My husband and I don't click as of late (Page 3)

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by mzmee
Early this morning, he wasnt in the bed. I crept thru the house to find him in the basement on facetime with a woman. Listened to their conversation and to him pleasing himself to what ever she was doing.

I came in the basement and just simply said really.

He's been trying to talk but I don't wanna hear it.

Here it is I'm worried and he's doing this—

All this attitude from him coming my way...

I cant take this.

Yep, red flags everywhere, not attentive, especially when having a baby, that's when most men are likely to cheat.


he's a pig, but pigs can grow up. He didn't marry her he married you.....


so.....

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What are you saying? Yeah, he married me but he wasn't interested in me until he got caught.

Found out he's been with her since I left.

Posted by mzmee

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by mzmee
Early this morning, he wasnt in the bed. I crept thru the house to find him in the basement on facetime with a woman. Listened to their conversation and to him pleasing himself to what ever she was doing.

I came in the basement and just simply said really.

He's been trying to talk but I don't wanna hear it.

Here it is I'm worried and he's doing this—

All this attitude from him coming my way...

I cant take this.

Yep, red flags everywhere, not attentive, especially when having a baby, that's when most men are likely to cheat.


he's a pig, but pigs can grow up. He didn't marry her he married you.....


so.....

What are you saying? Yeah, he married me but he wasn't interested in me until he got caught.

Found out he's been with her since I left.

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I've been following this closely. I am so sorry you're going through this! Its bringing tears to my eyes. I'm sensitive to this kind of stuff because I divorced my ex for cheating. Trust your gut and do whatever you feel is best for your health and the health of your baby! And forget any other advice that goes against your gut feelings.

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Posted by mzmee

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by mzmee
Early this morning, he wasnt in the bed. I crept thru the house to find him in the basement on facetime with a woman. Listened to their conversation and to him pleasing himself to what ever she was doing.

I came in the basement and just simply said really.

He's been trying to talk but I don't wanna hear it.

Here it is I'm worried and he's doing this—

All this attitude from him coming my way...

I cant take this.

Yep, red flags everywhere, not attentive, especially when having a baby, that's when most men are likely to cheat.


he's a pig, but pigs can grow up. He didn't marry her he married you.....


so.....

What are you saying? Yeah, he married me but he wasn't interested in me until he got caught.

Found out he's been with her since I left.

I've been following this closely. I am so sorry you're going through this! Its bringing tears to my eyes. I'm sensitive to this kind of stuff because I divorced my ex for cheating. Trust your gut and do whatever you feel is best for your health and the health of your baby! And forget any other advice that goes against your gut feelings.

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I appreciate that advice. That's the one thing, my gut. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. I hope you're doing well now.

How did you get your exit plan together?

Posted by mzmee
It can. Most folks won't understand this pain until it's done to them. I could do him like he did me but walking away seems like the more viable option.

Yes! Do this. Walk away and live your life. LOVE your life. Don't care what he says about it at all. My ex Taurus tries to say I moved on "fast." But it took me over a year, he just can't believe I actually left him. I took a trip to Italy and hung out with family and friends. I took care of myself and he just kept sinking without me. He cheated but cries still to this day that he lost it all when I left him. But all I have to say is that if you're going to cheat, you deserve to be left.

It won't be easy at first, but you deserve better. I'm sorry you are going through this. I wish the best for you and your baby's future.

This whole thread made me feel so sad...
Idk if my opinion is gonna help or not. Bt here it is -

Make sure u don't look pathetic infront of him. Smile.. Even if it hurts.. Make sure u smile everytime he is ryt infront of u.... I m not talking abt "I love u smile"... Give him the "are u happy with ur slut smile"... Taunt him.. Make him feel guilty... Coz we all knw that in the long run, no men wants a slut ... They all need security which can only be provided by a classic woman.
It's now tym to be that classic woman... Work out.. Look beautiful.... Pamper urself.... Go for shopping... Buy some new clothes and feel good..... All these will surely kill him... Coz he ll realize what a great catch u were.... Plus u have ur baby.... What else.. Go out on a vaccation with ur baby.... Upload pics showing that u guys are happy WITHOUT HIM...
He would surely regret everything he has done... That's how u shud take ur revenge.... Make him feel sorry for himself.... Make him feel lost without u.....

I really wish u cud hire a hit man... Bt that might end u in jail... Then u can't really go shopping n it would kind off suck... So I guess it's better u make him regret his actions........

I shud be giving u advice on how to forget and move on... Bt Sorry at present I could only think of making him feel miserable

Today, these emotions just hit me like a speeding train. Ive been crying non stop. Im reading the comments and advice you all gave me to help me be more positive about this.

This is so hard. He hurt me so bad.

Posted by Impulsv
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One go back to urHOMe
Stay there n kick him out!!!

Gotcha. I dont have to worry much about putting him out, he's been with the other woman.

Posted by mzmee
Today, these emotions just hit me like a speeding train. Ive been crying non stop. Im reading the comments and advice you all gave me to help me be more positive about this.

This is so hard. He hurt me so bad.

😢. there is nothing we can say to ease your pain. so sorry. he is really a heartless asshole.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/the-stir/7-top-divorce-fails-by-wo_b_5804596.html

Posted by mzmee
Today, these emotions just hit me like a speeding train. Ive been crying non stop. Im reading the comments and advice you all gave me to help me be more positive about this.

This is so hard. He hurt me so bad.

Aww been there honey. I swear it gets better. But I cried so many nights. I couldn't believe it either. I was like you, trying to make it work. Thinking what I did wrong. But once I found out I knew I did not deserve it. So as much as it hurt (and it will hurt for a while), I knew I had to find a way. Let it out...just not in front of him. You're going to be fine. I don't blame you for crying though. I'm so sorry.

I appreciate that advice. That's the one thing, my gut. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. I hope you're doing well now.

How did you get your exit plan together?


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Well, the cheating and other disrespectful behavior had been going on for a long time, so I subconsciously started doing a number of things in preparation:

1. Started positioning myself for promotions and more pay career wise.
2. Started crafting a financial plan that did not include any of his income to see where I stood (with and without child support)
3. Started reading books on how to prepare my daughter for "the talk"
4. Started hinting to my friends and family about the inevitable, just in case I would need their support
5. Started researching lawyers

He would have gotten a few more years out of me if he didn't have the audacity to turn emotionally and verbally abusive

Posted by WateryVirgo

I appreciate that advice. That's the one thing, my gut. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. I hope you're doing well now.

How did you get your exit plan together?

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Well, the cheating and other disrespectful behavior had been going on for a long time, so I subconsciously started doing a number of things in preparation:

1. Started positioning myself for promotions and more pay career wise.
2. Started crafting a financial plan that did not include any of his income to see where I stood (with and without child support)
3. Started reading books on how to prepare my daughter for "the talk"
4. Started hinting to my friends and family about the inevitable, just in case I would need their support
5. Started researching lawyers

He would have gotten a few more years out of me if he didn't have the audacity to turn emotionally and verbally abusive



This sounds so solid. Im.so scared yall.

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Posted by mzmee
Today, these emotions just hit me like a speeding train. Ive been crying non stop. Im reading the comments and advice you all gave me to help me be more positive about this.

This is so hard. He hurt me so bad.

😢. there is nothing we can say to ease your pain. so sorry. he is really a heartless asshole.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/the-stir/7-top-divorce-fails-by-wo_b_5804596.html

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Thanks. I've read this 3 times. I dont believe this is happening.

Posted by Foreverloveme
@mzmee I know the pain hurts, and you will have days like this where all you want to do is cry. Just recognize it and embrace it so you can heal and get through it faster. If you avoid it or act like it's not there it will only prolong the process and take you longer to heal.

I promise it will get better with time

Find a happy song & put it on replay. I swear my mom & kids found a theme song for me and I had to listen to it every day, multiple times. It helped me put things in perspective.

Like someone else said, you sound like a great woman who has her shit together and alot going for you so this too shall pass. You can do it

That's one of the reasons I went back home. I love my sister friends but one thing I can say, they are some tough cookies, honey lol. Aint no crying, aint no looking down, suck that shit up. Ive held these emotions in the entire time being there. The more I held it in, the more I drank. Dont need to drink, Im a nursing mom.

It seems like every song on the damn radio is a.love song. Uuuugggghhhhh.

I talked to my parents and they're all on the work it out train (42 years married).

I've been doing a semi good job of ignoring my husband. 90% of his calls and texts are laced with liquor.

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Posted by mzmee
Today, these emotions just hit me like a speeding train. Ive been crying non stop. Im reading the comments and advice you all gave me to help me be more positive about this.

This is so hard. He hurt me so bad.

Awww 😢
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. Be strong.
Strength to you!
Do what is best for you and the baby!

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Thank you

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Posted by mzmee
Today, these emotions just hit me like a speeding train. Ive been crying non stop. Im reading the comments and advice you all gave me to help me be more positive about this.

This is so hard. He hurt me so bad.

Aww been there honey. I swear it gets better. But I cried so many nights. I couldn't believe it either. I was like you, trying to make it work. Thinking what I did wrong. But once I found out I knew I did not deserve it. So as much as it hurt (and it will hurt for a while), I knew I had to find a way. Let it out...just not in front of him. You're going to be fine. I don't blame you for crying though. I'm so sorry.

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Im just waiting for the day I wake up and this pain is gone.

To see others come thru it, that's what keeps me optimistic. But i need to get this over with lol

Posted by Libra8751
This whole thread made me feel so sad...
Idk if my opinion is gonna help or not. Bt here it is -

Make sure u don't look pathetic infront of him. Smile.. Even if it hurts.. Make sure u smile everytime he is ryt infront of u.... I m not talking abt "I love u smile"... Give him the "are u happy with ur slut smile"... Taunt him.. Make him feel guilty... Coz we all knw that in the long run, no men wants a slut ... They all need security which can only be provided by a classic woman.
It's now tym to be that classic woman... Work out.. Look beautiful.... Pamper urself.... Go for shopping... Buy some new clothes and feel good..... All these will surely kill him... Coz he ll realize what a great catch u were.... Plus u have ur baby.... What else.. Go out on a vaccation with ur baby.... Upload pics showing that u guys are happy WITHOUT HIM...
He would surely regret everything he has done... That's how u shud take ur revenge.... Make him feel sorry for himself.... Make him feel lost without u.....

I really wish u cud hire a hit man... Bt that might end u in jail... Then u can't really go shopping n it would kind off suck... So I guess it's better u make him regret his actions........

I shud be giving u advice on how to forget and move on... Bt Sorry at present I could only think of making him feel miserable

Honey, when I tell you this post and a few others have been helping me get my ass out the bed. Lol.

I appreciate you.

Posted by Arielle83
You have your own business and a baby. You sound successful to me. The only thing fucking up your life plan is the sperm donor that sucks as a husband and probably a father.

Sounds like life will get better once you detach from him.

It's better to be alone than exist with inferior ppl.

I'm so avoidant of negative drama, I'd be riding myself of him stat.

That woman is toxic energy and her Leo ego is feeding off her damage.

Don't even bother with these cunts anymore.

You saw them posts right— Girl he played me for a fucking gremlin. The damn nerve.

Sis my heart aches for you.

This is one of the reasons I'm so afraid of marriage and kids. To put your your all into someone only for them to leave you during one of the most life changing times of your life after getting caught cheating?!? This can't be life real life here! That's just so fucking cold. Shit pisses me off!!

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Posted by mzmee

Posted by Foreverloveme
I'm sorry to hear that, been there so I know it's difficult. I hope everything works out for your best interest whatever you decide, and take as much time as you need.

Im ready to explode. I cant handle this.

How did you manuever thru this? Any advice so my ass wont be in jail for rippin his head off.

He sounds like a terrible person.

It also sounds like you two got married too soon.

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You might be right about being married too soon. As I think back on things, he was the one always reassuring me that marriage between us would be fine. I mean that's cool, I needed that reassurance but why say that and act like all is well then flush it all away?

Posted by bkbella86
This is one of the reasons I'm so afraid of marriage and kids. To put your your all into someone only for them to leave you during one of the most life changing times of your life after getting caught cheating?!? This can't be life real life here! That's just so fucking cold. Shit pisses me off!!

Thanks for responding.

What you wrote was my stance and I expressed this to him. We agreed that we wanted trust, honesty and communication to be our first in our marriages. He didnt do a great job of holding up his end of the bargain.

Posted by mzmee

Posted by bkbella86
This is one of the reasons I'm so afraid of marriage and kids. To put your your all into someone only for them to leave you during one of the most life changing times of your life after getting caught cheating?!? This can't be life real life here! That's just so fucking cold. Shit pisses me off!!

Thanks for responding.

What you wrote was my stance and I expressed this to him. We agreed that we wanted trust, honesty and communication to be our first in our marriages. He didnt do a great job of holding up his end of the bargain.

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A lying, cheating son of a bitch is the exception, not the norm. There are plenty of guys out there doing the good life and being, well, men.

I had a conversation once with one of my guy friends, when we were out at a sports bar and the waitress was hot. He made a comment and I said,"Don't you have a girlfriend?"

"I'm in a relationship but I can still appreciate a good-looking girl, and she's not here."

"So if the waitress sat in your lap, you'd totally hit that?"

*Snickers from the peanut gallery*

"Just because I think she's hot, doesn't mean I want more. This is my problem with some women. They automatically assume that just because I think someone else besides my girlfriend is pretty, that I am open to cheat. So if the hot waitress sits in my lap tonight, I'm probably gonna get a hard on, tell her no, go home to Becka and bend her over some furniture until she can't walk."

"Ew ew ew ew OMG TMI TMI". (Yup that's me horrified at the turn the conversation has taken)

But he had some valid points. Unless a guy totally red flags you at the start, there is no way to know how things will end up years down the road. And it's presumptuous to go into a relationship with preconceived notions about the opposite sex. Honestly if you fear being hurt by someone, it's probably not a good idea to be with anyone until you sort yourself out, your partner is getting the short end of the stick here. Marriage or no marriage, a piece of paper doesn't change a damn thing between two people, either you commit or you don't.

@Gennie

This was a conversation we had when we were in the dating phase .I totally get what you're saying tho.

This stemmed from us talking about mutual friends and people we knew that got into marriage and was cheated on or were proud cheaters. How, in a sense, not being loyal was almost glorified. Side chick/side dudes were the norm. We had the same stance on our feelings; mutually expressed and mutually agreed. I'm willing to commit and love loyalty I dont appreciate being not loved when all I give is love.

After conversation we had, those fears I had and in general dissipated. I felt comfortable with him, that he would be here for the long haul.

Wait a minute...

To be continued. Sorry...

With him, I was very serious. Once we got out of the skeptic stage (I kind of understood the root of his mistrust), everything was good with us. I loved going out of my way for him and he graciously returned the sentiment. I felt like we did everything right, even in the midst of storms we had. When I found out he cheated, I didn't jump the gun and file for a divorce, I left to diminish my anger and clear my head. Now, he left to live with the woman and filed divorce papers. So is it safe to say I'm getting the short end of the stick?

If he can let go so fast, it wasn't love to begin with. Or is my logic skewed? Help me out. I'm still in my feelings.

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Posted by Foreverloveme
I'm sorry to hear that, been there so I know it's difficult. I hope everything works out for your best interest whatever you decide, and take as much time as you need.

Im ready to explode. I cant handle this.

How did you manuever thru this? Any advice so my ass wont be in jail for rippin his head off.

He sounds like a terrible person.

It also sounds like you two got married too soon.

You might be right about being married too soon. As I think back on things, he was the one always reassuring me that marriage between us would be fine. I mean that's cool, I needed that reassurance but why say that and act like all is well then flush it all away?

Only consider men who know what they want.

Confused men are a waste of time.

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Yep. I'm seeing this now.

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Posted by bkbella86
This is one of the reasons I'm so afraid of marriage and kids. To put your your all into someone only for them to leave you during one of the most life changing times of your life after getting caught cheating?!? This can't be life real life here! That's just so fucking cold. Shit pisses me off!!

Thanks for responding.

What you wrote was my stance and I expressed this to him. We agreed that we wanted trust, honesty and communication to be our first in our marriages. He didnt do a great job of holding up his end of the bargain.

A lying, cheating son of a bitch is the exception, not the norm. There are plenty of guys out there doing the good life and being, well, men.

I had a conversation once with one of my guy friends, when we were out at a sports bar and the waitress was hot. He made a comment and I said,"Don't you have a girlfriend?"

"I'm in a relationship but I can still appreciate a good-looking girl, and she's not here."

"So if the waitress sat in your lap, you'd totally hit that?"

*Snickers from the peanut gallery*

"Just because I think she's hot, doesn't mean I want more. This is my problem with some women. They automatically assume that just because I think someone else besides my girlfriend is pretty, that I am open to cheat. So if the hot waitress sits in my lap tonight, I'm probably gonna get a hard on, tell her no, go home to Becka and bend her over some furniture until she can't walk."

"Ew ew ew ew OMG TMI TMI". (Yup that's me horrified at the turn the conversation has taken)

But he had some valid points. Unless a guy totally red flags you at the start, there is no way to know how things will end up years down the road. And it's presumptuous to go into a relationship with preconceived notions about the opposite sex. Honestly if you fear being hurt by someone, it's probably not a good idea to be with anyone until you sort yourself out, your partner is getting the short end of the stick here. Marriage or no marriage, a piece of paper doesn't change a damn thing between two people, either you commit or you don't.

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I don't care about a woman being prettier, she's not me. And he's not blind. He's married, not dead. Him looking at another woman was the least of my worries. I made sure I held up my end of the bargain which was doing what I had to do and needed to do for him and later on our son. I know I did everything I needed to do, there wasn't enough energy worth me thinking of him going out to cheat. I cared for him, I wasn't worried about another woman. He was the cente

Uuuuggghhh

He was the center of my world and I made sure he felt and knew that even on his dark days.

Posted by mzmee
Uuuuggghhh

He was the center of my world and I made sure he felt and knew that even on his dark days.

Then he got the short end of the stick, and he has no one but himself to blame. I think there are plenty of dudes out there looking for loyalty, that "ride or die" chick that keeps your behind grounded in the real world.

Posted by mzmee
To be continued. Sorry...

With him, I was very serious. Once we got out of the skeptic stage (I kind of understood the root of his mistrust), everything was good with us. I loved going out of my way for him and he graciously returned the sentiment. I felt like we did everything right, even in the midst of storms we had. When I found out he cheated, I didn't jump the gun and file for a divorce, I left to diminish my anger and clear my head. Now, he left to live with the woman and filed divorce papers. So is it safe to say I'm getting the short end of the stick?

If he can let go so fast, it wasn't love to begin with. Or is my logic skewed? Help me out. I'm still in my feelings.

You know the worst for me as an Aqua were the nights. Up at 2am trying to figure out where I went wrong and what I didn't do right. Loyalty? check. Dinner made? check. I'm terrible at keeping house, I just do the bare min to keep dust bunnies at bay unless It's a spring clean. Keeping reminders for holidays, presents, things the kids are up to..check! check! check!.

So why if my resume looks so good, is he answering some side bitches' booty call? Finally I had to find and face the truth of things. At one time, it was love, and if you don't grow together, you grow apart. It's not solely my fault and it's not solely his fault, it takes people. Now, when he finally realized that he didn't want to be with me anymore, he should have left and cut it cleanly because the problem is all him. Not drag it out in this crazed drama fest of stupid.

Think of it from the angle of, could you respect this man if he told you straight up, without any other woman, that he just wasn't in love anymore, and that he didn't want to work it out? It would have hurt, stung your pride, but you would have moved on and not questioned your own judgement because he broke it off with integrity. Side bitches are just damn disrespectful.

The reality is that some men would rather go to a side chick then work on their relationship or themselves. It's an entitlement issue with the chronically emotionally unavailable. In their mind they deserve all the effort on your part. These are people who take but not give. Or when they do give its half-assed only to get something. Selfish in the extreme.

You didn't do anything wrong. What your husband did is not a reflection on your self worth. Ultimately--although you may not see it yet--his selfish ass and cowardly ways will end up making you a much better person. As for him? I doubt his new "relationship" will be all that great. I mean come on! The woman he is with had no problem A) fucking a married mans and B)fucking a married man who's wife is pregnant. Plus all the shady shit she accepted and participated in with your husband. She's not really the epitome of good character is she. Neither is he. What kind of relationship do two shady people tend to have? Think about it.

You are lucky to find this out now. Good luck.

So apparently she has my number and texted me a pic of her new engagement ring. The caption says my turn, but lucky for him, Im a keeper.

I asked that she not contact me. She replies, why? You mad—

I called him asking how and why she has my number and for her to lose it. His response, why? You're gonna have to deal with her when dealing with me regarding my son.

I.Went.Off

What the fuck man—

How did this become my life? Did I miss something? He planned a whole new life on me.

Yes, block her number. If she has a fb, block her there as well. Discuss this with your lawyer and keep all messages/texts.

Posted by Impulsv
What a fucken bitch !! The gal to do that n hurt another women
She acts like u took him away n now she got him back
Just so low
I'd tell him they make a perfect couple on how cruel they are. Like if u did them wrong—
Evil
Get a damn good attorney !!

My sister friends gave me info on a great attorney.

She acts as if i did something to her. Bitch dont even know me.

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Posted by mzmee
So apparently she has my number and texted me a pic of her new engagement ring. The caption says my turn, but lucky for him, Im a keeper.

I asked that she not contact me. She replies, why? You mad—

I called him asking how and why she has my number and for her to lose it. His response, why? You're gonna have to deal with her when dealing with me regarding my son.

I.Went.Off

What the fuck man—

How did this become my life? Did I miss something? He planned a whole new life on me.

Well you could block her.

Or you could continue to let her contact you and collect that shit for evidence. If he wants this bloody. You can make it bloody.

I'd start recording all your phone calls with him as well. Check with your lawyer for legalities of in doing so you'd have to make him aware he's being recorded for it to count as legal evidence.

He's certainly making a case that he is an erratic and unsafe guardian.

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I was able to go on the sprint site and block her there. I could let her continue and make a case out of it but my heart is too weak to deal with anymore. That took my breath away.

I get it. She's a Leo and he's a Scorpio. So there

Posted by Scenic
Yes, block her number. If she has a fb, block her there as well. Discuss this with your lawyer and keep all messages/texts.

Blocked her and his entire social media existense.

Posted by mzmee

Posted by Scenic
Yes, block her number. If she has a fb, block her there as well. Discuss this with your lawyer and keep all messages/texts.

Blocked her and his entire social media existense.

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Good! If she tries to contact you from other numbers or accounts, make sure to document that and ignore her. You don't need to talk to her or have any sort of relationship with her even if those two seem to think otherwise. And, if it gets out of hand, you always have the option of a restraining order.

Lol. So he just texted me saying we didnt stand a chance because i never got over my last boyfriend. How i never had anything bad to say about him when he asked about him.

My last boyfriend is deceased. Okay? We were still an item when he was killed.

3years went pass and my husband and I run into each other again. Dated 4 years exclusively then we got married.

Did I miss something?

Why get married if he felt that way?

Posted by mzmee
So apparently she has my number and texted me a pic of her new engagement ring. The caption says my turn, but lucky for him, Im a keeper.

I asked that she not contact me. She replies, why? You mad—

I called him asking how and why she has my number and for her to lose it. His response, why? You're gonna have to deal with her when dealing with me regarding my son.

I.Went.Off

What the fuck man—

How did this become my life? Did I miss something? He planned a whole new life on me.

WTF

drag the divorce to the next century. let's see how they are gonna get married

Posted by Impulsv
He's a little boy trying to excuse his behavior n put it on u
Don't accept it

I dont believe him. His did this because thats what wanted not because of a deceased ex

He an old Lying sack of shit.

Posted by iCloud9

Posted by mzmee
So apparently she has my number and texted me a pic of her new engagement ring. The caption says my turn, but lucky for him, Im a keeper.

I asked that she not contact me. She replies, why? You mad—

I called him asking how and why she has my number and for her to lose it. His response, why? You're gonna have to deal with her when dealing with me regarding my son.

I.Went.Off

What the fuck man—

How did this become my life? Did I miss something? He planned a whole new life on me.

WTF

drag the divorce to the next century. let's see how they are gonna get married

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at this point, im hurt but let they ass get married. Maybe she'll make his ass a man.
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Once again, I have to stress that you should not respond to him at all until you talk to a lawyer (which you should get ASAP). He's trying to make you upset and get a rise out of you. He's a child who's acting out because he can't control you or the situation well.

Posted by mzmee
So apparently she has my number and texted me a pic of her new engagement ring. The caption says my turn, but lucky for him, Im a keeper.

I asked that she not contact me. She replies, why? You mad—

I called him asking how and why she has my number and for her to lose it. His response, why? You're gonna have to deal with her when dealing with me regarding my son.

I.Went.Off

What the fuck man—

How did this become my life? Did I miss something? He planned a whole new life on me.

This type of harassment is cruel/sadistic and it might work in your favor - while handling the divorce. This story is starting to sound really sick... your ex sounds like sadist and same goes for his new girl. Sounds like they're trying to brake you (to destroy your mental health), as if he's trying to take revenge on you. You should be able to get a restraining order against him. He sure doesn't sound like he's father material, even your son seems to be a tool for his cruel games. If that's case - might be for the best if you cut him off from your son's life completely and aim for full custody. Your son would be better of without him in his life, he's not just a bad example as a father - but a sick fuk' who could ruin both of your lives - if he remains in contact. The child support can be handled through banking - so there's no need to keep in touch. The ones who do - keep in touch after divorce, are usually still friends - since both agreed that it's better for them to split - if their relationships has reached a dead point (dead for years and dragged along). And your situation - sure doesn't seem like a friendly split... :S

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So apparently she has my number and texted me a pic of her new engagement ring. The caption says my turn, but lucky for him, Im a keeper.

I asked that she not contact me. She replies, why? You mad—

I called him asking how and why she has my number and for her to lose it. His response, why? You're gonna have to deal with her when dealing with me regarding my son.

I.Went.Off

What the fuck man—

How did this become my life? Did I miss something? He planned a whole new life on me.

WTF

drag the divorce to the next century. let's see how they are gonna get married

at this point, im hurt but let they ass get married. Maybe she'll make his ass a man.
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i know what i said was not being mature. seriously, you can only go up after you get rid of these lowlifes. just get every penny you can and move on from these dirty asscrowns

File right away. This locks down all your accounts. There may be some credit you don't know about. Follow the money trail if you can to establish when this affair started. Try to go back as far as you can. You might be able to make a case against having to pay back any credit that was used to pay for his affair. I'm serious, he might have a few cards or loans out that you don't know about. He'll try to get you to responsible for half. Fight that.


Also good job not talking to him. Don't. Anytime you do it gives him a sick high. Best to be completely unavailable. He won't be able to manipulate you emotionally and it will drive him crazy. Avoid him at all costs. He doesn't deserve one second of your time. I mean he and his girlfriend (lol) sound like complete markers.

Who does this to another person? What a couple of losers. Let Karma work this one out.

The longer the karmic payback takes to happen, the worse it is I have found. Instant Karma is usually reserved for a one off bad decision. But this guy and this flake he's with, they spent time strategizing and torturing. They are both in for a big hit down the road. Life altering shit...

@moondust

He firmly denies it. However I'm not an idiot. After 8 years you sit me down to give me your "Mid Life Crisis" speech and how you are not happy and you think you need to be alone and out of relationships and do yourself for a while. Then a week later you are sending your co-worker....who works under you...and who you been having lunch with...I love you texts. The same language and verbage he used to send to me years ago.

So while he's been figuring out how to untangle himself from me, he's been wooing her to replace me as soon as semantics says "we're split". But that's an earth sign for you, very literal. Always trying to get off on a technicality.

@mzmee

Listen to everyone telling you to get that Lawyer. Save the evidence of conversation. And get an Order of Protection against that woman, she's crazy.

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@moondust

He firmly denies it. However I'm not an idiot. After 8 years you sit me down to give me your "Mid Life Crisis" speech and how you are not happy and you think you need to be alone and out of relationships and do yourself for a while. Then a week later you are sending your co-worker....who works under you...and who you been having lunch with...I love you texts. The same language and verbage he used to send to me years ago.

So while he's been figuring out how to untangle himself from me, he's been wooing her to replace me as soon as semantics says "we're split". But that's an earth sign for you, very literal. Always trying to get off on a technicality.

Looks like that's a pattern among scorpios then. My ex always tried to blame me, he started arguments over silly things, asked for breaks because we should "think about our relationship"...later we finally broke up. Less than 2 months later he showed up with a new girlfriend. I'm quite sure they met while we were still together. By the time they leave you they have it all planned already.

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Hhhmmm ok

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@moondust

He firmly denies it. However I'm not an idiot. After 8 years you sit me down to give me your "Mid Life Crisis" speech and how you are not happy and you think you need to be alone and out of relationships and do yourself for a while. Then a week later you are sending your co-worker....who works under you...and who you been having lunch with...I love you texts. The same language and verbage he used to send to me years ago.

So while he's been figuring out how to untangle himself from me, he's been wooing her to replace me as soon as semantics says "we're split". But that's an earth sign for you, very literal. Always trying to get off on a technicality.

Looks like that's a pattern among scorpios then. My ex always tried to blame me, he started arguments over silly things, asked for breaks because we should "think about our relationship"...later we finally broke up. Less than 2 months later he showed up with a new girlfriend. I'm quite sure they met while we were still together. By the time they leave you they have it all planned already.

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My ex is a Virgo Sun, Cap Moon.