Insecurities , I actually ran ..FAST

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It took me a long time to realise this guy had deep deep insecurity issues when he revealed his true hidden self I was so repulsed and turned off I flipped on him and ran. I never want to see or speak with him again. Just a male friend btw


Anyone else experienced this? , I know we all have our insecurities to some extent but to be so deeply insecure that he made me feel guilty for everything I said and done around him I was thinking it was me but fml it was him he's so insecure he actually kept bringing the same thing up over and over again he was blind to how flipping nice I was to him I had patience for him that I have for very few.

I'm blown away ...
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Oh lol he was telling me about his sexual experiences which scared me too lol and how this girl was giving him head etc lol anyway a to cut it short I thought we were joking around during this convo and I said women like large D's...

He flipped on me lol started ranting !!! Lool

I told him I don't need to know about his sex life and that is never discuss my sex life with anyone ever it's private. He's been doing it a lot recently discussing himself to me in this way and making me uncomftable. I said to him I wasn't going to be talking to him again ever.
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Oh lol he was telling me about his sexual experiences which scared me too lol and how this girl was giving him head etc lol anyway a to cut it short I thought we were joking around during this convo and I said women like large D's...

He flipped on me lol started ranting !!! Lool

I told him I don't need to know about his sex life and that is never discuss my sex life with anyone ever it's private. He's been doing it a lot recently discussing himself to me in this way and making me uncomftable. I said to him I wasn't going to be talking to him again ever.
Ew. He sounds like a creep. Good on you for ditching that loser.
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A guy talking to a female friend about sex isn't normal , is it ?

I thought I was being crazy that I was offended he got mad at me abt it
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How long have you known this guy? What's the most sensitive topic you've discussed before this?

I agreed that he brought up stuff he shouldn't have, especially too soon.

What two friends talk about (male or female) is between them and their comfort levels actually. Has to do with a lot of things...their ages...their maturity levels...how deep they might be connected...their intelligence...etc...

The bottom line is that he brought up something and in such a manner, that made you feel uncomfortable.

Sounds like you don't know him that well...and he needs someone to talk about this with...he could go find a therapist...another forum (don't let him near DXP...lol)...another friend...

...seems like he has some shit going on...if he's not hurting your, or trying to hurt you...and is otherwise a decent person...he probably just needs a friend right now...it doesn't have to be you...but if he's going through something...he might not be showing his true self to you right now either.

Follow your gut, trust your instincts in the end.
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Posted by Piscis_Hominis
How long have you known this guy? What's the most sensitive topic you've discussed before this?

I agreed that he brought up stuff he shouldn't have, especially too soon.

What two friends talk about (male or female) is between them and their comfort levels actually. Has to do with a lot of things...their ages...their maturity levels...how deep they might be connected...their intelligence...etc...

The bottom line is that he brought up something and in such a manner, that made you feel uncomfortable.

Sounds like you don't know him that well...and he needs someone to talk about this with...he could go find a therapist...another forum (don't let him near DXP...lol)...another friend...

...seems like he has some shit going on...if he's not hurting your, or trying to hurt you...and is otherwise a decent person...he probably just needs a friend right now...it doesn't have to be you...but if he's going through something...he might not be showing his true self to you right now either.

Follow your gut, trust your instincts in the end.



I've known him 7 years , I think I've hurt him but I can't keep apologising forever can I .

He's blocked me now . After I said I'd never talk to him again he blocked me his last message to me was "what's wrong with you?"

I think he's hurt but I won't back down. I'm not a slut or a slag I'm a prude I should have been a nun lol
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So he made u feel guilty n showed insecurity when u mentioned small dick
Or that is another instance ?
If it was the small sick comment well makes sense it struck a nerve
I never called him small penis lol haha

I've only ever been with one man and he had a monster D and he knows this.

When I said jokingly women like big D's he just got mad at me

Idk what's going on to be honest I'm confused
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So he made u feel guilty n showed insecurity when u mentioned small dick
Or that is another instance ?
If it was the small sick comment well makes sense it struck a nerve
I never called him small penis lol haha

I've only ever been with one man and he had a monster D and he knows this.

When I said jokingly women like big D's he just got mad at me

Idk what's going on to be honest I'm confused
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He felt slighted (pun not intended lol).

He's interested in you sexually and in some way he felt like you were rejecting him based on his peen.

Fucked up, I know.
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See this is why I never communicate or speak how I truly feel with my gf. Or anyone at that matter.

I'd never ask for help or advice, or tell my problems.

I'd just let them accumulate, till the point there's so many I can't take it anymore. It's at the point I'm walking back and forth with a loaded gun, empty bottle of rum the in the background.

Men aren't aloud to have problems. Men aren't aloud to have insecurities. Men aren't aloud to cry. Men aren't aloud to open up.

It's a sin for men to do anythi,g else but suffer with no way open themselves or escape.
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See this is why I never communicate or speak how I truly feel with my gf. Or anyone at that matter.

I'd never ask for help or advice, or tell my problems.

I'd just let them accumulate, till the point there's so many I can't take it anymore. It's at the point I'm walking back and forth with a loaded gun, empty bottle of rum the in the background.

Men aren't aloud to have problems. Men aren't aloud to have insecurities. Men aren't aloud to cry. Men aren't aloud to open up.

It's a sin for men to do anythi,g else but suffer with no way open themselves or escape.
Scorpio Moon Lyfe.
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Posted by Soul
See this is why I never communicate or speak how I truly feel with my gf. Or anyone at that matter.

I'd never ask for help or advice, or tell my problems.

I'd just let them accumulate, till the point there's so many I can't take it anymore. It's at the point I'm walking back and forth with a loaded gun, empty bottle of rum the in the background.

Men aren't aloud to have problems. Men aren't aloud to have insecurities. Men aren't aloud to cry. Men aren't aloud to open up.

It's a sin for men to do anythi,g else but suffer with no way open themselves or escape.
Soul not all women will run after being vulnerable.
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Not all. But I know what he's getting at.

It's just easier sometimes to say nothing.
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See this is why I never communicate or speak how I truly feel with my gf. Or anyone at that matter.

I'd never ask for help or advice, or tell my problems.

I'd just let them accumulate, till the point there's so many I can't take it anymore. It's at the point I'm walking back and forth with a loaded gun, empty bottle of rum the in the background.

Men aren't aloud to have problems. Men aren't aloud to have insecurities. Men aren't aloud to cry. Men aren't aloud to open up.

It's a sin for men to do anythi,g else but suffer with no way open themselves or escape.
Scorpio Moon Lyfe.
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Ok he's Scorpio moon too

What should I do ?

Bc I did say I'd never talk again , I like to follow through on my threats

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See this is why I never communicate or speak how I truly feel with my gf. Or anyone at that matter.

I'd never ask for help or advice, or tell my problems.

I'd just let them accumulate, till the point there's so many I can't take it anymore. It's at the point I'm walking back and forth with a loaded gun, empty bottle of rum the in the background.

Men aren't aloud to have problems. Men aren't aloud to have insecurities. Men aren't aloud to cry. Men aren't aloud to open up.

It's a sin for men to do anythi,g else but suffer with no way open themselves or escape.
Scorpio Moon Lyfe.
Ok he's Scorpio moon too

What should I do ?

Bc I did say I'd never talk again , I like to follow through on my threats

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For some Scorpio moons, once they get into that death spiral of self pity/insecurity/doom and gloom, there's really nothing anyone else can do. They have to pull themselves out of it.

TBH the relationship you two have seems a bit toxic. You might want to continue moving on.
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Posted by Soul
See this is why I never communicate or speak how I truly feel with my gf. Or anyone at that matter.

I'd never ask for help or advice, or tell my problems.

I'd just let them accumulate, till the point there's so many I can't take it anymore. It's at the point I'm walking back and forth with a loaded gun, empty bottle of rum the in the background.

Men aren't aloud to have problems. Men aren't aloud to have insecurities. Men aren't aloud to cry. Men aren't aloud to open up.

It's a sin for men to do anythi,g else but suffer with no way open themselves or escape.
Scorpio Moon Lyfe.
Ok he's Scorpio moon too

What should I do ?

Bc I did say I'd never talk again , I like to follow through on my threats
For some Scorpio moons, once they get into that death spiral of self pity/insecurity/doom and gloom, there's really nothing anyone else can do. They have to pull themselves out of it.

TBH the relationship you two have seems a bit toxic. You might want to continue moving on.
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Yes I am gone, I wanted to be friends with him but he kept talking sex , I just don't like feeling like I've hurt someone's feelings. Fuck it let him cry