How do you know you are actually in love? (All signs welcome)

So, I've been dating this Virgo woman for a few months, but have known her and cared about her for 5+ years as a friend. We are "taking it slow" because she is less than a year out of a 4 yr relationship with a man who cheated numerous times throughout.

I started the romantic relationship thinking it was just as sexual/physical attraction. For a week or so, I wondered if that was all I felt, but as I spent more time with her, I saw a side of her I had never known when we were only friends. I know at this point it turned into lust...

I couldn't stop thinking about her and just wanted to know everything I could learn about her and wanted to show her my romantic side that I had stuffed away for years because I hadn't found anyone that was worth the effort lol

At some point, the sex turned into love making and became more passionate. I found mysf staring at her, wondering if she could be the one. I began understand her and her Virgo nature ( it would so hard and confusing at first, but now I actually like it!) and saw all her flaws, but found them so easy to accept. It was like everything about her feels right and my gut says she could be the one.

Anyway, for a while, I knew it was just lust and I wasnt yet in love. Lately, however, I am starting to wonder if I have made the fall.. I can see a future with her. I have never felt such selfless feelings for anyone besides my kids. Its hard to explain, but it's like I just want to give every bit of me to her and do anything and everything to make her happy and comfortable in life. I want to see her go after her dreams and be there while she does. I would literally take a bullet or give my life for her. I would even walk away if I knew it would make her life better.

Even in my head, I all of a sudden caught myself saying "Man, I love this woman!". Then I think "Crap! I can't be having these kind of feelings already... Is it even love?". We are trying to take it slow, so Im always telling myself to not let my feelings get carried away... Now I wonder if it isn't too late lol

Looking back on my previous relationships, there is only one that stands out as me having been in love, but I was so young and immature that I don't know if that's what it really was. I still think about her and feel about her the same as I did 8 years ago. But it's so different with this Virgo woman I am seeing now... It feels completely selfless and real. But is it really love—

Things are going so well right now and I want to keep my wits about me and not get carried away. I know when Virgos begin to allow their emotions to show and they fall in love, they fall hard and it's forever. Before she gets to that point where she stops analyzing me and let's her emotions take over, I want to make sure that what I am feeling is real. I don't want to hurt her because I got carried away thinking I am in love when it's just lust or whatever. However, I think what I am feeling might be the real thing. I feel like I have moved past the lust and the "idea" of her and me. I think I may actually be in love lol

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How do/did you know you were really in love? And how did you know it was with the person, not the "idea" of that person?

I know I’m in love when I can’t stop thinking about them, get my feelings hurt by every little thing I feel “wronged” about (sometimes I can be a bit dramatic) and when I want to

spend lots of time with the person.

It’s been a week for you?? That might be just a tad fast but if she checks all your boxes then it works.

I fall hard and fast for some signs and not others. Like Virgo. I’ve been messing with him for almost a year now and I got nothing, unfortunately. But he’s not passionate at all.

I don't know honestly, when you smile unintentionally looking at your phone - it's him. When you never get tired of the person, when you don't want to run, when their presence brings peace, when you don't feel anxious around them, if they hurt- you hurt. I can go on and on but who cares

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I know I’m in love when I can’t stop thinking about them, get my feelings hurt by every little thing I feel “wronged” about (sometimes I can be a bit dramatic) and when I want to

spend lots of time with the person.

I definitely know what you mean about getting your feelings hurt... I'm so much more sensitive with this woman than I might be otherwise. But that was more in the beginning when I couldn't read her at all. Those things just done bother me, because I know she feels for me now (whether it's love she feels, I have no clue yet lol)

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It’s been a week for you?? That might be just a tad fast but if she checks all your boxes then it works.

I fall hard and fast for some signs and not others. Like Virgo. I’ve been messing with him for almost a year now and I got nothing, unfortunately. But he’s not passionate at all.

We've been friends for 5+ years, romantic for going on 4 months, and I've been feeling that I might be in love only the last week or two.

Like your Virgo, she is normally not passionate or affectionate towards me. I only feel it from her when we are intimate. But we haven't been lately, I think because she has been under an extreme amount of stress.

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I know I’m in love when I can’t stop thinking about them, get my feelings hurt by every little thing I feel “wronged” about (sometimes I can be a bit dramatic) and when I want to

spend lots of time with the person.

I definitely know what you mean about getting your feelings hurt... I'm so much more sensitive with this woman than I might be otherwise. But that was more in the beginning when I couldn't read her at all. Those things just done bother me, because I know she feels for me now (whether it's love she feels, I have no clue yet lol)

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I’m dealing with a Virgo now and I don’t know if they tell you straight away. I think they can feel it though. The Virgo I mess with is always bugged by me not showing it and he’s aware but for some reason doesn’t mind. They are pretty strange with emotions lol.

But he cries at commercials lol. Just funny.

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I don't know honestly, when you smile unintentionally looking at your phone - it's him. When you never get tired of the person, when you don't want to run, when their presence brings peace, when you don't feel anxious around them, if they hurt- you hurt. I can go on and on but who cares

The part about their presence bringing peace... I definitely feel that when I'm around her. A single random text from her can make me smile all day or pull me out of any bad mood. When we are together, I can hardly think of anything else and almost worst some times when we are apart lol

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It’s been a week for you?? That might be just a tad fast but if she checks all your boxes then it works.

I fall hard and fast for some signs and not others. Like Virgo. I’ve been messing with him for almost a year now and I got nothing, unfortunately. But he’s not passionate at all.

We've been friends for 5+ years, romantic for going on 4 months, and I've been feeling that I might be in love only the last week or two.

Like your Virgo, she is normally not passionate or affectionate towards me. I only feel it from her when we are intimate. But we haven't been lately, I think because she has been under an extreme amount of stress.

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Oh ok. Just be careful then. I guess it is easier when you know the person already.

You’re a Scorpio and you’re cool without the passion huh?

This is actually what stops my attraction for the Virgo.

My suggestion would be to not say anything and just keep showing it with your actions. You’ll know when you can say it. I think they get fed up and end up asking. At that point you can be sure the feelings mutual 😁

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I don't know honestly, when you smile unintentionally looking at your phone - it's him. When you never get tired of the person, when you don't want to run, when their presence brings peace, when you don't feel anxious around them, if they hurt- you hurt. I can go on and on but who cares

The part about their presence bringing peace... I definitely feel that when I'm around her. A single random text from her can make me smile all day or pull me out of any bad mood. When we are together, I can hardly think of anything else and almost worst some times when we are apart lol

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Congratulations, you have found the one

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I’m dealing with a Virgo now and I don’t know if they tell you straight away. I think they can feel it though. The Virgo I mess with is always bugged by me not showing it and he’s aware but for some reason doesn’t mind. They are pretty strange with emotions lol.

But he cries at commercials lol. Just funny.

Yeah I've seen her tear up over a song or a commercial and try to hide it, but that's the most I've SEEN of any emotion. However, I can FEEL it in her... Hard to explain, but I just know it's there by these small little clues I pick up on and probably a little intuition on my part. Im usually right if I pick up on something and ask her about it. She has never told me how she feels other than to say we have to take it slow. But I think she shows me enough that I feel confident that the feelings are at least mutual on some level. If that makes sense?

Seems like there are some differences with Virgo guys vs Virgo women, but for the most part, they seem to have the same characteristics when it comes to showing/handling emotions.

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Oh ok. Just be careful then. I guess it is easier when you know the person already.

You’re a Scorpio and you’re cool without the passion huh?

This is actually what stops my attraction for the Virgo.

Yeah, it's funny because I have always been with very passionate women and always felt I needed that. It was really hard at first because she seemed so cold and I thought she was indifferent or just "putting up with me", but once I started to notice all the little things that she does, that meant so much more to me than any huge display of affection. In fact, looking at my previous relationships, the ones who were the MOST affectionate were putting on an act and turned out to be total liars. This feels genuine and she let's me be my Scorpio self and show her affection my way. I just don't expect it back from her because I see it in other ways.

My suggestion would be to not say anything and just keep showing it with your actions. You’ll know when you can say it. I think they get fed up and end up asking. At that point you can be sure the feelings mutual 😁

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Yeah, I definitely don't want to bring it up yet... I'm 99.9% sure she will pull away from me if I do lol

Thanks for all your replies 🙂

Everything you just wrote...

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I’m dealing with a Virgo now and I don’t know if they tell you straight away. I think they can feel it though. The Virgo I mess with is always bugged by me not showing it and he’s aware but for some reason doesn’t mind. They are pretty strange with emotions lol.

But he cries at commercials lol. Just funny.

Yeah I've seen her tear up over a song or a commercial and try to hide it, but that's the most I've SEEN of any emotion. However, I can FEEL it in her... Hard to explain, but I just know it's there by these small little clues I pick up on and probably a little intuition on my part. Im usually right if I pick up on something and ask her about it. She has never told me how she feels other than to say we have to take it slow. But I think she shows me enough that I feel confident that the feelings are at least mutual on some level. If that makes sense?

Seems like there are some differences with Virgo guys vs Virgo women, but for the most part, they seem to have the same characteristics when it comes to showing/handling emotions.

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I get what you’re saying lol. No need to explain. I can feel emotions like that too.

But good luck though. I wish I liked the Virgo I am dealing with as much as you like yours 🙂

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It’s been a week for you?? That might be just a tad fast but if she checks all your boxes then it works.

I fall hard and fast for some signs and not others. Like Virgo. I’ve been messing with him for almost a year now and I got nothing, unfortunately. But he’s not passionate at all.

We've been friends for 5+ years, romantic for going on 4 months, and I've been feeling that I might be in love only the last week or two.

Like your Virgo, she is normally not passionate or affectionate towards me. I only feel it from her when we are intimate. But we haven't been lately, I think because she has been under an extreme amount of stress.

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She is guarding her heart...making sure your actions match your words before she starts to let you in in that manner...she won't be "Cancer" affectionate as we are more service oriented in showing how we feel but we are always willing to listen and adapt to your needs.....we need to be made comfortable and shown that's it's ok to show our affection in a physical way (besides sex) since we really arent use to it.

The only time that I can't be intimate is when I have a shit ton on my mind and under stress of some sort.. usually my own doing 😂 but this is pretty much majority of women.

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Oh ok. Just be careful then. I guess it is easier when you know the person already.

You’re a Scorpio and you’re cool without the passion huh?

This is actually what stops my attraction for the Virgo.

Yeah, it's funny because I have always been with very passionate women and always felt I needed that. It was really hard at first because she seemed so cold and I thought she was indifferent or just "putting up with me", but once I started to notice all the little things that she does, that meant so much more to me than any huge display of affection. In fact, looking at my previous relationships, the ones who were the MOST affectionate were putting on an act and turned out to be total liars. This feels genuine and she let's me be my Scorpio self and show her affection my way. I just don't expect it back from her because I see it in other ways.

My suggestion would be to not say anything and just keep showing it with your actions. You’ll know when you can say it. I think they get fed up and end up asking. At that point you can be sure the feelings mutual 😁

Yeah, I definitely don't want to bring it up yet... I'm 99.9% sure she will pull away from me if I do lol

Thanks for all your replies 🙂

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Then it seems like you’ve found what you were looking for. I don’t really think of them as cold, just different. It doesn’t suit my style of man.

The woman are different, I agree. They are much better suited in the sign of Virgo in my opinion.

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I don't know honestly, when you smile unintentionally looking at your phone - it's him. When you never get tired of the person, when you don't want to run, when their presence brings peace, when you don't feel anxious around them, if they hurt- you hurt. I can go on and on but who cares

The part about their presence bringing peace... I definitely feel that when I'm around her. A single random text from her can make me smile all day or pull me out of any bad mood. When we are together, I can hardly think of anything else and almost worst some times when we are apart lol

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Awww this is sweet and exactly how it’s supposed to be. I miss this feeling 🥰

Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

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I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

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So, I've been dating this Virgo woman for a few months, but have known her and cared about her for 5+ years as a friend. We are "taking it slow" because she is less than a year out of a 4 yr relationship with a man who cheated numerous times throughout.

I started the romantic relationship thinking it was just as sexual/physical attraction. For a week or so, I wondered if that was all I felt, but as I spent more time with her, I saw a side of her I had never known when we were only friends. I know at this point it turned into lust...

I couldn't stop thinking about her and just wanted to know everything I could learn about her and wanted to show her my romantic side that I had stuffed away for years because I hadn't found anyone that was worth the effort lol

At some point, the sex turned into love making and became more passionate. I found mysf staring at her, wondering if she could be the one. I began understand her and her Virgo nature ( it would so hard and confusing at first, but now I actually like it!) and saw all her flaws, but found them so easy to accept. It was like everything about her feels right and my gut says she could be the one.

Anyway, for a while, I knew it was just lust and I wasnt yet in love. Lately, however, I am starting to wonder if I have made the fall.. I can see a future with her. I have never felt such selfless feelings for anyone besides my kids. Its hard to explain, but it's like I just want to give every bit of me to her and do anything and everything to make her happy and comfortable in life. I want to see her go after her dreams and be there while she does. I would literally take a bullet or give my life for her. I would even walk away if I knew it would make her life better.

Even in my head, I all of a sudden caught myself saying "Man, I love this woman!". Then I think "Crap! I can't be having these kind of feelings already... Is it even love?". We are trying to take it slow, so Im always telling myself to not let my feelings get carried away... Now I wonder if it isn't too late lol

Looking back on my previous relationships, there is only one that stands out as me having been in love, but I was so young and immature that I don't know if that's what it really was. I still think about her and feel about her the same as I did 8 years ago. But it's so different with this Virgo woman I am seeing now... It feels completely selfless and real. But is it really love—

Things are going so well right now and I want to keep my wits about me and not get carried away. I know when Virgos begin to allow their emotions to show and they fall in love, they fall hard and it's forever. Before she gets to that point where she stops analyzing me and let's her emotions take over, I want to make sure that what I am feeling is real. I don't want to hurt her because I got carried away thinking I am in love when it's just lust or whatever. However, I think what I am feeling might be the real thing. I feel like I have moved past the lust and the "idea" of her and me. I think I may actually be in love lol

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How do/did you know you were really in love? And how did you know it was with the person, not the "idea" of that person?

are you sure you love her or you like the idea she is so detached? what I observed, scorps usually want someone who they feel is in love with someone else

would you love her (will you love her) even after she would confess her feelings for you AND act like it?

I think you are in love if you love the person who loves you the same, not because you are not sure about them

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

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I know what Virgo here that you’re talking about. I agree that it works for them.

My twin brother is married to a Virgo woman and she is great. But she’s a fiery, fiesty Virgo like yourself. Lots of personality.

I enjoy the Virgos company most times when I see him. It’s just not enough for me. It’s like both of us are waiting on something.

I’m pretty open and honest with him though when he asks me stuff and the fact that he sticks around is cool. I just like affection and he doesn’t give it freely. He’s waiting for me to make a move and show him. And I’m not gonna do that.

He’s too watery like I am. It’s not good for me. I’m water and fire and he’s water and earth. A freakin stick in the mud 😩😝

Signs I'm in love:

Butterflies throughout EACH day

Misty eyes / Bouts of tears

Smiling randomly

My mind is on him continuously

Memories of our time together floods my emotions

I can't imagine life being the same without him

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So, I've been dating this Virgo woman for a few months, but have known her and cared about her for 5+ years as a friend. We are "taking it slow" because she is less than a year out of a 4 yr relationship with a man who cheated numerous times throughout.

I started the romantic relationship thinking it was just as sexual/physical attraction. For a week or so, I wondered if that was all I felt, but as I spent more time with her, I saw a side of her I had never known when we were only friends. I know at this point it turned into lust...

I couldn't stop thinking about her and just wanted to know everything I could learn about her and wanted to show her my romantic side that I had stuffed away for years because I hadn't found anyone that was worth the effort lol

At some point, the sex turned into love making and became more passionate. I found mysf staring at her, wondering if she could be the one. I began understand her and her Virgo nature ( it would so hard and confusing at first, but now I actually like it!) and saw all her flaws, but found them so easy to accept. It was like everything about her feels right and my gut says she could be the one.

Anyway, for a while, I knew it was just lust and I wasnt yet in love. Lately, however, I am starting to wonder if I have made the fall.. I can see a future with her. I have never felt such selfless feelings for anyone besides my kids. Its hard to explain, but it's like I just want to give every bit of me to her and do anything and everything to make her happy and comfortable in life. I want to see her go after her dreams and be there while she does. I would literally take a bullet or give my life for her. I would even walk away if I knew it would make her life better.

Even in my head, I all of a sudden caught myself saying "Man, I love this woman!". Then I think "Crap! I can't be having these kind of feelings already... Is it even love?". We are trying to take it slow, so Im always telling myself to not let my feelings get carried away... Now I wonder if it isn't too late lol

Looking back on my previous relationships, there is only one that stands out as me having been in love, but I was so young and immature that I don't know if that's what it really was. I still think about her and feel about her the same as I did 8 years ago. But it's so different with this Virgo woman I am seeing now... It feels completely selfless and real. But is it really love—

Things are going so well right now and I want to keep my wits about me and not get carried away. I know when Virgos begin to allow their emotions to show and they fall in love, they fall hard and it's forever. Before she gets to that point where she stops analyzing me and let's her emotions take over, I want to make sure that what I am feeling is real. I don't want to hurt her because I got carried away thinking I am in love when it's just lust or whatever. However, I think what I am feeling might be the real thing. I feel like I have moved past the lust and the "idea" of her and me. I think I may actually be in love lol

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How do/did you know you were really in love? And how did you know it was with the person, not the "idea" of that person?

are you sure you love her or you like the idea she is so detached? what I observed, scorps usually want someone who they feel is in love with someone else

would you love her (will you love her) even after she would confess her feelings for you AND act like it?

I think you are in love if you love the person who loves you the same, not because you are not sure about them

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I actually don't believe that he is. Too much questioning brings me pause concerning this.

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Signs I'm in love:

Butterflies throughout EACH day

Misty eyes / Bouts of tears

Smiling randomly

My mind is on him continuously

Memories of our time together floods my emotions

I can't imagine life being the same without him

Also, (most importantly imo), when in love I truly desire that EVERY PART of his life brings him joy. I care for his inner and outer being.

When I start missing him if he cannot be around, when i get possessive, when I want to be close to him physically and when I start thinking that he is wonderful 😄

I love what loves me.

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

I know what Virgo here that you’re talking about. I agree that it works for them.

My twin brother is married to a Virgo woman and she is great. But she’s a fiery, fiesty Virgo like yourself. Lots of personality.

I enjoy the Virgos company most times when I see him. It’s just not enough for me. It’s like both of us are waiting on something.

I’m pretty open and honest with him though when he asks me stuff and the fact that he sticks around is cool. I just like affection and he doesn’t give it freely. He’s waiting for me to make a move and show him. And I’m not gonna do that.

He’s too watery like I am. It’s not good for me. I’m water and fire and he’s water and earth. A freakin stick in the mud 😩😝

My first love was a Virgo and he was very affectionate. He was always there, I don’t remember ever questioning it. But I’m an earthy Sag so maybe that’s some of it.

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I’m not saying all Virgo men aren’t affectionate. Just the one I’m dealing with isn’t. He seems to want to pretend like he’s a womanizer instead of a straight laced boring guy. So I basically treat him like a fucc boi since we are fwb and he doesn’t like that I treat him that way. Lol. He’s told me women usually fall for him fast.

I love this...

In love? You show up and put in the work.

I get the oh sh*t heart pains in my chest - almost like you're having a heart attack hahaha only had that twice in my life so I know it's real.

other things as other's have said - can't get them off of my mind, do everything to see them smile and make sure they're happy. I don't want my personal space as much as I normally do (which is usually a LOT).

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I get what you’re saying lol. No need to explain. I can feel emotions like that too.

But good luck though. I wish I liked the Virgo I am dealing with as much as you like yours 🙂

Thank you! Don't know the whole story with your Virgo, but good luck with him! If you aren't feeling it, maybe he's not right for you? Ill have to look through your posts and see if I can find your story so I can comment there 😉 Hate to say anything without knowing the whole situation lol

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I get what you’re saying lol. No need to explain. I can feel emotions like that too.

But good luck though. I wish I liked the Virgo I am dealing with as much as you like yours 🙂

Thank you! Don't know the whole story with your Virgo, but good luck with him! If you aren't feeling it, maybe he's not right for you? Ill have to look through your posts and see if I can find your story so I can comment there 😉 Hate to say anything without knowing the whole situation lol

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I'm about to start dating a Leo that is super affectionate. So I will see how that goes while keeping the Virgo on the back burner for now. 😄 The Leo just called me last night and agreed to start dating me., so I'll see how this goes. He seems more my style .

And I'm all over the place on this site, there is no back story for anything lol I just date who I want and then complain when things don't go right 😄

You seem to be much nicer to the Virgo you're with, I read some of your other post. I'm definitely not as nice as you. So good luck to you too. I love Scorpios, you guys are so great when you love someone.

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So, I've been dating this Virgo woman for a few months, but have known her and cared about her for 5+ years as a friend. We are "taking it slow" because she is less than a year out of a 4 yr relationship with a man who cheated numerous times throughout.

I started the romantic relationship thinking it was just as sexual/physical attraction. For a week or so, I wondered if that was all I felt, but as I spent more time with her, I saw a side of her I had never known when we were only friends. I know at this point it turned into lust...

I couldn't stop thinking about her and just wanted to know everything I could learn about her and wanted to show her my romantic side that I had stuffed away for years because I hadn't found anyone that was worth the effort lol

At some point, the sex turned into love making and became more passionate. I found mysf staring at her, wondering if she could be the one. I began understand her and her Virgo nature ( it would so hard and confusing at first, but now I actually like it!) and saw all her flaws, but found them so easy to accept. It was like everything about her feels right and my gut says she could be the one.

Anyway, for a while, I knew it was just lust and I wasnt yet in love. Lately, however, I am starting to wonder if I have made the fall.. I can see a future with her. I have never felt such selfless feelings for anyone besides my kids. Its hard to explain, but it's like I just want to give every bit of me to her and do anything and everything to make her happy and comfortable in life. I want to see her go after her dreams and be there while she does. I would literally take a bullet or give my life for her. I would even walk away if I knew it would make her life better.

Even in my head, I all of a sudden caught myself saying "Man, I love this woman!". Then I think "Crap! I can't be having these kind of feelings already... Is it even love?". We are trying to take it slow, so Im always telling myself to not let my feelings get carried away... Now I wonder if it isn't too late lol

Looking back on my previous relationships, there is only one that stands out as me having been in love, but I was so young and immature that I don't know if that's what it really was. I still think about her and feel about her the same as I did 8 years ago. But it's so different with this Virgo woman I am seeing now... It feels completely selfless and real. But is it really love—

Things are going so well right now and I want to keep my wits about me and not get carried away. I know when Virgos begin to allow their emotions to show and they fall in love, they fall hard and it's forever. Before she gets to that point where she stops analyzing me and let's her emotions take over, I want to make sure that what I am feeling is real. I don't want to hurt her because I got carried away thinking I am in love when it's just lust or whatever. However, I think what I am feeling might be the real thing. I feel like I have moved past the lust and the "idea" of her and me. I think I may actually be in love lol

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How do/did you know you were really in love? And how did you know it was with the person, not the "idea" of that person?

You know (as my future MIL said) you stepped in too deep!

But you haven’t said a word about HER!

If you not sure it’s weird...however give her a hint like ‘I am falling for you’ and keep doing what you are doing...but watch her reaction.

I am feeling you are in love but you not talking about her...wall of text about your feelings and nobody I am sure feeling what ta heck is she and where IS she?

Well...are you really about yourself?

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She is guarding her heart...making sure your actions match your words before she starts to let you in in that manner...she won't be "Cancer" affectionate as we are more service oriented in showing how we feel but we are always willing to listen and adapt to your needs.....we need to be made comfortable and shown that's it's ok to show our affection in a physical way (besides sex) since we really arent use to it.

Well she has been hurt so many times, I don't blame her. Knowing myself, my word is my bond... I know it takes time to prove that though .. Im in no hurry, but very much intend on earning her trust. I think we have the same values and morals and I never bend or break mine, so I don't see trust being an issue... At least once it's earned.

The only time that I can't be intimate is when I have a shit ton on my mind and under stress of some sort.. usually my own doing 😂 but this is pretty much majority of women.

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Haha Yeah, that's what I am wondering... She was at Columbine HS when the shooting took place there and the anniversary was on 4/20, so she was definitely feeling anxious and I saw some of her PTSD coming out. Having PTSD myself, I certainly understood what she was going through. Now she is starting a custody battle and will also be out of a job at the end of the month, so she is under a lot of stress. Which is why I don't pressure her for anything. I'm not 25 anymore... I won't die if I have to wait haha But I honestly understand what she is going through as I've been through most of it myself and had a period there where I got really depressed. So, I've just even trying to be there for her and keep her mind off things when she gets too anxious.

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

Honestly, she hasn't been really critical of me... Sarcastic about things at times (in a good way, because we go back and forth lol), but not overly critical. She points out stuff occasionally, but she always explains why and she has always been right lol

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

I tend to agree with this lol

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

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Nah, it does help to hear other people's stories/situations and their opinion. Helps me understand how my situation might compare.

As long as it doesn't turn into some tit for tat boxing match between other members like I see in some threads, I'm all for people sharing their own experiences! 😉lol

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A man just knows. Women have been trying to figure out what makes them wifey material for generations. Funny thing, most men don't even know if a list exists, but there's still know when they've found the one.

Congratulations, don't fuck this one up. It will be hard to recover for you.

Thanks, you sound like someone I would get along with! Lol Where Texas are ya? I was just down in Granbury not to long ago... Have family outside Amarillo and Houston.

Definitely gonna do my best not to fuck this one up! Lol

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are you sure you love her or you like the idea she is so detached? what I observed, scorps usually want someone who they feel is in love with someone else

would you love her (will you love her) even after she would confess her feelings for you AND act like it?

I really don't like that she is detatched... I want something serious and real. I just accepted that it's going to be that way for a while. It was hard to get used to at first and I definitely felt rejected a time or two, but then she would do something to make it right and I began to just KNOW that she cared.

I am very much looking forward to her opening up to me. I'm not someone who plays games and don't run when things get serious. I think my feelings are real and strong enough that I will be more than ready and will be enjoy knowing that the feelings are mutual 🙂



I think you are in love if you love the person who loves you the same, not because you are not sure about them

This is something I have thought about... O would define this as "True Love"... When both people love each other the same, then it doesn't get anymore real because everything is reciprocated, even if it's not always 50/50

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Falling "in love" is easy. It's a biological response to meeting someone that just does it for ya. You feel nervous, can't sleep or eat properly, and think about the person frequently. Neurochemicals and hormones cause all that. The phases that come after that are the hard part. When being "in love" changes to committed love.

Nah...I ear and sleep fine. Now after Scorpio period when I really couldn’t eat nor live. But I was told here that love shouldn’t do this to you. It should make you happy! I didn’t care. I’ve lost 75lb and was totally mental case.

Nowadays I am totally loving my Aries and I am fucking gaining weight! I sleep just fine! He makes me feel calm and good and I know I am loving him because when I think of him deeply (itbis all the time but just thinking) - I smile uncontrollably and when he says ‘can’t wait to see you my move’ - my heart gets surrounded by butterflies.

So apparently it’s to each it’s own...

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

I know what Virgo here that you’re talking about. I agree that it works for them.

My twin brother is married to a Virgo woman and she is great. But she’s a fiery, fiesty Virgo like yourself. Lots of personality.

I enjoy the Virgos company most times when I see him. It’s just not enough for me. It’s like both of us are waiting on something.

I’m pretty open and honest with him though when he asks me stuff and the fact that he sticks around is cool. I just like affection and he doesn’t give it freely. He’s waiting for me to make a move and show him. And I’m not gonna do that.

He’s too watery like I am. It’s not good for me. I’m water and fire and he’s water and earth. A freakin stick in the mud 😩😝

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Yeah...you have to have what works best for you and not trying to force something if it ain't all there.

Thanks for everyone's replies! I'm trying to reply to each of you individually, but will have to do so as I have time 🙂

However, I realized that I posted this not so much to see if my feelings are real, more because I wanted to know if this is how love is for most people. I know my feelings are real and honestly have no doubts about me and this woman.. my gut says everything is just the way it should be!

I guess I'm just trying to guard my own heart a little until things are a little more official. We haven't put a label on us and I want her to work through whatever she is going through regarding her ex and finding herself again before we take things to the next level. I want her to be living in the present and not letting her past confuse our relationship (applies to me as well, though I have already taken a few years to work though mine). Basically what I am saying is I'm perfectly fine going at whatever pace she needs and have told her this, but I still feel I need to guard my own heart a bit until she is truly ready to commit to us. Hope that makes sense?

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Falling "in love" is easy. It's a biological response to meeting someone that just does it for ya. You feel nervous, can't sleep or eat properly, and think about the person frequently. Neurochemicals and hormones cause all that. The phases that come after that are the hard part. When being "in love" changes to committed love.

Nah...I ear and sleep fine. Now after Scorpio period when I really couldn’t eat nor live. But I was told here that love shouldn’t do this to you. It should make you happy! I didn’t care. I’ve lost 75lb and was totally mental case.

Nowadays I am totally loving my Aries and I am fucking gaining weight! I sleep just fine! He makes me feel calm and good and I know I am loving him because when I think of him deeply (itbis all the time but just thinking) - I smile uncontrollably and when he says ‘can’t wait to see you my move’ - my heart gets surrounded by butterflies.

So apparently it’s to each it’s own...

I am making a distinction between the crazy feeling you have when you are infatuated with someone you are not yet with and the good feeling you have when you are in a committed relationship. You already have a commitment. The uncommitted, crazy phase is what all the love songs and romantic movies are talking about when they say "fall in love."

http://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2017/love-actually-science-behind-lust-attraction-companionship/

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Trust me...I KNOW!!!

But I’ve never felt pre-love with Aries. I saw his face I said I am having it! And we had nothing but ‘we are in it’...like we’ve passed that phase completely...

I said this 40 times here. Same with scorpio. The second I saw him I said - I am following this man wherever he takes me no ‘thinking’ period.

Maybe it’s jusr me. I don’t need ‘time’ - I KNOW from the first sight.

So...there is no rules. Everything is individually personally unique!

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

I tend to agree with this lol

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

Nah, it does help to hear other people's stories/situations and their opinion. Helps me understand how my situation might compare.

As long as it doesn't turn into some tit for tat boxing match between other members like I see in some threads, I'm all for people sharing their own experiences! 😉lol

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We can share but you will do it your way, Scorpio! Good luck!

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

I know what Virgo here that you’re talking about. I agree that it works for them.

My twin brother is married to a Virgo woman and she is great. But she’s a fiery, fiesty Virgo like yourself. Lots of personality.

I enjoy the Virgos company most times when I see him. It’s just not enough for me. It’s like both of us are waiting on something.

I’m pretty open and honest with him though when he asks me stuff and the fact that he sticks around is cool. I just like affection and he doesn’t give it freely. He’s waiting for me to make a move and show him. And I’m not gonna do that.

He’s too watery like I am. It’s not good for me. I’m water and fire and he’s water and earth. A freakin stick in the mud 😩😝

Yeah...you have to have what works best for you and not trying to force something if it ain't all there.

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I'm trying to. Hopefully things work out with this Leo that just told me he was a male whoore 😄

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

I know what Virgo here that you’re talking about. I agree that it works for them.

My twin brother is married to a Virgo woman and she is great. But she’s a fiery, fiesty Virgo like yourself. Lots of personality.

I enjoy the Virgos company most times when I see him. It’s just not enough for me. It’s like both of us are waiting on something.

I’m pretty open and honest with him though when he asks me stuff and the fact that he sticks around is cool. I just like affection and he doesn’t give it freely. He’s waiting for me to make a move and show him. And I’m not gonna do that.

He’s too watery like I am. It’s not good for me. I’m water and fire and he’s water and earth. A freakin stick in the mud 😩😝

Yeah...you have to have what works best for you and not trying to force something if it ain't all there.

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I'm not forcing anything. We are just fwb- this is why in my mind I can treat him the way I do. 😄 There's no need to go into a relationship with him.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

She is guarding her heart...making sure your actions match your words before she starts to let you in in that manner...she won't be "Cancer" affectionate as we are more service oriented in showing how we feel but we are always willing to listen and adapt to your needs.....we need to be made comfortable and shown that's it's ok to show our affection in a physical way (besides sex) since we really arent use to it.

Well she has been hurt so many times, I don't blame her. Knowing myself, my word is my bond... I know it takes time to prove that though .. Im in no hurry, but very much intend on earning her trust. I think we have the same values and morals and I never bend or break mine, so I don't see trust being an issue... At least once it's earned.

The only time that I can't be intimate is when I have a shit ton on my mind and under stress of some sort.. usually my own doing 😂 but this is pretty much majority of women.

Haha Yeah, that's what I am wondering... She was at Columbine HS when the shooting took place there and the anniversary was on 4/20, so she was definitely feeling anxious and I saw some of her PTSD coming out. Having PTSD myself, I certainly understood what she was going through. Now she is starting a custody battle and will also be out of a job at the end of the month, so she is under a lot of stress. Which is why I don't pressure her for anything. I'm not 25 anymore... I won't die if I have to wait haha But I honestly understand what she is going through as I've been through most of it myself and had a period there where I got really depressed. So, I've just even trying to be there for her and keep her mind off things when she gets too anxious.

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Yeah that's a heavy ass load she is caring on her shoulders and the support she is getting from you will not be forgotten.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

Honestly, she hasn't been really critical of me... Sarcastic about things at times (in a good way, because we go back and forth lol), but not overly critical. She points out stuff occasionally, but she always explains why and she has always been right lol

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Not that we are always right but we are...unless you are wanting to get a "I told ya so"...cause you will...best to listen 😂 (I'm kidding of course but not about the I told ya so...that will happen lol)

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

I know what Virgo here that you’re talking about. I agree that it works for them.

My twin brother is married to a Virgo woman and she is great. But she’s a fiery, fiesty Virgo like yourself. Lots of personality.

I enjoy the Virgos company most times when I see him. It’s just not enough for me. It’s like both of us are waiting on something.

I’m pretty open and honest with him though when he asks me stuff and the fact that he sticks around is cool. I just like affection and he doesn’t give it freely. He’s waiting for me to make a move and show him. And I’m not gonna do that.

He’s too watery like I am. It’s not good for me. I’m water and fire and he’s water and earth. A freakin stick in the mud 😩😝

Yeah...you have to have what works best for you and not trying to force something if it ain't all there.

I'm trying to. Hopefully things work out with this Leo that just told me he was a male whoore 😄

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He did not?! 🙄😂 So dramatic!

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Also when she starts being critical (not necessarily in a bad way) or is constantly worried about you... congrats the feeling is definitely mutual. When she stops...be worried, she's planning her out.

I think Scorpios are more suited for your sign because they have a natural level of negativity that matches Virgos. Just less criticism. Seems like Virgos like bickering a little and so do Scorpios.

Way better suited then Sag and Virgo, especially since it’s my 12th house. There’s just too many unspoken things between us. Hopefully I didn’t flub the Ops thread too much with my nonsense.

I can agree to that. The bickering is mental stimulation and foreplay in a way lol. Virgos also can see thru scorps bs and they don't put up with it which I think intrigues them because everyone else seems to submit. Plus we are really similar. Virgos are also very intuitive even tho we aren't really given credit for it.

I think Sag and Virgo can def work....with the Sag guy I was seeing...even tho he turned out to be a jack ass...we could talk for hours and really did enjoy each other's company...the sexual tension was def there but I didn't trust him enough to take it to the level...thank God! Lol. There is a virgo guy on here that is married to a sag and they seem really happy together. 12th is hard for sure..lots of fog and the unspoken..but it's still doable...just needs to be navigated in a different way.

I know what Virgo here that you’re talking about. I agree that it works for them.

My twin brother is married to a Virgo woman and she is great. But she’s a fiery, fiesty Virgo like yourself. Lots of personality.

I enjoy the Virgos company most times when I see him. It’s just not enough for me. It’s like both of us are waiting on something.

I’m pretty open and honest with him though when he asks me stuff and the fact that he sticks around is cool. I just like affection and he doesn’t give it freely. He’s waiting for me to make a move and show him. And I’m not gonna do that.

He’s too watery like I am. It’s not good for me. I’m water and fire and he’s water and earth. A freakin stick in the mud 😩😝

Yeah...you have to have what works best for you and not trying to force something if it ain't all there.

I'm not forcing anything. We are just fwb- this is why in my mind I can treat him the way I do. 😄 There's no need to go into a relationship with him.

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Oh I know that...I was just meaning in general.