I hope i did the right thing ...

So ... i’ll cut the beginning short.. and say i knew this guy for like 6 months ... he was showering me with his love so intensely and i loved it ... but then suddenly he cooled of ... didnt stop but for example we used to go put almost everyday even if its just he drop me home from somewhere .. and then he suddenly didn’t ask me out for a week ... and like this..

So i sensed this change and i asked him whats wrong? He always replies nothing its just that i got comfortable with you .. things always get colder at any relationship but i do love u the exact same .. so then little things rised up ... and i was confused ... and i just feelt like something isnt normal bs he always reassure me that am just over thinking ... anyhow after a series of such thing i told him that i want us to stop talking until we solve all what’s happening cuz its not healthy ... he never listens and continued to act like nothing happend and forced me to accept it and when i didnt he asked for a break ... i gave him break but then i felt like its been over a month and i couldnt take it ... and sadly everytime I confront him or show him that i cant take it and i really need any thing to assure me things will get better not worse ! He says that he loves me and that he cant commit at the moment and he doesnt know how long will it takes ... i’ve stayed patient for another month but couldnt take it so tried to “ force” him to talk about it twice as he always refuse to ... but in both times things get steemy and go the wrong direction until i try my best to make him calm and talk reasonably after he already said ghe worst words mocking my feelings and calls me drama queen ...



Finally, 3 days ago he called and was too sweet but didnt say anything about what’s happening.. so i called again at night he refused to pick up at first then he did and he was like please dont discuss anything ! .. and i was like i just thought u called which means u decided finally ! Cuz last tome i told u we need to stay away untill u make up ur mind ! ... but he went too cruel and harsh with his words very hurtful and mocked my feelings so i told him he was being an asshole and that he is too low so he hanged up the phone to my face ... just to call again half an hour to apologize but i didnt pick up so he texted me saying he is realllllly sorry and fhat he isnt like this and that i dont deserve this so i said:

“ thanks this was a wake up call ..... yes i dont deserve this, and am not the person who u r making me ... i’m at my worse and u made it even worse for me .. and before u mock me for acting like we have been long together and its inly 6,6 months ... truth is at least i took 5 months to love u deeply and do this .... while you went crazy wanting me aincr week 1 !! And went even crazier After I rejected you several times after ! Anyways i choose to rise above all this ... i always knew i deserved better but i chose you so amd thanks for reminding me ... i’ll leave now not because u wanted it because u have hurt me enough to leave... u abused every single feeljng i had for u which turned me into an ugly beast that gave u all the reasons not to want me of course ... so yes you win. I choose to leave am better than all of this”



So he replied: i’m sorry, i love you

I’m so sorry

Tc

Then half an hour later he texted me again saying am deeply sorry for real .. so i replied if its because u hang up the phone to my face np worries.

He replied: no i’m deeply sorry for everything i have done..

i didnt say anything back ... i deleted him from everywhere on social media his number everything ... but he didnt ...

but i do love him a lot ... and i know he isnt good for me because i do deserve better ... but if he came back and made it up for me i would want him ...

Do you thing he’d ever come back ?

6 months? And all that? With Scorpio? You’ve GOT to be kidding!

What was the right thing you’ve done? I’ve missed that part...

Leaving him ... because he claim he loves me bit none of what he says or do follows... i just want to know did i do the right thing or he was honest and i just havw no patience?

And will he ever come back?

Posted by Gemitati

What was the right thing you’ve done? I’ve missed that part...

Posted by Gemitati

6 months? And all that? With Scorpio? You’ve GOT to be kidding!

6 months in good terms 2 month not ... i knew him since 26th of feb..

Posted by N_leo

So ... i’ll cut the beginning short.. and say i knew this guy for like 6 months ... he was showering me with his love so intensely and i loved it ... but then suddenly he cooled of ... didnt stop but for example we used to go put almost everyday even if its just he drop me home from somewhere .. and then he suddenly didn’t ask me out for a week ... and like this..

So i sensed this change and i asked him whats wrong? He always replies nothing its just that i got comfortable with you .. things always get colder at any relationship but i do love u the exact same .. so then little things rised up ... and i was confused ... and i just feelt like something isnt normal bs he always reassure me that am just over thinking ... anyhow after a series of such thing i told him that i want us to stop talking until we solve all what’s happening cuz its not healthy ... he never listens and continued to act like nothing happend and forced me to accept it and when i didnt he asked for a break ... i gave him break but then i felt like its been over a month and i couldnt take it ... and sadly everytime I confront him or show him that i cant take it and i really need any thing to assure me things will get better not worse ! He says that he loves me and that he cant commit at the moment and he doesnt know how long will it takes ... i’ve stayed patient for another month but couldnt take it so tried to “ force” him to talk about it twice as he always refuse to ... but in both times things get steemy and go the wrong direction until i try my best to make him calm and talk reasonably after he already said ghe worst words mocking my feelings and calls me drama queen ...



Finally, 3 days ago he called and was too sweet but didnt say anything about what’s happening.. so i called again at night he refused to pick up at first then he did and he was like please dont discuss anything ! .. and i was like i just thought u called which means u decided finally ! Cuz last tome i told u we need to stay away untill u make up ur mind ! ... but he went too cruel and harsh with his words very hurtful and mocked my feelings so i told him he was being an asshole and that he is too low so he hanged up the phone to my face ... just to call again half an hour to apologize but i didnt pick up so he texted me saying he is realllllly sorry and fhat he isnt like this and that i dont deserve this so i said:

“ thanks this was a wake up call ..... yes i dont deserve this, and am not the person who u r making me ... i’m at my worse and u made it even worse for me .. and before u mock me for acting like we have been long together and its inly 6,6 months ... truth is at least i took 5 months to love u deeply and do this .... while you went crazy wanting me aincr week 1 !! And went even crazier After I rejected you several times after ! Anyways i choose to rise above all this ... i always knew i deserved better but i chose you so amd thanks for reminding me ... i’ll leave now not because u wanted it because u have hurt me enough to leave... u abused every single feeljng i had for u which turned me into an ugly beast that gave u all the reasons not to want me of course ... so yes you win. I choose to leave am better than all of this”



So he replied: i’m sorry, i love you

I’m so sorry

Tc

Then half an hour later he texted me again saying am deeply sorry for real .. so i replied if its because u hang up the phone to my face np worries.

He replied: no i’m deeply sorry for everything i have done..

So I am in the same predicament where I want someone that isn’t good for me. As a human being we tend to want what we can’t have or a challenge. He is your challenge and what you can’t have right now. My guy completely disappeared for a few days then I finally asked him if he needed time for himself and he said yes. So I am giving him space and if he comes back he comes back if he doesn’t he doesn’t.

You have to give him his space and demand more. It hurts when you love someone and that’s all you want but you have to push the desire back and focus on the end game. Take time to think is this something you really want and want to handle in a long term relationship. It’s okay and nice and pretty and you can roll with the punches for right now. In the long run do you see him being there till the end?

Being in a relationship your going to get hurt sometimes and hurt people but sit back and make sure this is what you want. A constant rollercoaster.