I thought just because I'm hus friend and he dint want to hurt me that's why he said it in manipulative way. So I considered his answer as rejectiin for me. We are still doing good. Its veen 3 months and I thought that he might distant himself but no he is still as he was before. But recently he just started ignoring me like stopped talking to me. It feels like I did something wrong which I litterally have no idea of. I thought he had some personal issues but then it came to my point that he is behaving like that just with me. I didn't said anythung, even I'm behaving as gentle as before just only that earlier I use to show my love to him but after my confessions I'm just being rational considering his answer. I dont know what to do, I m giving him his space. Now the thing is, Recently I got a marriage proposal (arrange marriage) so shall I share with him about this or shall I announce it once it just official?

Genrally we announce marriage once its official, that is we keep it a secret from everyone close to us until the date of marriage is fixed. So I'm assuming I should announce itto him in normal way and I think it wont bother him.

Please help...

Congrats on the marriage proposal by the way! Seems like you have accepted the marriage proposal.

So if you've accepted the proposal, does this means you actually have moved on from your feelings for your Scorpio friend ? Do you love your Scorp friend?

So during those 3 months duration, seems like you end up didn't pursue your feelings for him since "no answer" from him during the confession. So since then, you've resume act as friends and more rational but what about him? Did he act in a different way, like romantic or etc? Maybe he acted cold because he realizes you didn't act loving towards him anymore like before? Hmm.

I feel like you are worried about announcing your proposal to him even if you said you think it won't bother him. But if you guys are close friends, I think its best that you talk it out with him first especially clear any confusion of feelings and ask why he's been acting cold towards you. Scorpio usually values honesty.

Maybe after clearing any confusion, then you can move forward with announcing and sharing the news with him. Otherwise it could end up messy considering I feel like there's a possibility that he might have feelings for you.

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Congrats on the marriage proposal by the way! Seems like you have accepted the marriage proposal.

So if you've accepted the proposal, does this means you actually have moved on from your feelings for your Scorpio friend ? Do you love your Scorp friend?

So during those 3 months duration, seems like you end up didn't pursue your feelings for him since "no answer" from him during the confession. So since then, you've resume act as friends and more rational but what about him? Did he act in a different way, like romantic or etc? Maybe he acted cold because he realizes you didn't act loving towards him anymore like before? Hmm.

I feel like you are worried about announcing your proposal to him even if you said you think it won't bother him. But if you guys are close friends, I think its best that you talk it out with him first especially clear any confusion of feelings and ask why he's been acting cold towards you. Scorpio usually values honesty.

Maybe after clearing any confusion, then you can move forward with announcing and sharing the news with him. Otherwise it could end up messy considering I feel like there's a possibility that he might have feelings for you.

Thanks for this I get you. But one more thing what if he responds saying "No, nothing I'm fine" and actually laughs out pretending to be fine. So in this case what shall I do. Because I did tried these tactics before and he answer same way and I still do.

How does someone ‘make’ you confess your feelings tho?

You lost me there.

Posted by LadyNeptune

How does someone ‘make’ you confess your feelings tho?

You lost me there.

Well, I was not ready to open up even after him giving me hints that he kniws what I was going to say. I was stubborn on not speaking up my feelings because I knew the answer. I even told him I will walk away to which he said he wont let me go unless I speak. So you see there was my weakness I had two options either to speak or to leave .. But he didnt let me with any option. So I had to say it.

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How does someone ‘make’ you confess your feelings tho?

You lost me there.

Well, I was not ready to open up even after him giving me hints that he kniws what I was going to say. I was stubborn on not speaking up my feelings because I knew the answer. I even told him I will walk away to which he said he wont let me go unless I speak. So you see there was my weakness I had two options either to speak or to leave .. But he didnt let me with any option. So I had to say it.

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So he had a gun to your head? He was physically holding you and keeping you from walking away?

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How does someone ‘make’ you confess your feelings tho?

You lost me there.

Well, I was not ready to open up even after him giving me hints that he kniws what I was going to say. I was stubborn on not speaking up my feelings because I knew the answer. I even told him I will walk away to which he said he wont let me go unless I speak. So you see there was my weakness I had two options either to speak or to leave .. But he didnt let me with any option. So I had to say it.

So he had a gun to your head? He was physically holding you and keeping you from walking away?

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I guess people emotions matters so thats what I felt right at that time.... But anyways ur otherway right too.. I did wrong but so does ur explanation or lesson gonna undo things for me?

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How does someone ‘make’ you confess your feelings tho?

You lost me there.

Well, I was not ready to open up even after him giving me hints that he kniws what I was going to say. I was stubborn on not speaking up my feelings because I knew the answer. I even told him I will walk away to which he said he wont let me go unless I speak. So you see there was my weakness I had two options either to speak or to leave .. But he didnt let me with any option. So I had to say it.

So he had a gun to your head? He was physically holding you and keeping you from walking away?

I guess people emotions matters so thats what I felt right at that time.... But anyways ur otherway right too.. I did wrong but so does ur explanation or lesson gonna undo things for me?

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Step one is stop thinking of yourself as a victim. Own your shit.

You were open with your feelings and made yourself vulnerable. He didn’t take the bait. Shit happens.

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Congrats on the marriage proposal by the way! Seems like you have accepted the marriage proposal.

So if you've accepted the proposal, does this means you actually have moved on from your feelings for your Scorpio friend ? Do you love your Scorp friend?

So during those 3 months duration, seems like you end up didn't pursue your feelings for him since "no answer" from him during the confession. So since then, you've resume act as friends and more rational but what about him? Did he act in a different way, like romantic or etc? Maybe he acted cold because he realizes you didn't act loving towards him anymore like before? Hmm.

I feel like you are worried about announcing your proposal to him even if you said you think it won't bother him. But if you guys are close friends, I think its best that you talk it out with him first especially clear any confusion of feelings and ask why he's been acting cold towards you. Scorpio usually values honesty.

Maybe after clearing any confusion, then you can move forward with announcing and sharing the news with him. Otherwise it could end up messy considering I feel like there's a possibility that he might have feelings for you.

Thanks for this I get you. But one more thing what if he responds saying "No, nothing I'm fine" and actually laughs out pretending to be fine. So in this case what shall I do. Because I did tried these tactics before and he answer same way and I still do.

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Hmm well different people takes time to open up. Who knows what's kind of feelings/situation he's going through. Perhaps its not easy for him to open up about it. If you've tried these "tactics" before, then maybe he's not ready to open up yet. Give him time? And let him know that you're there as a friend for him if he's going through something.

Depending on how the situation unfolds, then perhaps you can move forward with either discussing both of your feelings or announcing your news instead. Just think the situation through before you make any decision so that you won't end up hurting eachother in the end.

Love and light to you ❤ ❤ ❤

Posted by Schawq

This is why you stay away from male Scorpio placements. Emotionally abusive, games, and manipulative. They’re so annoying. Gigantic pussies too “I’m gonna hurt you before you hurt me first and I expect you to understand that and feel sorry for me.” Nah fam. Being treated like shit is not understandable or excusable. NEXT.

I'd only ever really concern myself with this behavior if it comes from a Mercury in Scorpio (like myself) - chances are you've not provided us a true reason to trust you and we figured out how to get what we want with zero risk. Merc in Scorp + ViS in particular is probably a death sentence for relationship health, cause as much faith as I've piled forth into people, I really cannot see any other way than to just get mine and keep it moving. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone capable of fulfilling me on an emotional level.

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This is why you stay away from male Scorpio placements. Emotionally abusive, games, and manipulative. They’re so annoying. Gigantic pussies too “I’m gonna hurt you before you hurt me first and I expect you to understand that and feel sorry for me.” Nah fam. Being treated like shit is not understandable or excusable. NEXT.

I'd only ever really concern myself with this behavior if it comes from a Mercury in Scorpio (like myself) - chances are you've not provided us a true reason to trust you and we figured out how to get what we want with zero risk. Merc in Scorp + ViS in particular is probably a death sentence for relationship health, cause as much faith as I've piled forth into people, I really cannot see any other way than to just get mine and keep it moving. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone capable of fulfilling me on an emotional level.

Im sorry that sounds really sad, and unloving.

Anyway mercury in Scorpio is okay. My mom has that placement and she’s very suspicious of things but her survival instincts, self sufficiency, and wisdom are very strong. I knew a guy w/ mercury in Scorpio and he was an asshole - judging people and very cold and calculating. I like mercury in Scorpio and Venus in Scorpio placements in women. But men? Nope.

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Do you want to know why that is? It's because society is giving less and less of a fuck about men. Venus in Scorpio blesses those that have it with the ability for extreme depth for emotional pain, and that can transform them - for the worse. A Venus+Merc in Scorpio with a weak support structure is destined to become the bad guy.



And this placement does worse to women in my experience, however things are a little easier for them, emotional support wise (unless they're an ogre who never sees the light of day, that'd fuck anyone up in this world.)

Posted by LadyNeptune

How does someone ‘make’ you confess your feelings tho?

You lost me there.

how does someone make her accept an arranged marriage proposal and go with it to be announced while pining away for that scorp is a bigger question

we are happy to live where we not understand the "how does someone make you" thing, I guess

very sad

OP, if you accept that marriage proposal, be ready to be a good wife and forget the scorp and internet 🙂