How do you deal with your obsession?

I dreamed about this guy who I used to date out of the blue. I didn't think about this person for month,s but now I am all obsessed with him again. We didn't date seriouly. We were never in love. We only went on several dates and things didn't work out. I have been checking his fb and ig every day since I dreamed about him 2 weeks ago. I feel so sick of myself of doing that, but I cannot help. I try to keep myself busy, but the thing is I can always find a couple minutes a day to stalk him =.=

I know it is pathetic and I hate myself bieng this way. Please tell me what you do to deal with your obsession, other than just keep yourself busy.

Thank you in advance!

Posted by AneemA08
I'm prone to obsessions to men.

I uh.. Replay the memories about him until I get tired of it and finally break loose.

That's what I usually do.

During obsessions tho, I would find positives (coz those are what make me obsessed about them to begin with, right?) then my mind would wire up and become him in all those positivities!

Imagine the treasures you'll find in that, my friend.

I'm a bad ass hahaha

Ima drink this shit too!!

You sound like a very positive person 🙂

What do you mean by "become him in all those positivies"?

Do you mean you obtain all those qualities yourself?

Posted by Tauruswithspunk
I don't know cause that's hard. I just keep thinking about it over and over until it just goes away or something takes my focus again. I don't think there's anything to get your mind from it until you get distracted again.

Thanks for the response.

I feel so crazy right now.

I really want to punch myself to wake myself up lol

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I don't know cause that's hard. I just keep thinking about it over and over until it just goes away or something takes my focus again. I don't think there's anything to get your mind from it until you get distracted again.

Thanks for the response.

I feel so crazy right now.

I really want to punch myself to wake myself up lol

Do you know what triggered it? Think back really to what you're missing or craving that allowed you to get there and fix that first.. then it may just fix the obsession?? If this work let me know cause I would need to do that too ?

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Hmmm.... I think it might be some unfinished business on my end. In the dream, he and I had a heart-to-heart and we talked some things out and then I felt better. But when I woke up, the obsession began.

I guess I am obsessed right now because in real life, we never had the talk?

I walked away from him because I felt he was not sincere and I felt he was playing games with me. Maybe I just never got a proper apology? I don't know....

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Posted by AneemA08
I'm prone to obsessions to men.

I uh.. Replay the memories about him until I get tired of it and finally break loose.

That's what I usually do.

During obsessions tho, I would find positives (coz those are what make me obsessed about them to begin with, right?) then my mind would wire up and become him in all those positivities!

Imagine the treasures you'll find in that, my friend.

I'm a bad ass hahaha

Ima drink this shit too!!

You sound like a very positive person 🙂

What do you mean by "become him in all those positivies"?

Do you mean you obtain all those qualities yourself?

Well, since he's gone out of my life. There's no other choice left but to remember all the "snides" he had about me and reverse it into the motivations to become a better person.

Now that, is a win solution!

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Thanks for the clarification. I do like the idea of using it as a motivation to become a better person.

There are certain qualities I like about that person that I do no thave for sure. I can cultivate those qualities in myself lol

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I don't know cause that's hard. I just keep thinking about it over and over until it just goes away or something takes my focus again. I don't think there's anything to get your mind from it until you get distracted again.

Thanks for the response.

I feel so crazy right now.

I really want to punch myself to wake myself up lol

Do you know what triggered it? Think back really to what you're missing or craving that allowed you to get there and fix that first.. then it may just fix the obsession?? If this work let me know cause I would need to do that too ?

Hmmm.... I think it might be some unfinished business on my end. In the dream, he and I had a heart-to-heart and we talked some things out and then I felt better. But when I woke up, the obsession began.

I guess I am obsessed right now because in real life, we never had the talk?

I walked away from him because I felt he was not sincere and I felt he was playing games with me. Maybe I just never got a proper apology? I don't know....

Ok good that's what triggered it... the dream had closure but you really didn't... so I've read online about writing a "letter" to him and put down all the things he made you feel... you will never send it but it is for yourself. Then everytime you have the obessession you read it... it is said to deter you because you will replay the bad he did to you and how it made you feel, hence possibly helping to stop quicker than normal it would take longer for you to finally say I've had enough of feeling hurt you would have an easier time when it's in front of you the pain it is causing. Try that and let me know how it pans out for my purpose too in the future.

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Thanks. I will try that 🙂

I hope I won't end up sending an angry email to that person lol

how to deal obsession? Find something (someone) else to obsess about. Simple 🙂

*deal with obsession

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Posted by AneemA08
I'm prone to obsessions to men.

I uh.. Replay the memories about him until I get tired of it and finally break loose.

That's what I usually do.

During obsessions tho, I would find positives (coz those are what make me obsessed about them to begin with, right?) then my mind would wire up and become him in all those positivities!

Imagine the treasures you'll find in that, my friend.

I'm a bad ass hahaha

Ima drink this shit too!!

You sound like a very positive person 🙂

What do you mean by "become him in all those positivies"?

Do you mean you obtain all those qualities yourself?

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that doesn't sound creepy. lol