It's WAR!!

Ohhhhhh fuck fuckity fuck fuck, but this is a BAD time to play games with anyone who has an Aries Mars. That would be me. Triple Cancer with an Aries Mars and a Leo Venus. Anyway, my very dear friend who is Scorpio with Aries rising and Cancer moon and Libra Mars and Scorpio Venus is mad at me. He has a right to be mad at me because what I did that pissed him off was pretty childish, catty and wrong. This all blew up on Friday and we hashed it out and I thought we were fine and done with it. OF COURSE WE AREN'T!! He's Scorpio and he's now in punish mode. Normally we talk on the phone all week. Over the weekend he texted that his back was spasaming and he was going to the Dr. I believed him because he has had on/off issues about it. Then he texts that the Dr. orders are to not work for 3-5 days and he won't call or do much texting when he's home on the weekend. So, I believed him....sort of....but then the gut instincts kept poking at me that this is his punishment for me: withholding and keeping silent. So, I played with my tarot cards. YES! BINGO!! The cards I got were Control, upside down Integration and Ripeness. He's still mad at me and no, his back isn't injured, and no, he's not really staying home. GODDAMN LYING BASTARD!! I do NOT like being lied to!! I thought the whole mess was talked about and that he'd be honest enough to communicate his issues about it all and I could fix it. He's punishing me, plain and simple. Fine, game on and fucking bring it!

So, the game is on. When he finally gets around to calling me I"m not answering. I'll text him that I have a back injury. Can't talk, Dr.s orders. So sad, poor me. I'm going to keep up the silence for double the amount of time that he did it first. If games are what he wants rather than normal, mature communication then games is what he'll get. Don't like the medicine? Don't fucking dish it out. >.

He's lying. I already knew it and it was confirmed.

What did you do to piss him off to begin with?
Or did I miss it somewhere in the rant?

Oh, he's getting his 3-5 days.....and then I'm adding to it. If he wants space to be pissed then all he had to do was say so.

As for the why we had the fight in the first place: I made a catty comment on his fb page because of some huge miscommunication between us. He works in a dangerous job and went on location but got so busy (his reasoning) that he didn't have time to answer my text if he was alright. While I'm silently panicking that the worst has happened I find a lame status update about him cooking rice and doing it wrong. Thaaaaannnnnkkkkksss, nice to know you're ok and had time to post that but couldn't give a rats ass if anyone might worry about your safety. 😛

Exactly. Grrrrr!

Posted by MoonArtist
Oh, he's getting his 3-5 days.....and then I'm adding to it. If he wants space to be pissed then all he had to do was say so.

As for the why we had the fight in the first place: I made a catty comment on his fb page because of some huge miscommunication between us. He works in a dangerous job and went on location but got so busy (his reasoning) that he didn't have time to answer my text if he was alright. While I'm silently panicking that the worst has happened I find a lame status update about him cooking rice and doing it wrong. Thaaaaannnnnkkkkksss, nice to know you're ok and had time to post that but couldn't give a rats ass if anyone might worry about your safety. 😛

roflmao

Oh Cancers.. Intuitive, but it seems all logic flies right out the window once their emotions are activated.

At least you know why yours is mad at you. Maybe you shouldn't add fuel to the fire. I know first hand this could
get way out of control.

Kim, I'm adding fuel to the fire....hell, I'm going to dump some gasoline on it and a few things of dynamite for shits n giggles!

Put on your raincoats, Duckies, it's about to get wet and stormy!

Posted by tiziani
Lol you can't give yourself your own card reading MA. The emotion your putting into the cards alone makes it a biased reading.


Cancers are the only sign where they screw up and I pretend like I was the one in the wrong. That's why we get along swimmingly.

I had a psychic artist friend do his own reading and he got the same results. He didn't even hesitate on "he's lying".

MoonArtist I gotta know what you said that got his undies in a bunch.

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Posted by Andalusia
Oh Cancers.. Intuitive, but it seems all logic flies right out the window once their emotions are activated.

+1

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Fuck logic. I have no earth placements. Logic is all relative, anyways.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
if you take a nap you'll feel better.

*aries mars remedies*

I'm too wound up for a nap (despite being super tired and I have a headache). I'm going to attack yard work like a mofo, though.

Twirling, he'll notice it. I can out-stubborn anyone and anything so however long it takes for him to get the point is however long I'm willing to be silent with him.

I'm only laughing because you're doing crap I would and have done. Comical watching other scorpmale+cancer female friends raise declare war over this type of shit

Posted by kim30
I'm only laughing because you're doing crap I would and have done. Comical watching other scorpmale+cancer female friends raise declare war over this type of shit

Oh, I was laughing even while I was pissed when the lying part was confirmed. He's admitted he's trying to control things between us and he's admitted that he wants to piss me off. Me in pissed off mode turns him on...weirdo!....so a part of me is chuckling while the rest of me is fuming.

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Lol you can't give yourself your own card reading MA. The emotion your putting into the cards alone makes it a biased reading.


Cancers are the only sign where they screw up and I pretend like I was the one in the wrong. That's why we get along swimmingly.

I had a psychic artist friend do his own reading and he got the same results. He didn't even hesitate on "he's lying".

is this how you confirmed it or did you ask him directly?

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He's ignoring my texts so I can't confirm it with him. Besides, he admits he lies to me at times so why would I believe him if he tried to protest that he isn't lying? THIS is the fucking bullshit I had hoped he would avoid! It's a slippery shit infested slope when you start lying and make others not trust.

Why not just smile, be polite and wait it out?
its way faster.

Posted by Rabbit
LOL

Cancer erects wall of silence...

Scorpio says "meh" and walks away for good...

He won't. We're too connected.

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LOL

Cancer erects wall of silence...

Scorpio says "meh" and walks away for good...

Cancer then proceeds to the Scorpio board to call us all douchebags and cuntpillows.

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Why? Not everyone is him. He's taking the full brunt of it.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Have you considered he's not talking to you right now because he doesn't want to scream his fucking ass off at you and ruin a perfectly good relationship? Simmer down Cancer. Let the guy get in control of his anger or would you rather be nuked to high heaven??

EVERYONE HAS A RIGHT TO TAKE TIME FOR THEMSELVES AND THEY AREN'T REQUIRED TO TELL YOU SHIT IF THEY DON'T FEEL LIKE IT.

Either you are a friend and understand or you turn it into ABOUT YOU. Which it ain't. Its about him being pissed and trying to calm the fuck down.

Carry on..

Yes, I would rather he scream at me if he needs to. I can take it. At least it's honest, at least it gives me something to work with and if I need to make amends I can do it. Lying and icing me out just ruins communication and creates more confusion and hard feelings. Or just say he's pissed and doesn't want to talk. That's honest, too.

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Posted by kim30
I'm only laughing because you're doing crap I would and have done. Comical watching other scorpmale+cancer female friends raise declare war over this type of shit

Oh, I was laughing even while I was pissed when the lying part was confirmed. He's admitted he's trying to control things between us and he's admitted that he wants to piss me off. Me in pissed off mode turns him on...weirdo!....so a part of me is chuckling while the rest of me is fuming.

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No, I'm willing to bet he "wants to piss you off" to see what type of behavior you are capable of. Because people tend to be more authentic and less filtered when they're upset/when their guard is down.

It's a game, for sure, but one you are both playing.

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LOL

Cancer erects wall of silence...

Scorpio says "meh" and walks away for good...

He won't. We're too connected.

Don't believe the hype.

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~Clubs bunny like baby seal and stuffs it into a sack~

Is not being content until he verbalizes something you already know a control issue?

Kim, for me it's not about control. Inside I'm hurt that he would do the lying thing. I turn hurt into anger every time. I really don't know why being honest is so fucking hard for some people but it gets old. I don't have a poker face, I don't hide much. If I'm pissed, you'll know it and if I need to communicate something then I'll do it. Lying just muddies the water and it's an ugly trait. It's one of the things I have zero tolerance for.

If he's a Scorp Venus / Libra Mars, he's not gonna yell at you. He might thrive on intensity, but NOT on confrontation.

I wouldn't push this.

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Have you considered he's not talking to you right now because he doesn't want to scream his fucking ass off at you and ruin a perfectly good relationship? Simmer down Cancer. Let the guy get in control of his anger or would you rather be nuked to high heaven??

EVERYONE HAS A RIGHT TO TAKE TIME FOR THEMSELVES AND THEY AREN'T REQUIRED TO TELL YOU SHIT IF THEY DON'T FEEL LIKE IT.

Either you are a friend and understand or you turn it into ABOUT YOU. Which it ain't. Its about him being pissed and trying to calm the fuck down.

Carry on..

Yes, I would rather he scream at me if he needs to. I can take it. At least it's honest, at least it gives me something to work with and if I need to make amends I can do it. Lying and icing me out just ruins communication and creates more confusion and hard feelings. Or just say he's pissed and doesn't want to talk. That's honest, too.

3-5 days of no communication ruins a whole relationship? Doesn't sound like much of a relationship??_ O.0

Also, you know not everyone goes straight in for the big, heaping argument. Some people like to cool off first. What makes your perspective anymore admirable than his?

These are things to think about.

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It doesn't ruin the whole relationship. I never said it did. It's the lying that ruins things. He doesn't HAVE to jump in straight for the argument but at least be honest enough to say, "I'm mad and need to cool off." Hell, a simple, "I don't want to talk to you right now" would even suffice. At least it's HONEST.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
*feels he needs to lie to you

Has it even been established that he IS lying? Or *was* lying, as the case may be.

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Posted by tiziani
Lol you can't give yourself your own card reading MA. The emotion your putting into the cards alone makes it a biased reading.


Cancers are the only sign where they screw up and I pretend like I was the one in the wrong. That's why we get along swimmingly.

I had a psychic artist friend do his own reading and he got the same results. He didn't even hesitate on "he's lying".

is this how you confirmed it or did you ask him directly?

He's ignoring my texts so I can't confirm it with him. Besides, he admits he lies to me at times so why would I believe him if he tried to protest that he isn't lying? THIS is the fucking bullshit I had hoped he would avoid! It's a slippery shit infested slope when you start lying and make others not trust.

Does he tell u why he feels the need to lie to u about needing space?
If he front out told u u upset me I need time will u accept or look at it as a brake up when he's not intending. Just needs time. If u affected me that much I'm going to need my time to analyze. Yes he should be upfront but it does mean something when a person doesn't feel comfortable to do so with u.
No I'm just assuming as I don't know all the details.

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No, I can take it with my big girl panties on if he just says he's mad and doesn't want to talk to me. It would hurt, but it's truthful and I can understand it. I totally get the not wanting to talk. I do the same thing if I'm pissed, but I'll just flat out tell that person that I need space and we'll talk about it later when I can cool down.

Assuming you're right and he is lying-you know it. So why get your self worked up about it instead of waiting til shit calms down? Then confront him about what the lying means to you.

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*feels he needs to lie to you

Has it even been established that he IS lying? Or *was* lying, as the case may be.

That's what I was thinking. Because if he's not actually lying we could be looking at a major Over reaction!!! lol

But that's one of the things we love about Moon. She reacts like a volcano and is a little spitfire! I feel ya...

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GAH....someone please chop that part out of me? It would make life a lot more simple. 😛

That's how YOU would deal with not wanting to talk to someone.

That's now how HE does, though.

Honestly, elle's bells and Pineapples gave you some really good insight. I'd re-read it once some of the initial anger dissipates.

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Have you considered he's not talking to you right now because he doesn't want to scream his fucking ass off at you and ruin a perfectly good relationship? Simmer down Cancer. Let the guy get in control of his anger or would you rather be nuked to high heaven??

EVERYONE HAS A RIGHT TO TAKE TIME FOR THEMSELVES AND THEY AREN'T REQUIRED TO TELL YOU SHIT IF THEY DON'T FEEL LIKE IT.

Either you are a friend and understand or you turn it into ABOUT YOU. Which it ain't. Its about him being pissed and trying to calm the fuck down.

Carry on..

Yes, I would rather he scream at me if he needs to. I can take it. At least it's honest, at least it gives me something to work with and if I need to make amends I can do it. Lying and icing me out just ruins communication and creates more confusion and hard feelings. Or just say he's pissed and doesn't want to talk. That's honest, too.

It's not about u it's about his need to regroup after an emotional event. He might not even need to yell or tell u anything it's about a need to get balance n recharged!!!

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I know, but I hate the making excuses for doing all of that. Just say, "fuck off" or something. Honesty honesty HONESTY!

Is this about lying?

Seems like you're upset that he's inconsiderate and doesn't appreciate how you worry.

Cause he didn't respond to your text?

Posted by kim30
Assuming you're right and he is lying-you know it. So why get your self worked up about it instead of waiting til shit calms down? Then confront him about what the lying means to you.

Huh.....that hadn't occurred to me. Fucking overreactive reactiveness in me.

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*feels he needs to lie to you

Has it even been established that he IS lying? Or *was* lying, as the case may be.

That's what I was thinking. Because if he's not actually lying we could be looking at a major Over reaction!!! lol

But that's one of the things we love about Moon. She reacts like a volcano and is a little spitfire! I feel ya...

GAH....someone please chop that part out of me? It would make life a lot more simple. 😛

But not nearly as fun. 😄

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Fun for everyone else standing around while I chuck rocks at rude drivers trying to run me off the road on my bike (insert other volatile moments in my life)! Not so fun on my end.

Posted by Andalusia
That's how YOU would deal with not wanting to talk to someone.

That's now how HE does, though.

Honestly, elle's bells and Pineapples gave you some really good insight. I'd re-read it once some of the initial anger dissipates.

I agree and that's why I'm on here venting rather than blowing up his phone with ranting texts. I've only texted him once, he hasn't answered. I'm trying to get this out of my system in a constructive and safe enough place that it won't blow up in reality.

Posted by Impulsv
Ask him next time why he feels the need to lie but myself having back problems when I'm in pain I want nothing around. Why would anyone lie about having a back problem n missing work. If it's really to stay away from u then is this his character or is it something In u that makes him not want to tell u. Like nagging, becoming confrontational, or getting hurt.
N maybe it's not even u but learned from past behavior like other hot but hurt so thinks u will. Instead of game playing
Have a discussion that ud rather he communicate n ull be understanding of his space as u need it.

I've wondered the same thing. I think it's a combo of not wanting to hurt me and afraid of my reaction based on his own history with other people. We haven't really had a blow up before, so this is uncharted territory between us.

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He doesn't HAVE to jump in straight for the argument but at least be honest enough to say, "I'm mad and need to cool off." Hell, a simple, "I don't want to talk to you right now" would even suffice. At least it's HONEST.

libra mars isn't going to do that....and given your behaviour that wouldn't make a bit of difference because you would want to jump in and "fix" (or control) the situation.

he's working with what he has to work with.

I wouldn't call it lying. I would calling it avoiding unecessary confrontation.

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"I wouldn't call it lying. I would calling it avoiding unecessary confrontation."

I can actually hear him saying that. :/

Well, that would be his take on it and my take on it is that its not being honest. Two different spins on the same shit.

I'm telling you sister, find something else to do before he REALLY gives you something to rant about...

I don't care what you say. You getting upset because he didn't respond to you is a control thing. Its not a bad thing.

Control over the situation means you aren't worried.

Teachers take control when they stop everyone on the field trip for head count. All present? Check!

Little Scorp rebelled and didn't respond when you called his name.

I'd like to know what's been going on in recent months that would make him NOT respond. Name a scorp who likes having to check in.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Pretty sure this thread needs My Little Pony vids:

Bloody hell.....stop trying to make me smile.

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Name a scorp who likes having to check in.

Scorps don't check in??_we come back like nothing happened. Have you not been paying attention to this board? 😄

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that's what I was thinking. Name one.....Silence.....you can't!

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Name a scorp who likes having to check in.

Scorps don't check in??_we come back like nothing happened. Have you not been paying attention to this board? 😄

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I know. He usually does that. Still, my amped up stubborn bits take a while to remember it and to calm down.

Calm the fuck down!! Here's my sign. :/

You know I like you Cancer,

But I am going to give it to you straight. You were in the wrong to begin with.

You are not his girlfriend for him to cater to your feelings regarding his facebook status and the type of work he does. If you were catty and approached this cancer like (I have my Venus there, I know all about it) like "oh well it's good you're cooking rice while I AM HERE WORRYING FOR YOU", then that would've pissed me off, let alone a Scorpio.

There is no need to add gasoline on an existing fire. Your emotions are flaring up, I doubt his are flaring up as well.

It's within you to chill out and fix this since you're the one with the Cardinal element in the Water group.

Posted by Rabbit
Sometimes we come back better than before...

Sometimes....

And you're still bloodily unconscious in the bunny sack.

It's funny because it's the intensity between water signs that fucks things up, yet it's the same intensity that binds them and furthers the delusion.

No one can step back and look at things objectively.

*so happy of being an earthling 😄*

Poor Rabbit

Posted by Damnata
You know I like you Cancer,

But I am going to give it to you straight. You were in the wrong to begin with.

You are not his girlfriend for him to cater to your feelings regarding his facebook status and the type of work he does. If you were catty and approached this cancer like (I have my Venus there, I know all about it) like "oh well it's good you're cooking rice while I AM HERE WORRYING FOR YOU", then that would've pissed me off, let alone a Scorpio.

He called me on it and we got that squared away, or so I thought. I took him off my friend list since it's not the first time we've had issued around it and I've suggested it before and he refused to entertain taking me off his friend list. He even got a little mad that I suggested it. So fine, it's a problem, I have impulse control issues, I took the initiative to make it so it's not an issue ever again. He didn't like that, either, but he said we'll keep it that way for now and see how it works.

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It's funny because it's the intensity between water signs that fucks things up, yet it's the same intensity that binds them and furthers the delusion.

No one can step back and look at things objectively.

*so happy of being an earthling 😄*

True...ish....but it's how us dripping wet water folks like it. lol

~so glad I can swim~