My guy and I have been together since the beginning of the year. Things have been great- he is amazing and makes me happier than I ever thought possible. It has been a little rough lately because his job has become more demanding and has taken more of his time, so it has been tougher to get time together. In the past few weeks, it has felt to me as if I was getting the brush off to an extent, but I chalked it up to his being busy at work, and having friends in town for the race. The day before we had plans to see each other, he did say he missed me, which I hadn't heard from him in a while. When we did finally get to see each other the next day, I mentioned he had been quiet lately (we usually talk/ text a bit throughout the day). He said he had been thinking a lot about the future, and about us. He stated he felt like he needed to evaluate his level of commitment to this relationship, and feels as though we have plateaued and he isn't sure how to progress from here. He said he cares about me, and loves spending time together, and he knows how much I care about him, but he doesn't want to get farther down the road and be getting more serious and then realize this isn't what he wants. We both want the same things for the future- to get married, have a family. But essentially, he said he's not sure he sees me in his future. I really don't even know what to think about all of it. I can fully respect the not being sure part, as I'm not 100% sure that it will work out (as I'm not sure anyone ever is), but I know I want to try. I can't help but feel there is something else going on -something with being overly stressed from work maybe? We kind of left it open ended too, so I feel like I'm in limbo because he never said its over. I just don't understand why if you care about someone, and have fun with them and genuinely enjoy their company, why walk away? This all happened about a week and a half ago (July 30), and I made up my mind then that if he wanted time and space to think, that's exactly what I would give him. I haven't initiated any contact with him. Monday (August 5) he texted me asking how I was. We kept it short, he was sure to tell me that he went to a concert with some of his staff, and has been busy with planning work events. He ended with saying he was "just seeing how you are....." Any insight for me on what he might be thinking/ what I should do? I don't want to lose him, but fear I already have.
